EPTIntroversion Awareness - Page 16
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57 Corvette
Canada5941 Posts
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dUTtrOACh
Canada2339 Posts
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
On December 22 2012 06:23 Djzapz wrote: Well here's the thing, I wouldn't have any issue getting laid. I'm alright looking and a few beers does wonders to my social skills because I stop censoring myself. The problem is finding me a nice girl. I have no interest whatsoever in club chicks anymore. To say that I have "fear" is pushing it a bit, but yeah I'd rather not let this one go. I'm not likely to go after random girls for no reason. Nobody talked about club chicks or "getting laid". You want a girl for a strong relationship ? Alright that's 100% fine. But how do you expect to find one if you're so focused on a single one and don't "play the game" as you put it ? About that girl, where are you at with her that you seem to think its so worth it ? | ||
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decaf
Austria1797 Posts
I also usually score ~140 on IQ tests, what do I win? >inb4 everyone has an IQ of 140 >inb4 IQ doesn't mean anything >implying that makes me any less superior | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On December 22 2012 06:45 rezoacken wrote: Nobody talked about club chicks or "getting laid". You want a girl for a strong relationship ? Alright that's 100% fine. But how do you expect to find one if you're so focused on a single one and don't "play the game" as you put it ? About that girl, where are you at with her that you seem to think its so worth it ? Well I know but 40 year old virgins were mentioned as if this had something to do with sex but it really doesn't. And I guess I have particularly narrow horizons, I'm not going to use the shotgun tactic anytime ever. Just trying to get close to this one girl who apparently has the rep of being pretty hard to get. I don't know if that means it's not "the game" but yeah... | ||
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OneBk
Sweden157 Posts
 that makes me kinda happy that i am not a one case scenario. I wish i hade known this when i was like 16 would have helped me so mutch... :D It feels like they are basicly writing about me and that freaks me out a bit.Thank you Barrin for my 100% selfasteam buff. <3 | ||
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E.L.V.I.S
Belgium458 Posts
(it says I am ISTP with those % : Introvert(89%) Sensing(1%) Thinking(12%) Perceiving(22)%) | ||
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Randomaccount#77123
United States5003 Posts
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All.In
United States214 Posts
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Iplaythings
Denmark9110 Posts
On December 22 2012 05:37 HazMat wrote: Jesus christ this is the biggest circlejerk of people with superiority complexes since Reddit. Becoming insecure because someone is raising awareness on something that you obviously disagree on while pep talking themselves a little? Controversial things needs to be a bit biased otherwise people won't get it Did someone just delete the post I responded to? | ||
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megapants
United States1314 Posts
i'm a 20 year old male (21 in march) who has been introverted since forever! as someone once put it, i often "lie in bed and flirt with myself." at the beginning of 2012 i started a journal which i finished near the end of july (~310 pages) and am widdling through the next one. if you are reading this thread and you don't keep a journal or document your thoughts in some way, you are missing out! not only did it make my thoughts feel tangible but it is a great way to see how your thoughts grow over time. i wish now that i had kept journals when i was like 10 or something so i could read them today. the only thing i disliked about the journal was how slow my handwriting was compared to my thoughts. if this is a hassle for you as well, you can try recording your voice or doing a video diary, or simply type it out in word or on in the blog section if you feel comfortable sharing. even though i get a little frustrated with the pacing, i find it difficult to keep track of digital stuff so i'm gonna stick to the good ol' pen and paper. On December 22 2012 06:54 decaf wrote: Introvert(78%) iNtuitive(50%) Thinking(88%) Judging(78%) I also usually score ~140 on IQ tests, what do I win? >inb4 everyone has an IQ of 140 >inb4 IQ doesn't mean anything >implying that makes me any less superior the only reason anyone would say any of those things is because what you said doesn't really have any potential for discussion; calling you out on those things is the only way to extract a subject matter out of your post. sure, your stats are nice but what does that matter to me? i don't think this is a "who is the BEST/MOST introverted person here?" type of thread. someone said a earlier that this is just a circle-jerk of people with superiority complexes and i don't think that was the point that barrin was trying to make at all. it only has to be that way if you step in and try and be better than the other people who are just trying to have a conversation. | ||
Grend
1600 Posts
But I think I have become more extroverted over time, or at least good at handling boring social situations. I also really enjoy the company of extremely extroverted people so I do not know. And thanks for the OP Barrin, it was good and informative and learned me a new concept, or at least put a lot more meaning into the word introverted for me. I`m INTJ aswell. | ||
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AUGcodon
Canada536 Posts
This brings me to my next point, you are right that you have to right to walk away from people that annoy you. The problems is that life is not that simple. your co-workers could be the annoying ones and you are not in a position to really walk away. You need to relate to them up to a point where they don't feel discomforted by talking to you. Even if you believe the other party said something trite and pointless, you shouldn't act dismissive. This is a kind of social skill that does not come easily to everyone. But the point is that this is a skill that can be practiced. What I am afraid is that in this discussion, people become too focused on being "proud" of introverted. The fact they come to peace with being introverted does not give them an excuse to not pick up social skills. | ||
