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Hi guys, you all may remember me from this blog : [Blog that you should read so that you would understand what I will be talking about]
So today, I was on the bus home from school today and I saw the exact same girl. I was really nervous and I just sat very far away from her on the bus. So, when she got off the bus ( I was sitting rows behind her ) she was greeted by some guy [I think of this guy to be her boyfriend] and she hugged him.
That's it I guess, thanks for listening.
Also, I would like to leave you all with an excerpt from the book 'Jane Eyre'.
It is as if I had a string somewhere under my left ribs, tightly and also inextricably knotted to a similar string situated in the corresponding quarter of your slender frame. And if that we were to be separated by a boisterous piece of land, by time, or by age, I'am afraid that this cord of communion will be snapped, and then I would begin to bleed inwardly.
PS; To anyone asking, no, I do not know this girl personally.
  
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On September 27 2011 19:19 SilverSkyLark wrote:
How old are you?
14
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On September 27 2011 19:20 Azera wrote:14
Losing ain't so bad at that age.
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I skimmed over your other blog and really think you should take heed of what Chill said. Primarily how much you think other people judge you. It just seems like you need to chill out a fair bit, you're only 14, you've got your whole life ahead of you!
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On September 27 2011 19:23 SilverSkyLark wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2011 19:20 Azera wrote:On September 27 2011 19:19 SilverSkyLark wrote:
How old are you? 14 Losing ain't so bad at that age.
On September 27 2011 19:24 Teras wrote:
I skimmed over your other blog and really think you should take heed of what Chill said. Primarily how much you think other people judge you. It just seems like you need to chill out a fair bit, you're only 14, you've got your whole life ahead of you!
Yeah, losing might not be as bad as it is now compared to later on in life. But, I'm sure you guys remember your first heartbreak too. I'm just sad, that's all.
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Yeah, I can hear that it feels pretty sad, but that's not real heartbreak. All you had on this girl was a crush: you didn't know her at all. From my experience, crushes can be intense, but they don't take too long to get over--I'd say a week, tops.
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if shes got a bf, thats only one man you need to fight against. if shes single, you need to fight against everyone
anyways, i read your other blog and id be perfectly happy with my 'balls in her purse.' if my woman earns more money than me, thats fine by me
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u gotta skate
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did you actually know this girl?
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which secondary school do you go to? also, don't be silly. the guy was her brother.
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You know her having a bf doesn't mean she can't ALSO have feelings for you, right ?
And you also know that out of the 4 billions on women, 300 millions are around your age, and you've maybe met 300 of them ? It's just the first 0.0001% ! You still have a long way to go before you can be sure you actually lost anything.
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First heartbreak is always hard to deal with; any heartbreak at any age is hard to deal with. Being older some of us look back at some of these events and think it seems irrelevant, but the fact that we still remember them proves otherwise. Even though it means something, eventually you will move on.
I don't have a great deal of understanding about the culture and interaction of women and men in Singapore but in Canada a hug can be a greeting for just a friend. If you are 14 you should just talk to this girl. I realize that this is a difficult thing to do, it may be one of the hardest things you do at that age but doing it will make you feel better, in both the short and long term. Two different things will probably happen:
The good might be that you talk and become a couple, the bad being she is not interested and you get embarrassed. I understand that this is a difficult thing to do, but doing it will make you feel better. It's easier to get over embarrassment than the feeling of wondering what could have happened.
Also thinking so far into the future may be important for certain aspects of life, but when talking to a girl at 14 years old, do not think about what could happen so far into the future, take a day to day approach, at least until it maybe becomes a serious relationship, so thinking about money and a relationship when you are 25 is not the best idea, anything can happen in 5-10 years.
I hope that helped with your girl problem. As for your difficulties with school, if you need any advice or information about the IB program from a recent graduate I went through the Primary Years Program, Middle Years Program and the Diploma Program for a total of 9 years. I received my IB diploma in 2009 and a scholarship to University even though I had difficulties with my first language(English) and Math. If you have any questions about IB I would be happy to answer them.
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On September 27 2011 20:28 mr_tolkien wrote:
You know her having a bf doesn't mean she can't ALSO have feelings for you, right ?
This. Seriously.
I think this is happening to me right now, I'm the unintentional Third Wheel.
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Well if you really want her, then pretend you never saw that, and erase the fact that she might have a boyfriend and go for it, and if she thinks your more fun, then she will break up with the other guy, or atleast cause some situations that will lead to a break up. Attractive girls are almost always taken, the more you think about the fact that she's taken, the more miserable your life will become. If it works out good, if it doesnt work good, at the worst she's going to say that she's going out with someone else, thats it.
