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Okay, this is me being paranoid and overanalyzing:
Texting girl. Takes her like all day to respond, then she sends pretty extensive response. Silence for most of a day. Catch her again and chat for like 20 minutes solid. Rinse and repeat.
On one hand, I haven't been completely dropped yet. On the other hand, she's sending pretty detailed responses, so hat means she gives at least one fuck. On the other other hand, there's a lot space between contacts.
Does she just suck at messaging or something? Or maybe I'm probably putting more weight into it than her.
Any thoughts team?
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On November 06 2015 14:24 ticklishmusic wrote:
Okay, this is me being paranoid and overanalyzing:
Texting girl. Takes her like all day to respond, then she sends pretty extensive response. Silence for most of a day. Catch her again and chat for like 20 minutes solid. Rinse and repeat.
On one hand, I haven't been completely dropped yet. On the other hand, she's sending pretty detailed responses, so hat means she gives at least one fuck. On the other other hand, there's a lot space between contacts.
Does she just suck at messaging or something? Or maybe I'm probably putting more weight into it than her.
Any thoughts team?
I'm pretty sure it means that she doesn't sit around with her phone in her hand all day. ^^
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Guys, this girl I know is always doing really cool stuff. Whenever we see each other she is always super nice, smiling, playing with her hair, etc. But she's so busy doing cool stuff so we only see each other a few times a day. How can I fix this? How can I make her spend more of her time on me, not that cool stuff?
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On November 06 2015 14:24 ticklishmusic wrote:
Okay, this is me being paranoid and overanalyzing:
Texting girl. Takes her like all day to respond, then she sends pretty extensive response. Silence for most of a day. Catch her again and chat for like 20 minutes solid. Rinse and repeat.
On one hand, I haven't been completely dropped yet. On the other hand, she's sending pretty detailed responses, so hat means she gives at least one fuck. On the other other hand, there's a lot space between contacts.
Does she just suck at messaging or something? Or maybe I'm probably putting more weight into it than her.
Any thoughts team?
Stop texting her. Go on dates instead.
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On November 06 2015 16:05 IgnE wrote:Show nested quote +On November 06 2015 14:24 ticklishmusic wrote:
Okay, this is me being paranoid and overanalyzing:
Texting girl. Takes her like all day to respond, then she sends pretty extensive response. Silence for most of a day. Catch her again and chat for like 20 minutes solid. Rinse and repeat.
On one hand, I haven't been completely dropped yet. On the other hand, she's sending pretty detailed responses, so hat means she gives at least one fuck. On the other other hand, there's a lot space between contacts.
Does she just suck at messaging or something? Or maybe I'm probably putting more weight into it than her.
Any thoughts team? Stop texting her. Go on dates instead.
Ugh. That's the problem, I having problems setting anything up because responses are kinda intermittent.
I'm like 90% sure she's interested but it's been a couple weeks and I feel like I gotta move and keep momentum going otherwise I'll end up friend zoned or something.
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On November 06 2015 15:47 WarSame wrote:
Guys, this girl I know is always doing really cool stuff. Whenever we see each other she is always super nice, smiling, playing with her hair, etc. But she's so busy doing cool stuff so we only see each other a few times a day. How can I fix this? How can I make her spend more of her time on me, not that cool stuff?
Do cool stuff with her?
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On November 06 2015 15:47 WarSame wrote:
Guys, this girl I know is always doing really cool stuff. Whenever we see each other she is always super nice, smiling, playing with her hair, etc. But she's so busy doing cool stuff so we only see each other a few times a day. How can I fix this? How can I make her spend more of her time on me, not that cool stuff?
She's obviously way too cool for you.
Seriously, it's an indicator of what your relationship would be like. She will be out doing cool stuff and you will be at home resenting her for it. She's not going to change and you shouldn't expect her to do so. I would go crazy if my SO wanted all of my time. I need time for myself, doing what I like.
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Sorry guys and girls, that was supposed to be a joke. Although there is a fair bit of truth to it in my life...
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UHHHHHHHHH! So satisfying!
