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Hey guys
I'm writing this blog because I'm having a family issue right now and I need advice. I hope you can help me. 
Long story short, my mom and step-father are divorced. He's always shown that he cares about me more than my real father. Even after divorce, our relationship has remained the same, but there is a problem. He is that type who is always curious what me and my mom are doing, while she prefers some privacy. I guess he hasn't still forgotten her if you know what I mean.
Unfortunately, she told me that he had tried to gain access to her Skype, e-mail and Facebook in the past. The problem is Facebook automatically sent to her an e-mail a few days ago that an unrecognised device from his city logged on. I've traced that IP, but it's just Internet from a mobile operator, so probably nothing may be proven.
Although my mom told me not to say a word, I don't like to keep my mouth shut when there is something wrong, so I told him this: if there is something you've done, please stop. Then, he told me that I insulted him, asked me "Was there anything I didn't help you with", "Why are you insulting me", etc. I repeatedly told him that I don't accuse him, but I'm just asking him to stop if he has done something. I guess it's still accusation. In the end, he blocked me on skype and told me not to call him anymore.
Anyway, I study Computer Science like he did before, so I appreciate his help when it comes to this. However, I'm confident I can be independent from now on, but I still want to be in good terms with him (nothing special, but still friends). The problem is I'm lost in a way that I don't know how to react: phone him after New Year, wait for him to call or something else.
Thanks for reading. I'm looking forward to your suggestions.
P.S. Keep in mind that he's not done damage except just reading/gaining info illegally, but I still don't accept it. I tried to call him twice after he blocked me, but he didn't answer.
 
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Move on, life's a bit too complicated just to let something like that phase you.
And about the illegally gaining info, if you can ever get any proof that it was really him, take action.
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If he cuts all contact over that small thing, perhaps he was just caring for you in order to get closer to your mother? My thoughts, but I'm by no means an expert.
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He blocked you for his own good, on his own terms. He will get in touch with you when he is ready. If you are impatient though, I would suggest a hand written letter. I now have a few pen pals which are much more valuable to me because there is no sense of urgency when communicating.
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I would recommend help , do you know any of his friends? He seems very sensitive but he needs to get over the divorce sooner than later.
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Hi man sorry to hear about this, I've also gone through some divorces. Listen if your step-father truly cares for you he will answer you back. Maybe he needed some time to recharge, Ive seen people do this a lot. Have faith!! <3
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It's really hard to give advice because each person is different. Your dad probably just needs some space and is mad at you for accusing him of using your mom's account. Just give him some space and it'll be fine. This should be no different than other fights with parents. They get mad, they cool off, and everything is fine again.
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Sounds like a very childish thing for him to do honestly...let him cool off and see what happens. You didn't do anything wrong in this situation. Stand your ground.
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On December 30 2011 08:46 RoyGBiv_13 wrote:
He blocked you for his own good, on his own terms. He will get in touch with you when he is ready. If you are impatient though, I would suggest a hand written letter. I now have a few pen pals which are much more valuable to me because there is no sense of urgency when communicating.
This, exactly. Don't take what your dad did personally: breakups bring out strange things in people. It seems like he needs to figure himself out a little.
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you should have been more direct about it
he could have thouht you were talking about anything, literally anyting
dont worry about it, but tell him what really happened next time imo
tough shit if your mom doesnt like it
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Thanks guys. I'll let him cool off.
On December 30 2011 10:29 FFGenerations wrote:
you should have been more direct about it
he could have thouht you were talking about anything, literally anyting
dont worry about it, but tell him what really happened next time imo
tough shit if your mom doesnt like it
Sorry if it's vague. I should have probably written that I told him about that IP from his city and unrecognised logon, then asked him to stop if he did something.
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