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AsmodeusXI
United States15536 Posts
On November 07 2013 10:43 WaveofShadow wrote: This thread is the worst sometimes. Why do I bother catching up for this? -------------------- Don't act like you don't love us. | ||
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WaveofShadow
Canada31495 Posts
On November 07 2013 07:19 Cixah wrote: Not top 50.  Also LOL I was gonna post but you found it first. You're slackin' Cixah. When Blizz changes the ranking system to actually matter somehow you'd best be up thar. On November 07 2013 09:06 Lord Tolkien wrote: I feel this is the beginning of TLCatan. Crap. What hath Cheep wroth. I would get in on this. | ||
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WaveofShadow
Canada31495 Posts
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caelym
United States6421 Posts
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WaveofShadow
Canada31495 Posts
On November 07 2013 10:59 caelym wrote: personal blog time: why is it so hard to befriend new people outside of gaming? I legitimately tried to expand socially and meet non-nerds and have had no success at all. For example, I went to an art gallery opening earlier tonight and tried to make small talk and initiate conversation with 5 people within a span of 30 minutes. The conversation was polite but there's literally no connection or empathy at all and so I move on after about 4 minutes before things get uncomfortable or awkward. It's not that I don't like hanging with gamers and nerds, but it doesn't feel right to have only gamer friends and sometimes it's nice to talk about non-gaming shit. Another big problem is that you meet no (available) girls by sticking with only your gaming hobby. Adult life is hard. I think in general it's simply awkward to try and strike up a conversation with a strange person in a strange place, where neither you or the stranger has any obligation to continue visiting. Some people do have success with this, but I know personally I wouldn't even really attempt it. Don't think I'd even see a point. IF you want to make new friends I'd say find something that you can do on a weekly basis or at least with some regularity so you can become familiar with the location and its patrons, and they can become familiar with you. Much easier to find something in common, relate, and make friends that way. | ||
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caelym
United States6421 Posts
On November 07 2013 11:05 WaveofShadow wrote: I think in general it's simply awkward to try and strike up a conversation with a strange person in a strange place, where neither you or the stranger has any obligation to continue visiting. Some people do have success with this, but I know personally I wouldn't even really attempt it. Don't think I'd even see a point. IF you want to make new friends I'd say find something that you can do on a weekly basis or at least with some regularity so you can become familiar with the location and its patrons, and they can become familiar with you. Much easier to find something in common, relate, and make friends that way. see, magic events like fnm are really good for this. but finding a regular, repeating non-gaming hobby is hard :/ | ||
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wei2coolman
United States60033 Posts
On November 07 2013 10:59 caelym wrote: personal blog time: why is it so hard to befriend new people outside of gaming? I legitimately tried to expand socially and meet non-nerds and have had no success at all. For example, I went to an art gallery opening earlier tonight and tried to make small talk and initiate conversation with 5 people within a span of 30 minutes. The conversation was polite but there's literally no connection or empathy at all and so I move on after about 4 minutes before things get uncomfortable or awkward. It's not that I don't like hanging with gamers and nerds, but it doesn't feel right to have only gamer friends and sometimes it's nice to talk about non-gaming shit. Another big problem is that you meet no (available) girls by sticking with only your gaming hobby. Adult life is hard. Because you're Asian. Art Gallery, please. We all know Asians doesn't have a creative bone in them. | ||
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WaveofShadow
Canada31495 Posts
On November 07 2013 11:10 caelym wrote: see, magic events like fnm are really good for this. but finding a regular, repeating non-gaming hobby is hard :/ Take up a sport. Something YOU will find fun. Before I had...physical issues, I played dodgeball for a while, met some amazing people. I was shit at it, but I had fun and the people were really nice. | ||
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Cixah
United States11285 Posts
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Carnivorous Sheep
Baa?21244 Posts
do you just want to met hipsters or something | ||
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caelym
United States6421 Posts
On November 07 2013 11:25 Carnivorous Sheep wrote: wait you went to an art gallery to meet people wtf do you just want to met hipsters or something didn't I post here earlier that I enjoy talking to creative folks? and there's nothing inherently wrong with hipsters. | ||
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Requizen
United States33802 Posts
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Zess
Adun Toridas!9144 Posts
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GhandiEAGLE
United States20754 Posts
On November 07 2013 11:32 caelym wrote: didn't I post here earlier that I enjoy talking to creative folks? and there's nothing inherently wrong with hipsters. I get to meet hipsters all the time. Portland is actually Hipster Capital of the World. | ||
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wei2coolman
United States60033 Posts
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ticklishmusic
United States15977 Posts
On November 07 2013 11:05 WaveofShadow wrote: I think in general it's simply awkward to try and strike up a conversation with a strange person in a strange place, where neither you or the stranger has any obligation to continue visiting. Some people do have success with this, but I know personally I wouldn't even really attempt it. Don't think I'd even see a point. IF you want to make new friends I'd say find something that you can do on a weekly basis or at least with some regularity so you can become familiar with the location and its patrons, and they can become familiar with you. Much easier to find something in common, relate, and make friends that way. So why did you go to the art gallery opening? If it as to meet people, that's fine. However, you need to be prepared to have something in common with them. The easiest one would obviously be the art. Do a little research ahead of time about what's there. Be able to make some comments about it. If you don't take this route, then you better come armed with a common conversation topic, like the elections yesterday, sports or whatever. The other day I was waiting for a friend to play ping pong in my uni's gym. I sat down next to an old guy-- I smiled, said hello, and asked how he was doing. We chatted for 20 minutes. He worked for Georgia Power, but was taking a day off to line judge for a volleyball tournament which I didn't even know about. I just took it a bit slowly, then asked one or two questions about how that was, etc. We talked about my school a bit, sports, where he lived and a few other things instead of sitting there awkwardly. I'll probably never see him again in my life, but whatever. I like you guys because we all like League and are generally entertaining, chill people. We came to TL because of video games. You wouldn't have gotten as close to people if you'd decided to just drop by bodybuilding.com (nice people there too btw) because you had nothing in common. It's the exact same in real life. Don't get me wrong, I think its great to push yourself outside of your comfort zone, but you need to be prepared for it. | ||
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Shelke14
Canada6655 Posts
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Carnivorous Sheep
Baa?21244 Posts
On November 07 2013 12:11 ticklishmusic wrote: The other day I was waiting for a friend to play ping pong in my uni's gym. I sat down next to an old guy-- I smiled, said hello, and asked how he was doing. We chatted for 20 minutes. He worked for Georgia Power, but was taking a day off to line judge for a volleyball tournament which I didn't even know about. I just took it a bit slowly, then asked one or two questions about how that was, etc. We talked about my school a bit, sports, where he lived and a few other things instead of sitting there awkwardly. I'll probably never see him again in my life, but whatever. i don't see how this is at all relevant anyone can go talk to random people with the expectation that you won't ever see each other again, caelym's trying to make friends not have random one off conversations with strangers no matter how nice those may be i suggest you should go drive a really expensive car and wear really expensive clothes and then randomly fan yourself with a wad of benjamins, people tend to flock to you when that happens | ||
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
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caelym
United States6421 Posts
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