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Hey guys, I am so mindfucked by this girl that i have to post it on the net and ask:
Alright, this girl is my colleague, for about a month now, and we were at first just talking to each other in a friendly manner.
Then comes this: I get a random text from a random number asking me to go to this party, and it turns out to be her. but alas, i didnt go. My friends who were at this party told me that she was talking about my body and stuff. Not too much right?
Next, we have been talking more, and texting more via IM, or SMS. Sometimes she just touches me gently on the arm, or shoulder. Maybe shes just being friendly, right? Now comes the kicker. One fine day, while we are talking, she just stands up, and sits on my lap. I went wtf! so I didnt do anything more and continued to talk, and we decided to go for a movie thing at her house.
Here comes the twist - it has been a week, and somehow shes been putting off the movie thing. Like, she DOES work late sometimes, but the one day she isnt, she gives some excuse that her friend is visiting her for the weekend (now). Then i say, lets do it on Monday since its 4 of July celebrations, and theres no work? She says ehh.. maybe I have to visit my parents. (she lives 30 minutes from her parents). And she doesnt reschedule a specific date. So now I'm confused at whats going on, and I dont want to seem like I'm pushing her, and I want to seal the deal. So help me TL!
Or maybe shes just been friendly all the time. Hm.
 
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Teamliquid. Nerds giving advice to other nerds on social issues since 200X.
Speaking with no experience whatsoever, don't think she's into you. Maybe she was a bit flirty but hey, doesn't seem like too much.
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Mixed signals are mixed signals!
But seriously. Just give it a shot and you'll know. If you don't intend to, stop caring =)
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Hah i dealt with the same type of girl for about a couple months. Sending mixed signals like they like you and then dodge to go out with you. And then you're like wtf?
I would say just ask her straight up
"Do you like me" or How ever you want to put it.
edit: asked a friend of mine(girl) "Maybe she's gay. Or just wants attention from him. "  lol
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Anyway i think shes just flirty. If she really wanted the movie thing she would have set a date by herself. I prolly wouldnt give a fuck. you know?
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She's playing games. Set this bitch straight and ask her for an opinion on what you think you should wear for your date with some 'hot' girl in the near future. Watch her squeal.
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maybe she just got tired of dropping hints and having you not do anything
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damn I'd definitely hate this. I just dont get girls.
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haha i am pretty sure shes not gay, i know her ex-bf.
And... sitting on my lap? Thats a sure way to get someone's attention -.-
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On July 02 2010 11:46 anderoo wrote:
maybe she just got tired of dropping hints and having you not do anything
hey I asked her straight out. Wanna do *this* on Monday.
and she goes.. Maybe.. Maybe i got work.. Maybe i gotta visit my parents.
And I go: wtf. I cant give a shit anymore.
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If a girl teases, unless she has daddy issues, she wants you to impress her! If you don't do it fast enough you lost your chance D=
-Ghetto psychology
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On July 02 2010 11:44 Masamune wrote:
She's playing games. Set this bitch straight and ask her for an opinion on what you think you should wear for your date with some 'hot' girl in the near future. Watch her squeal.
Do this do this do this do this (and post results)
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Well.. I haev always heard that ignoring a girl is the best way to get her ^^
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So in the middle of a conversation, just talking and shooting the breeze, she just gets up and SITS on you LOL?
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On July 02 2010 11:50 bloopie wrotjavascript:tsldize('reply_area')e:
Well.. I haev always heard that ignoring a girl is the best way to get her ^^
all to familiar to me..
won't get this kind i tried it. heh.. it didn't work out in the end she just got with some other guy, so i guess be more aggressive and ask her straight up would do it
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She may genuinely be busy, or she might just be a tease, or maybe you did something that turned her off. Hard to say.
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On July 02 2010 11:51 Elegy wrote:
So in the middle of a conversation, just talking and shooting the breeze, she just gets up and SITS on you LOL?
Precisely yes.
I have to admit her butt felt good t_t. and she has reaaaalllly nice calves.
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On July 02 2010 11:50 bloopie wrote:
Well.. I haev always heard that ignoring a girl is the best way to get her ^^
No, the best way to get a girl is to show that other girls are interested in you. Fact.
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Calgary25977 Posts
I can give you advice that will solve all your problems until the end of time.
'What would a man's man do? Do that.'
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On July 02 2010 11:53 Chill wrote:
I can give you advice that will solve all your problems until the end of time.
'What would chill do? Do that.'
fixed <3
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On July 02 2010 11:51 Mastermind wrote:
She may genuinely be busy, or she might just be a tease, or maybe you did something that turned her off. Hard to say.
Yea that might be true, the turning off part.. but she comes to me everytime she just wanna chill. i dunno. The dreaded F-zone?
sucks.
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On July 02 2010 11:52 bloopie wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 11:51 Elegy wrote:
So in the middle of a conversation, just talking and shooting the breeze, she just gets up and SITS on you LOL? Precisely yes. I have to admit her butt felt good t_t. and she has reaaaalllly nice calves.
thats her ass bro
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TossFloss
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On July 02 2010 11:53 Chill wrote:
I can give you advice that will solve all your problems until the end of time.
'What would a man's man do? Do that.'
^^ This.
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just your regular run of the mill super friendly girl.
but yea pretty much friend zoned><
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TossFloss
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If you really want her, try this:
Your going to ignore her for 2-3 weeks. Completely shut her out, ignore phone calls, emails, don't talk to her. Go to the gym and work on your biceps, shoulders and pecks. Finally, go in wearing a wife-beater (right after your work out routine, of course) and be like "haven't talked in a while, wanna go out?"
Edit: Make sure you go somewhere with alcohol. Order hard liquor. Martini's are good.
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in fact i wouldnt be suprised if she is gonna try to avoid talking to you from now on.
because from her point of view she was so friendly to you and all you want is to get in her pants! jerk!
but ofc your situation might be different, just sounds very much like my experience with this type.
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you blundered when you didnt go out to the party she is trying to get back to you on that.. just show her some distance just ignore her or tell her about some other girl your planning to see.. if she reacts to going back to where she was to teasing mode then you attack.... if not you already lost your chance.. its just your tipical "i want you to be confused so you think about me" type of chick it gets old pretty fast some are easy to figure out others just do stupid stuff cause they dont know how to attract your attention.. ive kind of been having a similar situation with a chick but I know she wants it so hard so its just a matter of time so i can schedule something with her..
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Maybe she doesn't like movies? try something else...
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Fuck the movie, ask her out to dinner and see what she says.
The real question you have to ask yourself:
"What's the worst that can happen?"
