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I have no idea why I'm posting this on TL, but what the hell, here goes nothing.
I'm going abroad to visit my friend A in a few weeks and she has been hinting that she wants to sleep with me. Or at least I think she has, it could just all be in my head, but I doubt it. She is one of the most beautiful women I know and she's awesome and I like her. BUT. And this is a pretty significant but.
She happens to be a close friend of my ex B. She also happens to be the ex of my close friend C.
This obviously raises a few moral concerns. Basically I have three issues with this:
1. How would this make my ex B feel, and how would that affect my friendship with her.
2. How would this make my friend C feel, and how would that affect my friendship with him.
3. How would this affect my friendship with my friend A.
I feel like #3 isn't much of a problem, we are good friends and I don't see why we couldn't just make each other feel good without it being weird and stuff afterwards. Which leaves us #1 and #2.
An easy solution to #2 is just to confront my friend C with my dilemma and ask him how he feels about it, which I plan on doing. I actually feel he would be cool about it, they broke up like 2 years ago and they were only together for like 6 months and they left on good terms and are still friends.
Now #1 is when it gets tricky. I don't really know how my ex B would feel about this. We were together for 2 years and we broke up in June. We left on good terms and we're still good friends. She has a new boyfriend though, which in my mind makes it more OK for some reason.
I've been trying to picture how I would feel if she slept with one of my friends. I probably wouldn't like it, but maybe if I had a new partner, and she had known the dude longer than she had known me (I have known A longer than I have known B) I wouldn't mind that much? I don't know. I don't feel I can confront her the same way as I can with C so I will probably try to joke about it or something to try and find out how she would feel.
So, TL what is your input?
Poll: Should I sleep with her?Yes (175) 91% No (16) 8% Depends (state reason) (2) 1% 193 total votes Your vote: Should I sleep with her? (Vote): Yes
(Vote): No
(Vote): Depends (state reason)
 
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Stop thinking about it, and hit that.
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Well, it's their exes... Who cares then? It's not like it's his gf atm.
Go get some Pssy
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If you and she want a relationship, go ahead! Life is too short to cockblock yourself with random entanglements.
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I agree, she is your ex for a reason. If she can't accept that your having sex with other people, regardless of who it is then she needs to get over it.
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Don't let your ex determine your future love life. Then she wins.
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To be honest it sounds like in 90% of the situations I can put together it can only lead to bad things and I wouldn't advise it.
Main thing I would ask myself is if you would be disappointed if it was the other way around for the both of them doing it to you. If you think they would do it I would say go for it.
Also you can't just take it for granted if your friend or ex gives you the O K. Its very possible they wouldn't be ok with it, and you'll be left with a fracture in your relationship.
I've been in the situation numerous times before and have gone both ways. My advice would be no.
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Belgium9945 Posts
A friend of mine has a kick for these situations and they've always worked out in his favour. Go for it.
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Go for it. But I wouldn't tell person C till it actually happened. What if you misread A and she's not serious. THen C will go to A and make fun of you.
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go for it. your concerns seem unsignificant to me. have fun 
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Just fucking do it.
It's their problem if they are oversensitive and you shouldn't have to go all Neo in Matrix style, dodging stuff that's perfectly fine just in case they have a weak spot for it. Also, talking to the friends is a good idea.
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On October 27 2010 21:42 Severedevil wrote:
If you and she want a relationship, go ahead! Life is too short to cockblock yourself with random entanglements.
I second that
Go hit that
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Do her - and afterwards have her sleep in your TL.net tshirt. That my friend, is awesomeness.
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United States12607 Posts
1) Who cares about your ex.
