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Beavo
Canada293 Posts
![[image loading]](http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e163/beavo69/431635_10150572317414732_502989731_8685655_1686792535_n.jpg) ![[image loading]](http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e163/beavo69/327183_10150441647779732_502989731_8265432_1640798652_o.jpg) ![[image loading]](http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e163/beavo69/322400_10150341262559732_502989731_7858593_61580850_o.jpg) Shes berry beautiful :D But I had a question, I am generally very old school and romantic, but do people still ask a fathers permission to marry his daughter? I have not heard of any one doing this in a long time, what is your take on this? Frankly her dad scares the shit out of me    | ||
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ExceeD_DreaM
Canada500 Posts
About asking parents... I thought it was just Asian cultures who do that... but I guess its in western culture too? Meet the Fockers come to my mind... lol. I don't think you need to, nowadays, i see people propose to the future spouse and thats about it. Anyway, good luck! | ||
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Dalguno
United States2446 Posts
Cute girl btw  | ||
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klmklm17
Canada85 Posts
I think its a good gesture that shows you care about approval and want to fit into the family. Maybe the father doesnt care about it but if he does and you dont ask..well thats just one more thing you might not want to deal with in the future | ||
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Mobius_1
United Kingdom2763 Posts
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Spicy_Curry
United States10573 Posts
gl teamliquid is behind you 100% | ||
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EatThePath
United States3943 Posts
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Iranon
United States983 Posts
Don't think of it as "sir may I please have permission to marry your daughter ohgodohgoddontkillme", just take the dude out to lunch one afternoon and chat about life. If he's going to be your father-in-law, you might as well get to know him on the level of two adults who both like the girl in question a whole lot. gl hf. | ||
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Gofarman
Canada646 Posts
Yeah so idk what your Wife-to-be's relationship (with her father) is but manning up and asking the dad is never a bad idea. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45002 Posts
I don't see the need to ask for permission... But that being said, wow she's beautiful Well done, my friend | ||
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Pawsom
United States928 Posts
On February 14 2012 11:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: If her dad says No, would you not ask her? Shouldn't make a difference. I don't see the need to ask for permission... But that being said, wow she's beautiful Well done, my friend It's about respect, and getting an idea of how your father in law to be may percieve you. If he says no, he must have a damn good reason, which he will share with you. Maybe you can clear it up or later decide its worth it to ask w/o the fathers permission. | ||
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Roe
Canada6002 Posts
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Beavo
Canada293 Posts
On February 14 2012 11:55 Roe wrote: i thought i saw that berry shirt girl in another blog in the gf thread maybe? | ||
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kerpal
United Kingdom2695 Posts
anyhow, i didn't ask, and i kind of wish i had if that's helpful. | ||
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RBKeys
Canada196 Posts
On February 14 2012 11:55 Roe wrote: i thought i saw that berry shirt girl in another blog Definitely in the gf thread. Question: you guys aren't in Calgary are you? She looks like someone I used to see around my school. Congrats by the way! | ||
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Roe
Canada6002 Posts
oh yeah, that's where that shirt's cute | ||
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Funnytoss
Taiwan1471 Posts
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berated-
United States1134 Posts
Recently having my first kid though, I think the answer is even more of a yes to do so. When my daughter is old enough to get married, I would hope that my future son in law asks me. It all still comes down to what you are comfortable with though. Regardless, good luck and congratulations. It's such an awesome journey. | ||
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WaveofShadow
Canada31495 Posts
Not sure if my case is typical though because everyone knew it was coming, including her dad, who absolutely loves me and gives me free computer shit constantly. I would recommend i though, definitely the classy way to go as many before me have already said. | ||
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Deleted User 135096
3624 Posts
On February 14 2012 11:40 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: If her dad says No, would you not ask her? Shouldn't make a difference. I don't see the need to ask for permission... But that being said, wow she's beautiful Well done, my friend Pretty much this. In today's environment I would consider asking her dad a respectful courtesy that you are showing towards him, but definitely not necessary. Asking for actual 'permission' in this day and age just seems really odd to me. | ||
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defnotGeorge
United States80 Posts
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Bigtony
United States1606 Posts
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tw!tch
United States563 Posts
On February 14 2012 12:41 Bigtony wrote: I would tell, not ask her parents. Yeah for real. You don't have to be a dick about it (not saying thats what you were implying), but if you know what you want, you shouldn't let them stop you. | ||
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pyrogenetix
China5098 Posts
And she is beautiful. Congrats and good luck. | ||
