I know this b/c I had 2 gay friends while in high school and grew up with a gay aunt. I work with 2 gays atm....And my last g/f had tons of gay guys around her and they always made me crack the fuck up.....I'm not gay...But i love gays...
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Kennelie
United States2296 Posts
I know this b/c I had 2 gay friends while in high school and grew up with a gay aunt. I work with 2 gays atm....And my last g/f had tons of gay guys around her and they always made me crack the fuck up.....I'm not gay...But i love gays... | ||
JMave
Singapore1803 Posts
But just be yourself. You don't have to prove anything to them. I've been asked personally by one of my classmates, who happens to be a girl, if I was gay. HAHAHAHAHA. But well, we are who we are. I'm not gay and if you believe that you aren't either, then that's cool. | ||
merz
Sweden2760 Posts
He's still an awesome guy and friend though, anyone who's known him since we were kids doesn't really care about his sexuality. What's even funnier is that we joke about him being gay now more than ever, and he's really cool with it. What Kennelie said is pretty much true as well, Gay people tend to be a lot more outgoing and funny, not to mention that they are like the perfect wing man when you're out clubbing / attending a party etc. They handle girls sooooooo well. | ||
axel
France385 Posts
I think u have to set limits . Sometimes people are so close and joke so much tohether that it can become disrespectful on a long run. One day u will meet girls in holidays or in party and they will joke about your gayness in front of them , that could be disturbing.. Years ago after a big party my friends invented a stupid nickname which was funny 1 day but it became my second name and i could not stand it anymore. One day i said them :" the next one who call me again with this nick will be punched whatever if its joke or not, please i really warned you , just dont do it anymore". And it worked | ||
homeless_guy
United States321 Posts
edit: axel is right: familiarity breeds contempt. also, people have been thinking i'm gay for at least a decade. | ||
HooHa!
United States688 Posts
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Bliss
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Kennelie
United States2296 Posts
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404.Nintu
Canada1723 Posts
On December 23 2008 16:43 jjun212 wrote: Yo, well, does everyone here have a group of friends where at least one of the guys... is considered to be the "weak" / "flamboyant" etc kinda guy? Well not that there is anything wrong with that but I have different groups of friends and in my closest group, I'm considered to be that "gay" guy. Well here's the thing, I'm not gay and I actually have nothing against being gay or anyone choosing that path as a lifestyle... it's like w/e? I'm from Toronto so I'm really open minded about these kinda issues. The thing is, in the past, I have acted flamboyant, I mean like the way I act, the way I joke around, etc... so I can see why my friends think this way. At first it was a joke with them accusing me of being gay and stuff but honestly, it's getting more and more serious. Like yea, we all still laugh at the subject but they keep pressuring me, trying to dissect the "truth" out of me. At first, I would argue about it and they would accuse me of trying to "defend" myself too much and that maybe I was scared... and then when I calm about it and just didn't answer and tried to talk reasonably they said it was out of my character and that I was taking the issue so smoothly as if I was really gay. It's like... no matter what I do, they have that presumption. It's kinda like an Atheist and a hardcore Christian talking about the existence of God. (No body can win or convince the other of their point of view) The thing is, they are true friends though because whenever I was in need, they were there for me and vice-versa. I care about them and I know they care about me. We've known each other for years but it seems like this will never go away. They're so into it that if I got a girlfriend, they would assume it was a cover-up... wtf? But here's the thing, I don't see myself with any girl for a while just because I'm focused on my studies and have other goals that I want to reach before anything else. I'm also an actor/artist. My training involves all of that "gay" stuff that is stereotypical in the media and such. I enjoy who I am actually.. and I am not gay. So for you... for anyone who has this kinda friend, do you guys really think they are gay? Are you just teasing? Do you really want to investigate all of this... Why do you want to believe so much that, that "gay" friend is actually gay? & For any of the guys who are considered TO BE THAT "gay" friend, do you just take this with a grain of salt or what? Do you feel you have something more to prove as a man? It's just... I don't know, it's just an internal thing for me to think; "Wtf? I'm not gay... but I don't even know what to say anymore, it's like a lose-lose situation. You're my friends but obviously I can't convince you that I'm not one thing or another" What's "the thing" and why do you keep drawing attention to it? | ||
