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Zealously
East Gorteau22261 Posts
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Chairman Ray
United States11903 Posts
 If I was in your place, I wouldn't know what to tell your sister either; it's such a hard thing to do. Best of luck man. | ||
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Kingsky
Singapore298 Posts
i think its ok to cry it out... take care of yourself | ||
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FiWiFaKi
Canada9859 Posts
Good luck & RIP. | ||
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Pandain
United States12989 Posts
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slowbacontron
United States7722 Posts
crap man i'm really sorry that had to happen to you, nobody deserves that best wishes | ||
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darthfoley
United States8004 Posts
Sorry for her, her family, you and everyone else affected. RIP | ||
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Clazziquai10
Singapore1949 Posts
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teddyoojo
Germany22369 Posts
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ninazerg
United States7291 Posts
On December 09 2013 14:34 Zealously wrote: I feel like shit for being miserable when she's dead and im not, when she suffered and i didnt even know. I just hope there's no pain in whatever comes next. Honestly, the living do all the suffering, and the dead get to sleep. | ||
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JonIrenicus
Italy602 Posts
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Zealos
United Kingdom3576 Posts
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Daumen
Germany1073 Posts
Stop trying to figure out why, there is no answer. Although I know very well that its impossible to stop asking and trying to figure out why. My condolences | ||
Destructicon
4713 Posts
However you don't have to be afraid of breaking down. Its natural to feel pain for this loss, its natural to be in grief and shock, and its perfectly natural to cry. In fact, if you hold it all in, it will just make it worst. Just, let it off your chest, it won't magically make you feel better, but it will relief some of your pain. You have my sympathies and I hope you find the strength to get over it quickly. | ||
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Zealously
East Gorteau22261 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46232 Posts
My sister isnt home, she doesnt even know yet and i have to tell her, but how can i do that? I want to call someone but i dont want to break down so i don't. There is absolutely nothing wrong with breaking down or showing weakness during a tragedy like this. In fact, not only is it obviously more natural, but your sister will want to connect with you emotionally at a stage like this. Cry it out. Go full fetal position if you need to. It's far worse to be emotionless. RIP <3 | ||
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gg_hertzz
2152 Posts
"Live damnit! LIVE!" Don't forget about your friend but don't let her death take time away from you living your life. Mourn and move on. That's what she would have wanted. | ||
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c0ldfusion
United States8293 Posts
You should ideally tell your sister in person. She'll need you and you'll need her for the support. | ||
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packrat386
United States5077 Posts
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woreyour
582 Posts
So maybe you could try to live and enjoy life while it last. Always be careful as well to try to extend your life(span) but always try to enjoy (at least do that as a reason why you are living) (this works for me). I had my 18 y/o friend die too and I am sure she was a virgin. She lived life so prim and proper only being too careful and focused on her studies. And one complication caused Meningitis and ended her in 1 week. She was under observation like 3 days after she got fever and boom she was dead in a week. As we all know these things happen and it is just sad she was the one to be dying and not some criminal out there. That is why there is no god or shit. It is just life and reality. Wake up to reality and live your life the way you want it. On the death part, try to accept it, pain will be there but when you have accepted and faced it you will learn to endure pain. Be strong for your sister and tell her. Be the stronger person even when you know it hurts you. It will help her to be strong too. | ||
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ninazerg
United States7291 Posts
On December 09 2013 19:24 JonIrenicus wrote: what a miserable living you are, save these thoughts for yourself or when is the right time to complain Dude, Zealously said he felt like shit for feeling the way he did, and I was just saying it's okay to feel that way. The people who are still alive are the ones who have to deal with tragedy. | ||
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OuchyDathurts
United States4588 Posts
The hole will never be gone. I still get bittersweet thinking about my grandpa. A lot of stuff reminds me of him since we spent a lot of time together. Some of it makes me smile, some of it makes me sad he's not around anymore. That hole never goes away but it does get easier with time. Try and celebrate the good moments, don't dwell on regrets, things you did wrong, something stupid you said. While you can use them to be a better person don't beat yourself up over anything. I'm sorry about your loss, I hope you're able to find some comfort. | ||
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Dizmaul
United States831 Posts
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NovemberstOrm
Canada16217 Posts
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Plexa
Aotearoa39261 Posts
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Ctone23
United States1841 Posts
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sabas123
Netherlands3122 Posts
just hang in there bro<3 | ||
shiroiusagi
SoCal, USA3955 Posts
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StarVe
Germany13591 Posts
I hope you have a lot of people to hug and talk to if you feel like it. It can help immensely. Sorry for your loss. | ||
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radscorpion9
Canada2252 Posts
 . I think you'll get to appreciate time a lot...every wound heals even this one. Time erases everything back to normality; you just have to try to focus on other things and you'll float on | ||
BigFan
TLADT24920 Posts
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stuchiu
Fiddler's Green42661 Posts
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Zealously
East Gorteau22261 Posts
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Kasaraki
Denmark7115 Posts
My condolences. *hugs* | ||
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EJK
United States1302 Posts
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Keeemy
Finland7855 Posts
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Zealously
East Gorteau22261 Posts
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tili
United States1332 Posts
I'm really sorry to hear about this Zealously.Godspeed and condolences to the family and friends. | ||
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enord
France258 Posts
hold her close and tell her she is not alone.. even though this is probably a lie.. we are always alone when facing our worst fears do cry it out, do yell outside cursing everyone for not stopping everything they are doing there is never any shame in feeling and displaying that you hurt so much inside it needs to come out right now (and maybe for a few days) you need to hit a mattress set upright against the wall, you need to hit it as hard as you can with your fists, for hours on end, until your arms cannot be felt anymore and your eyes seem like they are all done pouring the frustrations and sorrow you are feeling grieving is essential to your survival (your sister's .. everyone around), things like attending a wake where/when everyone shares .. recalling the departed within your mind .. with others .. learning or telling new stuff about the departed .. making yourself (and others) hurt TOGETHER while trying to keep her alive metaphorically .. ..this will not solve a thing in the "now" but it will help you (and others) move on as sanely as possible right now, it is the end of your world and that is the sane reaction to have.. i am sorry to have to say that such wounds never heals up, nor should they ... .. however, one day (in a few months, a few years..) you will manage to smile or even laugh wholeheartedly again without feeling bad about it i cry alone in my corner, once or twice a year for people i lost, i talk about them to other people whenever possible/sensible/applicable (things like "he would have said.." or "i remember when he did this..") to make myself "feel" their presence (to make em alive) and to thank life for the time i had with them right now, nothing i say will help really, but trust me.; after a while, you will acknowledge what i acknowledged and it will help: you will never forget her and she is now part of you [opening arms to hug you] | ||
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TheGodMod
United States1 Post
User was temp banned for this post. Removed off-topic nonsense. | ||
KadaverBB
Germany25658 Posts
Really sorry to hear that.*internet bro hug* | ||
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