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Any rough ideas on where to apply for Undergrad business/econ/CS. Still not 100% sure which one. But what are some high tier (but not ivy >.>) schools for each of these majors? Not necessarily final, but I want to get a definitive list of possibilities completed, then narrowed down, before I start filling out apps >.>
Secondly: Do any of you guys have good organization systems to suggest? I've cleared a lot of crap out of my room. But I don't know where I should plut stuff. Still probably need to clear out more...
Also any recommendations for school. Folder/binders/?
Warning: 2300+ Words of rant. But if anyone could help that would be most appreciated ;D
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Parent rage blog # 1: Still hostage with a year to go
It was 12:07am on the 20 of August, 2011. Many of my friends are going to their respective colleges and getting moved in. But for me, my internet shut down and a disgruntled mother stormed out of her bedroom, telling me in a sharp tone, it’s 12:07. My mental response is, so? But instead I just sit there, and say that I’ll be in bed by 12:30. But no that’s inadequate, she threatens to bash in the monitor, and so I go to bed.
Let me make it clear: I’ve been going to bed fairly early in general, by my own volition. Not necessarily because I want to (I actually am a bit of a night owl by nature) but because I want to avoid this shit from happening. And you may call me an idiot because I decided to initiate this confrontation. But I’ve frankly had enough of all this ridiculousness.
Firstly, I have made some really stupid decisions. I tend to procrastinate and put things off, although not ridiculously so. A few years ago I lied a lot to my parents, mostly about stupid things. These things really had no consequence. Nobody should have cared about them. But they became an issue to my parents, and in the ensuing power struggle I lied a lot about stupid actions. I didn’t go out and smoke, or drink, or even attend parties and lie about it. I didn’t practice bassoon and lied about it. I had math homework which I would do later in the night, but I lied about that. Soon I figured out that my parents were going to intrude and find out that stupid information anyways and I would get in trouble.
Secondly, I dislike bringing up my surgery. I would like to believe that I can function as a normal person. It’s becoming increasingly clear that I can. But my parents tend to accuse me of playing a sort of sympathy card because of it. I fail to see how my actions are fishing for sympathy. What I’ve been through is major, and some people have had a lot of sympathy, (namely my sophomore English teacher……..) But when you look at things, my mom is the one whining about my situation to the office. She both encourages me to use my situation, and accuses me of using it. But more on topic…
Even before this, when I was 12 I wanted to get Age of Empires II. My friends had it, and it seemed cool. It became a sort of unhealthy obsession for me. I never actually saw the game, but it sounded cool. When I went to their houses, my mom made sure I could not see it. I asked to get it, and she got upset. I turned 13. I now met the requirements for the teen rating. I wanted to get it, but she refused citing my brother. It wasn’t until I was 15 that I ended up just torrenting it but in any case…
This bit is from Kindergarten. One of my best friends lived in a two story 3,000 square foot house. He was really young, and all his friends were from the same area. I live in a 2k foot one story ranch house, and he innocently asked my mom why our house was so small. Sure, if he knows what he’s saying it’s rude, but he was sooo young. He had no idea. She yelled at him and sent him home.
Somewhere in there, a friend invited me to see return of the King. She wouldn’t let me go, and my friends all got mad, but she wouldn’t let me go, and a lot of my friends just started to think she was crazy.
But as things progressed, things did not improve. I did fairly well in school, I got a B from a teacher that everyone thought was a bitch, and then managed to correct it 4 months later because she had forgotten to enter one of my projects >.> Parents blew up over that.
But for the last four years, I have wished to be able to have a TV/computer in my room (Was unreasonable four years ago... I also wished to be able to eat out with friends, and at friends houses occasionally.
For the last year, I have wished to drive. But no matter what I do to appease, the situation does not improve.