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On July 02 2010 11:42 sYz-Adrenaline wrote:Hah i dealt with the same type of girl for about a couple months. Sending mixed signals like they like you and then dodge to go out with you. And then you're like wtf? I would say just ask her straight up "Do you like me" or How ever you want to put it. edit: asked a friend of mine(girl) "Maybe she's gay. Or just wants attention from him. " lol
I, too, think that's the way to do it. Sending signals or doing some complicated stuff is just annoying and takes time. Go straight to her and ask that, that's simple and effective. What more do you want?
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If you like her and think she's worth it, then ask her out. It's not too late until she starts seeing someone else, and she did in fact show interest before...
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you're better off asking girls (who do not visit this site)
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She's been screaming body language at you for a month now. My bet is that she got fed up with no reciprocation and moved on.
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On July 02 2010 12:18 Joey.rumz wrote:
Fuck the movie, ask her out to dinner and see what she says.
The real question you have to ask yourself:
"What's the worst that can happen?"
The worst is that she is my colleague, (although i am just interning for 2 more months, but we are still the same school). No harm, perhaps.
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On July 02 2010 12:23 gdroxor wrote:
She's been screaming body language at you for a month now. My bet is that she got fed up with no reciprocation and moved on.
Really? meh. the latest spike in clarity just came like at the start of this week. =(
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On July 02 2010 11:54 bloopie wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 11:51 Mastermind wrote:
She may genuinely be busy, or she might just be a tease, or maybe you did something that turned her off. Hard to say. Yea that might be true, the turning off part.. but she comes to me everytime she just wanna chill. i dunno. The dreaded F-zone? sucks.
Friends of the oppo, er, any sex don't sit on your lap. It doesn't happen. The only possible explanation other than her being attracted to you is that she's just a flirt. *shrug*
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This reminds me of densha otaku
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Any girl who regularly touches you, gossips about you, and makes an effort to call you during her free time obviously likes you. And any girl who shows obvious interest and then backs off like that is 1 of 2 things:
1) new guy in her life (90% of the time)
2) likes to suck guys in until they want her then ignores them
In either case find yourself a new target, there shall be nothing but disappointment in your future with this one.
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smuft here pretty much summed it up
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On July 02 2010 11:44 Masamune wrote:
She's playing games. Set this bitch straight and ask her for an opinion on what you think you should wear for your date with some 'hot' girl in the near future. Watch her squeal.
this
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Yeah, the contact is a pretty big indicator of attraction. If its been a month you might have been F-zoned or just tossed aside because her advances were fruitless. Happened to me, but I let it happen cause I really didn't care, I just wanted to take my mind off of the breakup that happened like months before that (and it worked).
Many fish bro, many fish. (If you want closure, then straight up confront her about the situation)
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I'm half expecting you to find out she has a boyfriend when you finally go watch the movie with her. Girls are like that 
Oops, need to read the thread first
but I'll still leave what I said
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ask yourself what kinda advice you'd give someone on the internet in your position. once you figure it congratz you've learned what kind of person you are
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bro she wants you BADDDD.
it's because you took so long to react is the reason she's mind fucking you. IMO, just go up to her, grab her and make out.
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if you keep blowing her off as she pursues you, she will come after you harder.
if you respond to her pursuit, she will back off.
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On July 02 2010 12:55 Humga wrote:
bro she wants you BADDDD.
it's because you took so long to react is the reason she's mind fucking you. IMO, just go up to her, grab her and make out.
thats not helping dude. Maybe i threw teh chance away but now I have got like no way to make up (or out) for it haha.
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Thanks for the PM!
Apparently there are two big camps here:
1. The girl is a mindfucker, and i should avoid her.
2. I should just straight up ask her/grab her.
Weeelll... i dunno. kinda a big dichotomy eh?
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You need to completely break contact with her and wait for her to restart it.
If she does restart it, make firm plans and if she tries to play her game again just say "I don't have time for this, look me up when you decide what you want." then hang up or walk away.
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On July 02 2010 11:47 bloopie wrote:
haha i am pretty sure shes not gay, i know her ex-bf.
From experience, GTFO ASAP.
But, if you really dig her, then ask her straight up. Don't let her continue her little games anymore.
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On July 02 2010 13:03 Jugan wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 11:47 bloopie wrote:
haha i am pretty sure shes not gay, i know her ex-bf.
From experience, GTFO ASAP. But, if you really dig her, then ask her straight up. Don't let her continue her little games anymore.
I meant i know who he is, but i dont know him well personally. Yea.
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On July 02 2010 13:01 bloopie wrote:
Thanks for the PM!
Apparently there are two big camps here:
1. The girl is a mindfucker, and i should avoid her.
2. I should just straight up ask her/grab her.
Weeelll... i dunno. kinda a big dichotomy eh?
She just rejected you. Don't reward her with any attention at all. And yes, she rejected you: if someone says "I'd love to but I'm busy" and doesn't try to make plans for another date is saying "I'm not interested."
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and oh btw, when you guys say "ask her".. what should i ask? lol, i know its a kinda noob question, but theres quite a lot of things to ask, some more blunt than others.
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On July 02 2010 13:07 bloopie wrote:
and oh btw, when you guys say "ask her".. what should i ask? lol, i know its a kinda noob question, but theres quite a lot of things to ask, some more blunt than others.
You did ask her. She rejected you. Don't go begging back.
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On July 02 2010 13:05 cz wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 13:01 bloopie wrote:
Thanks for the PM!
Apparently there are two big camps here:
1. The girl is a mindfucker, and i should avoid her.
2. I should just straight up ask her/grab her.
Weeelll... i dunno. kinda a big dichotomy eh? She just rejected you. Don't reward her with any attention at all. And yes, she rejected you: if someone says "I'd love to but I'm busy" and doesn't try to make plans for another date is saying "I'm not interested."
True, true. Still, its just a bitch cos she was teh first one who suggested it, and didnt follow through with it. meh. Shes probably a playa.
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On July 02 2010 13:09 bloopie wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 13:05 cz wrote:On July 02 2010 13:01 bloopie wrote:
Thanks for the PM!
Apparently there are two big camps here:
1. The girl is a mindfucker, and i should avoid her.
2. I should just straight up ask her/grab her.
Weeelll... i dunno. kinda a big dichotomy eh? She just rejected you. Don't reward her with any attention at all. And yes, she rejected you: if someone says "I'd love to but I'm busy" and doesn't try to make plans for another date is saying "I'm not interested." True, true. Still, its just a bitch cos she was teh first one who suggested it, and didnt follow through with it. meh. Shes probably a playa.
