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On October 22 2015 04:28 IgnE wrote:How old are you Sickel? Tucker Max is here to tell us how to date better: observer.comWho better to learn from about what it's actually like to be a woman?
The smell thing - my girl read that if she starts taking the pill it might change her pheromone perception and "she doesn't want me to stink to her". And we do have this strong thing when we get close she gets horny just through smell 
real thing? It does sound legit, read some studies that it happened when they went *off* the pill
What's your approach to female contraceptives anyways guys.
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The Tucker Max article was not bad. Some of it was a bit weird, but the overall point seems good - us men generally don't consider what women are thinking or pay it enough mind. At one point I went on a hike with a girl in the woods behind my University at 6 pm during late fall. It was pitch black at that time and coming back we passed a group of people going the other way that scared the shit out of both of us - if they had bad intent we couldn't have done anything. That made me realize a bit how women must feel most of the time - almost half of the people you meet have enough physical strength to overpower you every day. That's got to be worrisome. Even more than that, they get it drilled into their head by their parents, society, etc. that it's more likely than it really is, so they think it's almost a certainty. If I thought there was a good chance of getting raped if I went on a date I'd be even more reclusive than I am now.
As for the scent thing, I've heard it said that women like it if you smell like their fathers or something. It gives them that feeling of being protected. I think your personal smell doesn't matter that much, because it will often be covered by cologne or deodorant.
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Got heartbroken in 2011, decided to throw myself in the game once again in 2013 (after reading some inputs from here), she loved it, dated for a while, got married February last year, and now I'm officially a dad.
Thanks guys. Best of luck to you all!
P.S: having a baby is like having a friend that always drunk.
Yes he'll pee and shit everywhere and might even throw up a little. But most of the time he will act a fool and make you laugh.
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On October 22 2015 10:19 WarSame wrote: If I thought there was a good chance of getting raped if I went on a date I'd be even more reclusive than I am now.
I mean, I'm about 30 times as likely to get assaulted as raped. There's also a chance, about 1/3 of the rape chance, I might get murdered.
http://www.city-data.com/crime/crime-New-York-New-York.html
Doesn't mean I'm going to get socked in the face or raped or stabbed on a date, and in fact it's a rarity to the point which it doesn't even cross my mind. There's some basic things I can do to stay safe and reduce the chances, but it's not something I worry about.
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On October 22 2015 00:39 [UoN]Sentinel wrote:
I meant neither knows how they lasted a year apparently. I asked the guy the same question some time after they got back from their dinner.
I've a friend who I met travelling and she mentioned that she felt she was just passing time with her boyfriend and hardly saw it as anything serious - never saw him as the guy she'd settle down with.
And while they aren't engaged here we are like five years later and they're looking increasingly likely that they will eventually settle down together.
So who knows?
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On October 22 2015 10:44 brinepumps wrote:
Got heartbroken in 2011, decided to throw myself in the game once again in 2013 (after reading some inputs from here), she loved it, dated for a while, got married February last year, and now I'm officially a dad.
Wow, congrats. Single to married within a year? And then a kid a year later? Crazy!
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On October 22 2015 10:44 brinepumps wrote:
Got heartbroken in 2011, decided to throw myself in the game once again in 2013 (after reading some inputs from here), she loved it, dated for a while, got married February last year, and now I'm officially a dad.
Thanks guys. Best of luck to you all!
P.S: having a baby is like having a friend that always drunk.
Yes he'll pee and shit everywhere and might even throw up a little. But most of the time he will act a fool and make you laugh.
Congrats!
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On October 22 2015 11:07 Yoz wrote:Show nested quote +On October 22 2015 00:39 [UoN]Sentinel wrote:
I meant neither knows how they lasted a year apparently. I asked the guy the same question some time after they got back from their dinner. I've a friend who I met travelling and she mentioned that she felt she was just passing time with her boyfriend and hardly saw it as anything serious - never saw him as the guy she'd settle down with. And while they aren't engaged here we are like five years later and they're looking increasingly likely that they will eventually settle down together. So who knows?
People truly are amazing
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On October 22 2015 11:08 Yoz wrote:Show nested quote +On October 22 2015 10:44 brinepumps wrote:
Got heartbroken in 2011, decided to throw myself in the game once again in 2013 (after reading some inputs from here), she loved it, dated for a while, got married February last year, and now I'm officially a dad. Wow, congrats. Single to married within a year? And then a kid a year later? Crazy!
Well she friendzoned me for like a kabilion years so I don't need much time to know her better.
Also, I had to propose to her a.s.a.p before she realized we're better as a friend haha
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On October 22 2015 11:31 brinepumps wrote:Show nested quote +On October 22 2015 11:08 Yoz wrote:On October 22 2015 10:44 brinepumps wrote:
Got heartbroken in 2011, decided to throw myself in the game once again in 2013 (after reading some inputs from here), she loved it, dated for a while, got married February last year, and now I'm officially a dad. Wow, congrats. Single to married within a year? And then a kid a year later? Crazy! Well she friendzoned me for like a kabilion years so I don't need much time to know her better. Also, I had to propose to her a.s.a.p before she realized we're better as a friend haha
LOL man you sure tricked her! 
In all seriousness though, congrats
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I guess that Tucker Max article makes sense although a lot of it is just a long description of why women are a hot mess of unpredictability for men. I guess it's good to raise awareness.
