EPTOn July 28 2010 01:45 HeavOnEarth wrote:
Just be honest to your girl, be honest to your parents, ...and be honest to yourself- you have flaws as well.
Basically , what you're doing wrong is, you assume everyone should know how you feel or have the same logic as you and realize things that seem obvious(to you)
You can't assume your logic is understood by everyone, as simple as it might be, as everyone is bought up differently, and its pointless because its so easy to just have a conversation or argument so everyone knows how you feel.
In regards to your girlfriend, if you 100% can't love her for who she is, its not "manly" to marry her and live in discomfort.
In actuality, "being a man" would be some shit like this-
-Have you talked to your gf about her looks?
Like , "Hey babe, honestly you're starting to put on a bit of weight there." is apparently harder than just randomly dumping her? I know if my GF told me she preferred me buff as shit - i would 100% not fucking mind hitting the gym 5 days a week.
-Told your dad he is fucking stupid for not having a job?
Your dad should realize his the reality of his situation and if he loves his wife at all , he would work his ass off. So what if hes 54. My dad is 65 , retired amputee war veteran and he works fulltime, does all the shit around the house when im not home, IE mowing the lawn etc. tell him to suck it up
-Told your mom that she deserves every penny you give her, so she doesn't feel ashamed or embarrassed about taking money from you?
tl;dr
I don't like passive aggressive people, personal pet peeve, hope you don't take it personally, as i'm legitimately giving advice
Everything you've typed in this blog, TELL it to your parents, your GF, and anyone else that you feel uncomfortable about.
or this. but i dont feel that is necessary in this case, except maybe with your dad.
Just be honest to your girl, be honest to your parents, ...and be honest to yourself- you have flaws as well.
Basically , what you're doing wrong is, you assume everyone should know how you feel or have the same logic as you and realize things that seem obvious(to you)
You can't assume your logic is understood by everyone, as simple as it might be, as everyone is bought up differently, and its pointless because its so easy to just have a conversation or argument so everyone knows how you feel.
In regards to your girlfriend, if you 100% can't love her for who she is, its not "manly" to marry her and live in discomfort.
In actuality, "being a man" would be some shit like this-
-Have you talked to your gf about her looks?
Like , "Hey babe, honestly you're starting to put on a bit of weight there." is apparently harder than just randomly dumping her? I know if my GF told me she preferred me buff as shit - i would 100% not fucking mind hitting the gym 5 days a week.
-Told your dad he is fucking stupid for not having a job?
Your dad should realize his the reality of his situation and if he loves his wife at all , he would work his ass off. So what if hes 54. My dad is 65 , retired amputee war veteran and he works fulltime, does all the shit around the house when im not home, IE mowing the lawn etc. tell him to suck it up
-Told your mom that she deserves every penny you give her, so she doesn't feel ashamed or embarrassed about taking money from you?
tl;dr
I don't like passive aggressive people, personal pet peeve, hope you don't take it personally, as i'm legitimately giving advice
Everything you've typed in this blog, TELL it to your parents, your GF, and anyone else that you feel uncomfortable about.
or this. but i dont feel that is necessary in this case, except maybe with your dad.
I agree with this, being honest always pays off in the end. As hard as it may seem to tell them the truth it's for your and their best.
Good read btw, 5/5.