2) Unless your friend C is a complete idiot, he'll get over you sleeping with a girl that he dated two years ago. The only situation in which it would not be ok to bone your friend's ex (if you want to keep the friend) is if she recently broke his heart. Doesn't sound like that's the deal here. Oh, and I wouldn't bother approaching your friend about it beforehand. First, that will make you look presumptuous if nothing ever happens. Second, it will make the whole thing into a much bigger deal than it has to be. Your friend will know that you had premeditated sex with his ex. He'll also know you're all up in your head about it, which does not make you look good. And third, would you really not have sex with her if he said he was uncomfortable with it? No, you'd tell him he is a fool and then screw her anyway. My only advice re: your friend C is to not tell him much (I wouldn't tell him anything) about it, if it does happen. Giving him the story is likely to come off like you're trying to rub it in his face that you slept with his ex. (Once, a fairly close friend of mine started dating my ex...I wouldn't have minded it but he kept bringing her up in this snide way, like he had one on me. Don't do that.)
Just go for it.
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prob 1: Fuck the ex
prob 2: bros before hoes, but he was the ex so its kinda fair game
prob 3: there is no prob 3
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On October 27 2010 21:42 Severedevil wrote:
If you and she want a relationship, go ahead! Life is too short to cockblock yourself with random entanglements.
We most likely don't want a relationship, that would just be to weird. I mean sex one thing but if my ex started having a serious relationship with one of my friends I would feel pretty bothered. Plus we don't even live in the same country anymore so it wouldn't work anyway. So if we do end up sleeping together it would most likely just be a casual one time thing.
@Marradron: I don't have to worry about that, C would never do that
Thanks for all the input guys!
edit: spelling
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lmao at 31 yes, 1 no.
I voted yes, but on the condition you ask your friend who's ex it is first.
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Don't forget to tell us your final decision
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Total unbelievability of the story aside, stop bragging.
At least draw up a baller brag post application, these blogs are getting old.
At least make them somewhat interesting:
Most beautiful female friend A wants to fuck my brains out.
Her friend B, second most beautiful female friend also wants my dick.
Both of them sent me naked pictures of themselves covered with the words, "Bang Me You Sexy Man" and stripped for me via webcam. I think they want to sleep with me, but of course it could all be in my head so I don't know for sure.
Both of them were with my close friend C, simultaneously, but his tiny dick could not satisfy them, so they want my thundercock.
But they don't want me separately, they want me at the same time because they're afraid that if I didn't take turns with them in bed, they would have too many orgasms, break the furniture and fall madly in love with me.
Help guys? Moral issue definitely present here. I'm so conflicted, HELP ME!
Poll: Should I do it?Fuck Yes. (27) 75% Yes. (9) 25% 36 total votes Your vote: Should I do it? (Vote): Yes.
(Vote): Fuck Yes.
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Like he can really stop superhot friend A if she wants him :')
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@ArbAttack: Dude, just being honest here, if you don't like it that's fine.
@JWD: Me and C are really good friends and we can talk about anything, there's really no problem in telling him. edit: thanks for the input though! Really helpful
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What the, is that poll rigged?
You're about to make a move on your close friend's ex who also happens to be a friend of your ex (with whom you claim to be on good terms)!
On October 27 2010 21:35 Belano wrote:
I actually feel he would be cool about it
On October 27 2010 21:35 Belano wrote:
She has a new boyfriend though, which in my mind makes it more OK for some reason.
Well, I can't help thinking your feelings seem to be distorted by the faint promise of getting laid!
I really hope you follow your instinct to bring this up with B and C both before going through with it.
If I were you, I probably wouldnt do it even if they give you the go-ahead. In such a situation a positive answer can be just good manners - because they feel they dont have any valid reason to object anymore, but as a personal matter, they might very well mind (I know I would, and you seem to think so would you!), and it can taint your relationship with both of them. You have to decide if jeopardizing those is worth it.
#edit: I guess it depends a lot on your relationship with B and C, and we cant learn enough about that from an OP. I'd just make sure at least C knows you honestly care about his say, and he can actually stop you from doing it, and asking him is not just a formality. If he still doesnt mind, i guess it can be OK, but it may end up being rather awkward nonetheless.
#edit2: lol these letters are confusing. B=your ex, C=your friend.
