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On September 27 2011 23:44 HeartBreakerr wrote:
wait...i dont get it, how did your heart break over a girl you don't even know?
she was never yours to begin with...i guess you being 14 explains it. I used to think like you too, but you just gotta learn to not dwell on certain things, especially things that you cannot change or influence.
When I was 13-14 I had a mad crush on this girl at school but was too shy to talk to her, and when she started dating this random guy I got really sad. I wouldn't say "heartbroken" (and now I'm noticing your account name lawls) but yeah.
Being young and a bit crazy... good times.
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Blazinghand
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Hey man, feel better. The first heartbreak is always the worst </3 but it makes you stronger and faster (we can rebuild him!) and she won't be dating him forever... keep your head high and your shoulders back. Don't lose that fire in your belly or that marmalade in your jelly.  and if you have trouble, as you can see, TL will be here to support you, in our own schizophrenic disagreeing way.
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You think thats bad kid?
Back in that age for me, I spent 2 and a half years getting the girl of my dreams to like me. Starting with she didn't know my name, to pretty damn near close to her realllly liking me, and spending time together and such.
Out of the blue, she falls for my BEST FRIEND, and they start dating within 2 weeks, cause I brought her over to his house to hang out.
I spend nearly 3 years getting close to this girl, my buddy didn't even know her pretty much. And boom, headshot.
This has been the story of my life for the past 7 years. It's seriously shitty, but oh well shit happens.
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theres about idk 1.5k million ppl in china/singapore/taiwn area (you get my point) about 50% women and about 50% of those women are younger women, im sure ull find someone else cheer up!
edit: i used 1.5mil as in my native language 1.5thousand*
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On September 27 2011 22:56 konadora wrote:
you'll never forget your first heartbreak ;___;
you seem pretty mature for a 14 year old singaporean anyone, you have a clear plan on what to do. you just gotta put it into action, and really, no choice but to mug :S
i mean, i got freaking A levels in one month plus and that's all i can do but to mug :/
anw, digression aside, your first heartbreak can never be forgotten, but don't do anything ridiculous because of it, ok? even though it's not really a heartbreak as some people pointed out, but oh well, diff people have diff perceptions!
and no, not really. in this internet age, doesn't really seem that creepy. my friends know a lot of other friends that i had no idea they knew via e-stalking lol.
Yeah... many people tell me that the same thing, my friends think I'm weird too. (Because I won't go to LANs with them to play Blackshot or Sudden Attack and just want to go home to play StarCraft and read books.)
On September 28 2011 00:18 Djzapz wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2011 23:44 HeartBreakerr wrote:
wait...i dont get it, how did your heart break over a girl you don't even know?
she was never yours to begin with...i guess you being 14 explains it. I used to think like you too, but you just gotta learn to not dwell on certain things, especially things that you cannot change or influence. When I was 13-14 I had a mad crush on this girl at school but was too shy to talk to her, and when she started dating this random guy I got really sad. I wouldn't say "heartbroken" (and now I'm noticing your account name lawls) but yeah. Being young and a bit crazy... good times.
It's just that sometimes, when you fall in love, you start to over think things, you think about the future you want to have. Heartbreak in my opinion, comes in many forms, as long as you feel that your heart has been "broken" by either getting rejected, dumped, or knowing that you weren't accepted by your love, it is heartbreak.
On September 28 2011 00:24 Blazinghand wrote:Hey man, feel better. The first heartbreak is always the worst </3 but it makes you stronger and faster (we can rebuild him!) and she won't be dating him forever... keep your head high and your shoulders back. Don't lose that fire in your belly or that marmalade in your jelly. and if you have trouble, as you can see, TL will be here to support you, in our own schizophrenic disagreeing way.
Thanks ♥
On September 28 2011 00:39 N3rV[Green] wrote:
You think thats bad kid?
Back in that age for me, I spent 2 and a half years getting the girl of my dreams to like me. Starting with she didn't know my name, to pretty damn near close to her realllly liking me, and spending time together and such.
Out of the blue, she falls for my BEST FRIEND, and they start dating within 2 weeks, cause I brought her over to his house to hang out.
I spend nearly 3 years getting close to this girl, my buddy didn't even know her pretty much. And boom, headshot.
