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On December 31 2009 15:20 Roffles wrote: Huh? 19 years old and going for PhD?
I must be either high or just fucking retarded. Why am I not going for my PhD?
Haha, exactly what I was thinking. Here I am in my PhD program, and I'm 22...man I'm a chump, I could have been doing this 3 years ago
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Ok eventual PHD but I know she can do it. Yea now that I think about it she has no idea how to interact with people. Who just talks for 20 minutes straight about the dumbest shit ever? When dhe tries to talk about interesting things i listen and we have a great time it is just these ridiculous topics she gets on haha idk guys
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You should take lead of the conversation. Don't be a dick and cut her off but once she finishes one boring topic, change it to something better. You should also say that you'd love it if she came to visit sometimes.
Be a man. Make shit happen.
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What are these ridiculous topics that you're talking about, besides the headache example you gave earlier. Just trying to get a grasp on what you mean by that. And yeah, like the guy above me said, if you really are bothered by it, change the topic. Its not a conversation if only one person is involved, so get yourself involved with something you actually do want to talk about.
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On December 31 2009 14:41 Hypnosis wrote:
She is the person i like right now..
She will be moving soon to fort collins which is alot closer as well.
This is how you solve your issue. You wrote it.Just have patiente till she moves.
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suck it up. Eventually she will become awesome when she gets away from her parents and you'll probably regret it if you left her
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Most girls are like this. My last gf liked talking on the phone but we only talked for a few minutes cause it was the same situation. We had generic "I love you blahblah' kinda shit, a few "ya's" and then once that silence came she was happy leaving the phone; it was godsend. Guys never have shit to say pretty much but most girls are dumb and like having bad conversations on the phone. Get used to it I guess. Maybe eventually she will stop trying / get bored with meaningless conversations and hopefully that doesn't harm the relationship.
Or you can try to talk more.
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if you don't enjoy listening to her talking, especially if it's stuff she comes up with on her own, then you guys will never work out. dating her is a waste of time.
listen to me.. listen to these words..
the easiest, not the best(you'll understand this part later in life), but the easiest time you'll ever have in a relationship is during dating. if she annoys you in conversation, i don't see it getting better.
also worth noting: i'm sure you believe you have the whole story on the "jackass" of a boyfriend she had previously, but you don't. that story sounds sketchy to me, and i personally just think you need to turn tail on this one.
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It's not like her moving closer, forcing you to spend more time with her, will cause you to enjoy talking to her more. Its pretty much the same argument as "Well, if I marry this girl, it will solve all of our problems!" or "having a child will make us closer!" If you don't like talking to her, you have a problem that doesn't sound like it can be fixed.
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Can I still get those pics plz?
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I don't think she doesn't like talking to her. He said that this girl stays home all day and can't really talk about interesting things because she doesn't experience them in the first place. Maybe she'll become more interesting/fun to talk with after she moves out and things will turn out ok for them.Good luck!
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On December 31 2009 16:43 Sauron wrote: I don't think she doesn't like talking to her. He said that this girl stays home all day and can't really talk about interesting things because she doesn't experience them in the first place. Maybe she'll become more interesting/fun to talk with after she moves out and things will turn out ok for them.Good luck!
This is the only good advice in this thread and it isn;t even advice LOL.
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On December 31 2009 16:16 MiniRoman wrote: Most girls are like this. My last gf liked talking on the phone but we only talked for a few minutes cause it was the same situation. We had generic "I love you blahblah' kinda shit, a few "ya's" and then once that silence came she was happy leaving the phone; it was godsend. Guys never have shit to say pretty much but most girls are dumb and like having bad conversations on the phone. Get used to it I guess. Maybe eventually she will stop trying / get bored with meaningless conversations and hopefully that doesn't harm the relationship.
Or you can try to talk more.
This too makes sense, I mean it is reality..
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Thats assuming shes not content with the type of life she leads now. Lots of people rebel when they have really strict parents, this girl in particular seems to be fine with the way her life is going. I.E. when she is free of her parents, it wont be a night and day transformation where she goes out and starts getting wasted having crazy party stories (is that what you are looking for when you say she doesn't "experience" life???) and suddenly is able to converse with you for hours on end. It just seems like OP isn't interested in her overall likes and hobbies and those things never change overnight.
I'm with the people saying it wont work out. Most relationships dont and no matter how wonderful a personality and how cute a face, if interests aren't compatible (and how truly lives their life without doing anything of the things they are interested in? [shes already doing stuff she enjoys, even in the restrictive environment you see her in[) it wont last forever. So if you are unhappy with the way things are now, and you are waiting for an environmental change to act as a catalyst to changing her person then you are wasting your time and it wont work.
