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Dr.Kill-Joy
Profile Blog Joined June 2007
United States627 Posts
August 23 2010 19:13 GMT
#61
I've only been dating her for 2 months, and no I don't love her I like her. I feel that I really haven't did anything wrong. Yes I know it might be wrong talking to my ex but like I said i'm 5 states away and all I tried to do is put together a trip to Hawaii with all my high school friends that I haven't seen in a couple years. That's why I was talking to my ex.

Thanks for all the input again. I feel that people are entitled to their own privacy and if your in a relationship long enough that privacy slowly goes away and you start to trust your companion more where you can share your text message, facebook and then your bank account ect... but it has only been 2 months
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Badjas
Profile Blog Joined October 2008
Netherlands2038 Posts
Last Edited: 2010-08-23 19:18:33
August 23 2010 19:17 GMT
#62
On August 24 2010 01:09 Terrakin wrote:
she is of morman faith, I mean, I don't mean to dis religions or get into a debate, but (most) mormons are fucking crazy...

of course nice non-creepy ones every once and a while


You don't want to get into a debate because you don't want to support your claims? I am not calling you for a debate now, just like to point that out. Perhaps it is smarter that you don't say such things if you don't want to talk about it.

Edit: on topic.
You have to love yourself before you can love another. Easy catchphrase to break the ice if you want to bring up the conversation.
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brian
Profile Blog Joined August 2004
United States9616 Posts
August 23 2010 19:57 GMT
#63
oh god i didnt get that it was only 2 mos before. thats crazy. Though, now it makes a little more sense. Im friends with ALL my ex's. But thats just NOT something you make known to a new girlfriend. You should never bring up ex's or intimate that you speak to them to such a new girlfriend. She has to get to know you well enough to know that being just freinds is being just friends and you're obviously the type that gets along with your ex's.
Never.Die
Profile Joined March 2010
Japan189 Posts
August 23 2010 20:03 GMT
#64
I say you tell her what'll happen if she crosses the line again, and once she does cross the line, get rid of her. You can't hesitate on this shit.
QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32044 Posts
August 23 2010 20:45 GMT
#65
yall got some odd relationships if at any point it's cool for your SO to go snooping through your personal shit. That or you're young enough to think that that kind of freakish, controling behavior is healthy.
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MiyaviTeddy
Profile Blog Joined October 2008
Canada697 Posts
August 23 2010 21:52 GMT
#66
She's has some insecurity issues.

I can trust you aren't a player, cheating on her and whatnot right?

That being said, there's a communication/trust issue. If she doesn't trust you enough to stay with her and being loyal and whatnot then why bother?
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kidd
Profile Blog Joined November 2002
United States2848 Posts
August 23 2010 22:13 GMT
#67
2 months is pretty early on in a relationship to be forceful with your sig. others' friends/ exes. I would definitely just sit her down and just talk to her about the situation and then set some boundaries.

If she refuses to budge on issues, and you refuse to budge as well then obviously move on and be happy you discovered these problems 2 months in instead of 2 years.
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Dr.Kill-Joy
Profile Blog Joined June 2007
United States627 Posts
August 23 2010 22:16 GMT
#68
Yeah, dunno if this is smart or not but I like to get the GF to move in with me as soon as possible. So i can see what really is going on instead of wasting time going to the movies , dinner ect.
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TimmyMac
Profile Joined December 2008
Canada499 Posts
August 24 2010 02:13 GMT
#69
Change FB password, lock phone, problem solved. Don't put up with that shit.
guN-viCe
Profile Joined March 2010
United States687 Posts
August 24 2010 03:59 GMT
#70
i can tell its kids posting most of these responses(obvious they have never lived with a GF)

she is scared of losing you, she is paranoid about you cheating on her.

there are 2 possible reasons for this;

1) you make her feel insecure by talking to your EX's, and doing other stuff

2) she was hurt in the past by a BF/ she is paranoid

i mean, think about it. why would a good/nice girl start spying on you?
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Comeh
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
United States18918 Posts
August 24 2010 04:30 GMT
#71
On August 24 2010 07:16 Dr.Kill-Joy wrote:
Yeah, dunno if this is smart or not but I like to get the GF to move in with me as soon as possible. So i can see what really is going on instead of wasting time going to the movies , dinner ect.

Er, WHAT
I don't get this - you are having clear problems in your relationship and it seems like things are rocky/ you've had thoughts about breaking up with her/ you don't love her (yet?)...so you want to take your relationship about 5 steps forward?
IMO - you need to do things in a logical manner. Plus, breaking up with someone that has moved in with you / is paranoid isn't...fun.
Her moving in with you won't stop her being paranoid. Trust me. I'm a TLer.
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Romance_us
Profile Joined March 2006
Seychelles1806 Posts
August 24 2010 04:41 GMT
#72
On August 24 2010 12:59 guN-viCe wrote:
i can tell its kids posting most of these responses(obvious they have never lived with a GF)

she is scared of losing you, she is paranoid about you cheating on her.

there are 2 possible reasons for this;

1) you make her feel insecure by talking to your EX's, and doing other stuff

2) she was hurt in the past by a BF/ she is paranoid

i mean, think about it. why would a good/nice girl start spying on you?


