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On January 31 2010 20:24 RANDOMCL wrote: Look at me! Look at me! I always understood the blog forum to kind of serve as... well, not this. Anyway, congratulations on being you. lol, i'm not quite sure what your problem is. i strongly believe that my blog has more substance than 95% of all TL blogs. would you rather read more blogs with minimal content?[/QUOTE] I think the point is that there are so many non-blog, low content threads in the blog section that reading a real blog for once feels surprising. Nice read, btw.
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On February 01 2010 06:32 Too_MuchZerg wrote:Show nested quote +On February 01 2010 05:15 LosingID8 wrote:due to the nature of my parents' jobs, they only money they'll receive is minimal social security (probably around $500/month?). there are no retirement plans for pastors in the korean church, and my mom is a part-time telephone interpreter, which comes with no retirement benefits, as well.
with my sister and i each giving them $1000 a month and their $500 from the federal government, they'll be able to live a comfortable lifestyle that they were never able to experience before.
also, like someone said, $12,000 isn't much for a podiatrist to spend. the average pod salary is well over $100,000. the choice isn't "should I spend money on my parents or my children". i can do both! Well its not choice its decision. Don't pay $1000 but rather let them live your place if you need to help your parents (with your big salary just get big house) providing food and such. This way your parents can save up money if they need something like holiday. Someway they can still participate some choirs like making food for whole family (feeling like they are still helping you, human nature). I mean problem is that A) your parents starts greedy and wants more (they can shout on you and such because they know they will get money anyways) B) Your parents gets to be "yes" parents that agree everything to get money from you (perhaps little uncorfortable around you and hesitated to visit your place) C) they get uber lazy and wont do anything because they get money anyways.
I wonder in what house you grew up? You really tell him to not support his parents with money because they will become lazy abusing slackers?
@LosingID8
you are a great guy and your parents could be proud to have you. It´s ment to be like this. Your parents took care of you until now to make you what you are. Now when your parents are in need of help you do your best to help out like they do now with your grandparents. I am just sry for your father that their plans did not always work out as planned and hope your´s will go fine :D
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Inspirational... it means alot to read that.
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Money's a bitch. I don't think I even care enough to work my ass off for more of it, c'est la vie.
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Nice blog, nice guy.
I hate to do this because I always do but if I were to remove all references to race reading this blog (and remove me knowing you) I'd STILL know this is an asian writing a blog.
Over emphasis on gpa and class standing. Huge emphasis on family income and overall finances. Promise to support parents with future monthly salary from giant doctorate salary (both kids). Insecurity with other kids getting to spend money etc..
Just a funny note on cultural differences and stereotypes that are based on fairly true generalizations.
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On February 02 2010 20:13 {88}iNcontroL wrote: Nice blog, nice guy.
I hate to do this because I always do but if I were to remove all references to race reading this blog (and remove me knowing you) I'd STILL know this is an asian writing a blog.
Over emphasis on gpa and class standing. Huge emphasis on family income and overall finances. Promise to support parents with future monthly salary from giant doctorate salary (both kids). Insecurity with other kids getting to spend money etc..
Just a funny note on cultural differences and stereotypes that are based on fairly true generalizations.
Yeah. I didn't even realize most of these concepts existed until college (lower middle class white guy).
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Most of my peers in my IB classes were from well-off families, and could afford (what felt to me like) these luxuries.
the only person i can think of that fits this profile is ellen. i'm sure there were others, but i don't know anybody else from your class. OMGOMG HOW DO I KNOW THIS???? WHO AM I????
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On March 04 2010 17:54 intoyourrainbOW wrote:Show nested quote +Most of my peers in my IB classes were from well-off families, and could afford (what felt to me like) these luxuries. the only person i can think of that fits this profile is ellen. i'm sure there were others, but i don't know anybody else from your class. OMGOMG HOW DO I KNOW THIS???? WHO AM I???? david kim cr '04, columbia '08
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완전 감동적이었음 Best of luck in all you do <3 I wish more kids could hold the same mindset as you.
