EPTGirl Friend Issues - Page 3
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THE_DOMINATOR
United States309 Posts
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konadora
Singapore66161 Posts
she's not trusting you and she's going through your personal stuff. she'll be nothing but a nuisance later on. | ||
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Trowabarton756
United States870 Posts
On August 23 2010 23:43 konadora wrote: get rid of her she's not trusting you and she's going through your personal stuff. she'll be nothing but a nuisance later on. depending on her personality he could be fucked either way, she'd be crazy if he left her or she'd be crazy if he stays with her. In these situations all most people want are for other people to pull the trigger for them. Well thats not how life works, you gotta decide for yourself if shes worth it or not. My current girlfriend did kind of the same thing, we had been dating for like 3-4 months and we got into a fight about something and I just refused to answer my phone for the rest of the night so she has a friend drive her over at like 2 AM to make sure Im not cheating on her. And instead of going through say iunno (THE FUCKING DOOR) she tries to break in through my window, bitch almost got a baseball bat to the head till I saw (luckily) through the moon light who it was. Long story short we had a heart to heart and now we're engaged to get married. Sometimes people can get a little crazy depending on their past(like your girlfriend, mine has had a rough past) however like in those tight sc situations, where you've got no income and need to budget for a new nexus/keep up army production to protect it, you just gotta play it by ear. Sometimes you play it correctly and win, othertimes you play it incorrectly and lose. No more, No less. | ||
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brian
United States9619 Posts
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zaMNal
Mongolia385 Posts
On August 23 2010 23:29 THE_DOMINATOR wrote: If you're going to leave her over this then I would argue you never really loved her. If you did love her you would stop talking to your ex who is 5 states away and you would focus on your girlfriend. That being said if you're bitching about your girlfriend on the internet maybe you're not ready for a relationship at all and should take some time off. Who the hell ever calls their girlfriend a bitch?? Kill-joy, read this again and think a bit. There is some truth in it. Other than that, imagine HER talking to her ex bf all the time behind your back and see who will be the one "bitching" around  . Just a thought..edit: grammar | ||
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brian
United States9619 Posts
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Terranist
United States2496 Posts
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Emon_
3925 Posts
Though she sounds like a loving and caring person. And if you can summon strength from elsewhere, like friends/co-workers etc. Maybe you could help her figure some things out, like her goals, her past, her motivations. Though it will be stressful on yourself. A relationship needs to be beneficial for both parties. Sounds to me you're not getting much else then bickering and distrust. It's hard to manage a healthy life on that. Also, whats the deal with the ex? Sounds like you're her plan B, though you have already moved on. It shouldn't be a problem in the ideal relationship - neither should her ex-boyfriends eating dinner with her. But it is. And you need to set boundaries. Talk to the ex twice a year. Thats plenty. Also, Driving 7 hours to pick someone up at the emergency room isn't an accomplishment, especially your g/f. It's just decent. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
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shawabawa
United Kingdom417 Posts
On August 24 2010 00:00 Gene wrote: lol you can all say you wouldnt snoop through someones phone or FB given the chance? especially a girlfriends? Either you've not had a girlfriend or you're just flat out lying. I don't believe someone wouldn't if they could. not even once? uh... I have my girlfriend's passwords to *everything*. I've never even been tempted to look at any of her shit. How can you love someone (or like someone a lot) and yet not respect their privacy? | ||
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Scorcher2k
United States802 Posts
On August 24 2010 00:49 shawabawa wrote: uh... I have my girlfriend's passwords to *everything*. I've never even been tempted to look at any of her shit. How can you love someone (or like someone a lot) and yet not respect their privacy? It's called insecurity. Most people suffer from it in one respect or another. | ||
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Ethelis
United States2396 Posts
On August 23 2010 23:26 Scorcher2k wrote: You have a g/f that has had serious shit happen to her that set her back emotionally from the sounds of it. I know very well what you're dealing with. I would say that if a heart to heart doesn't work with her then you need to either accept that she isn't going to be able to change right away (if ever) and deal with it or move on. Looking through your things isn't as crazy people make it sound when you're putting other things into the light but in the end it's about what makes you happy. 100% can relate and agree. | ||
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WniO
United States2706 Posts
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Terrakin
United States1440 Posts
of course nice non-creepy ones every once and a while | ||
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brian
United States9619 Posts
On August 24 2010 00:49 shawabawa wrote: uh... I have my girlfriend's passwords to *everything*. I've never even been tempted to look at any of her shit. How can you love someone (or like someone a lot) and yet not respect their privacy? I dont mean to suggest one should be doing it constantly as an effort to find something scandalous and be like HAH I KNEW YOU WERE A STUPID WHORE but either to do it out of idle curiosity or just see whats goin down in her FB life. I've done it many times for sure. Not maliciously as in this case, but to say one wouldn't do it is crazy to me. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32054 Posts
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JohannesH
Finland1364 Posts
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Daigomi
South Africa4316 Posts
If you really do care about her I don't think this should be a big issue. In fact, I've never understood why people care about privacy so much. My gf is free to read whatever she wants to if she wants to, and because she knows that she's never shown the slightest interest in doing so. Hypothetically, the only thing I could imagine wanting to hide from my gf is some evidence of cheating, and since I'm not planning on cheating, I don't see the need to hide anything from her. A way bigger concern would be her not trusting you, but since the relationship is still young and she has been cheated on before, its not that strange either. It's your choice if you want to help her get over her insecurity or not. Anyway, what I would do is tell her that she's free to look through my stuff whenever she wants to as long as she doesn't do it secretly. That will show her that she can trust you, take away the whole privacy issue, and make you an awesome boyfriend. Or you can just dump her because she was insecure and her friend gave her shitty advice. | ||
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Scorcher2k
United States802 Posts
On August 24 2010 02:54 Daigomi wrote: Anyway, what I would do is tell her that she's free to look through my stuff whenever she wants to as long as she doesn't do it secretly. That will show her that she can trust you, take away the whole privacy issue, and make you an awesome boyfriend. Not to play devil's advocate but maybe he simply feels as if he is a good enough guy that he should be trusted. I've been down that path before as well and it becomes increasingly irritating when the other person won't trust you no matter what. It can make you question yourself or even feel bad. Most of the time it just takes some stepping back and looking at the situation. I don't think anyone should frown upon him for choosing to break up with her or to stay with her. He should do what he feels will ultimately make him happy. | ||
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brian
United States9619 Posts
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