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Well sigh, never thought i'd be making a girl blog on TL of all places, i just think it's likely someone might understand where i'm coming from.
Disclaimer: This isn't asking for advice, or talking about some messy breakup, it's really just me getting my experience this weekend off my chest. It might also be lengthy and boringly minute detail. You've been warned.
So, as i do every year, i went skiing with my bestfriend and his dads over the long weekend (because of midterms). At the ski rental place on thursday there was this girl at the rental counter (where paperwork is done/turned in) and she overheard me and my friend talking about another girl in the rental place. She heard me say something like, "dude she's like 5 years younger than us". Thinking we were talking about her, she asked me how old i thought she was. I told her it was a loaded question, so i deflected it to my friend, who in turn deflected it to me. She looked mature so i did my best guesstimate, and said 20.
She said "i'll take that, but i'm only 17. People say i look older than i am" with this sly look on her face. She then asked me how old i was, so i told her i'd be 17 next month. She again flirted with me, and even overly helped me with my ski rental form and laughed when i accidentally signed my name on the print section (because i was flustered lol).
At this point, i was so happy that someone who was attractive was this outgoing and flirtatious with me, right off the bat. I didn't even have to try to make the first move (something i really hate). I wanted to go back on friday night to see her again and talk, but my friend kind of laughed it off and we didn't really have the time. At the time, i was telling myself, "this would be the most likely evening to see her" but we didn't go. Saturday, we didn't go either, spending too much time on the slopes. Sunday night rolls around, and i know i have to go and see her because we were leaving today (monday). I was really apprehensive and nervous that she either 1) wasn't going to be there or 2) I wouldn't know what to say. To be honest, all i wanted was her name. I would've been proud of myself to get her name and the rest of it.
We get up there, around the same time she'd be on duty. My heart is increasing in beating the closer we get to the rental room...
She wasn't there. I was, and still am crushed. I never even found out her name. Hooking up with her was a distant possibility, but all i really wanted was her name. I might've been able to find her on facebook, plus (to me at least) her name would be symbolic of my successful trip. I've tried to stay positive, hoping i'd manage to sift through facebook (looking up the place she works and finding her that way) and i've tried...to no avail.
I regret not telling my friend to stfu and just let me go on friday night. My guess, is that she works weekdays after school till 8, when it closes, and gets the weekends off. If i had gone, i might've been able to talk to her, get her name or number. If we had stayed until tomorrow (tuesday), i could've gone tonight to return the ski's and see her again. But i didn't, and we didn't.
I feel like utter shit, silly as it may seem to you reading this, but i haven't felt this type on longing in a long time. You might say it's irrational to be that "interested" after one meeting, but i am. With no way of contacting her, or finding out who the mysterious girl was, i feel like i've failed. My only consolation is that she MIGHT still working there next year around the same times. The worst part, is that the place we went...is 7 hours away in west va (Snowshoe in case anyone is familiar with it)
I really let this one go...all because of what i could've, but didn't do. I know i might sound irrational or whatever, but it's just the way i feel. Hopefully i'm not the only one who's gone through this.
Coulda, woulda, shoulda. My weekend skiing was amazingly fun, but it's just hard to have this happen to me. Especially since outgoing girls are few and far between, and i really blew this.
Hopefully at least one person made it through my rant... This song kind of sums up how i'm feeling right now, and i don't know why. Thanks for reading, it means a lot.
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Edit: qrs's post is actually pretty accurate.
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Too bad, but at least you got some good skiing in 
Secondly, how many dads does your friend have?
i went skiing with my bestfriend and his dads over the long weekend
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Story of my life.
I cry for you brother.
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On January 24 2012 10:30 darthfoley wrote:With no way of contacting her, or finding out who the mysterious girl was, i feel like i've failed. My only consolation is that she MIGHT still working there next year around the same times.
It's also very likely that she might not though. Even if she does, she might have forgotten about you. Have you considered calling that place or sending a letter assuming you have that info?
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You don't really know her at all: your mental image of her consists of a face, a laugh, a bit of flirty conversation and a ton of stuff that you projected yourself: a daydream with a stranger's face attached. This is the sort of crush that passes without leaving a trace, trust me. It may be rough for a week or two, but it's not going to last.
