Dating: How's your luck? - Page 532

On August 17 2014 22:38 Wombat_NI wrote:
Anybody have wildly fluctuating sex drives? I have gone from not really caring unless I am with a long term partner to some kind of lecherous, sex-obsessed maniac.

I also suffer from depressive episodes, but there doesn't seem to be a great correlation there, at least in consistency.

On August 18 2014 09:43 evilfatsh1t wrote:
so me and my gf broke up, as expected. but it wasnt really a bad breakup, kind of a mutual decision
i still like her but i know this break up is for the best, because our relationship wont progress. i dont have any bad feelings about her either, so i want to stay on good terms. she claims the same
what does everyone think about this kind of arrangement in general? does breaking up and staying friends actually work or do people just say that but never actually talk to each other again?

On August 18 2014 09:43 evilfatsh1t wrote:
so me and my gf broke up, as expected. but it wasnt really a bad breakup, kind of a mutual decision
i still like her but i know this break up is for the best, because our relationship wont progress. i dont have any bad feelings about her either, so i want to stay on good terms. she claims the same
what does everyone think about this kind of arrangement in general? does breaking up and staying friends actually work or do people just say that but never actually talk to each other again?

On August 18 2014 09:43 evilfatsh1t wrote:
so me and my gf broke up, as expected. but it wasnt really a bad breakup, kind of a mutual decision
i still like her but i know this break up is for the best, because our relationship wont progress. i dont have any bad feelings about her either, so i want to stay on good terms. she claims the same
what does everyone think about this kind of arrangement in general? does breaking up and staying friends actually work or do people just say that but never actually talk to each other again?

On August 19 2014 12:22 Livelovedie wrote:
I wrote a few pages back about growing apart from my girlfriend. I decided to end it on Saturday. She took it better than expected; I think we both knew that we had reached a somber fork in the road where we realized that a long-distance relationship wasn't going to work for us. I am starting to realize how reliant I was on her.

I am now at school and failing to have really made friends my first two years of college, I'm having a really hard time doing so. I am currently in RA training and have been acting like being part of the group, participating minimally in it, and spending the rest of the time acting like the loner I am. I knew one of the girl's before RA training, let's call her Lauren, we met a couple of years ago and we talked some at the beginning of the 12 hour day we spent as group, but as the day progressed she seemed to take more of an interest in other people, I can't blame her. There was this awkward moment that summed it up where we were being presented with a two hour presentation after being on break for awhile. I was already in the room but I see Lauren enter, as I play with my phone pretending I'm talking to someone or doing something important and don't make eye contact with her. I see the group of girls she was hanging out with earlier, but later than when she hung with me, and they are out of chairs. At this point a girl two chairs from me engages me in conversation. Lauren is then faced with a decision, she can either chair that is in the middle of us but she must choose if she wants to sit by the other girl or if she wants to sit by me. This other girl and I were having a decent conversation but then Lauren enters the picture and starts talking to this girl, I then feel relegated to playing with my phone again with this awkward one chair distance between me and the other girls now. The day is almost over at this point, thank god, and I retreat further from the group sitting unassumingly in the back of an informal circle as we wrap up the day.

I find all this group activity very draining for me. I also tend to overthink things like the chair thing or if I should interject myself into groups when no one comes over to talk to me. I usually just decide to stay on the outside. The friendships I tend to make, if you can call them that, are almost essentially superficial acquaintances. I can never seem to bridge the gap between sitting by someone in class and doing anything outside of class with those people. Another part of me romanticizes the idea of being the mysterious loner, even though I don't think any people would put that much effort into observing and describing me as such.

One of the good things about breaking up with my girlfriend is I have started to take up exercising more since I am not hanging out with anyone anymore.

She is currently living with him at his parents house out of need, not out of want.

She's wearing almost nothing.

On August 19 2014 15:31 Zooper31 wrote:
Not really needing help or anything but this is the closest place I can think of to ask about opinion on what a women might be thinking.

I have a job, co-worker there works in different department, super cute (blonde, black hipster glasses, semi short hair, always smiling). Has same interests in nerdy stuff, same kind of games etc. Is kinda intellectual I'd put it almost but not really idk, anyway, she actually knows about books and authors and shit and can actually talk about real stuff to her about some stuff sometimes. Has some tattoos and some small body piercings (belly button, some hip dermals on her sides) total turn on for me, love that in girls. Has bf in different department, different department than both of us. They seem cool together, at times. They differently went through a rough patch awhile ago and I think they are on good terms now right now I think and everything is fine between them.

She is currently living with him at his parents house out of need, not out of want. They'd prefer to be separately living arrangements as them living together is what forced the rough patch and made them fight a lot (having no time apart and not getting to relax, constantly together 24/7 since they work together almost).

Anyway we get to talking and we both have a shit ton of stuff in common I didn't know about that's really weird. Both have heart conditions, both are Barnes & Noble fanatics, both love StarCraft, and both love the same kind of drink. I ask if she wants to hangout sometime and hit up B&N together since I need to get a new graphic novel coming out and I have to day off, she agrees and says that'd she could use some social interaction and that'd be fun. We set time and she mentions that that's a perfect time as her bf will just be heading to work. I pick her up from his house and it's just the two of us. We've hung out before in groups of other people but first time alone, and without her bf present.

She's wearing almost nothing. I mean she's wearing short shorts that go below her hip bones that look like they are almost about to pop off. She's got more than just a midriff going on, and is basically just wearing a "top" the size of a sports bra. Huge amount of cleavage going on and she's got this tiny ass backpack on that's like the size of a big purse. I've seen her in non work clothes before, but always some kind of normal t-shirt from like a band or something (total rock/punk band chick btw too) and always some kind of jeans on. I had no idea she had that good of a body going on, and why in the love of god she felt the need to show it off to go to a bookstore... She had this tattoo on the side of her stomach going down into her short shorts that you couldn't see the end of... oh my god.

Now I can't get her out of my head. We went to the mall, book store, had some lunch and I dropped her off and nothing has happened since then, just some normal chatter at work. I'm 90% sure she just threw on something comfortable and didn't think twice about it (it wasn't hot out, it actually rained a tiny bit while we were shopping around) and was just being friendly. We had a great time after all and we actually made plans to see the new "The Giver" movie since we were talking about it at the bookstore last week tomorrow. And again we're going to be alone, not by choice this time, was going to be a group outing but no one else could make it unfortunately.

What do? All just in my head right? I shouldn't try to pursue her right? We work together, she has a bf, who also works in the same place, she's just being friendly, while being insanely hot. I should just enjoy the show and be happy to have her company right? I felt like a million bucks at the mall that day, every single guy had to be checking her out too lol.