You don't know is going through her mind. But doing anything but ignoring and forgetting her is a big, big mistake, for two reasons:
1) It's an insult to your dignity to chase a girl who just rejected you
2) Women quickly lose attraction to men who do #1
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Jesus this is one of those crappy threads where you already know what you are going to do, and it's a bad decision, and then you ignore advice and just go ahead and do what you were always going to do right?
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On July 02 2010 13:10 cz wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 13:09 bloopie wrote:On July 02 2010 13:05 cz wrote:On July 02 2010 13:01 bloopie wrote:
Thanks for the PM!
Apparently there are two big camps here:
1. The girl is a mindfucker, and i should avoid her.
2. I should just straight up ask her/grab her.
Weeelll... i dunno. kinda a big dichotomy eh? She just rejected you. Don't reward her with any attention at all. And yes, she rejected you: if someone says "I'd love to but I'm busy" and doesn't try to make plans for another date is saying "I'm not interested." True, true. Still, its just a bitch cos she was teh first one who suggested it, and didnt follow through with it. meh. Shes probably a playa. You don't know is going through her mind. But doing anything but ignoring and forgetting her is a big, big mistake, for two reasons: 1) It's an insult to your dignity to chase a girl who just rejected you 2) Women quickly lose attraction to men who do #1
I agree totally. However, we are working in the same office, and everytime, everyday, near the end of the day, when shes trying to chill or find someone to talk to, she inadvertantly finds me. Perhaps shes trying to make me think of her, or some game shit.
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oh nono. Theres just two big camps: Ignore her, or go all out. =/
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On July 02 2010 13:13 bloopie wrote:
oh nono. Theres just two big camps: Ignore her, or go all out. =/
You already went all out. You asked her out. You work with her, too: what are you going to do, run up and kiss her? Your gambling your career on that as that's 110% sexual assault if she doesn't like it.
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Okay simple NO girl unless she is a tool shed sits on a guys lap she has ZERO interest in. 95 % sure she has interest. Now if she gives you the signal again for well ya know more then just friend shit say. " Hey this is the deep and of the pool dont come putting that on my lap". cuts threw the bs.!
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i have the perfect solution
Step1 : Just ignore her
Step 2: Don't make the same mistake again
you really should have just done something when she was sitting on your lap, i mean unless you have some sort of emotional attachment to her then who gives a fuck if she rejects you
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Need to put this stuff into exact time slots dude. Was this spread out all over 2 weeks? 1? Some girls give hints, and during that time frame you have to decipher the hints and make a move.. if you don't then they'll move on and find something else.
when she invited you to the party, obviously should have gone. When she sits on your lap... please tell me you hooked up with her. That has to be the biggest indicator of interest I've ever seen, shy of being an exotic dancer.
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One question I have is there alcohol involved, cuz plenty of girls will do whatever when they get buzzed//drunk.
Honestly though I say just send her some signals, ask her to go to a party and see hhow she acts, you'll find what type of person she is
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Best thing to do is just be upfront, but play it cool like you dont care. Let her know your interested but dont try and talk to her all the time and be clingy.
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On July 02 2010 13:31 Baloop wrote:
Best thing to do is just be upfront, but play it cool like you dont care. Let her know your interested but dont try and talk to her all the time and be clingy.
Something like this. At that point I'd be frustrated and tell her to find a date for the movie and I'll get the food
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uh no. we were PERFECTLY sober when she sat on my lap.
fuck i know i know... i should have did something then.
in no cases was there alcohol involved.
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she wants your nuts, but also wants you to work. Just break down every social barrier there is, go straight for the kill. And listen to that Chill guy. doing what a man's man would do is what she wants to see, rather than some nerdy gamer(no offense, we all are)
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It was a test and you failed it sounds. I'd say lay low for a week or so and then throw an ultimatum. rofl.
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ahh well I would say that if you like her, then ask her to go hang out just do something fun! don't do nothing if you're gonna regret it.
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On July 02 2010 13:40 bloopie wrote:
uh no. we were PERFECTLY sober when she sat on my lap.
fuck i know i know... i should have did something then.
in no cases was there alcohol involved.
if you look at it from her point of view it was something like this:
she was attracted to you, and gave you 2 opportunities 1, the party and 2, sitting on you
now she probs thinks you're dense (i am hoping this is not the case and you are just a bit shy and/or inexperienced) and has given up. rather than going back to her and basically saying "i've finally figured out what to do" and looking like a socially-inept bastard, just move on to the next girl and dont repeat your mistakes, essentially telling the new girl that you are NOT a socially inept bastard and making her want to date/fuck/go to knitting class/whatever with you
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On July 02 2010 11:44 Masamune wrote:
She's playing games. Set this bitch straight and ask her for an opinion on what you think you should wear for your date with some 'hot' girl in the near future. Watch her squeal.
Lol, this is actually good advice. It sounds to me like you were just too easy, it only took her a little bit of flirting and sitting on your lap once to get you desperately trying to schedule a date. You've got to flirt back and create some tension before moving in.
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On July 02 2010 14:10 c.Deadly wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 11:44 Masamune wrote:
She's playing games. Set this bitch straight and ask her for an opinion on what you think you should wear for your date with some 'hot' girl in the near future. Watch her squeal. Lol, this is actually good advice. It sounds to me like you were just too easy, it only took her a little bit of flirting and sitting on your lap once to get you desperately trying to schedule a date. You've got to flirt back and create some tension before moving in.
if you do it while sitting in HER lap that'll be big bonus points as well
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maybe she thought you were cute until she got a whiff of your BO. who knows
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Well i guess the best course of action now is to lay back, and flirt a little more. Cos she still comes up to me and sits right next to me to chat. Prolly have to ramp up the sex factor a little. ^^
Lessons learnt: When a girl sits on your lap == gg, all in 
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You'll have better luck mastering starcraft than trying to decipher women
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i could be wrong but i think she wants your dick and your being too shy, but clearly she wants you enough to keep pressing, eg: sitting on your lap is a hint. And if your worried about her saying some shit like i didnt mean anything by it, then call her a cock tease and flirt with her friends (lol). thats just my opinion, i say give her what she wants before she says you are lame. make us proud here @ TL. <3
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What's going on here is pretty textbook. You flaked on her on the party, she's getting back at you by flaking on your dates. I know it sounds retarded, but girls do that sort of thing all the time. Best thing to do is next time you talk to her, make her do something with you RIGHT NOW. Do your best to convince her. If it's a no go, come back in a few months when she forgets about your failures.