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On January 24 2012 10:35 Probulous wrote:Too bad, but at least you got some good skiing in Secondly, how many dads does your friend have?
2, his parents are gay. it's kinda complicated lol
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On January 24 2012 10:46 qrs wrote:
You don't really know her at all: your mental image of her consists of a face, a laugh, a bit of flirty conversation and a ton of stuff that you projected yourself: a daydream with a stranger's face attached. This is the sort of crush that passes without leaving a trace, trust me. It may be rough for a week or two, but it's not going to last.
Hmm, i think you've summed it up quite well. Thanks for the reply.
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On January 24 2012 10:51 darthfoley wrote:Show nested quote +On January 24 2012 10:35 Probulous wrote:Too bad, but at least you got some good skiing in Secondly, how many dads does your friend have? i went skiing with my bestfriend and his dads over the long weekend 2, his parents are gay. it's kinda complicated lol
Ahh sweet! I thought it might have been a typo. Better luck next time mate.
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sometimes the illusion is better than the reality. you have a good memory of flirting and having fun. keep it that way. focus on the positive, not the regret. sounds like you had a good trip overall.
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On January 24 2012 10:34 SKTerran.117 wrote:
so you were beta as fuck and didn't go
let it be a lesson
Harsh but true. Carpe diem friend, in that situation you KNOW you gotta go back and talk to her. Why wait until the last day you were there...and get her name when you first talk to her, god damn.
Ah well, you didn't know her but it's a missed opportunity. A little practice and you'll be knocking this kind of thing out on a weekly basis.
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Sometimes people can be flirty/outgoing without meaning anything. Also, sometimes thinking about a girl too much without actually knowing her makes you think things that aren't true(trust me on that one).
You missed your chance, all I can say is to shrug it off and move on. Maybe someone else will catch your eye. Even so, I doubt a 17-year-old chick will remember you in a year if all you two had was 5 minutes of talking and her doing her job.
Also, next time something similar to this happens, drag your friend with you or go by yourself.
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Korea (South)17174 Posts
all i wanted...was her name...
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On January 24 2012 10:39 darkness wrote:Show nested quote +On January 24 2012 10:30 darthfoley wrote:With no way of contacting her, or finding out who the mysterious girl was, i feel like i've failed. My only consolation is that she MIGHT still working there next year around the same times. Have you considered calling that place or sending a letter assuming you have that info?
That's really creepy.
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There was this cute girl that sat next to me in class the first day. She wasn't there the second day.
I was so crushed....
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On January 24 2012 11:54 Jerubaal wrote:
There was this cute girl that sat next to me in class the first day. She wasn't there the second day.
I was so crushed....
Are you me?
Fricken happened to me last week, I've completely lost all motivation to go that class now.
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On January 24 2012 11:27 Rekrul wrote:
all i wanted...was her name...
Idk why but seeing you post this Rekrul made me lol. Makes him sound like a serious creeper hahaha.
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On January 24 2012 11:27 Rekrul wrote:
all i wanted...was her name...
i was blessed my rekrul! my life is complete.
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Hey man don't kill your self to much it happens to everyone. Few years back i sat next to this girl on the train once and didn't get her info after having a great time talking with her. You gotta be fearless man and you gotta want it lol!
Edit: also just listen to dAPhREAk he gives the best advice on TL with it comes to ladies lolol <3
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That sucks, but really you blew it yourself by not asking her for her name or number right then and there. It may seem like it's hard to do but after you do it a couple times it becomes really easy, and if a girl is being friendly she'll almost always give it to you.
In fact, if you had gone back a day or two later she likely wouldn't have been that friendly anyway. From her point of view, she gave you really strong signals and you didn't reciprocate. She's probably thinking, I was all over him and he didn't even ask for my number?!? wtf???
Anyway like other posters have said you'll have lots more chances.
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Let it be a lesson, if you're flirting with someone, you should either ask her out or at least introduce yourself to get her name before you leave.
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I've dated girls like that, a lot of trouble and worth no ones time... Could be wrong but I highly doubt it.