But at the same time you just might want to consider how strong the guy, if he has nasty friends who can "take care" of stuff. :D
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Dude, just don't dwell on mistakes and loses too much, you're too young to worry about those. Reflect, learn from it, and carry on as a better person.
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On September 27 2011 20:19 pangshai wrote:
which secondary school do you go to? also, don't be silly. the guy was her brother.
I go to Clementi Town Secondary =/
On September 27 2011 20:34 TailsPrower wrote:
First heartbreak is always hard to deal with; any heartbreak at any age is hard to deal with. Being older some of us look back at some of these events and think it seems irrelevant, but the fact that we still remember them proves otherwise. Even though it means something, eventually you will move on.
I don't have a great deal of understanding about the culture and interaction of women and men in Singapore but in Canada a hug can be a greeting for just a friend. If you are 14 you should just talk to this girl. I realize that this is a difficult thing to do, it may be one of the hardest things you do at that age but doing it will make you feel better, in both the short and long term. Two different things will probably happen:
The good might be that you talk and become a couple, the bad being she is not interested and you get embarrassed. I understand that this is a difficult thing to do, but doing it will make you feel better. It's easier to get over embarrassment than the feeling of wondering what could have happened.
Also thinking so far into the future may be important for certain aspects of life, but when talking to a girl at 14 years old, do not think about what could happen so far into the future, take a day to day approach, at least until it maybe becomes a serious relationship, so thinking about money and a relationship when you are 25 is not the best idea, anything can happen in 5-10 years.
Thanks for writing this, in Singapore guys don't usually hug girls(implying that they are friends) , even if they are in a relationship.
I will try to talk to her, but it just seems so hard to start the conversation without sounding like a creep ("Hey, your hair looks nice. CAN I TOUCH IT?")
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On September 27 2011 19:11 Azera wrote:Hi guys, you all may remember me from this blog : [Blog that you should read so that you would understand what I will be talking about]So today, I was on the bus home from school today and I saw the exact same girl. I was really nervous and I just sat very far away from her on the bus. So, when she got off the bus ( I was sitting rows behind her ) she was greeted by some guy [I think of this guy to be her boyfriend] and she hugged him. That's it I guess, thanks for listening. Also, I would like to leave you all with an excerpt from the book 'Jane Eyre'. It is as if I had a string somewhere under my left ribs, tightly and also inextricably knotted to a similar string situated in the corresponding quarter of your slender frame. And if that we were to be separated by a boisterous piece of land, by time, or by age, I'am afraid that this cord of communion will be snapped, and then I would begin to bleed inwardly.
You have a very interesting definition of heartbreak considering you've never talked to this girl. You are already being submissive to this chick without having said a word to her. Chicks don't like submissive men, they might say they do, but really they don't know what they want. And another protip: do not make assumptions on a girl's relationship status because she hugs a guy, or she hangs out a lot with a guy.
It's no wonder you think you have nothing to offer -- your thinking process is completely wrong. Having your balls in a woman's purse has nothing to do with money. You can be the richest most successful guy out there and still have your balls firmly nested in your wife's/gf's purse.
TLDR: Take your head out of your ass and change your way of thinking because as the years pass, it gets more and more difficult to change habits and thought patterns.
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On September 27 2011 21:07 craz3d wrote:
You have a very interesting definition of heartbreak considering you've never talked to this girl. You are already being submissive to this chick without having said a word to her. Chicks don't like submissive men, they might say they do, but really they don't know what they want. And another protip: do not make assumptions on a girl's relationship status because she hugs a guy, or she hangs out a lot with a guy.
It's no wonder you think you have nothing to offer -- your thinking process is completely wrong. Having your balls in a woman's purse has nothing to do with money. You can be the richest most successful guy out there and still have your balls firmly nested in your wife's/gf's purse.
TLDR: Take your head out of your ass and change your way of thinking because as the years pass, it gets more and more difficult to change habits and thought patterns.
Even though you may not have meant for it to be so, after reading this I feel slightly... empowered? Sort of like listening to 'Eye of the Tiger' haha.
*Also, is it creepy, scary, or just plain wrong that I googled her name and has her tumblr and facebook?
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Listen to Idra, you gotta skate. I'm 17 and im not worrying about girls in rl at the moment, just wanna live my youth and play the hell off starcraft 2 instead of spending all of my day being with a girl atm.
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