So I was out today, there was an absurd amount of good looking girls at the university "club". Probably a ratio of 60/40 women/male. We got there, went to dance, me and a friend started dancing with two cute girls. I pretty much spent the entire evening with one of them, my friend who has a girlfriend was left with the other one. The other girl was really into him and I think she got a bit sad he wasn't having any of it due to his gf. We made out a bit even though she wasn't always interested in doing it, not sure if it was because her friend was around pretty much at all time or if she just wants to get to know someone before. Before I left the party I got her number though!
While we were dancing I saw Julia who just dissed me and she clearly saw me to and left in a hurry. A moment later we went out to get some air, the girl I failed to have sex with from Tinder was standing there looking a bit lonely. Feelsgoodmang.jpg
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Dont you fucking dare text anything else than " hey girl I'd love to take you, what day are you free to get together". Also don't get the last part, whyd that make you feel good, did you talk to her?
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On November 06 2015 20:35 LemOn wrote:Dont you fucking dare text anything else than " hey girl I'd love to take you, what day are you free to get together". Also don't get the last part, whyd that make you feel good, did you talk to her?
Haha I will, you don't want me to call her instead  ?
I don't know, can't really explain it. Feels good that they know I've moved on quickly I guess and that I can find others. Asserting dominance!
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On November 06 2015 16:14 ticklishmusic wrote:Show nested quote +On November 06 2015 16:05 IgnE wrote:On November 06 2015 14:24 ticklishmusic wrote:
Okay, this is me being paranoid and overanalyzing:
Texting girl. Takes her like all day to respond, then she sends pretty extensive response. Silence for most of a day. Catch her again and chat for like 20 minutes solid. Rinse and repeat.
On one hand, I haven't been completely dropped yet. On the other hand, she's sending pretty detailed responses, so hat means she gives at least one fuck. On the other other hand, there's a lot space between contacts.
Does she just suck at messaging or something? Or maybe I'm probably putting more weight into it than her.
Any thoughts team? Stop texting her. Go on dates instead. Ugh. That's the problem, I having problems setting anything up because responses are kinda intermittent. I'm like 90% sure she's interested but it's been a couple weeks and I feel like I gotta move and keep momentum going otherwise I'll end up friend zoned or something.
1. You're overanalyzing. Relax 
2. Give her a call sometime and make a date right then and there. Include a date and time and location/ activity. If you're not sure when a good time would be to call, you can always ask her via text when you can give her a call to set up a date, or leave her a voicemail.
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On November 06 2015 18:15 bloodwhore~ wrote:
UHHHHHHHHH! So satisfying!
So I was out today, there was an absurd amount of good looking girls at the university "club". Probably a ratio of 60/40 women/male. We got there, went to dance, me and a friend started dancing with two cute girls. I pretty much spent the entire evening with one of them, my friend who has a girlfriend was left with the other one. The other girl was really into him and I think she got a bit sad he wasn't having any of it due to his gf. We made out a bit even though she wasn't always interested in doing it, not sure if it was because her friend was around pretty much at all time or if she just wants to get to know someone before. Before I left the party I got her number though!
While we were dancing I saw Julia who just dissed me and she clearly saw me to and left in a hurry. A moment later we went out to get some air, the girl I failed to have sex with from Tinder was standing there looking a bit lonely. Feelsgoodmang.jpg
Nice! Congrats
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On November 06 2015 16:14 ticklishmusic wrote:I'm like 90% sure she's interested but it's been a couple weeks and I feel like I gotta move and keep momentum going otherwise I'll end up friend zoned or something.
I think the probability of you friendzoning yourself is way higher if you don't ask her out. I gotta say, I don't really understand how you can think not asking her out and "keeping the momentum going" is good if you're going for the late game.
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I also tindered like a mad man at the pre party. Have a date tomorrow or on sunday with a girl I started talking to yesterday night. My game when drunk is fucking amazing. Talked to another girl who said she would let me know when she is in town so we can fuck. Unsure how serious she was, but in my drunken state I was sure she wanted to. Added some girl on snapchat from tinder as well.
On November 06 2015 21:11 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Nice! Congrats
Thanks!
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On November 06 2015 21:17 bloodwhore~ wrote:Show nested quote +On November 06 2015 16:14 ticklishmusic wrote:I'm like 90% sure she's interested but it's been a couple weeks and I feel like I gotta move and keep momentum going otherwise I'll end up friend zoned or something. I think the probability of you friendzoning yourself is way higher if you don't ask her out. I gotta say, I don't really understand how you can think not asking her out and "keeping the momentum going" is good if you're going for the late game.