The problem with setting up dates in the future is she can always flake out on you, and she probably will since she's exhibited this behavior.
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Corner her and ask what's up.
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wtf she sat on your laps?
what a bitch
sit on her face and fart next time you see her bro
bitches deserve that
fuck
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On July 02 2010 11:37 bloopie wrote:+ Show Spoiler +Hey guys, I am so mindfucked by this girl that i have to post it on the net and ask:
Alright, this girl is my colleague, for about a month now, and we were at first just talking to each other in a friendly manner.
Then comes this: I get a random text from a random number asking me to go to this party, and it turns out to be her. but alas, i didnt go. My friends who were at this party told me that she was talking about my body and stuff. Not too much right?
Next, we have been talking more, and texting more via IM, or SMS. Sometimes she just touches me gently on the arm, or shoulder. Maybe shes just being friendly, right? Now comes the kicker. One fine day, while we are talking, she just stands up, and sits on my lap. I went wtf! so I didnt do anything more and continued to talk, and we decided to go for a movie thing at her house.
Here comes the twist - it has been a week, and somehow shes been putting off the movie thing. Like, she DOES work late sometimes, but the one day she isnt, she gives some excuse that her friend is visiting her for the weekend (now). Then i say, lets do it on Monday since its 4 of July celebrations, and theres no work? She says ehh.. maybe I have to visit my parents. (she lives 30 minutes from her parents). And she doesnt reschedule a specific date. So now I'm confused at whats going on, and I dont want to seem like I'm pushing her, and I want to seal the deal. So help me TL!
Or maybe shes just been friendly all the time. Hm.
Women have these periods every month or so, when they cant get the best of a nice long movie watching at her house.
So, my advice is just wait a bit. Her interest in you might return shortly.
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On July 02 2010 14:30 d_so wrote:
maybe she thought you were cute until she got a whiff of your BO. who knows
LOL
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I think the signal she's giving you is that she likes you but wants you to insist. Do it but don't go overboard (calling/inviting her 3 times is enough).
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Its simple, shes playing hard to get, once u sort of "ignore" she will crawl back to u. Now that shes got ur attention she is playing hard to get
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yeah she's setting a deadly bitch trap. Basically she has those moments where she feels atracted to you but hasn't sorted her feelings (aka, talked for 4 hours about it with her girl and gay friends). SO she go on and off, on and off. the trap is that if you start getting imersed in this weird momentum and start chasing after her when she act distant, she will see you as desesperate and lose interest.
play indiferent for a while, don't ignore her and play along when she gets playfull, but don't try to go after her and "seal the deal" cause that's where you loose.
What's hard is to actually keep the interest during of all this, cause after a while only reacting to her mood isn't going to work anymore. But that's your personal feeling, when you think the little flirt dance has gone for long enought and your lady seem in a good mood, you go balls out like a man and make a spartan move.
don't set something for the next week, try to get it as soon as possible. make it obvious that you're interested but don't make the date something it is not, sound entousiast but not overly fixated on the date, it's a date, not a mariage, the girl will get scared.
ok now i notice that i'm more rambling on my own mistakes rather than helping op lol so i will stop
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On July 02 2010 11:52 bloopie wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 11:51 Elegy wrote:
So in the middle of a conversation, just talking and shooting the breeze, she just gets up and SITS on you LOL? Precisely yes. I have to admit her butt felt good t_t. and she has reaaaalllly nice calves.
That sounds pretty creepy!
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Ignore her for a few days and see how it goes.
The game is on! don't be trapped!
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I think it's clear she was into you on some level, and still is at least a little.
Here's the one that nobody has bothered to bring up.
Hey guys, I am so mindfucked by this girl that i have to post it on the net...
Is this really the kind of girl you want to be spending time with? Maybe you just didn't play it well. Or maybe this is what she intended.
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Just ignore her as hard as it is (no pun intended ehehehe) just see how she acts then.
From your story it seems like you keep bringing up the movie thing so just don't and talk casually. Do not do anything friendly so that she can notice. However, do not totally oust her cause then she won't want ur ass
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On July 02 2010 11:37 bloopie wrote:
Hey guys, I am so mindfucked by this girl that i have to post it on the net and ask:
Alright, this girl is my colleague, for about a month now, and we were at first just talking to each other in a friendly manner.
Then comes this: I get a random text from a random number asking me to go to this party, and it turns out to be her. but alas, i didnt go. My friends who were at this party told me that she was talking about my body and stuff. Not too much right?
Next, we have been talking more, and texting more via IM, or SMS. Sometimes she just touches me gently on the arm, or shoulder. Maybe shes just being friendly, right? Now comes the kicker. One fine day, while we are talking, she just stands up, and sits on my lap. I went wtf! so I didnt do anything more and continued to talk, and we decided to go for a movie thing at her house.
Here comes the twist - it has been a week, and somehow shes been putting off the movie thing. Like, she DOES work late sometimes, but the one day she isnt, she gives some excuse that her friend is visiting her for the weekend (now). Then i say, lets do it on Monday since its 4 of July celebrations, and theres no work? She says ehh.. maybe I have to visit my parents. (she lives 30 minutes from her parents). And she doesnt reschedule a specific date. So now I'm confused at whats going on, and I dont want to seem like I'm pushing her, and I want to seal the deal. So help me TL!
Or maybe shes just been friendly all the time. Hm.
BRO THIS CHICK DIGS YOU, MAKE A MOVE NOW!!!!!! It may already be too late. Shes given PLENTY of signs, you're losing your chance
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On July 02 2010 22:22 michiko wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 11:37 bloopie wrote:
Hey guys, I am so mindfucked by this girl that i have to post it on the net and ask:
Alright, this girl is my colleague, for about a month now, and we were at first just talking to each other in a friendly manner.
Then comes this: I get a random text from a random number asking me to go to this party, and it turns out to be her. but alas, i didnt go. My friends who were at this party told me that she was talking about my body and stuff. Not too much right?
Next, we have been talking more, and texting more via IM, or SMS. Sometimes she just touches me gently on the arm, or shoulder. Maybe shes just being friendly, right? Now comes the kicker. One fine day, while we are talking, she just stands up, and sits on my lap. I went wtf! so I didnt do anything more and continued to talk, and we decided to go for a movie thing at her house.
Here comes the twist - it has been a week, and somehow shes been putting off the movie thing. Like, she DOES work late sometimes, but the one day she isnt, she gives some excuse that her friend is visiting her for the weekend (now). Then i say, lets do it on Monday since its 4 of July celebrations, and theres no work? She says ehh.. maybe I have to visit my parents. (she lives 30 minutes from her parents). And she doesnt reschedule a specific date. So now I'm confused at whats going on, and I dont want to seem like I'm pushing her, and I want to seal the deal. So help me TL!