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ALLEYCAT BLUES49625 Posts
Talk to C,Fuck A and then tell B.
most logical...yes?
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Do it. People sleep with and date their friends exs all the time. As someone else mentioned, if the girl didn't completely fuck over your friend or something then go for it.
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What kind of world is this where when you have sex with someone, they immediately tell their friend and your exgirlfriend ? I mean, come on.. What are the chances they even find out soon after? Very unlikely.
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On October 27 2010 22:38 Wolf wrote:
What kind of world is this where when you have sex with someone, they immediately tell their friend and your exgirlfriend ? I mean, come on.. What are the chances they even find out soon after? Very unlikely.
If they find out or not is not really the issue, I'm just trying to find out if it's OK or not, regardless of if they find out or not.
And no, I don't have a girlfriend right now. If I had, I wouldn't have this dilemma .
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On October 27 2010 22:47 Belano wrote:Show nested quote +On October 27 2010 22:38 Wolf wrote:
What kind of world is this where when you have sex with someone, they immediately tell their friend and your exgirlfriend ? I mean, come on.. What are the chances they even find out soon after? Very unlikely. If they find out or not is not really the issue, I'm just trying to find out if it's OK or not, regardless of if they find out or not.
I say to do it. I mean, I don't really see how it could hurt. Like others have said, if your friends have issues with it, then maybe they aren't really your friends.
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I can't believe people voting "YES" so shamelessly  This is like trolling in real life
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Bang her, worry about the rest afterwards.
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ALLEYCAT BLUES49625 Posts
On October 27 2010 23:10 kasumimi wrote:I can't believe people voting "YES" so shamelessly This is like trolling in real life
Well thats because its not illogical to have feelings for your EX's friends.I'm pretty sure C wouldn't mind..But I don't know the guy so...eh.
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Lol, you wouldn't post here if you didn't know it was wrong.
Having a bunch of nerds say FUCK YEAH DUDE HIT THAT isn't gonna do shit to help the relationships you're inevitably gonna fuck up (face it, you already know this is a bad idea).
Up to you dude, if its worth getting your cock wet, then yeah whatever.
I'd vote no though, sex is just sex, seriously.
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On October 28 2010 00:01 Subversion wrote:
I'd vote no though, sex is just sex, seriously.
But with a beautiful girl, let me quote:
She is one of the most beautiful women the sex would be even better than just sex!
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I used to fuck one of my friends, we moved in together for awhile. Now I never see or talk to her. hint hint
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Ignorance is bliss.
But seriously we will never be able to help you considering we don't know these people or how they would cope with the situation and considering you already put down the pros/cons it's all about making the decision on your own.
Protip: Fuck her. Life is short and people should learn that sex is just a hobby for most people anyways.
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United States12607 Posts
On October 28 2010 00:01 Subversion wrote:
Lol, you wouldn't post here if you didn't know it was wrong.
Having a bunch of nerds say FUCK YEAH DUDE HIT THAT isn't gonna do shit to help the relationships you're inevitably gonna fuck up (face it, you already know this is a bad idea).
Up to you dude, if its worth getting your cock wet, then yeah whatever.
I'd vote no though, sex is just sex, seriously.
Are you a robot?
Maybe the OP posted here because he knows he's going to sleep with A and wanted some pep talks to reassure him that there won't be any fallout.
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Have fun man, report back if anything of consequence happens.
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Haha, I'm loving the feedback. Posting here was an experiment of sorts I guess, but it actually helped me a little. Probably going to talk to C this week 
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On October 28 2010 00:29 Belano wrote:Haha, I'm loving the feedback. Posting here was an experiment of sorts I guess, but it actually helped me a little. Probably going to talk to C this week
Last tip: by doing so ur gonna screw this up.
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Do it like they do on a Discovery channel.
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This obviously raises a few moral concerns.