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Crissaegrim
2947 Posts
On December 21 2012 10:50 Grumbels wrote: Barrin strikes me as the kind of person who has a beard and ponders about the relative value of Buddhism. Barrin does have a beard. As proof, I have posted his pic in the spoiler below: + Show Spoiler + ![[image loading]](http://magiccards.info/scans/en/us/63.jpg) | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On December 22 2012 03:30 cam connor wrote: Man so many introverts have this really convoluted superiority complex It's pretty laughable It's not a sense of superiority, it's a sense of annoyance at constantly being told, directly or surreptitiously, that wouldn't it be better if you would just go out and have fun and meet people and blah blah blah. It's being constantly nudged into believing that only by pretending to be something you're not can you be happy and successful. It's the thinly veiled arrogance and condescension of ignorant boneheads whose only measurement of social skills is how loud and verbose you can be, it grates on one's patience eventually. | ||
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Crumpet
United States137 Posts
On December 22 2012 08:00 McBengt wrote: It's not a sense of superiority, it's a sense of annoyance at constantly being told, directly or surreptitiously, that wouldn't it be better if you would just go out and have fun and meet people and blah blah blah. It's being constantly nudged into believing that only by pretending to be something you're not can you be happy and successful. It's the thinly veiled arrogance and condescension of ignorant boneheads whose only measurement of social skills is how loud and verbose you can be, it grates on one's patience eventually. Yeah, get annoyed at the people who tell you that to attempt to help you improve your life. I am an introvert. I make myself socialize. It becomes a huge factor in life. It can be the difference between getting what you want out of both life and work, and getting nothing. It's not about pretending to do anything. It's about making connections to the people around you. Generalizing either side, introvert or extrovert, is not cool. | ||
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shinosai
United States1577 Posts
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AUGcodon
Canada536 Posts
On December 22 2012 08:00 McBengt wrote: It's not a sense of superiority, it's a sense of annoyance at constantly being told, directly or surreptitiously, that wouldn't it be better if you would just go out and have fun and meet people and blah blah blah. It's being constantly nudged into believing that only by pretending to be something you're not can you be happy and successful. It's the thinly veiled arrogance and condescension of ignorant boneheads whose only measurement of social skills is how loud and verbose you can be, it grates on one's patience eventually. Okay, this was what I was talking about earlier. You are talking about pretending as if something that betrays your sense of innerself. If you really think that way fine, but reality dosen't conform to your expectations. It's about understanding that interpersonal relations is a survival skill. The world does not give a fuck about how you feel if I want to be harsh about it. Learning to smile even if you feel like shit is just something you have to learn. Even if you think another person is a "vapid bonehead", you better be able to keep that thought to your head. And be able to put on a big fucking smile and shake his hand if the situation demands it. | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On December 22 2012 08:12 Crumpet wrote: Yeah, get annoyed at the people who tell you that to attempt to help you improve your life. I am an introvert. I make myself socialize. It becomes a huge factor in life. It can be the difference between getting what you want out of both life and work, and getting nothing. It's not about pretending to do anything. It's about making connections to the people around you. Generalizing either side, introvert or extrovert, is not cool. The arrogance is astounding, you are either dense or wilfully obtuse. Has it ever occured to you that getting what you want out of life may not be the same for you as it is for other people? That maybe making yourself socialize, while gratifying for you, would only be an excercise in frustration and exasperation for others? That making connections holds absolutely no interest for some people who are not you? This is the very essence of pretending to be someone else. If it's not even desirable in the first place, it's not an improvement. Stop assuming that the your model of an ideal life is a one size fits all. | ||
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shinosai
United States1577 Posts
On December 22 2012 08:25 AUGcodon wrote: Okay, this was what I was talking about earlier. You are talking about pretending as if something that betrays your sense of innerself. If you really think that way fine, but reality dosen't conform to your expectations. It's about understanding that interpersonal relations is a survival skill. The world does not give a fuck about how you feel if I want to be harsh about it. Learning to smile even if you feel like shit is just something you have to learn. Even if you think another person is a "vapid bonehead", you better be able to keep that thought to your head. And be able to put on a big fucking smile and shake his hand if the situation demands it. You can have interpersonal relations without pretending to be extroverted. It's really not hard. At all. In fact, everyone knows how to fake personal interactions in order to get what they want. That's what we call job interviews. We all have skills at interpersonal relations. Sometimes, we choose not to act on them. Want to know some reasons? Here's one: I've calculated that talking to you will not add anything to my life. | ||
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. Always stumbled into relationships and now that it's falling apart (after 7 years), I'm finding out that I don't know how to date. 23 years old and I've never dated - no f'ing idea how to play "the game" unless pieces just fall in line. Feeling awkward, trying not to overreach while also trying not to let go. No clue wtf is going on. Maybe I'm retarded.