The Miniroman has spoken
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On December 31 2009 16:18 danl9rm wrote: if you don't enjoy listening to her talking, especially if it's stuff she comes up with on her own, then you guys will never work out. dating her is a waste of time.
listen to me.. listen to these words..
the easiest, not the best(you'll understand this part later in life), but the easiest time you'll ever have in a relationship is during dating. if she annoys you in conversation, i don't see it getting better.
also worth noting: i'm sure you believe you have the whole story on the "jackass" of a boyfriend she had previously, but you don't. that story sounds sketchy to me, and i personally just think you need to turn tail on this one.
i understand you probably have a lot more experience than me but trust me on a few things. I have met her old boyfriend, he is a senior in HIGH SCHOOL (I'm 18 but a sophomore in college) with a 2.3 GPA that thinks hes gonna make it in the Navy Seals. Big dumbass that tried to marry my GF..
I'm not upset that it is annoying because i adore her but my life is so much different than hers because I am not under any constraints when it comes to going places, doing things and getting out of the house because I am moved out. On the other hand she just feels right and is in school like me so it seems to fit.
I appreciate the input though man
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On December 31 2009 16:40 KennigitsABaller wrote: Can I still get those pics plz?
This is the only picture I have of her!! Terrible picture
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Just because someone doesn't like talking on the phone and listening to random boring stories their girlfriends make up just to stay on the phone longer doesn't mean they should breakup.
OP made it pretty clear he likes her personality jus not listening to her talk about random crap on the phone. I had the exact same situation with my gf.
lts pretty annoying my girlfriend used to want to talk on the phone EVERY SECOND we wern't hanging out like even after i dropped her off she be like okay call me when u get home! im like wtf why would i want to call u? if i had something to say i woulda jus said it when i was with you. I'm not a phone guy i hate talking to anyone on the phone and she would get mad at me for having nothing to say. Also she really had nothing interesting to talk about since she doesn't have many hobbies or interests.
eventually i got my way or she stopped trying and we havn't had a real conversation over the phone for about a year now ;P
It doesn't mean i don't love her we are both happy together
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On December 31 2009 17:14 MiniRoman wrote: Thats assuming shes not content with the type of life she leads now. Lots of people rebel when they have really strict parents, this girl in particular seems to be fine with the way her life is going. I.E. when she is free of her parents, it wont be a night and day transformation where she goes out and starts getting wasted having crazy party stories (is that what you are looking for when you say she doesn't "experience" life???) and suddenly is able to converse with you for hours on end. It just seems like OP isn't interested in her overall likes and hobbies and those things never change overnight.
I'm with the people saying it wont work out. Most relationships dont and no matter how wonderful a personality and how cute a face, if interests aren't compatible (and how truly lives their life without doing anything of the things they are interested in? [shes already doing stuff she enjoys, even in the restrictive environment you see her in[) it wont last forever. So if you are unhappy with the way things are now, and you are waiting for an environmental change to act as a catalyst to changing her person then you are wasting your time and it wont work.
The Miniroman has spoken
I understand all of this. The thing is we do share many of the same interests and the time i spend with her seems right and it is not awkward at all! We both love education and being in hard fields and can laugh at the same things. She is ok with me smoking weed and I tolerate her sheltered life because i really do have feelings for her. Remember i have known her as a good friend for almost 3 years so it is not like i just want to fuck her or something. She does rebel though which is why i have hope. She has already had 2-3 boyfriends and she is not a virgin so she has the capacity to be out going.. (To any retard that criticizes me about not being a virgin=outgoing stfu i know it's a terrible analogy but you should get what I mean)
The environment change would be pretty drastic so it could bring alot of different beahviors. Think about college dorms to moving into your own place, its alot different.
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On December 31 2009 17:19 Pengu1n wrote: Just because someone doesn't like talking on the phone and listening to random boring stories their girlfriends make up just to stay on the phone longer doesn't mean they should breakup.
OP made it pretty clear he likes her personality jus not listening to her talk about random crap on the phone. I had the exact same situation with my gf.
lts pretty annoying my girlfriend used to want to talk on the phone EVERY SECOND we wern't hanging out like even after i dropped her off she be like okay call me when u get home! im like wtf why would i want to call u? if i had something to say i woulda jus said it when i was with you. I'm not a phone guy i hate talking to anyone on the phone and she would get mad at me for having nothing to say. Also she really had nothing interesting to talk about since she doesn't have many hobbies or interests.
eventually i got my way or she stopped trying and we havn't had a real conversation over the phone for about a year now ;P
It doesn't mean i don't love her we are both happy together
HOW DID YOU DO IT???? Luckily she really doesn't try to call me that much except every fucking night when we had been texting all day.... I know what you did today already! Then bam, bullshit nonsense about some trip she already told me about 5 times.. Oh kristine you trouble me!!
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haha i duno i think it just passed with time, at the beginning of relationships girls want to talk on the phone every second. Its hard if you get into a routine of always talking for a long time every night too. If thats the case you have to break it. Try telling her you will call her before bed just to say goodnight or w/e.
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