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Ever had a hobby that you enjoyed doing everyday and everyone knew that you were really good at it, or above average at it?
Let's say you practiced piano or guitar a lot everyday and there was this one song that you just could never play. And finally one day you mastered it and was so proud. After you showed it to other people and other people didn't think it's that big of a deal because they thought you were already capable of playing such a hard piece of music, and thought you didn't even exert that much effort practicing for it?
Or another more understandable hobby, you're really good at starcraft and everyone knew about it, and after winning your first legit tournament all your non-starcraft players didn't think it was such a big deal cuz they thought you were already good and didn't have to practice much for it at all?
Well similar situation is happening with me and running. I'm not very fast, but i'm consistent. I go running everyday religiously. Next week April 15th im running the Go St. Louis marathon and I'm SO excited for it. I feel like if i could complete that without walking i'll be setting a HUGE milestone for myself.
+ Show Spoiler +sometimes during training runs, i'd picture myself crossing the finishing line after 26.2 grueling miles, and almost had watery eyes.... don't judge k :p
So earlier tonight, i called my parents, and they were going to come watch next sunday. We were discussing the times and how we were gonna meet up at the event. The race starts at 7am, and I told them i was going to wake up at 5am because i'll be restless anyways. And they they responded with
"why so early? what's the big deal you're just running a marathon." Immediately afterwards, i felt slightly dissappointed by their opinions and a bit hot headed due to their lack of understanding.
I guess it's partially my fault for not putting enough emphasis on it, even though i felt like i did by telling them i've been doing 17miler training runs, and then hurting my achilles afterwards and had to cut my training short....
I almost wanted to say if it's too much of an hassle or if it's too early for you, you dont have to come. But i refrained myself from it....
Moral of story: I guess in the long run/big picture, no one really cares for your accomplishments except for yourself.
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Yo your parents were coming to see you run and support you. I feel like you are being a bit over sensitive on this one.
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At least your parents know what you are doing...My parents could care less. But anyways, accomplishments are definitely for you and you should be proud of everything you've done that wasn't dumb 
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sounds like they just meant it in a "why is this marathon so important your up 2 hours early?"
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sleep> everything else :D
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United States4024 Posts
On April 09 2012 13:24 deathly rat wrote:
Yo your parents were coming to see you run and support you. I feel like you are being a bit over sensitive on this one.
I think i might of been too...
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On April 09 2012 13:32 dAPhREAk wrote:
how old are you?
this is not important, plus i doubt you really care anyways, you have made 435 posts in the last week.
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I think I understand you. I've been above average in a certain sport being first singles in my HS team. A lot of times people compliment me but there were times where I felt like you.
I wouldn't say nobody cares except for yourself, just nobody really understands how much the accomplishment means to you I think.
Anyway, good luck on the marathon, I hope all your hard work pays off!
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On April 09 2012 13:38 YPang wrote:this is not important, plus i doubt you really care anyways, you have made 435 posts in the last week.
woh, how can you tell how many posts i've made?
age matters in that if you are younger and still live at home, your parents should be more supportive of hobbies. however, once you get older and move out (which is what it sounds like you did), its not as important for parents to support every single one of your hobbies. you are an adult.
nevertheless, what does it matter if they are there at the beginning of the marathon? its not like they are running with you, or that they can watch you run the whole thing. its more important that they be there at the end of the marathon, which is probably much later in the morning.
edit: nm. i just found it in my profile. its been a boring week. =(
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You're just running a marathon?
wtf? A marathon is a huge deal; I don't understand how they can be so "whatever" about it! I'd like to personally wish you luck in your marathon!
edit: I've learned to stop caring about what my family thinks of me though. I used to "disappoint" them by being "an inside kid" while my brother was always outside doing stuff that they felt was more productive than video games. So whenever they'd praise my brother and not give two shits about me, I just focused on satisfying myself. Nowadays, my brother dropped out of college (although he has a great job...but my dad still thinks he is a failure for it...wtf), and I recently made a 31 on the ACT. Of course, now they're paying attention to me, but I have a hard time accepting their praise now.