TV: Have never taken strong action on it. In fact mostly watch TV on computer now >.>
Computer: I know that a lot of studies say that it is a negative thing to have a computer in a room. But as things are now, the computer is on a tiny desk in the kitchen. My room is at least like 150 feet away down the hall. And basically all of my assignments need to be typed. It would be nice to have all of my stuff for work consolidated into one room. But I’m afraid that she says this is bullshit. Probably 5 months ago, after a huge blowup, when I cleaned out my room, I just moved the computer into my room. She blew up, blahblahblah breach of trustblahblahblah. Said I was trying to hide it. I dunno, but it seems obvious when there is a monitor on my desk, and not one in the kitchen
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In terms of eating out with friends/being out at dinner, she’s being the most nazi parent ever. This brings asian parent to a whole new level, although it’s really over the top.
She threatened to break up my computer if I didn’t show up for dinner, when I informed her that there was an MUN function from 3:00-7:00. We eat at 5:00. She said there are all these studies linking eating separately from the family to an increase in crime. And yeah, those children are more likely to commit felonies.
I wear a helmet when riding a bicycle. I cross my is and dot my ts when it comes to the law. It can be really frustrating. But the fact that she would imply that if I spend time not eating dinner with the family would make me a felon made me really mad.
I tried to fight back rationally: oh, I forgot, that doesn’t work. I argued that to a certain degree the fact that all the members of our family saw each other so much was a sort of bad thing. It created a pressure cooker situation where basically everyone is stuck in the house, and pressures grow. You may say my parents could leave, but let’s lay this out.
Recreational behaviors for my mom: Telling my grandma how incompetent I am (more later…)
‘’ Dad: uhhh, running. Yeah, that’s it.
‘’ Brother: Reading anime
Me: Going out with friends sometimes, if parents allow it, not going to LANs because they are too late and dangerous qq
Essentially everyone sits in the house. My mom complains about the time I spend on the computer, and that I should get out. But when I go to get out she is like “oh, you should just sit in the yard, or go to the library, or …” Not “socialize with friends” And if she does want me to socialize with friends, she wants me to go to a house where fruit punch is served, and we play a game of pick up soccer in which I dominate because everyone else is so unathletic.
In the last week, with the writing of college essays, I’ve become increasingly pessimistic. A lot of my friends are wiritng about their strong family for college apps. Is this a good thing? Dunno. But pretty much all of my thoughts regarding my family are negative. Here are some things I might write about in college apps.
1) Being an admin on Wikipedia, not worrying about age, age blind. Also the amount of subjectivity, and the difficulty of communicating online.
2) Doing MUN with a full torso and neck brace.
3) Other even more personal stuff
But when I was thinking of topics, a lot of it turned out to be “overcoming barriers layed forth by the family either verbally or physically”
Finally, in terms of driving, it is complete bullshit.
This is the cycle
1) I need to go to dentist or something like that
2) Mom makes me drive her there so I can get practice driving
3) She complains on the way there that I can’t drive alone
4) She comments that my driving is pretty good
5) She says I still need more practice for permit
6) I ask how much
7) She wont’ say
8) I ask to take the driving test, she says I’m not responsible enough.
9) I ask if I’ll ever get one, she won’t say
10) I say that I shouldn’t even drive her if I’m not going to get a license
11) She ignores me
Alright. Tell me this. Am I the most mature 17 year old in the world? No. Am I more mature than most of them? Dunno. I haven’t been given enough leeway to tell. But I would assume that I’m mature enough to drive a car if probably 95% of the people in my class have a license.
I’m not sure as to the accuracy of this, because my brother does have a lieing problem, but he claims that when he was riding his bike to the library, somebody mistook him for me, and made fun of him/ (me) for not being able to drive. My mom didn’t give a shit .She just was like haha funny. No you bitch, you are bringing this upon me. Do not tell me that you have no other choice but to refuse any sort of responsibility to me. You are making that choice, and it is one thing to take responsibility, but it is another to blame me for not doing things you prohibit me from doing.