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Jestalt
United States28 Posts
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GinDo
3327 Posts
But, as a sign of respect, you should talk to him about it. Or, at least that's the way Latinos do it. | ||
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Silentness
United States2821 Posts
On February 14 2012 11:20 Beavo wrote: Your little Beavo is going to propose to my long term girl friend. Somehow I have tricked a lovely girl like her into loving me. Even mean old beavo has a heart who knew. Starcraft 2 fan, anime fan, cosplay fan loves all RPGs and every other lovely quality you could possibly think of. I think she is pretty much perfect. Shes berry beautiful :D But I had a question, I am generally very old school and romantic, but do people still ask a fathers permission to marry his daughter? I have not heard of any one doing this in a long time, what is your take on this? Frankly her dad scares the shit out of me Umm people still ask their father. Least I did... My wife wanted me to dress in full service dress (Air Force) to meet her father. First of all I was a bit worried because I'm black and she/her father are both Korean, but he was cool as fuck. We drunk soju together and ate chicken ass (literally chicken butt). I guess it just depends on how cool her dad is. My wife's dad was the last person I met before I got "permission" to marry. Both her parents love me though. Which is pretty cool. Her dad even tries really hard to speak English to me. I feel like an ass because I should be trying really hard to speak Korean to him, but that language is so hard if you don't give it effort.  | ||
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Probulous
Australia3894 Posts
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Jacobine
United States174 Posts
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
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Beavo
Canada293 Posts
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UltimateHurl
Ireland591 Posts
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netherh
United Kingdom333 Posts
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zalz
Netherlands3704 Posts
Unless you need to discuss dowry with him, I don't see the purpose. Then again, I suppose the father might consider it a nice gesture. Personally, I think it's really creepy and hope the concept dies out. It is already a formality (because even if he says no, you would go on) but I hope the remainder of the concept is killed off soon enough. | ||
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keiraknightlee
United States301 Posts
be a rebel and kidnap their daughter like a boss | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32083 Posts
Congrats though, hi5! | ||
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
On February 15 2012 03:07 zalz wrote: Asking the father just feels so medieval to me. Unless you need to discuss dowry with him, I don't see the purpose. HAHAHA yeah dude, don't ask her dad, she will hate you. | ||
Chill
Calgary25987 Posts
Asking for permission is just a respectful thing to do. If you have any sense you should know he will already say yes and be happy for you. If he says no, well you can get married anyway and you're no worse off. To the people saying "Just tell him, don't ask": Come on bro. When you ask "Can I have a Coke?" the meaning is still "I'm having a Coke" but it's just a respectful way to say it. The meaning is still "I'm marrying your daughter" but it's done in a respectful way. The point is to humble yourself and show her family you value their input, even if you don't give a shit. You'll probably have a heart to heart smoking cigars while sipping on whiskey while he gives you a bro pat on the shoulder. +100 family points. Anyways, when I get engaged I'll 100% ask the father. | ||
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bonifaceviii
Canada2890 Posts
That said, I asked my fiancee's mom before I did it. | ||
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Terranasaur
United States2085 Posts
On the subject of asking Fathers, I think you should do it. It is a huge sign of respect and he will have more respect for you if you have the balls to talk to him about it. Especially if you want to continue to have a relationship with her family, talking to the Dad is something you should totally do. It just puts you in a good position. You don't even have to make that big of a deal about it, you just sit him down man to man, explain that you love his daughter, that you want to be with her for the rest of your life and that you will always protect and take care of her and that you want him on board. He'll appreciate the gesture and you will gain a new friend that is older, wiser, and most likely in a position to help you out in the future. Be a man. PS. Congrats again man. | ||
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Leafs
Canada41 Posts
On February 15 2012 03:59 Chill wrote: You can really see the <18 year old versus the >18 year old people in this thread. Asking for permission is just a respectful thing to do. This. When I did it, it was somewhat of an awkward thing to bring up, but its just a load off your shoulders. Just do it. Her dad will respect you more for it rather than just finding out you got engaged. My fiance was thrilled when she found out that I asked her dad first. It's the little details! | ||
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Beavo
Canada293 Posts
She said yes btw :D ![[image loading]](http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e163/beavo69/2012-02-18143021.jpg) ![[image loading]](http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e163/beavo69/2012-02-18195400.jpg) ![[image loading]](http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e163/beavo69/2012-02-18195343.jpg) | ||
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Terranasaur
United States2085 Posts
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Endymion
United States3701 Posts
oh you already did it and it worked =] good job and congrats! | ||
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Silentness
United States2821 Posts
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