I generally agree this this.

I am really surprised by a lot of the responses in this thread.. the early ones especially. How do you guys not see it as ENTIRELY reasonable that his girlfriend would be incredibly suspicious of him talking to his ex? You have to take into consideration how long their relationship has been going on. Two months is not a large foundation to build trust upon. Putting myself in her shoes, I would be skeptical as well.

I'm not saying you are being disloyal but you might want to make it extra clear to her that your intentions are good if you really care about the relationship.
Notes and feelings, numbers and reason. The ultimate equilibrium.
MountainDewJunkie
Profile Blog Joined June 2009
United States10341 Posts
August 24 2010 06:50 GMT
#73
No trust -> end relationship now, else it ends badly later.

Also, your g/f sounds like an awful person.
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AyeH
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
United States534 Posts
August 24 2010 06:56 GMT
#74
In your situation, I would stop talking to your ex, show your GF more attention, and man up. If you are going to be in a relationship, you shouldn't be talking to your exes. It makes the other person jealous, suspicious, and even angry. Your GF needs your utmost attention because it will show her how much you actually care, if you care at all, about her. And when I tell you that you ought to man up, I am saying make the right choices. What were you thinking when you asked a girlfriend of 2 months to move in with you? You were probably thinking "oh, we can have sex whenever we want." I honestly don't see any maturity in your responses to any of the comments and you don't meet the needs of your GF. You both have needs. You need privacy. She needs to be able to trust you and be able to rely on you when she needs to. However, talking to your ex will not help either you nor her. It doesn't matter if you are no longer in a relationship. She is still an ex. What I frequently do to see how my GF feels is by putting myself in their shoes. Imagine if you were her. What would you do? W.W.S.D. :D
Is it in you?
yourwhiteshadow
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
United States442 Posts
August 24 2010 12:13 GMT
#75
On August 24 2010 12:59 guN-viCe wrote:
i can tell its kids posting most of these responses(obvious they have never lived with a GF)

she is scared of losing you, she is paranoid about you cheating on her.

there are 2 possible reasons for this;

1) you make her feel insecure by talking to your EX's, and doing other stuff

2) she was hurt in the past by a BF/ she is paranoid

i mean, think about it. why would a good/nice girl start spying on you?


^^exactly. she moved in with him, so while she might seem 'needy' or whatever, she also apparently either cares a lot for him and wants to be with him or is a major bum. my guess is since she cares that he's talking to an ex, then she is a little worried. i never understood why people still talk to their EX..."oh we're still friends..." ok, if you're on good terms now, why aren't you still together?

what she did though, is definitely a little unacceptable as well...just sit down and talk it out.
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OhJesusWOW
Profile Joined August 2010
United Kingdom127 Posts
August 24 2010 12:24 GMT
#76
Women with trust issues are the worst thing a man could ever ask for. If I had to choose between the hottest bitch on the planet who had serious trust issues or a gunshot in the leg, I would take the gunshot.
Red Bull is the new Mountain Dew.
RawrAnOcean
Profile Joined February 2006
United States359 Posts
August 24 2010 13:28 GMT
#77
Jealously can get out of hand and she can't let that go, it might get even worse. I say leave.
SirJolt
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
the Dagon Knight4002 Posts
August 24 2010 16:35 GMT
#78
On August 23 2010 21:46 choboPEon wrote:
leave


This man is equal parts correct and succinct.

People need to learn that they need to afford others their privacy, and until she does she's not worth the time/effort
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zenMaster
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
Canada761 Posts
August 24 2010 16:45 GMT
#79
On August 24 2010 21:24 OhJesusWOW wrote:
Women with trust issues are the worst thing a man could ever ask for. If I had to choose between the hottest bitch on the planet who had serious trust issues or a gunshot in the leg, I would take the gunshot.

Lack of trust almost always come from lack of self-esteem, so it's unlikely that hot bitches would have trust/confidence issues.
THE_DOMINATOR
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
United States309 Posts
August 24 2010 17:43 GMT
#80
On August 25 2010 01:45 zenMaster wrote:
Show nested quote +
On August 24 2010 21:24 OhJesusWOW wrote:
Women with trust issues are the worst thing a man could ever ask for. If I had to choose between the hottest bitch on the planet who had serious trust issues or a gunshot in the leg, I would take the gunshot.

Lack of trust almost always come from lack of self-esteem, so it's unlikely that hot bitches would have trust/confidence issues.

you don't talk to many women do you?
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