EPTDo you think girls look at me go "aww thats hot". They're like *puke sounds*. That's fucking gross. I walk into the club and the hottest girl could be in there with her boyfriend, and her boyfriend will see me and mush her in the face to get over to me just to say to me like "DUDE WHAT THE FUCK!".
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bloodwhore~
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Do you think girls look at me go "aww thats hot". They're like *puke sounds*. That's fucking gross. I walk into the club and the hottest girl could be in there with her boyfriend, and her boyfriend will see me and mush her in the face to get over to me just to say to me like "DUDE WHAT THE FUCK!". | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46669 Posts
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On March 08 2016 08:10 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: Yeah I could see that. Getting too big/ ripped is frequently associated with being superficial, being a meathead, and being too much of a cocky asshole. I'm above average smart (not genius) with a business and finance degree. People who meet me usually assume I'm a PT or something  (1.70m, 88kg) | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46669 Posts
On March 08 2016 08:13 GoTuNk! wrote: I'm above average smart (not genius) with a business and finance degree. People who meet me usually assume I'm a PT or something (1.70cm, 88kg)1.70 cm or meters? Also, I see you're not converting to shitty U.S. imperial system units... Chicks love shitty U.S. imperial system units. | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On March 08 2016 08:35 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: 1.70 cm or meters? Also, I see you're not converting to shitty U.S. imperial system units... Chicks love shitty U.S. imperial system units. Updated, I'm obviously not a worm. 5' 7", 190 pounds. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46669 Posts
On March 08 2016 08:43 GoTuNk! wrote: Updated, I'm obviously not a worm. 5' 7", 190 pounds. Much better  | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On March 08 2016 08:35 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: 1.70 cm or meters? Also, I see you're not converting to shitty U.S. imperial system units... Chicks love shitty U.S. imperial system units. That maybe is the case if you live in a shitty country  | ||
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ragnasaur
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Geniuspanda
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46669 Posts
On March 09 2016 06:45 Geniuspanda wrote: I learned my dating problem. its because i'm a gamer. Games are undatable :/ If I correctly understand what you're saying, then I disagree. Just find yourself a gamer girl! Or at least someone who understands and accepts that part of your life. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46669 Posts
On March 08 2016 18:16 bloodwhore~ wrote: That maybe is the case if you live in a shitty country At least we're not 1.70 cm long | ||
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DickMcFanny
Ireland1076 Posts
On March 08 2016 08:13 GoTuNk! wrote: I'm above average smart (not genius) with a business and finance degree. Doesn't compute. | ||
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DickMcFanny
Ireland1076 Posts
I've dated over half a century of girls and I have yet to find one that is an actual gamer. I don't get it, I dated smart girls, educated girls, girls who were passionate about science, my current lay is an programmer... shouldn't these be the target groups for girls who know that Zelda doesn't wear a green hood? | ||
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LemOn
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On March 09 2016 06:45 Geniuspanda wrote: I learned my dating problem. its because i'm a gamer. Games are undatable :/ Please note that my post isn’t necessarily addressing you, but more of a general rant regarding "being thing X". You just happened to trigger me but maybe you can take something from it. About "being thing X" in general: The most common problem with being X is, that people start making it a key trait of theirs. When people say stuff like "I am X", more often than not it becomes more important to make others perceive them as X. This even leads to altering their behavior to fit in that group X. Their whole personality starts to evolve around that and it often makes them very one-dimensional. It is easier to "pick" an identity then to accept that you are a mixture of weird and sometimes even contradicting traits and interests. Just look all the metalheads that run around with long hair, norse mythologies-stuff etc. they often wear that stuff/look like that primarily because its "fucking metal", not because they genuinely like it. Of course they like it, but they often like it as a result of wanting to show that they are metalheads. That’s what I would call an attention whore or a wanabe. When the label becomes more important than the actual thing, people tend to become boring as shit since they not only suck at the thing that's supposed to be "their thing", they also don’t have much else to offer. If you are truly into something, it usually stems from interests that this thing covers, not from you only liking this one thing. If your obsession is something extremely special like programming robotic chickens in cobalt, precisely 12,5338 meters under the sea while ferociously making out with an moray eel which happens to have the 7th Dan in karate you might not be one-dimensional, yet you are very niche and therefore somewhat fucked. Normally you will be fine though which brings me to "being a gamer". About being a gamer: First of all, yeah, finding a "gamer girl" is hard. Tons of competitors, small number of women in general that gets even smaller if you take away those that are just attentionwhores and the fact that "gamer girls" tend to hide a bit because of obvious reasons that come from being a female in a male dominated field. But putting that aside, the important questions is: What kind of "I am a gamer" are you? There are multiple reasons for enjoying videogames, to name a few: - a) Simple boredom/just to pass the time - b) Interested in the story/lore in general - c) Competition/challenge - d) Technical interests - e) Enjoying certain mechanics (very loose name for "I like to shoot stuff/explore/puzzle/whatever" a) means that you might as well call yourself anything else that is better for dating. You aren’t really into games, you just need an alternative to being bored. All other points are fairly good, which d) being somewhat of an exception since it is a bit more niche. I just happen to meet