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On February 11 2012 13:42 GoTuNk! wrote:
I would start by going to the TL health and fitness thread, and doing starting strength.
U will just become a better person after 2-3 months of squatting and deadlifting.
no you wont. why would it happen anyways, it doesent make any sense at all. maybe you will be more relaxed but thats about it.
Magically becoming "a better person" through exercise is impossible
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I don't think I can give any solid advice but here I go~
You're thinking you'll fuck up your social life again? Yeah you probably will but why does this have to be the end of the world? Just do it again and if you fail well guess what you do it again once more. All I can really say is that you need some really good self-discipline to control your attention-whoreness. Feeling like you want/need some attention is TOTALLY fine; everyone does it, some more than others obviously. But it seems like you're kind of disgusted with the way you seek out for it. You're just going to have to realize this is the way you are now and live with it.
About the anger issues~ I don't even want to touch this subject much but if you think it's that bad then you should get some help for it. I used to be a really angry person but got over it when I realized that there really isn't a point to staying angry. It's just a waste of energy, it's toxic, it's uncomfortable. This doesn't mean I don't get angry I've just learned how to manage it alone~
A lot of people might say this but try to exercise even a little, it really really helps even just for a small amount of time. Feel free to send me a PM if you want to talk about anything; I'm an amazing listener.
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This is what you're going to do today/tomorrow:
Wake up at normal human hours. Eat a light, healthy breakfast. Jog for 30 minutes. Shower. Dress nicely. Go outside and read, either textbook or casual reading. Smile and say hello to everyone you meet. Treat yourself to a nice lunch, maybe invite a friend. Call your best friend, tell him/her that s/he is an awesome person. Boot up starcraft. Immediately push "find game." Off-race, and do a for-fun build. Lose game. Repeat 2 more times. Then, another 3 games, but actually trying your hardest. Always glhf and gg. Never say more. Never less. After that, join a custom game to wind down. After the game ends, promptly log off. Make yourself dinner. Watch a movie you've never seen before. Go to bed before midnight, feeling good about yourself.
tl;dr: Keep yourself busy, enjoy life.
PS: If you're at a university there's probably free psychologist/counseling services. Walk in and have a nice talk. Their services aren't just for the insane and suicidal, but also for the everyday troubles.
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just wana say i watched ur stream and i like it 
hope you do well 
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Don't really have anything to add except you seemed like a cool guy at the NYC meetup last month! Best of luck getting everything worked out.
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I'm telling you that mousepad, the Steelseries Qck, is the work or the devil. God knows how many times I started throwing my pillow against the wall because it fucked me. You might have deeper seeded issues but the first step is getting rid of that piece of shit mousepad, man, give it to your enemy (or someone you simply dislikeas) as a gift. His misery will benefit you and cleanse your soul. It's just the way this world works. Oh you don't like my reply .. well what were you expecting besides cynical bullcrapa .. idn know you, noone here does. Go get some friends gogo, hop along little bunny
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Honestly, I know exactly, 100% what you mean. It's a personality thing, and I don't really know what we're supposed to do about it. I think the most important thing is to just have a couple friends who you can rant and rage to and they'll understand. Reciprocity is important in that regard as well.
And keep perspective. The stupid shit that pisses you off is not important, and it's best to just realize that you're getting angry at it because of a chemical response in your brain. Objectify the situation.
And if all else fails... you could try smoking weed. I don't, but it's helped others I know. Your call on that one.
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See a psychologist, talk it out, maybe some psycho therapy, it could really help with past issues.
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look i know i'm a red name here and have to be responsible etc but the following is not the official stance of TL on these matters and i gotta say it. wow deja vu writing that sentence. i feel that it is my obligation as a fellow human being that seeks happiness to tell you to try smoking weed (NOT TL's ENDORSED OPINION!!!). you see how NICE everything is, how interesting everything is. and then the realization: it's so doable to turn yourself into something that other people can love too, neurosis-free and over all those fucking insecurities that have plagued you every day of your fucking life. i think the majority of longtime users use it to conquer their aggression.
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As far as being an angry person, the worst thing you can really do is put guilt on top of that.
If you are suffering from anger the best methodology is figuring out why you are doing dumbshit instead of just being cool and calm enough to realize you're a dipshit.
you talk about breaking a laptop; Not that big of a deal man, people drop them unintentionally all the time, so you had one instance where your anger flared up into a problem. This doesn't really make you a bad person or anything it just means that you need to get a grip.
A lot of people are going to talk about ego, or talk about how you need to work out, and all of these are great places to start, but honestly there are numerous factors of rage, it can be even as stupidly small as discomfort in your natural breath, it could be caffeine consumption, it could be diabetes type 2;
If you regularly drink anything that has sugar in it having coffee with cinnamon at least once a day can help curb your bodies stupid responses to sugar in some cases.
To basically really bring this full circle, I was a rager when i was a kid, I lost a WoW arena duel and proceeded to pop my door of the hinges and put an axe through it, so when you really wanna talk about dumb scenarios to put yourself in try explaining to your mother why your bedroom door is outside with an axe through it,.
for the most part I have to agree with the comment on insecurities/ego; You take yourself entirely too seriously, and more importantly just because you're taking something seriously doesn't necessarily mean you won't botch it horribly....
I think my best case and point is NASA; they took their jobs awesomely seriously and still managed some horrendous disasters yet everything stayed functional, and they continue their work as if nothing happened.
I know when I was working in the cold, I would have horrible stints of anger in relation to my frustration of being in the cold, it was truly hard to let go of it, and in the same way, if you're gaming hard any point in your day, your body posture alone could be giving you problems, if you have to prop up against a wall just to sit straight, i'd highly recommend it.
As far being an attention whore, the function of most muscles in the human body are for pulling, and if you use this same argument for the brain, by being an attention whore you are forcing your brain to force you into scenarios instead of letting them occur how they should, it's my best of trying to say, you're getting in your own way, try meditation, if that doesn't work try medication.
I personally hate drugs, but every once in a blue moon you'll notice a bottle of J.D missing.
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Hi Supernovamaniac,
I was browsing your stream as its featured on the TL main page and I really like your laid back commentary. In my opinion most of the casters for big tournaments are way too over dramatic.
I also appreciate the brutally honest post. I was also a big math competitions guy back in high school. I'm actually a lot older. Wasn't really good at bwar.
Here are some changes that may help you improve the amount of anger you feel in your day to day interactions. I found these changes helped me when I was younger, and may help you as well.
1. if you lift weights, heavy stuff like bench press, squats, reducing this activity will help.
2. eat less meat, and eat more healthily in general.
3. sleep better, sleep deprivation actually has big affects on your mood.
These are actual changes you can make in your daily life that I think might help. I'm actually not a regular TL member, I just registered to leave you this comment in the rare chance that some of what I listed above might help you.
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