On December 24 2008 11:35 SkY wrote:
In my case, people don't accuse me of being gay, but I like to wear feminine things.

Here's a picture of me, taken by one of my roommates.

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Would you fuck me?... I'd fuck me.

Shhhh... It's a secret

IzzyCraft

United States4487 Posts

December 24 2008 02:58 GMT

#126

On December 24 2008 11:51 Equinox_kr wrote:
Seriously who the fuck cares if people think you're gay, you're not. Problem solved.

Malongo

Chile3472 Posts

December 24 2008 03:15 GMT

#127

On December 23 2008 17:14 MeriaDoKk wrote:
I've never met a gay person in my life.

Lol your so blind.
To the opener, just tell your friends: WTF im not gay, just stop. If they keep it then send them hell they are bad friends anyways. And yes i had some gay friends and some nogay friends that looked gay. Never asked them.

1sd2sd3sd

660 Posts

December 24 2008 03:26 GMT

#128

Just be comfortable with who you are, you don't owe your friends explanations and it just seems they are kidding around with you. It's not a big deal so don't worry so much about it.

Physician

United States4146 Posts

December 24 2008 03:42 GMT

#129

On December 24 2008 11:35 SkY wrote:
In my case, people don't accuse me of being gay, but I like to wear feminine things.

- that just makes you a cross-dresser (heterosexual transvestite)
- now if you do it to get sexually aroused (from cross-dressing itself), then you suffer from a transvestic fetishism (and your not strictly speaking a cross-dresser).

- nevertheless, which ever the case you still fall under the fruit cake category
- but hey, no one is perfect, enjoy ~

CaucasianAsian

Korea (South)11598 Posts

December 24 2008 03:51 GMT

#130

On December 24 2008 07:54 Mora wrote:
hahaha faggot.

778-558-1996

call me.

oh god, Mora.

LOOOL

also, being gay is widely accepted, no one cares if you are or not. I was friends with a gay guy for a while back in high school. He had a major crush on me, and I'd always find it funny to be walking around school or D.C. or whatever and just be like, "so would u choose that guy over there or the one in blue on the bench?" It would always be amusing to me.

Then it just got creepy when he would be like, "yo that guy who just walked by us, was checking you out." There are some things i'd rather not know.

But yeah, OP, being gay is alright. We're not going to tie you to the back of our trucks and drag you around town and tie you to a fence. Times have changed.

Physician

United States4146 Posts

December 24 2008 07:20 GMT

#131

On December 24 2008 12:51 CaucasianAsian wrote: also, being gay is widely accepted, no one cares if you are or not.

- you just gotta luv them wide sweeping generalizations.. the world, or for that matter, the US, is not quite just there caucasianasian..

ps to op - it's comments like the one caucasianasian made that u wanna make to ur friends, (almost) proof positive he is not gay..

AttackZerg

United States7577 Posts

December 24 2008 08:13 GMT

#132

On December 24 2008 07:54 Mora wrote:
hahaha faggot.

778-558-1996

call me.

When a hero comes along with the strength to carry on.....

Thread savior.

paper

13196 Posts

December 24 2008 08:40 GMT

#133

On December 24 2008 09:03 Rayzorblade wrote:

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OMG PAPER I LOVE YOU WHAR HAVE YOU BEEN??

HI

let's sex

1tym

Korea (South)2425 Posts

December 24 2008 11:20 GMT

#134

On December 23 2008 21:37 Emlary wrote:
Trust me, even if you had a hot gf, they would think you were pretending as well. It's the situation with one of my co-worker (male, artist), who uses lip stick and wears earrings.

But my heart says:
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You're yet to meet your Mr.Right.

Earring has nothing to do with gayness. It's for both gays and non-gays. Totally irrelvant unles you're talking about the large hoop type or the dangle type of earrings. Lip stick yes unless you're talking about the lip balm type of lip sticks.