The biggest thing that I’ve figured out when applying to college is my lack of confidence. And the problems it has caused. A lot of it is caused by the split feedback between my friends and those at school and my parents
For example Mom “you won’t get into UC Riverside”
Friends “apply to Stanford, you’ll get in”
Mom “you’re irresponsible”
Friends “you’re very responsible”
I frankly don’t know what to do. I had a panic attack two years ago during a math test. A lot of it was caused by my parents saying “you need to study more your’e gonna fail blahblahblah” I knew the material, but had a complete breakdown during the test. (Causing me to get a B in the course…)
Another point that goes along with this. Both my brother, and my mom brazenly go after me for not being in a relationship. I just have no idea how to deal with it. I lack the confidence to ask people. I’m fairly sure they would say yes, but I get all anxious. I get anxious with a lot of things. I didn’t get anxious before :\ And it’s especially ironic considering my parents met through classifieds in a newspaper, and it was my dads first real relationship. And my mom’s third or something like that.
Along a similar vein, my mom always says I look like shit. Sure I have no idea how to dress, but I’ll wear jeans and a shirt, and generally look fairly neat. She wears sweatpants, and a monochrome t-shirt. In public with me. >.>
Lastly, I have no idea what I want to do for a job. OK, my parents really want me to go an engineering route, and I’ve been trying to say that I want to do that. Sure, I’m capable of it, but it’s not where my interests really are. I’m more interested in economics/banking/finance. It’s where I’d like to work, but there is a lot of pressure to go in that direction. A college counselor is going to talk to us soon. How the heck should I go about it :/
MEAT OF RANT
In a year I will be at a four year institution of some sort. I don’t know where, but wherever it is, I’ll have infinitely more freedom than I do now. My biggest worry is ironically that I will be unable to deal with it. I haven’t dealt with being able to stay up past 12:30 ever. I’ll have that ability. I’ll be able to go out when I feel like it. I could go to parties, if my better judgment doesn’t stop me. My mom maintains I’m not ready for smaller responsibilities. But really, the time gap for me to learn to be more independent is closing .Keeping the status quo, in which I’m not allowed to do much of anything, cannot, and will not assist me when I head off to college. So what the heck should I do… I’ll be an adult, who can’t stay up past 12:00, and can’t have internet past 11:30.
I’ve been thinking about it, and have thought about just entirely contradicting her. Taking the computer into my room, and locking myself in. Something dramatic like that. I dunno. Problem is that doesn’t’ accomplish anything. Other problem is that it’s been extensively debated and it’s never going to happen unless if I make something happen. But should anything be done? :/
And I just thought of this:
Perhaps the reason I’m so attracted to the thought of going to Korea, is not necessarily that it is Korea, but that it is a society and place in which I would be entirely free from my parents. Rational? No. Probably why? Yeah. I don’t know what to make of it. Do any of you?
  
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I will start by saying I skimmed the blog, but for the part about your mom yelling at you for it being 12:07... I just don't understand. I personally believe that you should go to bed when you feel like it in order to prepare for college (since you said it might be an issue for you). Either way, best of luck 
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Maybe your mom thinks you are irresponsible because you don't have a job. You don't need a license for your first year of college probably either because a lot of universities do not allow freshman to have cars. Oh and what region were you looking for colleges?
+ Show Spoiler +Was this blog interesting? No. Standard teenage angst? Yes.
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I know I don't need a license. Let me elaborate
1) I didn't really want a license.
2) Mom says i should get license
3) I say OK I'll get a license
4) I drive her all over to practice for the license
5) I can't have one, but I still have to drive her all over the place
6) It's my fault I don't have one.
My mom won't let me have a job, she wants me to focus on school. I hold a semi-management position for the local soccer league, but it's unpaid. President of two clubs with 30+/50+ members.
Probably western US for college.
Yeah, it's not interesting. Just angst. But I could use some help right about now qq
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You should tell your mom she needs to relax and not worry about you. You're mom is a typical asian mom but i think she still thinks your 12. You seem like a real smart guy so you'll have no problem getting into a good university. You'll have a lot of freedom there but don't let all your freedom cloud your priorities. Your mom has good intentions like most all parents - get good grades, don't do drugs and etc. You're going to be a senior which will be your easiest year of high school and then you'll be in college and you'll be free.
