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1. Stop talking to your ex.
2. Problem solved.
3. Enjoy/abuse your power/her love for you. With her state of mind, you can probably make her do anything for you in the bedroom.
4. I are teh jealous. You're dating a sex gold mine and don't even realize it.
5. Wish more/my GF were like yours.
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trust is a two way street. tell her to get the fuck out.
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My line of thought: (1) She shouldn't be looking through your texts unless you two are really close. (2) If you're really close then she should trust you when you say nothing is going on. (3) If she doesn't trust you then: (a) She's paranoid. (b) You're not giving her enough attention. (4) If (a) seems unreasonable by your own standards (what if you were in her shoes) then there may be a maturity difference between the two of you. Plenty of men and women are unreasonably possessive (not so much love as a symbol possession/status/confidence) - this is OK if you're equally infatuated, dangerous otherwise. (5) Regardless of (b), if you want to keep a healthy relationship: remind her what you've done for her lately, reassure her with new romantic treatment, and reassert that she's the only girl for you.
That said, you've referred to her as a "bitch," and she doesn't sound like a barrel of monkeys when drunk (an unhappy drunk is a sober nightmare). Ask yourself: "Can I do better?"
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Obviously this is more than trust issues. She probably doesn't have any self esteem.
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On August 23 2010 21:35 Dr.Kill-Joy wrote: For the most part I do pretty much anything for this women, drove 7 hours to pick her up at an emergency room after she rolled her car 5 times, let her have a dog in my apartment and let her live free here and I pretty much gave up most of my social life and gaming for this bitch.
lol you should have taken a rent. To say the truth you looks like asshole because these things you are so proud of are very natural for almost everyone. So leave her (for her sake) and make sure to never get another gf.
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She doesn't want to listen to me. She again listen to a friend about this relationship. "It's not their fucking relationship it's ours so stop".
On August 23 2010 22:07 SoManyDeadLings wrote: 1. Stop talking to your ex.
2. Problem solved.
3. Enjoy/abuse your power/her love for you. With her state of mind, you can probably make her do anything for you in the bedroom.
4. I are teh jealous. You're dating a sex gold mine and don't even realize it.
5. Wish more/my GF were like yours.
Why would I stop talking to a person that i'm not involved in a relationship with?
NSFW+ Show Spoiler +And yes we do some crazy shit in bed. Put it in her butt, she licks my balls, pretty sure we have did all the positions but sex is only half of the relationship for me and i really don't need all that.
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On August 23 2010 22:16 15vs1 wrote:Show nested quote +On August 23 2010 21:35 Dr.Kill-Joy wrote: For the most part I do pretty much anything for this women, drove 7 hours to pick her up at an emergency room after she rolled her car 5 times, let her have a dog in my apartment and let her live free here and I pretty much gave up most of my social life and gaming for this bitch.
lol you should have taken a rent. To say the truth you looks like asshole because these things you are so proud of are very natural for almost everyone. So leave her (for her sake) and make sure to never get another gf.
I've known her for 2months... I think im doing a little much for knowing her for 2 months
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it's completely and entirely natural for her to not want you hanging out/chatting with your ex
it's definitely pretty shady for her to be looking thru your phone and facebook but the thought behind it is what any reasonable person would think, yourself included.
every time I hear someone talking about this scenario and see the the girl/guy who doesn't want their partner hanging out with their ex being painted as the bad person, I cringe. it would be different if it was just a friend but she's not "just a friend" she's someone you previously fucked presumably with regularity and chances are if you hang out with her regulary things will lead to it again
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But im 5 states away from my ex... and of course I wouldn't want her hanging out with her ex but she going through my shit... who knows what else she tried or did do while I was out of my apartment...
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Poor girl is unstable. You either focus all your energy on her and help her become a better human being or let her deal with it alone and move on.
I'd move on and start playing SC2 again =]
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On August 23 2010 22:21 Dr.Kill-Joy wrote:She doesn't want to listen to me. She again listen to a friend about this relationship. "It's not their fucking relationship it's ours so stop". Show nested quote +On August 23 2010 22:07 SoManyDeadLings wrote: 1. Stop talking to your ex.
2. Problem solved.
3. Enjoy/abuse your power/her love for you. With her state of mind, you can probably make her do anything for you in the bedroom.
4. I are teh jealous. You're dating a sex gold mine and don't even realize it.
5. Wish more/my GF were like yours. Why would I stop talking to a person that i'm not involved in a relationship with? NSFW + Show Spoiler +And yes we do some crazy shit in bed. Put it in her butt, she licks my balls, pretty sure we have did all the positions but sex is only half of the relationship for me and i really don't need all that.
lolol hahahahaha
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On August 23 2010 22:26 Dr.Kill-Joy wrote: But im 5 states away from my ex... and of course I wouldn't want her hanging out with her ex but she going through my shit... who knows what else she tried or did do while I was out of my apartment...
if you don't have anything to hide you shouldn't really be too pissed. she apparently thought you're cheating on her so she tried to confirm it for herself, unless you're super offended that she'd dare think that of you surely you can see it from where shes standing?
the way you describe your relationship though, i doubt it
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On August 23 2010 21:57 Dr.Kill-Joy wrote: She says she had trouble Boy Friends in the past where they cheated on her and I guess one cheated on her with her sister. So I guess her best friend told her to go through my phone to make sure. Fucking nuts... I know my friends don't get involved in my relationshits...
I guess she cares if she goes through your stuff to find out the truth, do what was mentioned before and have a serious talk with her and tell her the truth.
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Australia4514 Posts
On August 23 2010 21:35 Dr.Kill-Joy wrote: I pretty much gave up most of my social life and gaming for this bitch.
Says everything you need to know.
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stop being a beta, drop the bitch and become an alpha dog.
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If she doesn't trust you, thrust her.
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Tell her, that is she has trust issues, being unbelievably paranoid about anyone that she needs to trust is not the right way to go. If she has to check your texts and facebook messages to make sure that any interaction you have with another human being is not going to lead to fun in the bedroom, then she will never trust anyone ever again.
Best thing you can do now, is try and tell her to make amends, she needs to apologise about invading your privacy and she isn't going to trust you if she has to go about like a dictator, reading your every interaction.
Other option, is to get out, tell her its over, not because there is another girl, but because any relationship cannot work with her constantly invading your space.
This is of course all applicable if your being faithful, and not fucking her around.
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On August 23 2010 21:46 choboPEon wrote: leave It's his house.
Kick her out.
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ALLEYCAT BLUES49496 Posts
On August 23 2010 22:51 Skvid wrote: If she doesn't trust you, thrust her.
QFT
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You have a g/f that has had serious shit happen to her that set her back emotionally from the sounds of it. I know very well what you're dealing with. I would say that if a heart to heart doesn't work with her then you need to either accept that she isn't going to be able to change right away (if ever) and deal with it or move on. Looking through your things isn't as crazy people make it sound when you're putting other things into the light but in the end it's about what makes you happy.
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