all of those points except a). I love pretty much every aspect of videogames: - I am a huge lore/storynerd, having worked on multiple articles for the unofficial elder scroll pages for example. Sometimes I enjoy reading up on lore more than the actual game itself. This translates to me also being heavily into science fiction/fantasy and reading. Even if you are not into reading, lore and story are the things which most women can connect with, even if they aren't into games at all. I pulled quite a few of my female friends into the lore of certain games just by having told them about it. And even though she was also playing games herself, an ex of mine greatly enjoyed watching me play and see the story progressing that way. If you are into lore and story of videogames, you won't have much trouble finding someone who at least understands your hobby, as long as they share those interests. And you shouldn’t have much trouble connecting with their interests as well, you might find the book they are reading/series they are watching compelling as well. I love my games being challenging and having played competitively on a very high level in multiple games with only the lack of the consent of my parents preventing me from signing a contract in some of them, I also can share my experience here. Overall, there aren’t that much women in competitive gaming, but I am not sure if their percentage i actually lower then with males. If are honest, there aren’t that much males either which are really competitive. Playing multiplayer!= being competitive. You are competitive, you strive to better yourself/to be better than others. While the number of women in competitive gaming is fairly low, they do often share the excitement and will enjoy rooting for you. It is just like when they go to see their boyfriends play football and (honestly) root for them. As long as they understand what it means to you, they will root for you. Not guaranteed, but I had multiple occasions where female friends of mine/my ex took deep interest into my play. Even if they didn’t play the game, they realized that I enjoyed it. This led to them rooting for me, which led to the desire to understand better what was going on. And by that point they start to ask you "why are you doing this/that", which ties a bit into d)/ and e). Just think about how many women cheering for their boyfriends in football/watching football with them despite not playing it themselves. Technical interest is actually very niche. I like to program and I like to find out how things work inside a game and still occasionally dip into data mining/disassembling of game mechanics. This isn't shared by many, but it means that you also probably take interests how things work in general which then leads to tons of possibilities outside of gaming. e) I love most genres of games. If your preferences are less spread, you might still find yourself lucky. Certain genres are generally speaking more interesting than women then others and some do open a lot of doors outside of gaming. You like RPGs? Then you probably also like fantasy/adventure/sci-fi-books etc. . While women generally don’t get that much from shooting people in the face, RPGs are often a big catch for them. TLDR: Find out what's the cause of your preference for gaming and work with that (unless you play games just out of boredom, in that case: get a life ;-) ). Also note that like someone already said, it’s enough if she understands and respects your hobby, as long as it isn’t all you can offer. Also, some of the stuff I said works in the opposite direction as well. If a women is into fantasy, she might also enjoy RPGs. Take into account that videogames aren’t generally advertised towards women until recently and most of them never had the chance to explore their interests in that area. As a silver lining: I made it work on some occasions, and I am a very... unusual personally that features lots of traits that seem to contradict each other / aren’t usually combined. And apart from gaming and programming, my other big hobby is participating in heavy, full contact martial arts. My hobby that is generally speaking the most appealing for women is reading. And I wouldn’t even say that I am particularly handsome. At the end it all comes down to personality/being an interesting person. In general gaming doesn’t really help with meeting women though. EDIT: Also, I am disappointed that Lemon didn't asked GoTunk! to convert his weight into the only sensible measurement: stone. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46669 Posts
On March 09 2016 08:14 DickMcFanny wrote: I've dated over half a century of girls and I have yet to find one that is an actual gamer. I don't get it, I dated smart girls, educated girls, girls who were passionate about science, my current lay is an programmer... shouldn't these be the target groups for girls who know that Zelda doesn't wear a green hood? I've talked about Zelda games with A LOT of people, and I've never found one who mistook Link for Zelda (despite the meme). I guess I'm just lucky. | ||
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waffelz
Germany711 Posts
On March 09 2016 10:07 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: I've talked about Zelda games with A LOT of people, and I've never found one who mistook Link for Zelda (despite the meme). I guess I'm just lucky. I don’t know... I used to make that mistake when I first played it, but I was 6 or 7 at the time  . And I never was into consoles besides Zelda: A link to the past, Terranigma and Soul Calibur. But in my first semester there as this "gamer girl" who supposedly was into everything. Including counterstrike. Asked her which CS she played (so i could flame her for playing the wrong one of course) and could tell by her answer that she hadn’t any clue. Turns out she only plays on xbox... so she might have said Zelda wears a green cap. | ||
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IgnE
United States7684 Posts
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LemOn
United Kingdom8629 Posts
As long as you confidently own what you do, it doesn't matter what it is. And having the same hobby is far from vital in a relationship - the only overlap that's needed is activities on dates Also, zelda is the green chick, everyone knows that :D | ||
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
Having said that, somewhat nerdy girls are more enjoyable to talk to in my opinion. Way more fun when you have a more things in common. Your sense of humor definitely matches better with girls who are a bit nerdy compared to really normal "i like to hang out with my friends and party" girls. (Generalized a bit but whatever.) | ||
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