This has been the story of my life for the past 7 years. It's seriously shitty, but oh well shit happens.
Yeah, shit does happen. I guess I just haven't been exposed to the world enough yet. I really do hope that I will never experience what you have though =/
On September 28 2011 00:40 Danika wrote:
theres about idk 1.5k million ppl in china/singapore/taiwn area (you get my point) about 50% women and about 50% of those women are younger women, im sure ull find someone else cheer up!
edit: i used 1.5mil as in my native language 1.5thousand*
Singapore is in Southeast Asia and not in China... I still get what you are trying to say though. Thanks.
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On September 27 2011 19:11 Azera wrote:Hi guys, you all may remember me from this blog : [Blog that you should read so that you would understand what I will be talking about]So today, I was on the bus home from school today and I saw the exact same girl. I was really nervous and I just sat very far away from her on the bus. So, when she got off the bus ( I was sitting rows behind her ) she was greeted by some guy [I think of this guy to be her boyfriend] and she hugged him. That's it I guess, thanks for listening. Also, I would like to leave you all with an excerpt from the book 'Jane Eyre'. It is as if I had a string somewhere under my left ribs, tightly and also inextricably knotted to a similar string situated in the corresponding quarter of your slender frame. And if that we were to be separated by a boisterous piece of land, by time, or by age, I'am afraid that this cord of communion will be snapped, and then I would begin to bleed inwardly.PS; To anyone asking, no, I do not know this girl personally.
I'm going to be a bit less compassionate than other posters.
So here's my understanding - you see this girl on the bus who goes to a GREAT school, so you obviously know she's smart. You go to an ok school, so you feel inferior. You develop a bit of a crush and feel devastated when you see her get off the bus and hug a guy.
Let's put this into perspective:
1). You like this girl, but you never talked to her and never got to know her
2). She only hugged the guy. This could mean she's dating or could mean she gave a friend a hug. If you had actually talked to her and gotten to know her only then could you say something with certainty. Stop playing the B.S. game of "I'm going to figure you out by overthinking a situation instead of talking to you".
3). Since you're so young you can use this as a learning experience. You can practice getting to know people by being social on the bus. Seriously, what have you got to lose? Worst case scenario is that you learn a bunch of social skills, get to know her, and learn that she's dating someone. At least now you'll have the experience and some confidence to go for the next girl you like.
4). Feeling inferior is all in your head. If you wear your insecurities on your sleeve then no one is going to want to be around you. An open mind is all you need
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On September 28 2011 01:30 Servius_Fulvius wrote:
I'm going to be a bit less compassionate than other posters.
So here's my understanding - you see this girl on the bus who goes to a GREAT school, so you obviously know she's smart. You go to an ok school, so you feel inferior. You develop a bit of a crush and feel devastated when you see her get off the bus and hug a guy.
Let's put this into perspective:
1). You like this girl, but you never talked to her and never got to know her
2). She only hugged the guy. This could mean she's dating or could mean she gave a friend a hug. If you had actually talked to her and gotten to know her only then could you say something with certainty. Stop playing the B.S. game of "I'm going to figure you out by overthinking a situation instead of talking to you".
3). Since you're so young you can use this as a learning experience. You can practice getting to know people by being social on the bus. Seriously, what have you got to lose? Worst case scenario is that you learn a bunch of social skills, get to know her, and learn that she's dating someone. At least now you'll have the experience and some confidence to go for the next girl you like.
Ok, I understand what you're trying to say, but how do I start talking to her? Do I just walk up to her and say "Heh, strange how we always see each other." (This is true, for not only do I see her when I go to school, I see her at a street near my school daily and on the bus home as well.)
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On September 27 2011 20:19 pangshai wrote:
I will try to talk to her, but it just seems so hard to start the conversation without sounding like a creep ("Hey, your hair looks nice. CAN I TOUCH IT?")
Bro, are you kidding me? I don't know what they do in Singapore but in Norway this is standard affair.
In fact, we walk up to girls we like and just stare at them, then we make some guttural, low moaning sounds to imply arousal. Flattery, It's called.
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1) you gotta sk8
2) No one loves a pussy/creeper. You like a girl swallow your balls and make your move. Talk to her, get to know her, then ask her out if you feel that spark.