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Your mom needs to relax, she never lets you miss dinner and won't let you have a comp in your room? wtf
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Maybe you should tell your mom to fuck off. your not her hand puppet, your 17 now. take a stand
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at the end of the day when you sit down and think about it, theres nothing you can do to change your mum. this isnt the movies, people just dont listen to each other.
youve done the first 17 years, trust me thats the hard part. soon you will go off to college, and as bad as it sounds you will ditch most of your high school friends. either you just wont have time for each other, or meeting up will become a pain. maybe you will hang on to a few but its not a big deal. the point is this shadow hanging over your social life of your mum will soon be gone.
the best way to show her that shes wrong, that she is over protective, illogical, unfair and untrusting? live your life at uni, do the best you can do and move on to live your life. have your own family and raise your kids the best you can, show her that shes wrong.
if you really wanted to be a dick theres 100 things you could do, but thats up to you :D the main point is you have only got to take your situation until you go off to college, compared to 17 years growing up, your on the home straight.
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You should try to get a job as quickly as possible (which sounds like you can't until you leave for college). As soon as you're not financially dependent on your parents you can just tell them to fuck off because that's the only leverage they will have on you when you move out ( "We'll stop paying for your college if you don't blah blah blah"). If you can support yourself then you can refuse to acknowledge them until they start treating you with respect.
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I'm not sure about your other stuff with your parents, but when I was applying to college, I applied to wherever I wanted to go, and colleges that interested me.
I have no idea why a college counselor is talking to you and your parents. Choosing a university should be your choice only. Sure, your parents can give suggestions, but it should ultimately fall on you where you want to go and do with your career. You want to go into finance/economics? Research finance jobs, research summer associate programs, and hand that research over to your parents. Who gives a fuck if they don't care, just show them that you've done the mature thing and put a lot of thought into where you want to end up. Finance/economics are marketable degrees and top students land jobs at JPMorgan, Goldman Sachs etc. Show them that your future is planned out, and hint that you don't give a fuck what they think you should do.
That is, unless they're holding out college tuition. In that case, you need to bargain everyday. Worse comes to worst, apply to a university with decent engineering and finance colleges, and switch your major, lol.
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explain to your mom how her sheltering you from anything and everything due to her ridiculously low standard she holds you to will eventually lead to your own destruction when that sheltering is gone, aka when you go to college its just not possible to switch gears to a completely opposite lifestyle, you need more freedoms simply to know the boundaries of what you are truly capable of, what will harm you and what will help you...just shutting everything out, which is what your mom seems to want to do creates a incredibly weak mental state for a person, at least for me i require freedom to be able to not be depressed when each bar laid down on me without me being able to do anything about it except watch as i cannot do anything as im locked away from what i wish to do. my parents try to exercise a similar type of control over me, though it tends to end in more fights since i just cannot mentally handle not being able to make my own choices...since i couldnt go anywhere i ended up trying to find my freedom through music (saxophone) and games (starcraft) however i no longer have a saxophone and cannot get one for quite a while but thats another story completely...
from what i know there is no real way to change the minds of stubborn people  best of luck trying though, they wont give you the tools to prove yourself to them nor will they give you the tools to prove yourself to yourself, all that leaves you with is very little substance, you are trapped by your parents into your parents ways, you cannot rebel or run as that will lead you to a far worse position than you are in now due to finances...however that leaves you to suffer through this blatant slew of ignorance, stubbornness and stupidity...your parents dont know what to do, they are trying to do the best they can however their own shortcomings are what will harm you in the long run, they cant really do much about that though due to their stubbornness...
