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so i've decided since reading the Penis Blog, which in turn lead me to re-read the Which way do you REALLY curve? thread, that i should challenge myself to not talking about guys or my attraction to them, for a whole month on tl.net. This will also include any participation in hetoresexuality discussions since hetero sex usually involves a hot guy having sex. no talk about sex, period. SEXUALITY.
I have no idea what to expect; what it's gonna be like. While my personality offline is definitely more diverse (i do discuss things that have nothing to do with sex.), i definitely talk about sex/sexuality more than anyone i know. In fact, i think it's a given with almost anyone who knows me that sex will inevitably enter the topic of conversation. This goes for family, friends, co-workers, etc. That's not to say that i push the topic on people - I always refrain from discussing sex around people who either do not find it interesting or do not find my kind of humour funny - however, i seem to just pull out this easiness in people; i can't remember ever having to censor my conversations. Topics that are commonly taboo (or at least uncomfortable) for straight guys/straight women to be open about - such as using a dildo - suddenly becomes an open act of normalcy, or an act that everyone can laugh at together. Nothing is taboo and everyone loves sex (even if they don't know it. exception maybe being Moltke).
in-forum if someone asks me about sex or sexuality, i will simply refer them to this thread. there is no excuse to betray the tenants if this challenge. !
In anycase, so what topics await me?
Infact, i'm going to limit my posts even further. Since the past year or 2 i typically only make one other type of post other than one about sex, and that's usually to laugh at someone, or indiractly (errrr, or directly) call them stupid. I won't do this either. I should try to actually be a contributing member of tl.net.
I have to admit that i'm making this challenge at somewhat of a rigged timing. I'm homeless in 3 days from now (well, homeless as in i won't have my own apartment), as i gave my notice july.31, have not found a place to live, and will be couch surfing until the end of september. My access to TL.net should be somewhat limited. However, if i don't post at least 7 times a week the challenge will re-start from the week that i failed (disqualifying any and all weeks where i succeeded before hand). i know folks, this is gonna be tough.
Wish me luck, i know i'll need it. I don't even know if this is possible.
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Your gay humor is funny though. Especially the "Climbing Poles" post you made recently, that was a chuckle.
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United States7488 Posts
do you still want me to call?
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I don't understand your obsession with talking about sexuality, I think heterosexual members talk less about their sexuality than you do (especially out of context). But then again that might just be your personality, in which case this would probably be difficult. Good luck!
This is kind of pointless in a sense, because if you don't want to change or whatever, are you just doing it for the relatively pointless challenge?
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i imagine having an event like this to think about will help with some of the escapism of the internet during a particularly nasty time... homeless =/
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Stockholm4640 Posts
Oh, I thought there would be a challenge from you.
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On August 30 2008 04:56 fanatacist wrote:
This is kind of pointless in a sense, because if you don't want to change or whatever, are you just doing it for the relatively pointless challenge?
i absolutely do not want to change! i just think such a challenge with be fun. And maybe by exploring other aspects of my personality online will show me that i actually like sharing those aspects online (where they are typically only limited to in-person.) I used to talk about other things with my bnet friends, but i don't log on Starcraft anymore.
When i used to post at tl.net like 5+ years ago i would make alot of posts that had nothing to do with sex (i think? maybe i'm fooling myself). The older i got the more cynical i became about forum content. Taking anything seriously on a forum lost its novelty for me, and so i only post for humour. I appreciate good posters who contribute to this fourm though, and i don't think i've been one of those for a long time.
It will be fun regardless!
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On August 30 2008 05:04 DukE wrote:
i imagine having an event like this to think about will help with some of the escapism of the internet during a particularly nasty time... homeless =/
nonono not nasty!
The thought of going into everyone's home and being a part of how they live and who they are in their own space is actually quite intriguing for me. This opportunity will allow me to enter the personal space of people that i would never really otherwise have an opportunity to do so. I love people and i love learning about people - i've had tons of offers to crash at co-workers places' and i'm excited to take up some of the offers.
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im curious about the way you handle your sexuality, like for example when you like someone how do you approach to them, make them your bf etc. because im pretty sure it isnt the same way you would find a gf.
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On August 30 2008 05:16 RtS)Night[Mare wrote:
im curious about the way you handle your sexuality, like for example when you like someone how do you approach to them, make them your bf etc. because im pretty sure it isnt the same way you would find a gf.
are you purposely trying to make me restart my challenge!? >8(!
