Yeah for real. You don't have to be a dick about it (not saying thats what you were implying), but if you know what you want, you shouldn't let them stop you.

pyrogenetix

United Arab Emirates5090 Posts

February 14 2012 04:34 GMT

#24

Can't really say without knowing your situation... but it is the high road.

And she is beautiful. Congrats and good luck.

Jestalt

United States28 Posts

February 14 2012 04:41 GMT

#25

Your girlfriend is absurdly pretty. YOU LUCKY BASTARD.

GinDo

3327 Posts

February 14 2012 05:08 GMT

#26

Ask for his permission. If he says yes, you have his respect. If he says no, ask him why(respectfully), and what would change his mind. If he is reasonable, then follow through with his request. If he is not, well that's up to you on what you do next.

But, as a sign of respect, you should talk to him about it. Or, at least that's the way Latinos do it.

Silentness

United States2821 Posts

February 14 2012 05:26 GMT

#27

On February 14 2012 11:20 Beavo wrote:
Your little Beavo is going to propose to my long term girl friend. Somehow I have tricked a lovely girl like her into loving me. Even mean old beavo has a heart who knew. Starcraft 2 fan, anime fan, cosplay fan loves all RPGs and every other lovely quality you could possibly think of. I think she is pretty much perfect.

Shes berry beautiful :D

But I had a question, I am generally very old school and romantic, but do people still ask a fathers permission to marry his daughter? I have not heard of any one doing this in a long time, what is your take on this?

Frankly her dad scares the shit out of me

Umm people still ask their father. Least I did...

My wife wanted me to dress in full service dress (Air Force) to meet her father. First of all I was a bit worried because I'm black and she/her father are both Korean, but he was cool as fuck. We drunk soju together and ate chicken ass (literally chicken butt). I guess it just depends on how cool her dad is. My wife's dad was the last person I met before I got "permission" to marry.

Both her parents love me though. Which is pretty cool. Her dad even tries really hard to speak English to me. I feel like an ass because I should be trying really hard to speak Korean to him, but that language is so hard if you don't give it effort.

Probulous

Australia3894 Posts

February 14 2012 06:01 GMT

#28

I think it is better to "ask" because if you can't handle daddy now then marriage is going to be difficult. I can't cause my lady's parents live in a different country but if they were nearer I would definitely ask them first. It is about recognising that they play a huge part in who she is and so by marrying her you are joining into that. You want the parents to be part of your marriage, asking them first is a small thing that can make all the difference.

Jacobine

United States174 Posts

February 14 2012 06:10 GMT

#29

It depends how much you want her dad to hate you. Ask for permission. I have a little girl and if the boy didn't ask I'd fucking kill his ass, so be respectful of the man who raised her (this is assuming that the dad isn't a complete asshole who never was there in her life).

MightyAtom

Korea (South)1897 Posts

February 14 2012 09:24 GMT

#30

I don't think there are no negatives to asking, plus, it just is the right thing to do! Congrats!

Beavo

Canada293 Posts

February 14 2012 13:32 GMT

#31

Thanks for the input . I will do it, TL has never let me down before

UltimateHurl

Ireland591 Posts

February 14 2012 15:55 GMT

#32

Good luck man, as has been said I would ask the dad, sure it'll go ok.

netherh

United Kingdom333 Posts

February 14 2012 17:47 GMT

#33

I suggest asking the lady in question for permission to ask her father for permission to marry her.

Also relevant:

zalz

Netherlands3704 Posts

February 14 2012 18:07 GMT

#34

Asking the father just feels so medieval to me.

Unless you need to discuss dowry with him, I don't see the purpose.

Then again, I suppose the father might consider it a nice gesture.

Personally, I think it's really creepy and hope the concept dies out. It is already a formality (because even if he says no, you would go on) but I hope the remainder of the concept is killed off soon enough.

keiraknightlee

United States301 Posts

February 14 2012 18:10 GMT

#35

dont ask her parents cmon dude, thats such an asian thing to do lmao
be a rebel and kidnap their daughter like a boss

QuanticHawk

United States32024 Posts

February 14 2012 18:31 GMT

#36

No negatives in asking, and it gets you brownie points with pops for when he gets mad at you down the line and thinks about murdering you! Unless you have a bad or non existent relationship with him, might as well. Even if it was a weird relationship, it would still be a nice gesture

Congrats though, hi5!

sam!zdat

United States5559 Posts

February 14 2012 18:43 GMT

#37

On February 15 2012 03:07 zalz wrote:
Asking the father just feels so medieval to me.

Unless you need to discuss dowry with him, I don't see the purpose.

HAHAHA yeah dude, don't ask her dad, she will hate you.

Chill

Calgary25951 Posts

February 14 2012 18:59 GMT

#38

You can really see the <18 year old versus the >18 year old people in this thread.

Asking for permission is just a respectful thing to do. If you have any sense you should know he will already say yes and be happy for you. If he says no, well you can get married anyway and you're no worse off.

To the people saying "Just tell him, don't ask": Come on bro. When you ask "Can I have a Coke?" the meaning is still "I'm having a Coke" but it's just a respectful way to say it. The meaning is still "I'm marrying your daughter" but it's done in a respectful way. The point is to humble yourself and show her family you value their input, even if you don't give a shit. You'll probably have a heart to heart smoking cigars while sipping on whiskey while he gives you a bro pat on the shoulder. +100 family points.

Anyways, when I get engaged I'll 100% ask the father.

bonifaceviii

Canada2890 Posts

February 14 2012 19:26 GMT

#39

I'd be more concerned about asking permission to post pictures of her on the internet than asking her to marry you.

That said, I asked my fiancee's mom before I did it.

Terranasaur

United States2085 Posts

February 14 2012 19:52 GMT

#40

Congratulations Man! Pretty damn exciting, and she is a babe as well. Good for you! As a recently married man myself, I wish you the best of luck.

On the subject of asking Fathers, I think you should do it. It is a huge sign of respect and he will have more respect for you if you have the balls to talk to him about it. Especially if you want to continue to have a relationship with her family, talking to the Dad is something you should totally do. It just puts you in a good position. You don't even have to make that big of a deal about it, you just sit him down man to man, explain that you love his daughter, that you want to be with her for the rest of your life and that you will always protect and take care of her and that you want him on board. He'll appreciate the gesture and you will gain a new friend that is older, wiser, and most likely in a position to help you out in the future.

Be a man.

PS. Congrats again man.