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Zealously
Profile Blog Joined October 2011
East Gorteau22261 Posts
Last Edited: 2020-06-30 23:19:22
December 09 2013 05:34 GMT
#1
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Chairman Ray
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
United States11903 Posts
December 09 2013 05:44 GMT
#2
Dang, very sad to hear. 16 is such a tender age If I was in your place, I wouldn't know what to tell your sister either; it's such a hard thing to do. Best of luck man.
Kingsky
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Singapore298 Posts
December 09 2013 05:51 GMT
#3
oh dear... sorry to hear that.

i think its ok to cry it out... take care of yourself
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FiWiFaKi
Profile Blog Joined February 2009
Canada9858 Posts
December 09 2013 06:05 GMT
#4
Really sad to hear. Send your (and my) best wishes to her family, and I when it comes to your sister... I'd just be pretty straight-up and honest. She's 16, definitely not an adult, but not a child anymore either. Let her cry it out, toughen it out, and well... That's all you can do really. Life behaves in strange ways, and you have to be ready for it's full brunt force.

Good luck & RIP.
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Pandain
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States12989 Posts
December 09 2013 06:19 GMT
#5
I'm sorry.
slowbacontron
Profile Joined October 2012
United States7722 Posts
December 09 2013 06:20 GMT
#6
oh balls woah what that's horrible

crap man i'm really sorry that had to happen to you, nobody deserves that

best wishes
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darthfoley
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
United States8003 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-12-09 06:38:51
December 09 2013 06:35 GMT
#7
Life isn't fucking fair and stuff like this makes me really pissed off.

Sorry for her, her family, you and everyone else affected.

RIP
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Clazziquai10
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
Singapore1949 Posts
December 09 2013 06:49 GMT
#8
My condolences
teddyoojo
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
Germany22369 Posts
December 09 2013 06:58 GMT
#9
im sorry
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ninazerg
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
United States7291 Posts
December 09 2013 08:42 GMT
#10
On December 09 2013 14:34 Zealously wrote:

I feel like shit for being miserable when she's dead and im not, when she suffered and i didnt even know.
I just hope there's no pain in whatever comes next.



Honestly, the living do all the suffering, and the dead get to sleep.
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JonIrenicus
Profile Blog Joined July 2012
Italy602 Posts
December 09 2013 10:24 GMT
#11
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Zealos
Profile Blog Joined November 2011
United Kingdom3575 Posts
December 09 2013 10:52 GMT
#12
Call someone, let yourself break down for a little, I think it would help.
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Daumen
Profile Joined July 2011
Germany1073 Posts
December 09 2013 11:01 GMT
#13
Death happens, you cant make sense of it.

Stop trying to figure out why, there is no answer. Although I know very well that its impossible to stop asking and trying to figure out why.

My condolences

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Destructicon
Profile Blog Joined September 2011
4713 Posts
December 09 2013 11:33 GMT
#14
Zealously, I'm really, really sorry to hear that. My grandfather died when I was younger and, well it feels so awful. When it happens its like a part of you has dies inside, you are left with a great big hole that is impossible to fill and it just consumes you, it hurts physically, I know that because I've been there.

However you don't have to be afraid of breaking down. Its natural to feel pain for this loss, its natural to be in grief and shock, and its perfectly natural to cry. In fact, if you hold it all in, it will just make it worst. Just, let it off your chest, it won't magically make you feel better, but it will relief some of your pain.

You have my sympathies and I hope you find the strength to get over it quickly.
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Zealously
Profile Blog Joined October 2011
East Gorteau22261 Posts
December 09 2013 12:10 GMT
#15
Thank you.
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DarkPlasmaBall
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
United States44269 Posts
December 09 2013 13:10 GMT
#16
! I'm sorry for your loss

My sister isnt home, she doesnt even know yet and i have to tell her, but how can i do that? I want to call someone but i dont want to break down so i don't.


There is absolutely nothing wrong with breaking down or showing weakness during a tragedy like this. In fact, not only is it obviously more natural, but your sister will want to connect with you emotionally at a stage like this. Cry it out. Go full fetal position if you need to. It's far worse to be emotionless.

RIP <3
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gg_hertzz
Profile Blog Joined January 2004
2152 Posts
December 09 2013 13:59 GMT
#17
Let me impart some advice that was given me by my dear friend George Costanza...

"Live damnit! LIVE!"