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Calgary25951 Posts
I am ashamed that you took a cheap shot at Moltke!
I'm moreso surprised that you've given your notice. I guess we don't talk much anymore so it's not that surprising!
Hope all is well.
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So, are you attracted to the same type of men that women find attractive like george clooney or brad pitt or you're looking for different kind of traits?
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United Arab Emirates5090 Posts
lol ok but just so you know i've never minded your gay jokes or anything at all. good luck with the challenge!
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I dont know why you think straight people dont feel confortable talking about dildos. You must know a lot of up tight people. Dildo talk is ok with me. Most of my female friends are open about dildo usage. Lots of girls even go to "dildo parties". For those of you who dont know what that is, its when a bunch of girls go over to someone's else and a dildo saleswoman comes by and they get drunk and look/laugh at all the different types of dildos, then order the ones they want.
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On August 30 2008 05:38 SchOOl_VicTIm wrote:
So, are you attracted to the same type of men that women find attractive like george clooney or brad pitt or you're looking for different kind of traits?
Now THIS is a guy trying to make you restart your challenge. :<
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I don't know if I should start teasing you with sex-related posts, or just let you be..oh~~
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Netherlands6142 Posts
Wait... why are you doing this again?
You mentioned somewhere it should be fun... and I can't quite see that. You stop doing what you normally do? I mean.. I could try and NOT touch my guitar for a month which would definitely be a challenge but it would also be pointless and far away from fun, Maybe it'd confirm to me a sense of disciplinedness (?) but it wouldn't be worth it.
I don't know you too well but reading through this topic I'm thinking you're going from blatantly talking about sex to blatantly not talking about sex
+ Show Spoiler +i.e. attention whore (no offence)
Am I wrong?
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On August 30 2008 07:53 Mastermind wrote:
I dont know why you think straight people dont feel confortable talking about dildos. You must know a lot of up tight people. Dildo talk is ok with me. Most of my female friends are open about dildo usage. Lots of girls even go to "dildo parties". For those of you who dont know what that is, its when a bunch of girls go over to someone's else and a dildo saleswoman comes by and they get drunk and look/laugh at all the different types of dildos, then order the ones they want.
My statement wasn't so much trying to say that straight people aren't open with sexuality, but more so that you will see it much more often in heterosexual communities than homosexual ones.
I can give a better explanation as to what i mean when my challenge is over. i tried 3 times to explain it in a non-graphic way and i failed every time. lol
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On August 30 2008 08:21 Pholon wrote:Wait... why are you doing this again? You mentioned somewhere it should be fun... and I can't quite see that. You stop doing what you normally do? I mean.. I could try and NOT touch my guitar for a month which would definitely be a challenge but it would also be pointless and far away from fun, Maybe it'd confirm to me a sense of disciplinedness (?) but it wouldn't be worth it. I don't know you too well but reading through this topic I'm thinking you're going from blatantly talking about sex to blatantly not talking about sex + Show Spoiler +i.e. attention whore (no offence) Am I wrong?
i talk about sex because talking about sex is fun, and usually others (though obviously not everyone) find it fun as well. it's always on my mind, and has always been a large topic of conversation with me since i've been about 10 years old.
It's been mentioned that that is all i talk about - and i believe this to be correct. I thought it would be fun to try to refrain from being my usual self, and thought that it might be fun for others if i shared this escapade with them.
Can you define attention whore for me?
According to the first 3 definitions of Ubran Dictionary i do not fit that descrption.
1) will do anything to be the center of attention
i don't do anything, i just talk about sexuality.
2) a girl who shows her pictures on internet forums.
i'm not a girl and i don't often show pictures of myself. that being said, if i was a girl, i most definitely would.
3) someone who does any two or more of the following:
i) is uncomfortable in situations in which he or she is not the center of attention
ii) interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior
iii) displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions
iv) consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to self
v) has a style of speech that is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail
vi) shows self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion
vii) is suggestible, i.e., easily influenced by others or circumstances
viii) considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are.
the only two which i could be considered guilty of would be #2, but i assure you, my grabbing another dude's ass is all about about me grabbing their ass and none about the attention i get from it; and #4, i do this but usually only around my closest friends and only when i know they are already attracted to me.
That all being said, i love attention, and have no qualms about people thinking i am an attention whore.
edit - *all of my real life friends would describe me as being an attention whore. not trying to imply otherwise.
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