Or maybe shes just been friendly all the time. Hm. BRO THIS CHICK DIGS YOU, MAKE A MOVE NOW!!!!!! It may already be too late. Shes given PLENTY of signs, you're losing your chance
uh dude lol, i think i kinda missed the train, so I'm asking for help how to get back on without begging the train conductor.
Fail analogy, but you get the point =p
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Clearly there is no right answer to this situation, you have plenty of people telling you plenty of all different solutions or reasons: Keep asking, ignore her, straight up sexual harass her, continue flirting, you were too slow, you were too fast, she's playing games, you suck, etc.
No one knows what the right answer is, and one solution may work in one scenario, and fail horribly in another. What I feel is the best advice would be to straight up ask her if she's interested, avoid all of the gaming bullshit. Worst case scenario, she isn't and you're embarrassed, but at least you have an answer. Maybe some other solution could have got you the chick, but there is no way to know that, so you might as well just pick the solution that gives you the least grief and hassle.
Good luck.
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+ Show Spoiler +On July 02 2010 22:34 bloopie wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 22:22 michiko wrote:On July 02 2010 11:37 bloopie wrote:
Hey guys, I am so mindfucked by this girl that i have to post it on the net and ask:
Alright, this girl is my colleague, for about a month now, and we were at first just talking to each other in a friendly manner.
Then comes this: I get a random text from a random number asking me to go to this party, and it turns out to be her. but alas, i didnt go. My friends who were at this party told me that she was talking about my body and stuff. Not too much right?
Next, we have been talking more, and texting more via IM, or SMS. Sometimes she just touches me gently on the arm, or shoulder. Maybe shes just being friendly, right? Now comes the kicker. One fine day, while we are talking, she just stands up, and sits on my lap. I went wtf! so I didnt do anything more and continued to talk, and we decided to go for a movie thing at her house.
Here comes the twist - it has been a week, and somehow shes been putting off the movie thing. Like, she DOES work late sometimes, but the one day she isnt, she gives some excuse that her friend is visiting her for the weekend (now). Then i say, lets do it on Monday since its 4 of July celebrations, and theres no work? She says ehh.. maybe I have to visit my parents. (she lives 30 minutes from her parents). And she doesnt reschedule a specific date. So now I'm confused at whats going on, and I dont want to seem like I'm pushing her, and I want to seal the deal. So help me TL!
Or maybe shes just been friendly all the time. Hm. BRO THIS CHICK DIGS YOU, MAKE A MOVE NOW!!!!!! It may already be too late. Shes given PLENTY of signs, you're losing your chance
[quote]On July 02 2010 11:37 bloopie wrote:
uh dude lol, i think i kinda missed the train, so I'm asking for help how to get back on without begging the train conductor.
Fail analogy, but you get the point =p
------(EDIT: wow quote is just not working for me on this post)
Sorry man, i didnt read the pages of posts - So I probably missed some details.
Its easy to get back on that train buddy, as long as she is still available. You should make a move on her - go buy her some flowers and straight up, ask her out on a date. I would suggest replacing the word date with whatever you two are interested in (Dinner + W/E).
Do this - Buy 12 roses, find a time/place when you can approach her 1-on-1...Complement whatever it is she is wearing that day...Tell her that the COLOR (name the color as specifically as possible) of her clothing looks very good on her.
Tell her you got the flowers for her and that you would be honored to have her accompany you on an evening of fun or some shit (lol sorry, I don't know the situation exactly so I don't know the proper words to say)
In conversation, either on the date, or in the future...explain that you were shy and unsure of her signals, but you are attracted to her!
Let me know what you think.
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Wow ... like Salv said, everyone here is speculating, because none of us here know enough of you or her and the overall situation.
My advice: find out how flirty she is with other guys by asking your friends or watching her hang out in groups. I think highly flirty girls are dangerous, because you don't know if it's you or if it's them... so I really recommend you seeing how she interacts in group settings. AND talk to your other guy friends about her who know her ... they should have a general clue of what's really up.
I remember this one girl I knew, she was pretty flirty with me and was always a little too close in my personal space. I talked to a good friend about it, and he was like, "Totally, she does that to everybody. She's got issues man." He mentioned it having to do with how her dad left her at an early age or something, so he was like, "Just treat her normally man.. yeah she's a real attention seeker, but she's also real sensitive to how guys treat her, so try to be nice to her." Pretty good advice, it was hard on me, but things turned out ok as we're friendly.
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Yah, and you're correct...But if OP is interested in being romantic, why not go for it?
Same, IMO, in your case...She may have treated everyone like that, but why not attempt to make something happen? (shrug)
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Cuz the girl in my case had serious issues, and you don't want to be with a girl like that, even if it's a fling. AND the girl in bloopie's case is his coworker. Dude, that's worse than dating your hallmate/roommate.
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Both good points - yeah the co-worker situation, hmmmmmmm....
I have to disagree with it being 'worse than room mate' but its certainly is playing with fire.
Sometimes your hands will get warm - or you'll get burned.
A lot of people meet their future wives at their place of work...*shrug*
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On July 02 2010 11:37 bloopie wrote:
My friends who were at this party told me that she was talking about my body and stuff.
Sometimes she just touches me gently on the arm, or shoulder. Maybe shes just being friendly, right? One fine day, while we are talking, she just stands up, and sits on my lap.
we decided to go for a movie thing at her house.
Sounds like she's intersted in a hookup. I don't know if she's interested in a relationship since she probably would have jumped at that chance in the last week.
My personal favorite - maybe it's "girl time" and she's dodging until it ends...
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Be sure to update this blog, even if it ends poorly.
could be a learning experience for someone.
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well .. today was nothing special. I just did the casual friendly thing, and she knocked off from work early. We were just having a normal conversation she makes a small mistake, and goes "awwww" and gives me a lonng hug. nothing else of special mention. shrug.
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On July 03 2010 01:46 Servius_Fulvius wrote:Show nested quote +On July 02 2010 11:37 bloopie wrote:
My friends who were at this party told me that she was talking about my body and stuff.
Sometimes she just touches me gently on the arm, or shoulder. Maybe shes just being friendly, right? One fine day, while we are talking, she just stands up, and sits on my lap.
we decided to go for a movie thing at her house.
Sounds like she's intersted in a hookup. I don't know if she's interested in a relationship since she probably would have jumped at that chance in the last week. My personal favorite - maybe it's "girl time" and she's dodging until it ends...