Don't forget about your friend but don't let her death take time away from you living your life. Mourn and move on. That's what she would have wanted.
c0ldfusion
Profile Joined October 2010
United States8293 Posts
December 09 2013 14:43 GMT
#18
Sorry to hear that man.
You should ideally tell your sister in person. She'll need you and you'll need her for the support.
packrat386
Profile Blog Joined October 2011
United States5077 Posts
December 09 2013 14:56 GMT
#19
I'm really sorry to hear that. Hopefully you have people you can talk to that can comfort you. It'll be ok
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woreyour
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
582 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-12-09 15:41:56
December 09 2013 15:36 GMT
#20
Sorry to hear that but that is life (unfair and just the way it is), everyone will die eventually (at least now).

So maybe you could try to live and enjoy life while it last. Always be careful as well to try to extend your life(span) but always try to enjoy (at least do that as a reason why you are living) (this works for me).

I had my 18 y/o friend die too and I am sure she was a virgin. She lived life so prim and proper only being too careful and focused on her studies. And one complication caused Meningitis and ended her in 1 week. She was under observation like 3 days after she got fever and boom she was dead in a week. As we all know these things happen and it is just sad she was the one to be dying and not some criminal out there. That is why there is no god or shit. It is just life and reality. Wake up to reality and live your life the way you want it.

On the death part, try to accept it, pain will be there but when you have accepted and faced it you will learn to endure pain. Be strong for your sister and tell her. Be the stronger person even when you know it hurts you. It will help her to be strong too.
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ninazerg
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
United States7291 Posts
December 09 2013 16:06 GMT
#21
On December 09 2013 19:24 JonIrenicus wrote:
Show nested quote +
On December 09 2013 17:42 ninazerg wrote:
On December 09 2013 14:34 Zealously wrote:

I feel like shit for being miserable when she's dead and im not, when she suffered and i didnt even know.
I just hope there's no pain in whatever comes next.



Honestly, the living do all the suffering, and the dead get to sleep.

what a miserable living you are, save these thoughts for yourself or when is the right time to complain


Dude, Zealously said he felt like shit for feeling the way he did, and I was just saying it's okay to feel that way. The people who are still alive are the ones who have to deal with tragedy.
"If two pregnant women get into a fist fight, it's like a mecha-battle between two unborn babies." - Fyodor Dostoevsky
OuchyDathurts
Profile Joined September 2010
United States4588 Posts
December 09 2013 16:44 GMT
#22
If you feel like you need to call someone, talk to someone, meet someone just do it. That is what friends and family are for man. I hadn't cried in forever, never when anyone had passed, not when I buried my dog, I didn't think I was capable anymore. I'd get very sad obviously, my heart would ache, but I could never cry. When I saw my grandpa in the hospital I blubbered like a bitch, and you know what? There was nothing wrong with it. If its what you need to do just do it, let it out. You spend time with friends and family making good times, there's no reason you cant lean on them in bad times. If your friend needed someone to talk to in your situation you'd be there in a second right? It should be no different the other way around.

The hole will never be gone. I still get bittersweet thinking about my grandpa. A lot of stuff reminds me of him since we spent a lot of time together. Some of it makes me smile, some of it makes me sad he's not around anymore. That hole never goes away but it does get easier with time. Try and celebrate the good moments, don't dwell on regrets, things you did wrong, something stupid you said. While you can use them to be a better person don't beat yourself up over anything.

I'm sorry about your loss, I hope you're able to find some comfort.
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Dizmaul
Profile Joined March 2010
United States831 Posts
December 09 2013 16:51 GMT
#23
Man that is so terrible. I cant imagine what the person who hit her thinks... living with that for the rest of your life.
It is what it is
NovemberstOrm
Profile Blog Joined September 2011
Canada16217 Posts
December 09 2013 16:57 GMT
#24
sorry Zealously T_T
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Plexa
Profile Blog Joined October 2005
Aotearoa39261 Posts
December 09 2013 17:09 GMT
#25
T_T <3
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Ctone23
Profile Blog Joined December 2012
United States1839 Posts
December 09 2013 17:20 GMT
#26
Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.
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sabas123
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
Netherlands3122 Posts
December 09 2013 18:00 GMT
#27
sucks hearting that just hang in there bro<3
The harder it becomes, the more you should focus on the basics.
shiroiusagi
Profile Blog Joined September 2011
SoCal, USA3955 Posts
December 09 2013 18:10 GMT
#28
Much hugs.
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StarVe
Profile Joined June 2011
Germany13591 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-12-09 20:53:54
December 09 2013 20:52 GMT
#29
Just terrible. My cousin died in a car accident three years ago and I still remember that time very well.

