Everyone with a "gay" friend - Page 5

On December 24 2008 03:15 yubee wrote:
just about every single one of you who posted in this thread should be ashamed of yourself

On December 24 2008 04:01 Live2Win wrote:
@Op:

If your friends are truly friends, as in the type of people who know when you're serious, know when your feeling angry/sad and will listen to you if it comes down to business, then here's what I'd do: divide and conquer.

From what you wrote it seems like your friends like to joke around with you even when you try to be serious to them. This is probably because they like to play off of each other's jokes. So the best thing is to talk to them individually. Start with your closes friend, or one who you are most comfortable with. Be serious, tell em exactly what's on your mind. Explain to them that while it is funny, sometimes you think they take it seriously, and you're getting frustrated/annoyed/worried.

If they truly are your friends they should be able to understand.

On December 24 2008 03:15 yubee wrote:
just about every single one of you who posted in this thread should be ashamed of yourself

On December 24 2008 04:19 jjun212 wrote:


You're all gayer than me.

On December 24 2008 04:19 jjun212 wrote:
Would it help if I said, I had sex with a couple of girls before and fucking enjoyed it and have never thought of or even touched another guy's dink?

You're all gayer than me.

On December 24 2008 04:01 fight_or_flight wrote:
Just take a trip to Iran. Since there are no gays in Iran, that would prove you are not gay.

On December 23 2008 16:43 jjun212 wrote:
Yo, well, does everyone here have a group of friends where at least one of the guys... is considered to be the "weak" / "flamboyant" etc kinda guy?

Well not that there is anything wrong with that but I have different groups of friends and in my closest group, I'm considered to be that "gay" guy. Well here's the thing, I'm not gay and I actually have nothing against being gay or anyone choosing that path as a lifestyle... it's like w/e? I'm from Toronto so I'm really open minded about these kinda issues.

The thing is, in the past, I have acted flamboyant, I mean like the way I act, the way I joke around, etc... so I can see why my friends think this way. At first it was a joke with them accusing me of being gay and stuff but honestly, it's getting more and more serious. Like yea, we all still laugh at the subject but they keep pressuring me, trying to dissect the "truth" out of me.

At first, I would argue about it and they would accuse me of trying to "defend" myself too much and that maybe I was scared... and then when I calm about it and just didn't answer and tried to talk reasonably they said it was out of my character and that I was taking the issue so smoothly as if I was really gay. It's like... no matter what I do, they have that presumption. It's kinda like an Atheist and a hardcore Christian talking about the existence of God. (No body can win or convince the other of their point of view)

The thing is, they are true friends though because whenever I was in need, they were there for me and vice-versa. I care about them and I know they care about me. We've known each other for years but it seems like this will never go away. They're so into it that if I got a girlfriend, they would assume it was a cover-up... wtf?

But here's the thing, I don't see myself with any girl for a while just because I'm focused on my studies and have other goals that I want to reach before anything else. I'm also an actor/artist. My training involves all of that "gay" stuff that is stereotypical in the media and such. I enjoy who I am actually.. and I am not gay.

So for you... for anyone who has this kinda friend, do you guys really think they are gay? Are you just teasing? Do you really want to investigate all of this... Why do you want to believe so much that, that "gay" friend is actually gay?

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For any of the guys who are considered TO BE THAT "gay" friend, do you just take this with a grain of salt or what? Do you feel you have something more to prove as a man? It's just... I don't know, it's just an internal thing for me to think;

"Wtf? I'm not gay... but I don't even know what to say anymore, it's like a lose-lose situation. You're my friends but obviously I can't convince you that I'm not one thing or another"