I have never heard of any guy suffering from this. Really?
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@ op: text her "hey if you dont wanna make time for me its cool ill catch ya later :D"
and dont ever worry about flaking early on
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Her friend probably did turn up and she probably really is going to meet her family on 4th of July since it's national holiday etc. I'm sure she'll be up for meeting up some time after that.
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On July 03 2010 07:16 KurtistheTurtle wrote:
@ op: text her "hey if you dont wanna make time for me its cool ill catch ya later :D"
and dont ever worry about flaking early on
A text like that comes off as rather insulting.
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On July 03 2010 09:13 jello_biafra wrote:
Her friend probably did turn up and she probably really is going to meet her family on 4th of July since it's national holiday etc. I'm sure she'll be up for meeting up some time after that.
Well her friend did turn up at our office today and she was just showing him around the place. Yea.
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On July 03 2010 07:16 KurtistheTurtle wrote:
@ op: text her "hey if you dont wanna make time for me its cool ill catch ya later :D"
and dont ever worry about flaking early on
Too reactive.
Any guy who has options (aka texting multiple girls to go out) wouldn't say this. He would just say "cool maybe next time" or nothing at all.
Abundance bro. Live it.
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On July 03 2010 09:22 shinosai wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 07:16 KurtistheTurtle wrote:
@ op: text her "hey if you dont wanna make time for me its cool ill catch ya later :D"
and dont ever worry about flaking early on A text like that comes off as rather insulting.
and extremely needy
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tl should write a book called "a nerd's guide to girls"
bestseller incoming.
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On July 03 2010 14:39 pikaaarrr :3 wrote:
tl should write a book called "a nerd's guide to girls"
bestseller incoming.
maybe it could be stickied, but then we'd lose like half of the blog section and that just would not do
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On July 03 2010 09:48 Spiffeh wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 07:16 KurtistheTurtle wrote:
@ op: text her "hey if you dont wanna make time for me its cool ill catch ya later :D"
and dont ever worry about flaking early on Too reactive. Any guy who has options (aka texting multiple girls to go out) wouldn't say this. He would just say "cool maybe next time" or nothing at all. Abundance bro. Live it.
yeah take this advice. what i said really worked for me but when i think back on it those girls were total nutcases
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actually i have mixed feelings, you gotta give a shit at some point even if its only for 1 text. in my experience if its like 3rd or 4th flake making them feel guilty by saying "look i see how you feel about me but its ok i really dont care we can still be friends :D" is the prudent thing to do insulting or not. as long as you have a good time and move forward when you actually do somethin with em
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As for me, I am just gonna chill until Tuesday, and see what happens from there.
At any rate, she doesnt seem to mind physical contact, so we shall see =D
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I think we need to see a picture of her first.
But really though, ignore her for a little bit and if she's interested, she'll contact you. AND THEN DO THE NAKED MAN
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I've found the answer to every guy's problem with girls... Ask yourself what would Reach do? Anyways, jokes aside, instead of asking her directly, why don't you ask her out on a date? Instead of the one who gets flirted at, flirt instead, if course, if she looks uncomfortable, stop timing is everthing
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doesn't sound like she's that interested. she's a bitch for the mixed signals though.
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Mixed signals are a pain in the ass! I say confront her if you really want answers.
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On July 03 2010 21:30 nerium wrote:
Mixed signals are a pain in the ass! I say confront her if you really want answers.
yo whatever you do do NOT take this guy's advice, that would be the absolute worst thing to do and you'll look desperate and just not cool. I'm not saying confrontation is unilaterally a bad strategy, i'm saying there is a time and a place for it and unless you're in love with this chick don't let yourself look stupid by looking desperate
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On July 04 2010 11:40 d_so wrote:Show nested quote +On July 03 2010 21:30 nerium wrote:
Mixed signals are a pain in the ass! I say confront her if you really want answers. yo whatever you do do NOT take this guy's advice, that would be the absolute worst thing to do and you'll look desperate and just not cool. I'm not saying confrontation is unilaterally a bad strategy, i'm saying there is a time and a place for it and unless you're in love with this chick don't let yourself look stupid by looking desperate confrontation is the smartest possible way to handle mixed signals. you have nothing to lose and her to gain, how on earth do you look stupid and desperate? playing mind games for months on end will get you no where with a girl. if you want her, go after her, don't pussy foot around like a fool.
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Girls just like to see men struggle. She doesn't sound interested in you, but loves the attention. There's also the eternal struggle with girls that are just nice, you know, the ones where you're like, "wow, she's responding well to what I'm doing, but maybe she's just friendly? I mean, just 'cause a girl is friendly doesn't mean she's into you... or does it?..."
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On July 04 2010 11:47 InTheFade wrote:
Girls just like to see men struggle. She doesn't sound interested in you, but loves the attention. There's also the eternal struggle with girls that are just nice, you know, the ones where you're like, "wow, she's responding well to what I'm doing, but maybe she's just friendly? I mean, just 'cause a girl is friendly doesn't mean she's into you... or does it?..." men like to see men struggle too =p
but honestly, many men(especially teenagers) value the pride and dignity over a possibility of a relationship. ask any shy guy why he doesn't have a girl friend and the root problem is likely because he's afraid of hurting his ego. ask any guy with a girlfriend and he'll understand that a little damage to his ego is worth the risk to gain a girl.
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On July 04 2010 11:45 Malgrif wrote:Show nested quote +On July 04 2010 11:40 d_so wrote:On July 03 2010 21:30 nerium wrote:
Mixed signals are a pain in the ass! I say confront her if you really want answers. yo whatever you do do NOT take this guy's advice, that would be the absolute worst thing to do and you'll look desperate and just not cool. I'm not saying confrontation is unilaterally a bad strategy, i'm saying there is a time and a place for it and unless you're in love with this chick don't let yourself look stupid by looking desperate confrontation is the smartest possible way to handle mixed signals. you have nothing to lose and her to gain, how on earth do you look stupid and desperate? playing mind games for months on end will get you no where with a girl. if you want her, go after her, don't pussy foot around like a fool.
it's not about pussy footing, it's about realizing that whatever games a girl plays is constrained by a limiting rule set (for various reasons that may sound misogynistic so I don't want to get into this now) and it is quite possible to beat her at her own game once you get past feeling sorry for yourself. Being driven to the point of confrontation = loss. The goal is to get HER to confront you, or at least a mutual "coming to terms", and not the other way around... unless, of course, you're deathly serious about the girl and you're looking for more than just fun&fuk
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so she stood you up twice, okay. now it's her job to make it up to you, if she makes no effort then don't worry about her.
ask yourself, what has she done for you?