as for the lack of confidence in yourself i would suggest something sorta unorthodox...just be arrogant, it isnt perfect and has its own flaws but eventually that arrogance will settle down into confidence as you accomplish tasks, its mostly a mindset thing, with arrogance you look at everything you do and start to take pride in yourself from your availiable actions and choices, this works especially well when you do stuff well, such as getting a high SAT score (800 essay portion represent [sadly my colleges didnt look at that portion and i fell asleep later on during the test so i scored below 2200 overall lololol  sadly that with my own mental breakdown (caused by my parents senior year) ended up keeping me out of the college i wanted to go to :/])
well, sorry about this whole rant...the whole subject puts me on tilt a bit, and i never really vent my own frustration anywhere near as much as i should, anyway if you've read this far into it really there isnt much more i can say that can help you out, all i know is that you will need to prove yourself to your parents somehow for them to accept you as an equal for you to have a chance of them lessening their restrictions on you...what i suggest would be something that they can relate to, aka not computer related since they lack all understanding of computers and games the whole generational gap thing, finding a job is probably your best bet to do this...best way to find a job is to memorize your schedule and social security number then walk into restaurants/stores, ask for the manager, and then ask the manager for an application...this wont work 100% of the time but you only need it to work once
glgl
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read the first half then the last so this is my take on it:
1) a new requirement for your school of choice should include a distance far enough from your mother that a plane to visit you would be more convenient than a car.
2) you're living a really sheltered life... to the point that when you actually get a taste of freedom, your not going to know what to do with it.
3) get used to the idea that you're not special and that college will be tough.
The last one is tough to swallow, but you have never stood out to me as some really smart person and if you keep thinking you are, you're going to find that you will put schoolwork off more and overload on difficult courses more when you get a taste of the college life and not having crazy bitch of a mother around. No offense. One thing that will ensure your success is that you seem special when it comes to working hard (and that's really what the biggest requirement of success is because a lot of geniuses are underachievers because of the lack of a drive) so keep at it and try to balance your life with fun too. College is more than just academics, it's growing as a person and creating social networks.
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Haha
#3. I'm not special. I am above average intelligence, I"m fairly sure of that. But I"m not genius, and your point is correct.
I need to drive myself, because if I don't ahve a mother being annoying, and slack off, i"ll get owned.
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You meet people who come from homes like yours in college. They suddenly find that they have nobody telling them what to do at all and go absolutely crazy. Then the parents wonder why they dropped out or are failing their courses after they spent all that time "encouraging" them to do well. Sounds like you're doing good though. Just keep on sucking it up. You're going to have to do what they say for a bit while longer but that doesn't mean you have to agree with it.
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I knew lots of people who had strict parents, and once they got their freedom it really got to their head and they went overboard, and did a lot of things I wouldn't recommend.
I guess this is just a warning, when you do get a taste of freedom don't go crazy with it. Ease yourself into the water, get it? Good luck man...
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Good blog, sad thing is no matter how well you do in life your parents will always remind you how you would be a trash if not for their guidance. Just move on and once you come home for springbreak dont be a pushover anymore.
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Meh. Not sure what to do in the now though.
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Your worried you won't be able to handle a four year university, however you correctly grasp the issues you'll face while away at school. I think that understanding and processing the level of responsibility you'll need to function as an adult in a college setting sets you on the right path to actually doing it. As long as you set some goals for yourself while at school and stick them (regardless of your mother's goals for you), and include in one of those goals "have fun and meet people and do a stupid college thing once in awhile", you'll have a successful experience without demolishing your future one bit.
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What should I do now? Just wait it out :/
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its not fair to judge unless we get your moms side of the story, plz tell her to make a post here
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I could ask her.
She would say I"m trying to set her up and refuse.
But she'll look at this and get mad anyways >.>
Her argument to me is that I lied in the past (3-4 years ago, true) and am generically irresponsible.
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Hokay well-- I will start by saying I read that all, and I was raised in a fairly similar situation--
My mom and dad were emotionally and verbally abusive. They disallowed seeing friends, having access to a computer or TV ever, controlled what books I could read, what school activities I could be part of once I was allowed to go to school, etc. <<< Brief summary, but it was pretty nasty shit basically.