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On April 09 2012 13:41 dAPhREAk wrote:Show nested quote +On April 09 2012 13:38 YPang wrote:On April 09 2012 13:32 dAPhREAk wrote:
how old are you? this is not important, plus i doubt you really care anyways, you have made 435 posts in the last week. woh, how can you tell how many posts i've made? age matters in that if you are younger and still live at home, your parents should be more supportive of hobbies. however, once you get older and move out (which is what it sounds like you did), its not as important for parents to support every single one of your hobbies. you are an adult. nevertheless, what does it matter if they are there at the beginning of the marathon? its not like they are running with you, or that they can watch you run the whole thing. its more important that they be there at the end of the marathon, which is probably much later in the morning. edit: nm. i just found it in my profile. its been a boring week. =(
When my brother ran the NYC marathon, he said seeing us cheer him on throughout the race helped him refocus and keep going. We moved our spot and couple times so we could scream at him as he passed by every 7 or so miles. He spent a year training for it, and was very appreciative of the support we (family) and his friends gave him during the race. I think it's understandable the OP would like some support from his/her family, because running a marathon is pretty big thing, it takes a lot of training and dedication.
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On April 09 2012 13:52 mrhobbers wrote:Show nested quote +On April 09 2012 13:41 dAPhREAk wrote:On April 09 2012 13:38 YPang wrote:On April 09 2012 13:32 dAPhREAk wrote:
how old are you? this is not important, plus i doubt you really care anyways, you have made 435 posts in the last week. woh, how can you tell how many posts i've made? age matters in that if you are younger and still live at home, your parents should be more supportive of hobbies. however, once you get older and move out (which is what it sounds like you did), its not as important for parents to support every single one of your hobbies. you are an adult. nevertheless, what does it matter if they are there at the beginning of the marathon? its not like they are running with you, or that they can watch you run the whole thing. its more important that they be there at the end of the marathon, which is probably much later in the morning. edit: nm. i just found it in my profile. its been a boring week. =( When my brother ran the NYC marathon, he said seeing us cheer him on throughout the race helped him refocus and keep going. We moved our spot and couple times so we could scream at him as he passed by every 7 or so miles. He spent a year training for it, and was very appreciative of the support we (family) and his friends gave him during the race. I think it's understandable the OP would like some support from his/her family, because running a marathon is pretty big thing, it takes a lot of training and dedication.
indeed, having support is nice, but i dont think its something to get pissy about if you are an adult and your parents say they dont want to go at 7 am.
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On April 09 2012 13:52 mrhobbers wrote:Show nested quote +On April 09 2012 13:41 dAPhREAk wrote:On April 09 2012 13:38 YPang wrote:On April 09 2012 13:32 dAPhREAk wrote:
how old are you? this is not important, plus i doubt you really care anyways, you have made 435 posts in the last week. woh, how can you tell how many posts i've made? age matters in that if you are younger and still live at home, your parents should be more supportive of hobbies. however, once you get older and move out (which is what it sounds like you did), its not as important for parents to support every single one of your hobbies. you are an adult. nevertheless, what does it matter if they are there at the beginning of the marathon? its not like they are running with you, or that they can watch you run the whole thing. its more important that they be there at the end of the marathon, which is probably much later in the morning. edit: nm. i just found it in my profile. its been a boring week. =( When my brother ran the NYC marathon, he said seeing us cheer him on throughout the race helped him refocus and keep going. We moved our spot and couple times so we could scream at him as he passed by every 7 or so miles. He spent a year training for it, and was very appreciative of the support we (family) and his friends gave him during the race. I think it's understandable the OP would like some support from his/her family, because running a marathon is pretty big thing, it takes a lot of training and dedication.
I think this goes for pretty much everything else 
@OP
At least your parents didn't say they weren't coming. Like you said I also think you just didn't emphasized how important this means to you. Obviously your parents needs some more convincing to see how much it means (it could be a one time thing for them). I'd suggest to keep on doing what you like by runing more marathons. They'll come to understand it better in time 
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Most people dont have enough empathy to recognize things which are imprtant to others, thats why u have to tell them everything.
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"What's the big deal you're just running a marathon?"
I laugh because your parents have obviously never run a marathon. Pheidippides, the greek messenger who fought in the Battle Of Marathon, DIED after he finished running and told Athens they were safe. It is a huge strain on your body.
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Get over it. Assuming you have already moved out of your parents, you should be more then happy that they are even coming. Between how much I work and how much my family works, we barely have time for a dinner here and there. I would never expect them to be so concerned with my own hobbies. While you believe they should empathize with you running they marathon, you have to understand they do not run and don't understand how hard it truly is. The same way you can tell them you finally got promoted to masters, they just ignorant of how hard the accomplishment is.
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FOR SMI~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~!
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Ok so it looks like its a bit of both here, slightly oversensitive by you and possibly a slight lack of appreciation by your folks simple way to fix is to explain to them how much you are looking forward to this and how hard you've been training to complete this - and you will be so happy when it pays off.
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