WRONG
seriously man lots of people keep fuckbuddies, who cares, people are bound to know of it and if they have a problem with it they'll tell you
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lol what? been there, done that. I banged my ex's friend at my birthday party. I was the guest of honor and nobody really knew i was gone. My ex was there, too. When it was over, I left my room wen to the back of the house to be the center of attention and the girl slyly walked out of my room. Oh, and this girl had a boyfriend that she later became engaged to. And then they broke up. And she called me.
I'm pretty sure if I can get away with it, there is no reason for anyone else to find out, unless you're a silly attention whore.
cough
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I voted no. if you want to know why, its because girls spread shit liek fucking FIRE.
meaning if you want this to be the day you mark the calendar and say "yep....it was on this day that my sex life took a 180 and really started slowing down, BUT AT LEAST I GOT SOME THAT NIGHT" then go for it.
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you need to take 2 hours to think about your own standards. then you wont need to ask on tlnet when something like this happens again, and again and again.
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its a good , GOOD thing to be picky and have your own standards.
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On October 28 2010 01:30 ZlaSHeR wrote:
I voted no. if you want to know why, its because girls spread shit liek fucking FIRE.
meaning if you want this to be the day you mark the calendar and say "yep....it was on this day that my sex life took a 180 and really started slowing down, BUT AT LEAST I GOT SOME THAT NIGHT" then go for it.
Haha, not really worried about that. My sex life already started slowing down anyway, and I would happily give up a few months for this girl if I had to, I've been fantasizing about her forever.
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On October 28 2010 07:32 Belano wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2010 01:30 ZlaSHeR wrote:
I voted no. if you want to know why, its because girls spread shit liek fucking FIRE.
meaning if you want this to be the day you mark the calendar and say "yep....it was on this day that my sex life took a 180 and really started slowing down, BUT AT LEAST I GOT SOME THAT NIGHT" then go for it. Haha, not really worried about that. My sex life already started slowing down anyway, and I would happily give up a few months for this girl if I had to, I've been fantasizing about her forever .
Lol you didn't mention fantasizing. If you do not take this chance now you will ceep fantasizing forever and regret the moment forever. Btw real men show pictures of the girls were debating.
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"Hey man, I'm not bragging or anything, just letting you know... you know, as a friend... I'll be bangin' your ex next weekend... just, lettin' you know... uhh... yeah" >.>
BAD IDEA
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its all "ex" for god sake. hit that.
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1- Who cares about how your ex would feel about someone else doing something where she is not involved.
2- The real issue imo, bros before hoes ! Unless it is not a really close friend you should be vigilant with him. But, if he is not a dick he should let you do your move since he had his chance.
3- Depends. As any sexual relationship some last, some don't leaving you either friends or ennemies.
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I'd agree with JWD here (since this guy knows how to handle women and is an eye-candy) I'd say you can bang her man, since you're friend C is an ex and it seems he didn't get his heart broken by Friend A. Doesn't matter about Friend B since she is getting laid anyway..
Do it boy!
Speak now or forever fall to pieces...
+ Show Spoiler +hahahaha the story feels like my gf's hot friend website
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On October 27 2010 21:41 deth wrote:
Stop thinking about it, and hit that.
stim 4 life. And yes, hit that asap.
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On October 28 2010 00:44 Grettin wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2010 00:29 Belano wrote:Haha, I'm loving the feedback. Posting here was an experiment of sorts I guess, but it actually helped me a little. Probably going to talk to C this week Last tip: by doing so ur gonna screw this up.
This wise man tells the truth! DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!! D:
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On October 28 2010 11:12 3FFA wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2010 00:44 Grettin wrote:On October 28 2010 00:29 Belano wrote:Haha, I'm loving the feedback. Posting here was an experiment of sorts I guess, but it actually helped me a little. Probably going to talk to C this week Last tip: by doing so ur gonna screw this up. This wise man tells the truth! DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!! D:
If he doesn't have a fool-proof plan and he thought that he can bang Friend A but was wrong about the signs..