Wotans_Fire
United Kingdom294 Posts
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D10
Brazil3409 Posts
At the time I wasnt really looking for girls, I thought that whatever relationship I would have, it would be better if it happened naturally, I didnt wanted to go hunting. Turns out man are hunters, and me and my friend really are gay, now we live happy as a gay couple, and I couldnt care less. But, here is the thing, i had these inclinations all my life, even tho they were kept in the closet, it wasant a surprise to me, only to my friends who mocked me, imho, if you really are gay, you already know, and you are just looking for the time the place the hour. =O | ||
MiniRoman
Canada3953 Posts
On December 23 2008 16:51 LosingID8 wrote: probably 1 or 2 of your friends are hoping you'll come out of the closet so they can start hitting on you (probably closet gays themselves lol) Sounds like it. Gays flock together and that was a gay OP. I've got mad gaydar skillz. Homosexual tendancies are adapted by the subconscious first as a way to codify and communication invisible sexuality. If everyone believes you are honestly gay, and you continued to act gay after such accusations, then you are definitely representing yourself as a homosexual and part of you had to have been enjoying it otherwise you would have gotten more upset/stopped with the jokes. If you liked the attention at first of being thought of a homosexual then there are probably some parts of you that wants to be thought like that otherwise you wouldn't act in such a way. DO SOME SOUL SEARCHING. Edit: One of my friends is totallllllllly in love with one of my other friends but i dont think anyone would ever bring it up. Just speculated at from a distance! On December 23 2008 23:48 Wotans_Fire wrote: Dude, just stop being an artfag/dramafag all the time and go to the gym, get that repressed testosterone going again. Then kick the shit out of your friends. yaaaaaa studly badass male here clearly. GET HUGE AND HIT PEOPLE. HETEROOOOOO! | ||
Wotans_Fire
United Kingdom294 Posts
On December 23 2008 23:48 Wotans_Fire wrote: Dude, just stop being an artfag/dramafag all the time and go to the gym, get that repressed testosterone going again. Then kick the shit out of your friends. yaaaaaa studly badass male here clearly. GET HUGE AND HIT PEOPLE. HETEROOOOOO![/QUOTE] yaaaaaa effeminate new age fag here clearly. Really on the internet I can be anything so I choose to be the studly badass male. To everyone calling him closet gay or whatever the test is pretty simple, does gay porn turn you on? can you masturbate to it? lol | ||
QuanticHawk
United States32056 Posts
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Bockit
Sydney2287 Posts
On December 23 2008 23:31 Kennelie wrote: Don't worry bro if your not gay....Your not gay...Don't let other peoples opinions and peer pressure lead you into something your not. I think Kennelie made the best and most succint point so far, this is what it all comes down to. | ||
Kennelie
United States2296 Posts
On December 24 2008 00:40 Hawk wrote: Toronto? Gay? This isn't you, is it? ![]() I have money on this.... Edit: Not to be mean or anything but while on the subject...I've gotten hit on by a good friend that I believe was lacking on coming out the closet...So he went for the kill with me for some odd reason and I denied the move he put on me and I asked him about his sexuality. Still has not came out the closet. Or maybe he was joking.. | ||
Savio
United States1850 Posts
Just don't let someone else define who you are. If your not gay, then your not gay, that's all there is to it. Don't let someone try to create doubts in your mind. | ||
Savio
United States1850 Posts
On December 23 2008 23:48 Wotans_Fire wrote: Dude, just stop being an artfag/dramafag all the time and go to the gym, get that repressed testosterone going again. Then kick the shit out of your friends. LoL, this was actually pretty awesome post. | ||
Kaotu
United States986 Posts
On December 23 2008 22:58 Kennelie wrote: I love gay people...89% of the time the gay people have a very outgoing personality and most the time witty. I know this b/c I had 2 gay friends while in high school and grew up with a gay aunt. I work with 2 gays atm....And my last g/f had tons of gay guys around her and they always made me crack the fuck up.....I'm not gay...But i love gays... Ever consider that perhaps the reason that the only gay people around you that you are aware of are really outgoing is not that all gay people are outgoing, but rather that high extroversion inclines gays towards more openness and outwardness about their orientation? | ||
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
but they annoy the shit out of me no gays plz unless they are cutting my hair, then thank you mr. gay gay men cutting hair > str8 men > women | ||
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