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cmon, this will happens so much...
my own experience:
i had a little party on my house, a friend brings 3 girls... ge get out go dancing and stuff, but my friend leaves some of his things in my house. so i dance wi all 3 girls and whatever, but later when we are walking back to my place (we were close) to take my friend's shit, i was walking alone in the front of the group, so this girl comes to walk next to me and start talking (things like, you like movies?, like music?, we should go out someday, etc,etc, me was like aha aha yeah.. aha...)... so we get to my place, my friend and i go to my apartment to pick his things and they leave, i never said bye, neitehr asked for facebook, mail, phone number, or anything.... dumb as fuck....
thing is, it has happened, it will happen again.. no big deal.
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Well let this be a lesson that you should keep your cool! I'm extremely bored at work so here hmmm let my imagination fly~
Act 2, Scene 3
Girl: "By the way sweetie, you signed in the wrong place!" smiling brightly
darthfoley: flustered "Oh oops, hahaha thanks for pointing it out." fixes it
Girl: pausing a little "Hmmm, well, that's it, enjoy the slopes~"
darthfoley: "Thanks, uhhh, erm, yeah, have a nice day." starts walking away from counter
Girl: desperately, to darthfoley who is now walking away "AND oh uhhh stay safe out there!" :3
darthfoley: turns back briefly "Yeah, aha, thanks again." turns around awkwardly and continues towards the stage door 3
Girl: "Oh, and..." next-in-line customer walks up "Hi, how may I help you?"
darthfoley: rushing "By the way," turns around "what's your..." notices her with next customer, turns around and exits via stage door 3 "name. DAMMIT."
end of Scene 3
Well, that didn't help did it?
I'm such a meanie heheh x_x;;
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On January 24 2012 10:30 darthfoley wrote:
At this point, i was so happy that someone who was attractive was this outgoing and flirtatious with me, right off the bat.
This gradually increases over time. When I was 17 I would have said the same thing, but I'm 25 and see things a lot differently. First it was small, subtle things. Then girls I only thought of as friends doing strange things. In hindsight I realize that they liked me and I really wish they said something because I would have given them a chance. Some people (like a lot of TL girl blog posters) keep feelings like this to themselves when they shouldn't. And then you meet the people who have feelings for you and speak up about it.
For now, use this as proof there are attractive, outgoing, and flirtatious people who will give you attention.
Now stop dwelling on it and get back to living life!
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On January 24 2012 15:01 Wasteweiser wrote:
I've dated girls like that, a lot of trouble and worth no ones time... Could be wrong but I highly doubt it.
What? She was doing her job and was cordial about it. Jesus Christ. Wait until you guys start paying for your own meals at restaurants. If you go half mast every time a girl/attendant giggles while taking your money, you're completely doomed.
If I had to guess, there was zero flirting going on.
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In this thread, a teenager thinks the girl isn't just trying to sell him something
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On January 25 2012 01:47 Jibba wrote:Show nested quote +On January 24 2012 15:01 Wasteweiser wrote:
I've dated girls like that, a lot of trouble and worth no ones time... Could be wrong but I highly doubt it. What? She was doing her job and was cordial about it. Jesus Christ. Wait until you guys start paying for your own meals at restaurants. If you go half mast every time a girl/attendant giggles while taking your money, you're completely doomed. If I had to guess, there was zero flirting going on.
Jibba has a point
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On January 25 2012 05:30 Ushio wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2012 01:47 Jibba wrote:On January 24 2012 15:01 Wasteweiser wrote:
I've dated girls like that, a lot of trouble and worth no ones time... Could be wrong but I highly doubt it. What? She was doing her job and was cordial about it. Jesus Christ. Wait until you guys start paying for your own meals at restaurants. If you go half mast every time a girl/attendant giggles while taking your money, you're completely doomed. If I had to guess, there was zero flirting going on. Jibba has a point
I don't think it's a very good point. The fact is that if you're friendly and attractive you'll meet lots of women in sales positions who will be friendly and flirtatious with you. Some genuinely find you attractive, and some are just doing it because it's their job. The only way to find out which is which is to man up and ask for the digits.
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EPT
Oh well live and learn. You're only 17 plenty of time to fuck up some more lol. 