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On October 28 2010 07:32 Belano wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2010 01:30 ZlaSHeR wrote:
I voted no. if you want to know why, its because girls spread shit liek fucking FIRE.
meaning if you want this to be the day you mark the calendar and say "yep....it was on this day that my sex life took a 180 and really started slowing down, BUT AT LEAST I GOT SOME THAT NIGHT" then go for it. Haha, not really worried about that. My sex life already started slowing down anyway, and I would happily give up a few months for this girl if I had to, I've been fantasizing about her forever .
Fair enough....then jump on it if you have no worries/concerns and dream of this girl.
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I slept with my best friend's sister
She was also my other friend's EX
Shit didn't work; I moved on.
A month after we split up she got pregnant from her EX
She just had the kid 2 days ago LOL
Her EX who happened to be my friend wasn't worth a great deal to me. I don't know whether or not he knows or cares about the situation we're not close anymore but that's cuz I moved away and he seems cool when/if I see him.
My best friend is in another country so I don't know whether or not he knows about the situation, and even if he did, it's none of his business.
My EX doesn't talk to me anymore, after I started ignoring her first. Not a single fuck was given in the last 10 months.
Worst case scenario it doesn't work out and a couple people are mad at you, big deal. Best case scenario this chick complements your life and you live happily ever after. Weight the opportunities and make your call.
My vote? : Fuck Yes.
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On October 27 2010 21:45 Yotta wrote:
Don't let your ex determine your future love life. Then she wins.
I agree with this. Although, I'd be wary, since she's close friends with your EX so she might be playing you.
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After some careful thinking I have come to the conclusion that I'm making a too big a deal about this. I think it's because this girl used to be the epitome of forbidden fruit, and now she's not that forbidden anymore (but the fruit is still good!!).
I'm going to talk to C and see how he feels about it just to be sure. I'm 99.9% certain that he is going to start laughing at me and tell me to hit that though. And my ex... Even if she finds out I don't think shes entitled to be that upset about it. And they know me too well, they know that I have a thing for this girl, they know what's going on in my head
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it's not like ur Scott Pilgrim.
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On October 28 2010 07:32 Belano wrote:Show nested quote +On October 28 2010 01:30 ZlaSHeR wrote:
I voted no. if you want to know why, its because girls spread shit liek fucking FIRE.
meaning if you want this to be the day you mark the calendar and say "yep....it was on this day that my sex life took a 180 and really started slowing down, BUT AT LEAST I GOT SOME THAT NIGHT" then go for it. Haha, not really worried about that. My sex life already started slowing down anyway, and I would happily give up a few months for this girl if I had to, I've been fantasizing about her forever .
wat wat what are you waiting for then? and again, no need to tell your friend C. it's not like the girl is in his possession or anything. if they are on good terms and they are done with each other, she is not in any precare relation with your friend C anymore, so no need to get him involved.
keep updating this blog btw and tell us how it was/went. + Show Spoiler +
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If you question why you are putting it on TL, don't put it on TL.
Boring brag blog is boring.
I hope you're over-thinking it and she doesn't want to sleep with you at all
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Pics or it didn't happen.
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Marshall Islands3404 Posts
does it matter? sex isn't a big deal lol
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How does a girl hint to you that she wants to sleep with you if shes living in another country and still leaving you with a little doubt?
"Oh I wish I had you at night because I'm so alone? But I'm not sure if I do."
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2 years is long enough. I say go for it.
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On October 27 2010 22:03 reki- wrote:
Like he can really stop superhot friend A if she wants him :')
haha so true
but seriously, just make sure to stay honest and that should turn out just fine
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On October 29 2010 07:13 Brees wrote:
does it matter? sex isn't a big deal lol
lol. For some of us, anyways.
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1. Fuck her
2. if your friend will be angry on you fuck him too
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On October 29 2010 20:27 NIIINO wrote:
1. Fuck her
2. if your friend will be angry on you fuck him too
rofl
best advice
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Show her this post so she can tell how upset you are and will bring all her friends over to have pity sex with you
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