It sucks that as a guy you are usually labeled as a homophobe racist axe murder rapist until proven otherwise, but I guess we inherit the sins of our forefathers...
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Well it's not necessarily that they're wildly unpredictable, it's mostly just a PSA saying "hey, women think differently, here's some reasoning why, here's how you can think like them, and here's the effect it has". Informative and relevant to the thread. It'd probably fit in a more seduction oriented place (/r/seduction) but it's not too out of place here.
Also, I have pretty much no money right now. $0 cash and less than $100 in the bank with no income right now. :/ This obviously limits my dating options, because I can't go out anywhere. Hopefully I get a career job soon which would be tons of money, if not...
One of my friends that I've known since high school, has lately become more and more attractive to me, and I don't know why. When I first met her I thought she was decent looking, but as we've known each other for longer I've become slowly more attracted to her, through seeing her personality. Somehow this makes her look better to me, as well. I've been thinking of asking her out for a while but I'm generally so passive for dating, have no money, and wouldn't want to fuck up the friendship. We don't text a lot(I don't text much at all) and we pretty much never meet without someone from our social circle, so I'm wondering how I would go about this well. I don't want to ask her out over text, but at the same time, someone's always there when we hang out together.
There was a girl at my work last summer that I wanted to ask for her phone number. I spent all summer dithering about it, and eventually asked her for it in the last week in front of 4 people. I may just say fuck it and ask her out in front of whatever friends are there at this point. I don't know.
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Did the girl from your work give you the number?
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Yeah, she did. I wasn't particularly happy with how it happened, because if you ask someone for their number in front of other people it'll be weird either way, y'know? I wasn't going to just not ask, though, and didn't have a lot of opportunities.
EDIT: There was plenty of opportunities, but not between when I made my mind up and the end of summer.
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On October 22 2015 10:44 brinepumps wrote:
Got heartbroken in 2011, decided to throw myself in the game once again in 2013 (after reading some inputs from here), she loved it, dated for a while, got married February last year, and now I'm officially a dad.
Thanks guys. Best of luck to you all!
P.S: having a baby is like having a friend that always drunk.
Yes he'll pee and shit everywhere and might even throw up a little. But most of the time he will act a fool and make you laugh.
lol :D
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Am i the only 1 who likes more to find foreign girls and exchange students on tinder in your own city? Currently i'm looking to get matched up with a some of the spanish girls and south american exchange students because i'm taking spanish classes so that would help me greatly 
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I met the girl today! We walked around in the old part of the city and talked. It went pretty well I think even though I was pretty nervous. She probably did like 60% of the talking. Still can't believe how gorgeous she is, absolutely flawless skin, around 5'8" (I'm 5'9"), long brown hair, her body type is near perfect. I must not let my insecurity get the better of me!
At the end of the date I asked her if she wanted to meet me again, she replied with "Do you want to?" I told her yes and she said that we could meet after my exam. So maybe next tuesday or something. I haven't talked to her that much through text so I'll try to do that more.
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On October 23 2015 04:26 Copymizer wrote:Am i the only 1 who likes more to find foreign girls and exchange students on tinder in your own city? Currently i'm looking to get matched up with a some of the spanish girls and south american exchange students because i'm taking spanish classes so that would help me greatly
I think people just get attracted exotic people. I went to a school that was mostly black and Indian, now I can't get enough of white/Asian girls. My Indian friends I go with on trips, the girls that grew up in almost all-white areas find them way more attractive than anyone in our hometown tends to.
Spanish girls are amazing in general though. Chile in particular is a beautiful country with beautiful men and beautiful women.
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On October 23 2015 05:18 [UoN]Sentinel wrote:Show nested quote +On October 23 2015 04:26 Copymizer wrote:Am i the only 1 who likes more to find foreign girls and exchange students on tinder in your own city? Currently i'm looking to get matched up with a some of the spanish girls and south american exchange students because i'm taking spanish classes so that would help me greatly I think people just get attracted exotic people. I went to a school that was mostly black and Indian, now I can't get enough of white/Asian girls. My Indian friends I go with on trips, the girls that grew up in almost all-white areas find them way more attractive than anyone in our hometown tends to. Spanish girls are amazing in general though. Chile in particular is a beautiful country with beautiful men and beautiful women.
Totally, my ideal is a spanish speaking girl but the other day i saw a very beautiful black girl who entered the school, i couldn't help but approach her immediately and ask what she was looking for, 10 secs, went and she was gone again, i really hope i see her again so i can ask for her phone number. I don't like living in a dominantly white country,i find asians, black, latin americans and middle eastern girls much more interesting. It's fun to hook up with a latin girl because some of them can also dance really nice. When i was in Colombia i felt like i was in paradise for 3 months
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On October 23 2015 04:50 bloodwhore~ wrote:
I met the girl today! We walked around in the old part of the city and talked. It went pretty well I think even though I was pretty nervous. She probably did like 60% of the talking. Still can't believe how gorgeous she is, absolutely flawless skin, around 5'8" (I'm 5'9"), long brown hair, her body type is near perfect. I must not let my insecurity get the better of me!
At the end of the date I asked her if she wanted to meet me again, she replied with "Do you want to?" I told her yes and she said that we could meet after my exam. So maybe next tuesday or something. I haven't talked to her that much through text so I'll try to do that more.
Oh boy 
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