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I have no idea why I'm posting this on TL, but what the hell, here goes nothing.
I'm going abroad to visit my friend A in a few weeks and she has been hinting that she wants to sleep with me. Or at least I think she has, it could just all be in my head, but I doubt it. She is one of the most beautiful women I know and she's awesome and I like her. BUT. And this is a pretty significant but.
She happens to be a close friend of my ex B. She also happens to be the ex of my close friend C.
This obviously raises a few moral concerns. Basically I have three issues with this:
1. How would this make my ex B feel, and how would that affect my friendship with her.
2. How would this make my friend C feel, and how would that affect my friendship with him.
3. How would this affect my friendship with my friend A.
I feel like #3 isn't much of a problem, we are good friends and I don't see why we couldn't just make each other feel good without it being weird and stuff afterwards. Which leaves us #1 and #2.
An easy solution to #2 is just to confront my friend C with my dilemma and ask him how he feels about it, which I plan on doing. I actually feel he would be cool about it, they broke up like 2 years ago and they were only together for like 6 months and they left on good terms and are still friends.
Now #1 is when it gets tricky. I don't really know how my ex B would feel about this. We were together for 2 years and we broke up in June. We left on good terms and we're still good friends. She has a new boyfriend though, which in my mind makes it more OK for some reason.
I've been trying to picture how I would feel if she slept with one of my friends. I probably wouldn't like it, but maybe if I had a new partner, and she had known the dude longer than she had known me (I have known A longer than I have known B) I wouldn't mind that much? I don't know. I don't feel I can confront her the same way as I can with C so I will probably try to joke about it or something to try and find out how she would feel.
So, TL what is your input?
Poll: Should I sleep with her?Yes (175) 91% No (16) 8% Depends (state reason) (2) 1% 193 total votes Your vote: Should I sleep with her? (Vote): Yes
(Vote): No
(Vote): Depends (state reason)
 
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Stop thinking about it, and hit that.
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Well, it's their exes... Who cares then? It's not like it's his gf atm.
Go get some Pssy
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If you and she want a relationship, go ahead! Life is too short to cockblock yourself with random entanglements.
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I agree, she is your ex for a reason. If she can't accept that your having sex with other people, regardless of who it is then she needs to get over it.
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Don't let your ex determine your future love life. Then she wins.
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To be honest it sounds like in 90% of the situations I can put together it can only lead to bad things and I wouldn't advise it.
Main thing I would ask myself is if you would be disappointed if it was the other way around for the both of them doing it to you. If you think they would do it I would say go for it.
Also you can't just take it for granted if your friend or ex gives you the O K. Its very possible they wouldn't be ok with it, and you'll be left with a fracture in your relationship.
I've been in the situation numerous times before and have gone both ways. My advice would be no.
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Belgium9942 Posts
A friend of mine has a kick for these situations and they've always worked out in his favour. Go for it.
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Go for it. But I wouldn't tell person C till it actually happened. What if you misread A and she's not serious. THen C will go to A and make fun of you.
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go for it. your concerns seem unsignificant to me. have fun 
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Just fucking do it.
It's their problem if they are oversensitive and you shouldn't have to go all Neo in Matrix style, dodging stuff that's perfectly fine just in case they have a weak spot for it. Also, talking to the friends is a good idea.
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On October 27 2010 21:42 Severedevil wrote:
If you and she want a relationship, go ahead! Life is too short to cockblock yourself with random entanglements.
I second that
Go hit that
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Do her - and afterwards have her sleep in your TL.net tshirt. That my friend, is awesomeness.
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United States12607 Posts
1) Who cares about your ex.
2) Unless your friend C is a complete idiot, he'll get over you sleeping with a girl that he dated two years ago. The only situation in which it would not be ok to bone your friend's ex (if you want to keep the friend) is if she recently broke his heart. Doesn't sound like that's the deal here. Oh, and I wouldn't bother approaching your friend about it beforehand. First, that will make you look presumptuous if nothing ever happens. Second, it will make the whole thing into a much bigger deal than it has to be. Your friend will know that you had premeditated sex with his ex. He'll also know you're all up in your head about it, which does not make you look good. And third, would you really not have sex with her if he said he was uncomfortable with it? No, you'd tell him he is a fool and then screw her anyway. My only advice re: your friend C is to not tell him much (I wouldn't tell him anything) about it, if it does happen. Giving him the story is likely to come off like you're trying to rub it in his face that you slept with his ex. (Once, a fairly close friend of mine started dating my ex...I wouldn't have minded it but he kept bringing her up in this snide way, like he had one on me. Don't do that.)
Just go for it.
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prob 1: Fuck the ex
prob 2: bros before hoes, but he was the ex so its kinda fair game
prob 3: there is no prob 3
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On October 27 2010 21:42 Severedevil wrote:
If you and she want a relationship, go ahead! Life is too short to cockblock yourself with random entanglements.
We most likely don't want a relationship, that would just be to weird. I mean sex one thing but if my ex started having a serious relationship with one of my friends I would feel pretty bothered. Plus we don't even live in the same country anymore so it wouldn't work anyway. So if we do end up sleeping together it would most likely just be a casual one time thing.
@Marradron: I don't have to worry about that, C would never do that
Thanks for all the input guys!
edit: spelling
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lmao at 31 yes, 1 no.
I voted yes, but on the condition you ask your friend who's ex it is first.
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Don't forget to tell us your final decision
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Total unbelievability of the story aside, stop bragging.
At least draw up a baller brag post application, these blogs are getting old.
At least make them somewhat interesting:
Most beautiful female friend A wants to fuck my brains out.
Her friend B, second most beautiful female friend also wants my dick.
Both of them sent me naked pictures of themselves covered with the words, "Bang Me You Sexy Man" and stripped for me via webcam. I think they want to sleep with me, but of course it could all be in my head so I don't know for sure.
Both of them were with my close friend C, simultaneously, but his tiny dick could not satisfy them, so they want my thundercock.
But they don't want me separately, they want me at the same time because they're afraid that if I didn't take turns with them in bed, they would have too many orgasms, break the furniture and fall madly in love with me.
Help guys? Moral issue definitely present here. I'm so conflicted, HELP ME!
Poll: Should I do it?Fuck Yes. (27) 75% Yes. (9) 25% 36 total votes Your vote: Should I do it? (Vote): Yes.
(Vote): Fuck Yes.
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