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On September 28 2011 01:37 Azera wrote:
Ok, I understand what you're trying to say, but how do I start talking to her? Do I just walk up to her and say "Heh, strange how we always see each other." (This is true, for not only do I see her when I go to school, I see her at a street near my school daily and on the bus home as well.)
That's one way. "Hi! I see you on the bus every day, but then noticed you on a street near my school. Do you have friends in the area?". It's important to ask a question that warrants participation. The question I posed isn't that great either because it's a yes or no question that she could answer with a yes or no. A simple transition is "Sorry if that sounds a little creepy. I'm Azera, I go to school the school nearby. What's your name?". Go from there. Great questions to ask are "Where are you from", "Where do you go to school", "How is school going", "How do you spend your free time"....stuff like that. Personally I think it's a lot easier to meet people through social groups since the ice is so much easier to break, but when it comes to talking to someone you've never really met this is the way to go.
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Just cause she hugged a guy doesn't mean that he is her boyfriend. All the girls that I'm friends with always hug me when we meet and when we say goodbye, so don't worry about it. Why don't you just start talking to her, maybe get her name and through that you can find her on facebook and check if she really does have a boyfriend and if she doesn't it's your move. GL
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On September 27 2011 22:05 SilverSkyLark wrote:
Watch Gurren Lagann.
"Don't believe in the you who believes in me. Don't believe in the me who believes in you. Believe in the you who believes in yourself."
Awesome anime. You can stream it on youtube (MANGAentertainment) :D
Cheer up and be yourself! There's someone else out there for you :p
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Sorry guys, didn't get to talk to her this morning. Scumbag traffic light didn't turn red. I hope I see her on the bus hone though. Wish me luck T.T
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On September 27 2011 21:16 Azera wrote:You're a genius. How did you know?
On September 27 2011 20:19 pangshai wrote:
which secondary school do you go to? also, don't be silly. the guy was her brother.
CAN IT BE!?
On topic, just talk to her to find out. Unless you're scared and have a ton of free time follow her ;D
+ Show Spoiler +PS. I suck with girls they all tend to hate me.
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Argh, I didn't see her on the bus back home, anyway guys, my end of year examinations start tomorrow so I guess I'll have to start focusing on the for now.
On September 28 2011 08:14 RezChi wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2011 21:16 Azera wrote:On September 27 2011 21:15 pangshai wrote:
so this girl is from nanyang? You're a genius. How did you know? Show nested quote +On September 27 2011 20:19 pangshai wrote:
which secondary school do you go to? also, don't be silly. the guy was her brother. CAN IT BE!? On topic, just talk to her to find out. Unless you're scared and have a ton of free time follow her ;D + Show Spoiler +PS. I suck with girls they all tend to hate me.
Haha, are you saying that pangshai is related to the girl? ^^
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On September 28 2011 00:39 N3rV[Green] wrote:
You think thats bad kid?
Back in that age for me, I spent 2 and a half years getting the girl of my dreams to like me. Starting with she didn't know my name, to pretty damn near close to her realllly liking me, and spending time together and such.
Out of the blue, she falls for my BEST FRIEND, and they start dating within 2 weeks, cause I brought her over to his house to hang out.
I spend nearly 3 years getting close to this girl, my buddy didn't even know her pretty much. And boom, headshot.
This has been the story of my life for the past 7 years. It's seriously shitty, but oh well shit happens.
Maybe you should get uglier friends.
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in a few years you will look back at this moment and LAUGH :D
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Dude I kinda know how u feel (Back when I was 14 I would fall in love with random chicks I never knew).
BUT DW. YOU SERIOUSLY HAVE LIKE A WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU, AND ALOT MORE OF YOUR CHILDHOOD!
Seriously man, your gunna have more chances in life, provided you can interact socially. Just dont overthink shit and try and act normal. If you wanna become friends with chicks, just do outside activities that involve groups and girls enjoy doing (Like, drama, ect)
Edit: Seriously, dont take this seriously. Dont even follow any of my advice if you dont feel you need to. But Glhf with life because you may aswell.
Edit2: If your afraid of talking to strangers, do outside (School) activities with people you dont know! You wont just randomly be able to talk to people, but over time it will help.
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