I hope you have a lot of people to hug and talk to if you feel like it. It can help immensely.

Sorry for your loss.
radscorpion9
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
Canada2252 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-12-09 22:04:21
December 09 2013 22:03 GMT
#30
Well hopefully a heaven exists and she's there . I think you'll get to appreciate time a lot...every wound heals even this one. Time erases everything back to normality; you just have to try to focus on other things and you'll float on
BigFan
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
TLADT24920 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-12-10 02:14:25
December 10 2013 02:13 GMT
#31
That's pretty rough. Sorry to hear about this. You've got your family and TL to support you! As for telling your sister, I'm not sure what to tell you there. Someone has to tell her and it might be better if it's her brother than someone who's not as close. It's going to be rough for her to hear and she'll like end up crying a lot but you can't keep this a secret. It's fine to feel miserable even if you weren't the one who lost their live seeing as there is a bond there. Good luck Zealously!
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stuchiu
Profile Blog Joined June 2010
Fiddler's Green42661 Posts
December 10 2013 04:23 GMT
#32
My condolences. T_T
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Zealously
Profile Blog Joined October 2011
East Gorteau22261 Posts
December 10 2013 10:18 GMT
#33
Thank you, it means a lot to me.
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Kasaraki
Profile Blog Joined May 2012
Denmark7115 Posts
December 10 2013 15:09 GMT
#34
Oh no. My condolences.

*hugs*
EJK
Profile Blog Joined September 2013
United States1302 Posts
December 11 2013 19:22 GMT
#35
my condolences as well. IT's the things that hurt the most though that ultimately make you a stronger person

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Keeemy
Profile Joined November 2012
Finland7855 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-12-12 15:06:52
December 12 2013 15:05 GMT
#36
Wow, just read this. My condolences.
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Zealously
Profile Blog Joined October 2011
East Gorteau22261 Posts
December 12 2013 22:24 GMT
#37
<3
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tili
Profile Joined July 2012
United States1332 Posts
December 13 2013 23:24 GMT
#38
I'm really sorry to hear about this Zealously.

Godspeed and condolences to the family and friends.
enord
Profile Blog Joined September 2013
France258 Posts
December 15 2013 11:33 GMT
#39
look at your sister in the eyes and don't hold your emotions in when they come pouring out when you tell her (or anyone else concerned) about it..

hold her close and tell her she is not alone.. even though this is probably a lie.. we are always alone when facing our worst fears

do cry it out, do yell outside cursing everyone for not stopping everything they are doing
there is never any shame in feeling and displaying that you hurt so much inside it needs to come out

right now (and maybe for a few days) you need to hit a mattress set upright against the wall, you need to hit it as hard as you can with your fists, for hours on end, until your arms cannot be felt anymore and your eyes seem like they are all done pouring the frustrations and sorrow you are feeling

grieving is essential to your survival (your sister's .. everyone around),
things like attending a wake where/when everyone shares .. recalling the departed within your mind .. with others .. learning or telling new stuff about the departed .. making yourself (and others) hurt TOGETHER while trying to keep her alive metaphorically ..

..this will not solve a thing in the "now" but it will help you (and others) move on as sanely as possible

right now, it is the end of your world and that is the sane reaction to have..

i am sorry to have to say that such wounds never heals up, nor should they ...

.. however, one day (in a few months, a few years..) you will manage to smile or even laugh wholeheartedly again without feeling bad about it

i cry alone in my corner, once or twice a year for people i lost, i talk about them to other people whenever possible/sensible/applicable (things like "he would have said.." or "i remember when he did this..") to make myself "feel" their presence (to make em alive) and to thank life for the time i had with them

right now, nothing i say will help really, but trust me.; after a while, you will acknowledge what i acknowledged and it will help:

you will never forget her and she is now part of you

[opening arms to hug you]
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TheGodMod
Profile Joined December 2013
United States1 Post
Last Edited: 2013-12-17 15:08:34
December 17 2013 14:46 GMT
#40





User was temp banned for this post. Removed off-topic nonsense.
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KadaverBB
Profile Blog Joined June 2009
Germany25657 Posts
December 17 2013 15:09 GMT
#41
Really sorry to hear that.
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