You misunderstood his post completely. He is saying that he thinks he needs to do exactly that.
A related perspective: My GF of almost 2 years routinely forgets her phone/to charge her phone and it can take her anywhere from 10 seconds to 8 hours before she responds. When girls don't respond immediately it can mean anything from them being uninterested to them no looking at their phone every 5 seconds - so like everyone else advocates, keep the texting to a minimum (really should just be used to ensure they know you are interested), and go straight to dating.
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On November 06 2015 22:26 Ghostcom wrote:Show nested quote +On November 06 2015 21:17 bloodwhore~ wrote:On November 06 2015 16:14 ticklishmusic wrote:I'm like 90% sure she's interested but it's been a couple weeks and I feel like I gotta move and keep momentum going otherwise I'll end up friend zoned or something. I think the probability of you friendzoning yourself is way higher if you don't ask her out. I gotta say, I don't really understand how you can think not asking her out and "keeping the momentum going" is good if you're going for the late game. You misunderstood his post completely. He is saying that he thinks he needs to do exactly that. A related perspective: My GF of almost 2 years routinely forgets her phone/to charge her phone and it can take her anywhere from 10 seconds to 8 hours before she responds. When girls don't respond immediately it can mean anything from them being uninterested to them no looking at their phone every 5 seconds - so like everyone else advocates, keep the texting to a minimum (really should just be used to ensure they know you are interested), and go straight to dating.
Pretty much.
Yeah, gonna make the full court press for the first not-a-date this weekend. I probably could have locked it up, but I ended up offering a couple suggestions of places and got a little off topic yesterday. I feel like it's kind of forward to just be like "sup here is time and place, you in?" On one hand it sounds confident, but on the other hand not really me but I guess I'll have to step outside the comfort zone a bit.
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On November 06 2015 22:26 Ghostcom wrote:You misunderstood his post completely. He is saying that he thinks he needs to do exactly that.
Oh. Well it shouldn't be hard.
I feel like it's kind of forward to just be like "sup here is time and place, you in?" On one hand it sounds confident, but on the other hand not really me but I guess I'll have to step outside the comfort zone a bit.
Well if you don't expect her to be available at the time your suggestion go like: "Let me know a time and date when you're free and we'll [insert date]". And don't talk about other stuff until your date is confirmed if she is like slippery fish.
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On November 07 2015 01:38 ticklishmusic wrote:Show nested quote +On November 06 2015 22:26 Ghostcom wrote:On November 06 2015 21:17 bloodwhore~ wrote:On November 06 2015 16:14 ticklishmusic wrote:I'm like 90% sure she's interested but it's been a couple weeks and I feel like I gotta move and keep momentum going otherwise I'll end up friend zoned or something. I think the probability of you friendzoning yourself is way higher if you don't ask her out. I gotta say, I don't really understand how you can think not asking her out and "keeping the momentum going" is good if you're going for the late game. You misunderstood his post completely. He is saying that he thinks he needs to do exactly that. A related perspective: My GF of almost 2 years routinely forgets her phone/to charge her phone and it can take her anywhere from 10 seconds to 8 hours before she responds. When girls don't respond immediately it can mean anything from them being uninterested to them no looking at their phone every 5 seconds - so like everyone else advocates, keep the texting to a minimum (really should just be used to ensure they know you are interested), and go straight to dating. Pretty much. Yeah, gonna make the full court press for the first not-a-date this weekend. I probably could have locked it up, but I ended up offering a couple suggestions of places and got a little off topic yesterday. I feel like it's kind of forward to just be like "sup here is time and place, you in?" On one hand it sounds confident, but on the other hand not really me but I guess I'll have to step outside the comfort zone a bit.
It's definitely a nice touch.
If it's more "you", try to convey but not outright say (unless she's flaking like Tony the Tiger then you can outright say) that you're pretty busy and you want to have a great time with her, but you've also got a lot of commitments, work/school/whatever and you need to make time for those too.
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Wait if it's not-a-date it sounds like you are already friendzoned.
@bloodwhore
Don't be surprised if that girl you made out with at the club doesn't respond to your followup.
The thing about drunk game is that you are drunk when you feel like it's going well.
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