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Hmm.. the truth is i didnt go to her party invitation. But whatever.
during work she does make the effort and come up and talk to me. So right now I think I am just gonna chill for a while, and like someone said before, flirt back without any expectations and ramp up the kino interaction. I think thats the most important mindset. After all, she was the first one ever to make a move.
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On July 04 2010 12:08 d_so wrote:Show nested quote +On July 04 2010 11:45 Malgrif wrote:On July 04 2010 11:40 d_so wrote:On July 03 2010 21:30 nerium wrote:
Mixed signals are a pain in the ass! I say confront her if you really want answers. yo whatever you do do NOT take this guy's advice, that would be the absolute worst thing to do and you'll look desperate and just not cool. I'm not saying confrontation is unilaterally a bad strategy, i'm saying there is a time and a place for it and unless you're in love with this chick don't let yourself look stupid by looking desperate confrontation is the smartest possible way to handle mixed signals. you have nothing to lose and her to gain, how on earth do you look stupid and desperate? playing mind games for months on end will get you no where with a girl. if you want her, go after her, don't pussy foot around like a fool. it's not about pussy footing, it's about realizing that whatever games a girl plays is constrained by a limiting rule set (for various reasons that may sound misogynistic so I don't want to get into this now) and it is quite possible to beat her at her own game once you get past feeling sorry for yourself. Being driven to the point of confrontation = loss. The goal is to get HER to confront you, or at least a mutual "coming to terms", and not the other way around... unless, of course, you're deathly serious about the girl and you're looking for more than just fun&fuk i find this hard to believe. the girls i've known have never known to send mix signals on purpose in order to play a game. perhaps it's an unconscious game, but even so confrontation means that you waste less time trying to figure out one girl. if she's playing a game, then good now you're out of her bullshit, if she isn't then great now you got things clear. staying in the hazy mist of things is quite inefficient if you wish to get a girl. confrontation doesn't mean you lost, it means that you're mature enough to know that it's not worth playing a game where the victor gains relatively nothing.
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On July 04 2010 12:27 bloopie wrote:
Hmm.. the truth is i didnt go to her party invitation. But whatever.
during work she does make the effort and come up and talk to me. So right now I think I am just gonna chill for a while, and like someone said before, flirt back without any expectations and ramp up the kino interaction. I think thats the most important mindset. After all, she was the first one ever to make a move.
Yea just chill and take it easy and see if she does anything.
To be quite honest she could just like flirting with you - sometimes that's all a girl is after, a good flirt (doesn't necessarily mean she wants to hook up)
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Good god. I hope this doesn't turn into a "relationships are a battle you have to win" deal. Apparently that mindset works here in Korea, and it drives me nuts.
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On July 04 2010 13:02 Smix wrote:Show nested quote +On July 04 2010 12:27 bloopie wrote:
Hmm.. the truth is i didnt go to her party invitation. But whatever.
during work she does make the effort and come up and talk to me. So right now I think I am just gonna chill for a while, and like someone said before, flirt back without any expectations and ramp up the kino interaction. I think thats the most important mindset. After all, she was the first one ever to make a move. Yea just chill and take it easy and see if she does anything. To be quite honest she could just like flirting with you - sometimes that's all a girl is after, a good flirt (doesn't necessarily mean she wants to hook up)
tskkk. what a mindset. =D
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Oh well it has been confirmed - She went to watch the movie we were going to watch with another bunch of friend/friend(s) so whatever was there, isnt there anymore. 1 month! well, doesnt take very long to make a girl disinterested in you i guess.
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My advice? Just ask her. Straight up. Its better to not think about these things too much. Fucks with you life.
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On July 07 2010 04:57 bloopie wrote:
Oh well it has been confirmed - She went to watch the movie we were going to watch with another bunch of friend/friend(s) so whatever was there, isnt there anymore. 1 month! well, doesnt take very long to make a girl disinterested in you i guess.
It's rare that it even lasted that long. I say, no sweat! Still 3 billion other women on Earth.
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On July 07 2010 04:57 bloopie wrote:
Oh well it has been confirmed - She went to watch the movie we were going to watch with another bunch of friend/friend(s) so whatever was there, isnt there anymore. 1 month! well, doesnt take very long to make a girl disinterested in you i guess.
Should still be no harm in asking her to have lunch or dinner with you some time. If there's no harm and there is a chance, you go for it because you're a man. Good luck.
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On July 07 2010 10:54 Antimage wrote:
you go for it because you're a man.
and because you smell like a man.
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this is how people work.
one person is always chasing, and the other is running. if u want her to stop running, stop doing the chasing. stop chasing after her, stop asking her to do plans. act like u dont give a shit, act like u couldn't care less. soon enough she'll be the one chasing again.
sad that this will work, but its true.
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An update:
Today, she came over to "bother me", While we made some small talk, she started to run her fingers through my hair. This went on for a bit, then she went back to her seat, complaining that the office was kinda hot. So I walk over and placed my hands on her shoulder, and she went "Ooh! Your hands are cold, nice!"
So i proceeded to give her a light shoulder massage and went to work on her ears, gently rubbing them, and going over them a couple of times. So she went "Ooh, that feels good.. My ears are kinda hot". (She got them sunburnt). So I said "This ought to cool it down" and blew on them a little.. and I'm not sure but was that too much? lol, she didnt complain about anything..
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Either this girl is extremely flirtatious by nature or you should take her to a motel on your first date.
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well i really don't know. Even if she was flirtatious by nature... Still i am confused lol. Didn't want to get sued for sexual harassment in office u know? lawl.
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haha sounds like you're getting pretty far in the office. definitely ask her out dude. good job~
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Ooni points his finger, "Be a man".
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On July 09 2010 11:34 ooni wrote:
Ooni points his finger, "Be a man".
shield_break adds, "A smart, sexy man...that knows how to play Starcraft (girls love that shit)."
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Honestly, I would stop worrying about it. Don't even think about that chick, if she dodges you whatever, your life isn't any different. If she really is into you, she will try to hangout again, if you keep making plans and rescheduling, she knows she has you, and it comes off a bit desperate.
Chill the fuck out and do what you always do, she'll be more attracted to you just being you.
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hahah the problem is if its me just being me, i am gonna just grab her and make out soon T_T. Shes such a tease =/
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Well if you are at the comfort of one anothers home, then hell yeah
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On July 09 2010 12:49 bloopie wrote:
hahah the problem is if its me just being me, i am gonna just grab her and make out soon T_T. Shes such a tease =/
Probably not a bad idea from what you've told us. Even if it goes bad it seems like she'd laugh it off and give you a lapdance.