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One thing that has remained constant is that my family has always been happy together. Looking back, even though we didn’t have much, I can’t recall ever being truly unhappy or unsatisfied with what we had. I’ve been fortunate to always have a safe place to sleep at night, food to eat, opportunities to gain further education, and most importantly a loving family. I think an important thing to remember is that although money can definitely make things more comfortable, it alone won't bring happiness or joy into your life.
I always believe in food on the table over fancy chairs and homes. Smaller houses bring people closer together...for the better.
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On March 04 2010 18:04 LosingID8 wrote:Show nested quote +On March 04 2010 17:54 intoyourrainbOW wrote:Most of my peers in my IB classes were from well-off families, and could afford (what felt to me like) these luxuries. the only person i can think of that fits this profile is ellen. i'm sure there were others, but i don't know anybody else from your class. OMGOMG HOW DO I KNOW THIS???? WHO AM I???? david kim cr '04, columbia '08
NOOOOOOO how do you know? Haha sup dude.
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It always gets me kind of down to hear about the hardships that a society like America can put people through. Because although many countries are poorer, people there often sound like they have a more stable life with healty priorities, whereas in the USA, without basic welfare, many people a forced to needlessly focus on superficial things such as grades and carreer as a very young ago, not to mention a terrible social system in schools, where it seems that social status is often put ahead of real relationships with other people.
I must say you have made it quite well so far, surviving and managing decently despite the circumstances. I myself have turned into a bit of a lazy fucker, but of course, if forced, I might end up with three jobs as well. I hope you haven't been marked too much by your constant focus on survival, and that you will be able to leave that behind you once you get a stable job. I must admit that your parents' care for you grandparens is quite admirable, although at the same time it appears wrong to me - I personally would insist on living my own life, and don't think I would be able to give it up to support my parents. Then again, I have never been much about family, and some people are happy to stay within these confines for most of their life, whereas bringing new people into the equation is more life-confirming to me.
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On March 05 2010 00:08 intoyourrainbOW wrote:Show nested quote +On March 04 2010 18:04 LosingID8 wrote:On March 04 2010 17:54 intoyourrainbOW wrote:Most of my peers in my IB classes were from well-off families, and could afford (what felt to me like) these luxuries. the only person i can think of that fits this profile is ellen. i'm sure there were others, but i don't know anybody else from your class. OMGOMG HOW DO I KNOW THIS???? WHO AM I???? david kim cr '04, columbia '08 NOOOOOOO how do you know? Haha sup dude. lol as staff i can see your email address that you signed up with.
whats up yo
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On January 31 2010 20:20 LosingID8 wrote: Although this blog mentions finances a lot, I don’t care about being rich. I just want to be able to live comfortably so that I don’t have to worry about living from paycheck to paycheck, or not being able to provide for my family. ... I think an important thing to remember is that although money can definitely make things more comfortable, it alone won't bring happiness or joy into your life.
I wish a lot more people thought this way. I feel the exact same way, I'm quite a minimalist. I respect that kind of thinking a lot. I had almost the same upbringing, although my dad is a single parent and really struggled to provide for 3 children. I know I'm going to have a considerable amount of debt out of university and probably no job prospects, but I'm doing what I want to do and I feel great about it. I recently switched from economics to physics/astronomy. I know my GPA won't be good enough due to the incredible difficulty of the subject, so I probably won't be going to graduate schools or anything, but I love what I'm learning and that's fine with me.
Anyways, nice write-up and everything.
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I like the solidarity in your family. I can't depend on anyone in my family without feeling ashamed and guilty. That is probably my own personal problem though. I feel envious of the idea of just being welcome.
Mh funny, my parents give me all the financial support I could possibly need and I honestly can't remember the last time I was happy. For a lot of people happiness is doing things for others and feeling wanted and useful. Possessions and financial security only make you sad in comfort.
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makes my life seem so bad haha you're like one of those asians my parents tell me to emulate. good job though, really inspiring. i really like your determination.
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