1tym

Korea (South)2425 Posts

December 24 2008 12:10 GMT

#135

I don't think there is one perfect solution. Whether you approve or disapprove of homosexuality, on the surface level you will always have positive sentiment about it because it is politically incorrect to say otherwise.

You think you are perfectly non-discriminative until you are perceived as 'one of them' which then you become extremely uncomfortable about it. If you were totally unbiased about homosexuality you'd be as cool as people mistakenly thinking that your favorite color is red when in fact it is blue.

They will always say they have nothing against gay people, but guys teasing one another 'gay' has the implication that the homosexuality is the subject of 'ridicule'. If they were genuinely curious about it, they will ask in a non-joking manner. Same applies for all the people posting here teasing the OP to come out of the closet even though you would probably deny it.

It is true that western society is relatively more open minded about the whole homosexual thing, but at the same time there is inevitable side effect which is constant and subconscious fear of being portrayed as gay. This resulted in guys afraid of making any sort of body contact with same sex, always concerned about what the men should/should not do, and pretends to be masculine. You will not watch romantic or humane type of movies, avoid listening to boybands/girlbands type of music, talk in manly manners and you cannot worry too much about your appearance. It's almost as if you're are locked inside this formality society created as a result of 'how not to be portrayed as gay'.

In Asia, people are relatively less open minded about 'homosexuality'. It is still somewhat of a taboo subject even though on a country level they started embracing it. But as a consequence guys are not so much afraid to express themselves freely. If you've ever been to Asia, you may have witnessed guys walking with arms around each other's shoulder, often bumping into each other, some even holding hands like Boxer and Oov in a recent 'Boxer return' thread. They don't hesitate to dress in flamboyant ways, you would have seen StarCraft casters often dressed in pink shirts and ties. This obviously doesn't mean everyone is straight, it just means everyone automatically assumes that you are heterosexual.

Whatever society you live in, there is no utopia, there are consequences to everything and you have to live with it.

But to answer the OP's question, one of the main reasons why people tease one another is because it will attract some sort of reaction that they expect from you. If you are totally neutral about it and say you are heterosexual in a plain way without blinking an eye, they will stop making same accusations as the fun will wear out after a while.

Licmyobelisk

Philippines3682 Posts

December 24 2008 22:49 GMT

#136

You should challenge one of you're friends like this..

Hey gheylohrd, here's the thing, I'm gonna pucker up right now and I need you to pucker up right now. Now, we gonna make some sweet French-Kissing and the 1st Person to admit that he loved that kiss is gay? Now, are you up the challenge lover boy?

Then it will be the other way around, if your friend admits that he likes FKing you then he is gay.

Really, I've watched this being used by one of my friends and it works like wonders.

sqwert

United States781 Posts

December 24 2008 22:58 GMT

#137

lol. the guys so confused. he thinks hes str8 but he acts gay. u should go to the gym. its the most antigay thing there is lol.

Peanutsc

United States307 Posts

December 25 2008 02:45 GMT

#138

On December 25 2008 07:58 sqwert wrote:
lol. the guys so confused. he thinks hes str8 but he acts gay. u should go to the gym. its the most antigay thing there is lol.

Wait, what? Gay guys go to the gym ALL THE TIME - they have to stay buff. It's straight guys who can afford to get out of shape and still get attention from the opposite sex.

CaucasianAsian

Korea (South)11598 Posts

December 25 2008 02:59 GMT

#139

On December 24 2008 16:20 Physician wrote:

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Well, as i said, I don't hang out with gay people that much anymore, but I live near Washington D.C., and really, no one gives a flying fuck if you're straight or gay. Then when i go to a college in southwest virginia (it really is pretty hickish) and only a few of the people down there are anti-gay.

I think people don't care if you're gay or not, do what you want to do behind closed doors, don't do it in public, and no one will care.

I think most people get worked up for gay marriages, as it's not in the bible etc...