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i think you should go ahead and ask her.from my perspective i believe she likes you.but she seems extremely flirtatious.
a picture should help us make a better assumption.
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On July 09 2010 14:43 BloodDrunK wrote:
i think you should go ahead and ask her.from my perspective i believe she likes you.but she seems extremely flirtatious.
a picture should help us make a better assumption.
LOL how could it? You are so tranparent!
Anyway, BloodDrunK will decide if she's hot or not. If she's hot, he'll say 'go for' it if not, he will say 'not worth it'. There is the third scenario, 'I'll ask her out for you give me her number'. ^____^
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On July 09 2010 14:53 ooni wrote:Show nested quote +On July 09 2010 14:43 BloodDrunK wrote:
i think you should go ahead and ask her.from my perspective i believe she likes you.but she seems extremely flirtatious.
a picture should help us make a better assumption. LOL how could it? You are so tranparent! Anyway, BloodDrunK will decide if she's hot or not. If she's hot, he'll say 'go for' it if not, he will say 'not worth it'. There is the third scenario, 'I'll ask her out for you give me her number'. ^____^
BloodDrunK...you better share that number. Maybe she likes high schoolers. =D
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I'd say go for it! If she's dodging your requests, maybe ask her straight-up. :\ Good luck!
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On July 09 2010 14:56 shieldbreak wrote:Show nested quote +On July 09 2010 14:53 ooni wrote:On July 09 2010 14:43 BloodDrunK wrote:
i think you should go ahead and ask her.from my perspective i believe she likes you.but she seems extremely flirtatious.
a picture should help us make a better assumption. LOL how could it? You are so tranparent! Anyway, BloodDrunK will decide if she's hot or not. If she's hot, he'll say 'go for' it if not, he will say 'not worth it'. There is the third scenario, 'I'll ask her out for you give me her number'. ^____^ BloodDrunK...you better share that number. Maybe she likes high schoolers. =D
LOL don't worry.you guys have a better chance than i do.once she sees my hideous face she will puke.
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SHE WANTS YOU!
Well, just ask her if she meant anything at all. I always believed that asking some outright is the best way >.<
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An update:
Firstly, we can discuss the morality of my actions later.
Secondly, this event has confirmed my belief that you should NEVER ever ask the girl THE question. If anything, she will make it darn obvious.
Ok, to the actual story: Today the girl in question went out of office, and I was just about to knock off too. On my way out, I saw that she left her laptop on, and her gmail account open too. So, being the nosey parker that i am, I *cough*snooped*cough* on her gmail account, which also happened to have her gchat messenger open.
So apparently she has been talking to this guy a LOT, i noticed this even without having to snoop but i never knew exactly what was conspiring. They were making plans for the night, and stuff like that. So whoever said that the girl had a new guy, was ABSOLUTELY right. Not surprising, anyway.
Now that this has happened, I reflect. She still talks and flirts/be friendly to me everyday, with light physical contact. The twister: She has invited me to drink with her after her 21st birthday is officially over, during happy hour. I did not decline. Should i a) go and have fun or b) go and have "fun"?
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Get out of this while you still can! Go and have fun but I think this girl is a lost cause.
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On July 15 2010 09:05 bloopie wrote:
An update:
Firstly, we can discuss the morality of my actions later.
Secondly, this event has confirmed my belief that you should NEVER ever ask the girl THE question. If anything, she will make it darn obvious.
Ok, to the actual story: Today the girl in question went out of office, and I was just about to knock off too. On my way out, I saw that she left her laptop on, and her gmail account open too. So, being the nosey parker that i am, I *cough*snooped*cough* on her gmail account, which also happened to have her gchat messenger open.
So apparently she has been talking to this guy a LOT, i noticed this even without having to snoop but i never knew exactly what was conspiring. They were making plans for the night, and stuff like that. So whoever said that the girl had a new guy, was ABSOLUTELY right. Not surprising, anyway.
Now that this has happened, I reflect. She still talks and flirts/be friendly to me everyday, with light physical contact. The twister: She has invited me to drink with her after her 21st birthday is officially over, during happy hour. I did not decline. Should i a) go and have fun or b) go and have "fun"?
I just say go and have fun (a). To me, I would assume she is being more friendly - its not too uncommon to just invite everyone you know to get trashed with you on your 21st birthday. Starting a relationship off by trying to mess with a current relationship generally isn't a solid foundation (IMO). *shrug*
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edit: i just read the post above me, missed that 3rd(?) update.
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On July 02 2010 12:06 TossFloss wrote:
If you really want her, try this:
Your going to ignore her for 2-3 weeks. Completely shut her out, ignore phone calls, emails, don't talk to her. Go to the gym and work on your biceps, shoulders and pecks. Finally, go in wearing a wife-beater (right after your work out routine, of course) and be like "haven't talked in a while, wanna go out?"
Edit: Make sure you go somewhere with alcohol. Order hard liquor. Martini's are good.
This advice is so good it's quote-worthy.
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haha well. i think its kinda late for that now. Since she sorta moved on to another guy, instead of me coming in (if you get my drift, otherwise read the OP) i am like whatever. Just go have fun eh?
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Update:
So I went for this drinking chillout session.. and guess what?
Wait, first, does making out count as scoring? i guess it does, so go me!
To tell the story, firstly we went to the bar, and well got ourselves some drinks. Beer - shot - whiskey - beer. So at first we were just making small talk, then we moved on to talking about our firsts. (well i asked her to ask me but w/e). So apparently, she had her first kiss when she was fourteen and mine was eighteen. She started laughing at me =( but so i upped the ante. I asked, when was her first fellation that she gave? (Ans: Sixteen. Mine: Eighteen). And somehow.. we were both slightly drunk, she more so than me, and she just leaned in anddd... magic occurred. I guess. We were making out.. at the bar. We finished our beers and i sent her home. She tried to push me away saying that she could go back but i had none of that. So at her doorstep, she said "I was terrible.." and another passionate round of making out occurred.
However i guessed i sorta spoilt the mood by saying, "lets take this inside" and she immediately sorta froze. =/ We made out a bit more, and she ended by "I was strangely attracted to you all summer.. I think we just made it awkward at work." I just said "No, it wouldnt be awkward"...
I mean, what next?
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Just ask her, you will get an answer. Seriously.
--Edit: Read the rest of the post. Epic.
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EDIT : NVM, read only the 1st post lol :D
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EPT
