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Chef
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Most nerdy girls are very complimenting of people who don't deserve compliments... So I don't take calling them 'intelligent' too seriously. And I kind of associated getting drunk off wine with the girls to be an activity popular with vapid girls  But I'm making a lot of assumptions. | ||
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ellerina
Philippines452 Posts
I think I'd be awkward if I went to that party too, lol. Conversation with my non-gaming girl friends has briefly touched upon marriage (consensus: not anywhere in the near future) and the like, but I don't think I've ever discussed menstruation at length with them either.  I'm fine with celebrities, make-up, TV shows, and clothes popping up in conservations, but they're certainly not the focus of what me and my friends usually talk/laugh about. And I wouldn't classify talking about placentas as girly, just weird. | ||
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hazelynut
United States2196 Posts
. I think I know a little bit of what you mean of not belonging when it comes to girly conversations, but I watch enough Gossip Girl and Glee and dance/listen to enough KPop to put up a convincing pretense.A really rewarding experience, in these cases, is converting girls into SC enthusiasts (or at least, people who understand SC a little better than "my brother plays games"), one by one. The girls that I know know that I love SC, and although they always say, "I'm terribly at computer games," they at least understand it as something mysteriously awesome instead of just mysterious. On November 19 2010 13:22 ellerina wrote: I guess it's been my good fortune to have a few friends (and sisters) my own gender who I can at least get excited over games with. I used to play BW, WC3, Ragnarok Online, and DOTA (very informally) with them through HS and college. ...who are you? I've played BW, Ragnarok Online, DotA (very briefly), and now SC2. This is too similar to be trueee D: I have not played Diablo, though. | ||
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phosphorylation
United States2935 Posts
when you mentioned bf, i thought you were gay or something | ||
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CosmicAC
United States238 Posts
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tofucake
Hyrule19192 Posts
Peanut: 1, everyone else: dead gg. You win being female. | ||
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caelym
United States6421 Posts
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Peanutsc
United States307 Posts
On November 19 2010 12:57 Hot_Bid wrote: I disagree completely. Peanut described these girls as well educated with good jobs. "Vapid" girls don't discuss books. They don't organize the kinds of meal these girls did. This was just a case if mismatched interests. I don't think it's fair to put down people and call them "vapid" just because they talk about things you aren't interested in. I doubt these are the girls that "just go to parties and don't know how to talk about anything else," I highly doubt party girls are sipping wine eating orzo and talking about literature they just read. I agree with HotBid. I would not call these girls vapid - they really were intelligent people who had gone to very good colleges and now have very good jobs. I wouldn't want them to starve, either! I am very appreciative of everyone who's said they like this post - it was for your enjoyment. I also appreciate all those who have offered words of advice and support - thank you. However, I didn't write this to imply that I feel deficient in any deep rooted or general way, or to excite pity, or to make anybody tell me how good of a girlfriend I am/would be. It's really just a window into an interesting part of my life and my social tendencies. I know there are other girls like me out there - I've had the good fortune of meeting a bunch of them, although there are certainly not as many as I'd like. There are other stories where I hang out with these kinds of girls and we have lots of fun, like the time three non-girly girls and I went to a couple strip clubs and a karaoke bar for my birthday and they made me get a lap dance (from a girl) and it was really fun (although honestly I think I would've been kinda freaked out if I hadn't been drunk). But that's a tale for another time. | ||
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JohannesH
Finland1364 Posts
On November 19 2010 13:07 Chef wrote: You're probably right. I do question the idea that vapid girls don't discuss books though. I have the displeasure of hearing people say what they think in English courses, and it usually not very deep. Peanut did say they couldn't get past the menstrual aspect of The Red Tent, which suggests they only saw the very superficial aspects of it. Most nerdy girls are very complimenting of people who don't deserve compliments... So I don't take calling them 'intelligent' too seriously. And I kind of associated getting drunk off wine with the girls to be an activity popular with vapid girls But I'm making a lot of assumptions.Well it's not like SC2 league ranks or Google/Facebook discussions mean you're any smart either. Just different interests. | ||
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Impervious
Canada4214 Posts
Congrats on getting silver! | ||
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ellerina
Philippines452 Posts
On November 19 2010 13:34 hazelynut wrote: ...who are you? I've played BW, Ragnarok Online, DotA (very briefly), and now SC2. This is too similar to be trueee D: I have not played Diablo, though. Your alter-ego from the Philippines? XD It flashed through my mind that maybe one of my friends moved to the US, but I'm pretty sure all my ex-gaming friends are still in the Philippines, lol. I used to watch Gossip Girl (first 2 seasons, couldn't get through the third) and I like Kpop well enough too One of my friends is a diehard Shinhwa fan and another is a not-so-diehard fan of DBSK. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to convert any of my friends or convince them to play non-casual games again, but at least they know that I like to play games and they're fine with it. | ||
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desRow
Canada2654 Posts
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Kyuukyuu
Canada6263 Posts
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Strivers
United States358 Posts
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DivinO
United States4796 Posts
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vinn
Australia112 Posts
You're really lucky you have guy friends who you can talk about interesting things with ^_^ Wow I try my hardest to avoid any interaction with those types of girls! They're so scary, and make me feel like a total loser, when obviously I'm totally awesome. Hah! But seriously, they do scare me >.>' edit: i can speel gud | ||
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DivinO
United States4796 Posts
On November 19 2010 15:09 vinn wrote: Thanks for sharing that with us! You're really lucky you have guy friends who you can talk about interesting things with ^_^ Wow I try my hardest to avoid any interaction with those types of girls! They're so scary, and make me feel like a total looser, when obviously I'm totally awesome. Hah! But seriously, they do scare me >.>' Do you mean to tell me that a girl currently occupies the greatest voted blog spot on Team Liquid? That's really cool. :D | ||
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vinn
Australia112 Posts
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Luddite
United States2315 Posts
On the other hand I do know that it's worse for girls, since they have so much pressure to worry about babies and boyfriends. At least guys get more freedom to pursue our own hobbies and interests, and speak our minds more freely. I've actually heard a lot of girls say things like "I don't get along well with other girls- I much prefer hanging out with guys". I've never heard any guy say something like that, except maybe for some gay men. I think maybe that attitude is an attempt for the woman to get more freedom for herself by breaking out of stereotyped female roles, and help her fit in as "one of the guys" instead of just being somebody's girlfriend. | ||
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DeckOneBell
United States526 Posts
On November 19 2010 13:47 caelym wrote: I'm a guy, and for someone's whose primary interests are esports, computers/internet, politics, and business, the only people who I enjoy the company of are other nerdy guys. but meeting women (which is something I want to do) requires boring conversation and patience. your experience is very much what it feels like for me to talk to women. it's sad how that's the way of life. I actually really enjoy conversations with women. Even about things that may not be nerdy! It might have to do with being attracted to women, but I find women to be a refreshing change of pace from men. Annnd yeah, I love ESPORTS (always, always in caps), computers, internet, and everything else. Sometimes it's kinda hard to find common ground though, but I think just about anyone (gender disregarded!) has at least some common ground with anyone else. Just maybe not in this situation. About the OP though, sad to hear about the awkward social situation. Those are just painful. @_@ Long and boring, the worst. | ||
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