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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
B.I.G.
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evilfatsh1t
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in korean culture once youre in a relationship, its very common to see 2 partners make each other "central", to the point of almost neglecting other friendships. definitely not exclusive to girls in korea | ||
bloodwhore~
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It is kinda sad though, not that he has found someone who he loves but that once his relationship falls apart, I'm not sure he will have that many close friends anymore. | ||
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bloodwhore~
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On August 22 2017 02:05 sc-darkness wrote: What if his relationship doesn't fall apart though? I know what you mean, it's a bit stupid to be obsessed with one person only to the point of ignoring everyone else. I don't say it to be rude, I'm just not a utopian. I don't believe it is probable that the first person you have sex with and get into a relationship will be the final partner in life, given that you reach old age. I doubt my first girlfriend will be my last girlfriend. Even if it doesn't fall apart it is still bad. He won't be in the honeymoon phase forever and he will want to have close friends, and his best friend who is one of my closest friends seem to never see him anymore. | ||
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Ghostcom
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https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702304620304575166090090482912 I think it is some of this you have observed. | ||
evilfatsh1t
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On August 22 2017 18:54 B.I.G. wrote: I explained wrong. Obviously there are a lot of couples who disappear off the face of the earth when they get together but what I meant was that also very commonly you will see that the guy's social circle is still very much intact while the girl's circle more and more starts to be about her boyfriend's circle. for me personally, its been the other way around. my social circle mainly consists of my high school friends from australia but my girlfriends have been born and raised koreans. they dont particularly mix too well whereas i mix with koreans and australians perfectly, so it was me joining my girlfriends circle more. for my high school friends though, i think your observation holds true for them. | ||
zaMNal
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PS: She can handle a horror movie | ||
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Artisreal
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If you choose a good movie or even just an entertaining or funny one you're good to go in my book. Maybe even go for something you really like, in a sense that you want to share something important. Night on Earth by Jim Jarmusch for example. Fantastic movie, but something with a little depth, that's not for everyone. I watched it with my gf early in our relationship, because I had a feeling she'd appreciate his work. If she likes horror though and you do too. Fancy! The Babadook comes to mind as scary as hell. | ||
Dark_Chill
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But yeah, just pick a good movie that you know you'll both like. | ||
bloodwhore~
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On August 27 2017 06:45 Artisreal wrote: To me this horror talk sounds so incredibly cliche. Like yawning to put your arm around someone. Yeah a bit cliché perhaps. However, if you're not used to pulling any "moves" then it might be easier if you have some bullshit reason to do it. | ||
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B.I.G.
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I have observed what is in my opinion a strong correlation between sexual activity, the acceptence of it, and the population size of the place where you live/operate (so lets say the place where you rest your head and have your social life). The population of places I lived (in order) was 1.000->100.000->1.000.000->6.000.000->20.000.000+. In each the "norm" for sexual partners was very different, going from 5-10 to 50-100 being normal or at least common. The people in this group are all ones that make at least a bit of an effort. Did you guys see the same or are there more factors at play? | ||
evilfatsh1t
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mahrgell
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Women asked answered an average of 5. Men answered an average of 10. And yes, the study also talked about the reasons of why people lie about their number of sexual partners as can be easily seen from those numbers. And lol at 50-100 average. No, not even in the most slothful student/party city. You can now try to figure out if it is your perception or the circles you are moving in. And no, it is not the city size. | ||
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