When it came near to college, I was like you in a lot of ways. My parents really wanted me to go to a particular school other than the one I got into and wanted, and they disagreed with my career choice (they don't think women should have careers). I made a very hard decision, which was that I was an adult, and I was not going to be happy letting other people live my life for me. I went to the school I wanted to go to.
This was really scary, because my family stopped talking to me, and I had zero financial support. It was also the best decision I have ever made. I am happier than I have ever been, even though I am often stressed the fuck out by my full class load and multiple jobs.
While you're at home, your parents really do have an extraordinary amount of control to abuse. Once you turn 18, you are free to leave-- and you are the only person who can hold you back. If you're not afraid to be on your own, you will do fine.
Apply to the colleges you want to go to and study what you want to study. If your parents don't want to support that, screw them. They aren't the ones who will be living the rest of your life, it's you. Don't give in and do something you hate.
Don't worry either about how you will respond to all that freedom. I got to college, and suddenly I had an 100% change in freedom. I don't go to parties because I don't like them. I don't do drugs or smoke, because I think it's gross. I do my homework on time, and study hard for my classes, because it's my only opportunity to have this kind of education (can't blow my scholarship). I hang out with friends in the evening, but go to bed in time to get up for class. I do a good job at work, and have been promoted for a second time. Unless you KNOW you want to go out and party hard and get wasted every evening and not go to classes, there's really no reason at all to think you will.
You will probably get there, experiment a little, and continue being the reasonably responsible person you are. If you know you have no idea how to do laundry, can't cook toast to save your life, don't know how to show up on time to an entry level job or class, then those are things you should probably worry about. Otherwise, you will do just fine.
As for your essays-- it's generally not good to write about how terrible your family is unless you were removed from your home by the state for it. Focus on any other problems you may have had. Also remember that not every essay needs to be about overcoming obstacles. Good essays can also be about experiences that changed you as a person-- volunteering, having a child, or death of a close loved one are the staples of this type of essay. Good essays can also be about your dreams and what inspired them, but they should be written in such a way to show the college that your dreams are best fulfilled at their college, and align with that school's goals. This type of essay should also subtly plug yourself for the things you are good at.
Good luck dood. Stick it out, and as soon as you are able to leave, start running and don't look back.
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Haha. I don't plan to write on friends and family. Just was thinking about it and contrasting.
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Colleges: University of Chicago, University of Michigan (ann arbor), UC Berkeley and LA, NYU, probably a lot that I missed but those are some top-tier business schools off the top of my head.
Also if you're doing a few extracurriculars (MUN, etc), you get pretty good grades, and you have a pretty good SAT score you'll be fine applying for college. Don't worry about it too much; obviously it's great if you can head off to Stanford or something, but as long as you go to a decent enough school (and your parents don't hate you for it lol) and get good grades there you'll be fine.
Organization: I used to have a problem where I would have way too much stuff and it was hard to sort through everything, but then I realized I could just throw everything away and all my problems were solved lol. I got a large black trash bag, dug through my room, and anything I hadn't used in a while I just threw away.
School stuff: I got through school with a backpack, pens/pencils, a notebook for each class, textbooks, and the internet. Some class-specific stuff like calculators, but generally notebook + pens/pencils was enough for me.
Parents: It sucks and all but I think the best plan is to just man up and take it. One more year and you'll be out of the house and into college, and you definitely don't want to set off on the wrong foot if your parents are footing the bill. You can try talking to her about it, but super asian parents tend to have a completely different mindset, so it'd probably be kind of hard to reason with her.
If you can, try to pick up a hobby like reading, writing, dancing, drawing or something that you can do somewhere your mom can't bother you. If you get along well with your brother and the age difference isn't huge you can hang out with him too. Also, if you can learn how to cook (well) you'll be a mini-celebrity in college haha.
Car: Unless not having a car really gets in your way I'd just ignore it; it's way more convenient to just bum rides all the time anyway lol.
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I can actually cook pretty well.
