EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 806
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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IgnE
United States7684 Posts
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bloodwhore~
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I train 5+ times per week so I guess I expect someone who is somewhat active. Wouldn't say it matters much other than that you might not be attracted to the person. | ||
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Kleinmuuhg
Vanuatu4091 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46665 Posts
On March 07 2016 08:36 Kleinmuuhg wrote: Fitness is like all other attributes or hobbies.. to some it matters, to some it doesnt, and some dont like it. Exactly. If you meet someone who's a regular at the gym or an athlete, they may very well be big on fitness. | ||
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Deleted User 261926
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8941 Posts
if were talking fitness as in going to gym. i like football (soccer) a lot but people dont associate sports with fitness much for some reason | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46665 Posts
On March 07 2016 15:22 Karpfen wrote: Well, surely it is better to be fit than to not be fit? How can you "not like" fitness unless you're talking about some extreme dedication to it that completely shuts down all other hobbies/interests? It's what people choose to prioritize or consider to be a hobby. It's not that people dislike being in shape, but it's more about the degree in which they exercise and take care of their bodies. | ||
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SMaD
Spain137 Posts
That said, I don't see myself dating someone who doesn't practice some kind of sport/gym as I find the stay active/healthy lifestyle very attractive in a partner. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46665 Posts
 And I agree that there's no substitute for being able to make good conversation. | ||
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
On March 07 2016 19:01 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: And I agree that there's no substitute for being able to make good conversation. Well, that's all my hopes destroyed. Thanks. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46665 Posts
On March 07 2016 19:26 Morfildur wrote: Well, that's all my hopes destroyed. Thanks. Well I guess if you have a lot of money or a large penis... or is that three strikes for you?  In all seriousness though, one can work on improving their conversational skills | ||
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
On March 07 2016 20:55 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: Well I guess if you have a lot of money or a large penis... or is that three strikes for you? In all seriousness though, one can work on improving their conversational skills It was mostly just one of my very typical self-deprecating jokes Honestly, though, I actually worked on my conversational skills a few years back, they were the reason why I went into casting SC2, doing Let's Plays and other video stuff. It helped, despite me being terrible at either of those. I can now speak fluently without thinking about each sentence for two minutes before discarding it unspoken because it stopped being relevant 1 minute 59 seconds ago, but in the end I'm still the second most boring person in the world, especially for people that are not into esports (which, it turns out, is 99.9% of the world and 99.999% of the women) and I'm an awful liar, so I'm bad at pretending to be interesting as well. Becoming physically fit was my last hope, and now, after I lost 15kg to get to an average weight and even gained a few muscles, you said it's all for nothing. I could have eaten so much Pizza in the last few months that I was dieting instead! Well, I do earn slightly above average money, so maybe there is still hope  | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46665 Posts
On March 07 2016 21:18 Morfildur wrote: It was mostly just one of my very typical self-deprecating jokes Honestly, though, I actually worked on my conversational skills a few years back, they were the reason why I went into casting SC2, doing Let's Plays and other video stuff. It helped, despite me being terrible at either of those. I can now speak fluently without thinking about each sentence for two minutes before discarding it unspoken because it stopped being relevant 1 minute 59 seconds ago, but in the end I'm still the second most boring person in the world, especially for people that are not into esports (which, it turns out, is 99.9% of the world and 99.999% of the women) and I'm an awful liar, so I'm bad at pretending to be interesting as well. Becoming physically fit was my last hope, and now, after I lost 15kg to get to an average weight and even gained a few muscles, you said it's all for nothing. I could have eaten so much Pizza in the last few months that I was dieting instead! Well, I do earn slightly above average money, so maybe there is still hope I'm a really bad liar too, so I just try to approach a new person or conversation with a genuine interest in learning from a unique perspective, and recognize that this stranger is as passionate about X (even if I'm not) as I am about my favorite things They won't expect you to love everything they love, but they'll hope you won't be dismissive. And why do you think you're boring? You could either try new things and see if you like anything new... or you could just be happy with what you currently love doing Honestly, based on all the negatives you've pointed out about yourself, the most important one is your lack of confidence. You don't have to be an arrogant prick, but you should feel good and happy about the things you do and like. And if you don't, then find something to do or like that does make you feel good and happy! | ||
Jer99
Canada8160 Posts
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Souldivnr
Cuba127 Posts
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Uldridge
Belgium5237 Posts
On March 07 2016 23:51 Souldivnr wrote: I dont think women care much about how much muscle do you have, but they surely prefer you to not be fatty. Some women do, some women don't. It's entirely dependent on what the person's mindset is.. | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
Also, not being fat or skinny helps people a lot with their confidence, wich obviously helps with dating. However, when you switch from going out 2-3x a week to 1x or less a week to train better, you get less shots ;(. My experience: ![[image loading]](http://starecat.com/content/wp-content/uploads/going-to-gym-expectations-vs-reality.jpg) | ||
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Dingodile
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bloodwhore~
1010 Posts
On March 08 2016 01:32 GoTuNk! wrote: My experience: [picture] LOL. That picture is really accurate. Other guys care about you being swole way more than girls. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46665 Posts
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