My mom wouldn't let me go to the library to read some >.> I do read a lot. I write blogs
What type of notebook are you talking about?
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Lined paper notebook, usually I just buy one for each class at the beginning of the school year and pick up a few more if I need them.
I used to use a binder and a ton of looseleaf paper, but I hate that loud clicking noise lol
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Lol.
WHat do you use to store papers?
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I skimmed the original post, but I think I get the gist.
You need to get a job. Doesn't matter what it is, just get one. In this way you can be financially independent from your parents and if you want something, you get it, you don't have to let them walk all over you about it anymore. The primary reason why you have to suck up to your parents for everything is because you are dependent on your parents for your survival and your lifestyle.
For a major, do what YOU want. Don't listen to your parents or your friends. Figure out what interests YOU. If you end up in engineering, and you suddenly realize after two years that it's really not your piece of cake, then what? Will you change your major to economics or decide you want to stick it out and get the engineering degree for financial security at a job you'll probably hate? And if you decide to stick it out, will you make it?
It's time to start living YOUR life, not the life they wish they had lived. Your parents seem to be a bit obsessed with your success, in that they don't want to see you working as a cashier for the rest of your life. Which is understandable, but like many parents in that generation, they have really no idea what your life is like and therefore they have no idea what the best way is to get you to do the right thing.
Your mom seems like she is afraid of losing you. Are you her youngest child? If you want your driver's license, go get it. You have to be 16. Nowhere does it say that you have to have your mom drive you there. If you have your license your parents might let you take their car once in a while if they're worried about buying you one.
If you're still procrastinating, stop. I can't tell you how much I wish I had stopped procrastinating in high school. It helps to have your shit together. That way you can find stuff and if some girl is interested in you, you can manage your time easier. Just keep that in mind dude. Also I suggest watching Rocky if you haven't seen it yet, changed my life.
Also you could watch this video about how Rocky was made if you want.
+ Show Spoiler +http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PJvPD2u3YBI Also if you want a shorter version, you could watch this instead of the four by Sly.
And maybe you should get in a fight with your parents. I haven't really had any major fights where I stuck up for myself for an extended period of time, but the next time my mom or dad tells me to do something with my life that I don't agree with, I'm not doing it. I just wish I had started earlier. It might be easier to become independent by having a fight, even if you don't want to do that. You DO want to be independent, right?
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Moving to college was one of the best things that ever happened to me.
Don't go crazy with it though or you'll get addicted to games like I did.
Get far away. Just think about that. 8 hours by car is enough.
Fill your time with clubs, activities, and volunteering. Do all you can to get the fuck away from the bitch. Engineering is hard work 70 hours a week, but I'd rather take the week than be home for one day.
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It's pointless to talk to her if it's been like this. She has to come to realize it on her own. Talk to her friends and family friends to see if they can help. If they're the same, you know where she gets it from then.
Use a clipboard and looseleaf paper. I've been using it for a couple years and it saves you having to take out your binder everytime.
Store papers in binders. The best thing to do is rewrite your notes in a notebook and keep the originals in the binders.
Hobbies are the best way to pass time, so find one that won't make her angry or crazy. Find a middle ground like playing the violin (asian parents love the violin and piano). Writing, painting, and drawing are looked down upon as useless since you can't live on those careers usually. Reading is a good hobby, and learning about your background and language helps you as well.
Tough it out for one year since she's the one that's going to pay for your freedom. Try not to talk back and actually do what she wants (do the dishes, help with laundry) before she asks.
I'd stay away from showing my parents why I think they're bad parents.
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On August 22 2011 12:39 Froadac wrote:
Lol.
WHat do you use to store papers?
I just stick them into the notebook, get kinda clumpy after a while but then I just throw all the useless sheets away lol
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Hey, you're becoming a man and are more self confident about the fact that your mom is a bitch. You'll do great in college, just be yourself. Things are likely to be a lot better once you leave home, until then just be patient.
Parents aren't perfect and some are kind of terrible but she didn't mess you up too bad by how you sound, lol.
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EPT
