Dating: How's your luck? - Page 530

On August 11 2014 18:19 SixStrings wrote:
Is there a name for an arrangement in which every Monday you have to cook for her and tidy up her place while she's at work, then massage and get carnal with her so you can live rent free?

On August 11 2014 08:32 LemOn wrote:
so I met this girl at a wedding yeah 2 weeks back yeah
Didn't date for 2years prior
went over, no sex tho, well we did anything but. shes from a town 1hr on bus away,
went to see her week later after some messages (email :D) was kinda weird she obvy didn't want to be seen as a slut so took it friendly, cold even no attempts at contact etc. you know the signs, went to her place since her ankle is dislocated couldnt go to pub talked for a long time, was hardcore friend danger zone alert. We can talk for hours it's rly fun. Im a online poker pro and used to work in sales and miss it so listening and talking is just entertaining

So you know I do standard stuff - bring up the topic that men can't be friends with chicks, how I was in a long relationship now I just wanna fuck around with bimbos and tell her what she thinks about being someone for a finite time just enjoy knowing there's no future (A bit cowardly she said). She was surprised apparently you don't bring that stuff up when you see smn for the 1st time sober but I had no choice. Used fear of loss was like 1am I had no bus home told her this is prolly it, no more emails since I can't be friends with chicks heading for the door I finally cracked her and she gave me like a clear signal, spent the night, saw her in a week, went for a kiss got the cheek treatment again talk myself over to hers after talking drinking on a riverside where theres parties for 8hrs, obvy implying that just fucking around is what I logically want not how I rly am so basically there's ambiguity about a relationship possibility there (you now keep em guessing but dont shut the door women are attracted to that apparently :D).

Now I get an email that a friend pulled out of holidays in Bulgaria in a week and have the offer to go with her, her pal and an Austrian guy I also met at the wedding + his gf (he's funny, we get a long very well). Question I have for you studs - is that weird or not?
I mean I like this chick we talk like friends but I avoided friendzone trap=perfect crime but it might be too soon to spend a week together?
Right now Im inclined to snapcall personally cause it'll be fun what'd you do.

P.S. Also day 42 of nofap challenge if that helps. Thinly veiled brag. Maybe I like her cause of nofap only? cause I like all women now, once I empty the clip multiple times on hols I might realize it's not her I rly like

On August 11 2014 14:01 quadrob wrote:


Why do you need to tell her over IM that you want to phone her to apologize? Just CALL her if you want to do it. You don't need permission from someone or give notice to them before calling people. You have alot to learn when it comes to being a man and not being a BOY. You are being a boy and acting all nice, way overboard. You need to learn to be a MAN.

If you want to ask her out then do it, if you want to call her to say hi or whatever then do it, stop thinking too much about what the outcome will be. You need to be confident in your choices, if you keep overthinking and second guessing the situation, girls can smell that a mile away. Girls want confidence and that's what attracts them, because you aren't afraid and are confident in your choices.

my 2c

On August 12 2014 03:52 Hoender wrote:


well in that specific case, it was really late (after 11oclock) and I wasnt sure whether she was still awake, but ye I do agree with your cents tho.

That being said, we've arranged to go on a date this Sunday and things are looking promising

Even though I didnt use any of you guys' advice, it was useful just to use this thread as a platform to vent/sort out my feelings. So, cheers guys keep up the good work!

On August 13 2014 00:28 Riquora wrote:
Guys,

I kinda need your help with some stuff, and i hope you guys can give me some advice

Oke, so I'm in this group of colleagues and some roommates of me, and we hang out all the time.
There is this 1 girl though, and i kinda feel I'm falling in love with her.

I'll give you guys some back-story first.

I've started working there last November, and we quickly became sorta good friends or not sure how to call it, we timed lunchbreaks together. And just talk and talk alot.
Lately another colleague of us left us, and quickly after that me and her and 2 other colleagues became alot closer, and started to hangout after work aswell. like go to parties, or hangout at my house or another of their house, last saturday, things happend, The girl i am talking about has a Boyfriend as of right now, though, i know things are not going well between them(i don't know the dude really good, only seen him like two times or something).

So last saterday, she confessed to me she cheated on him, and had sex with somebody else. She also told me she wants to break up with him. And don't want to continue with the other dude.

I told her, i won't tell her BF about the cheating, she has to do that herself (i don't know if she will though) but after she confessed it to me. things kinda changed between us somehow, we cuddled alot that day, and somehow i felt there was a spark between her and me. like having my arm around her, she keeps getting close to me. And i have seriously no idea what to do.

She is one of the few female friends i have, and i kind of want to confess to her, that i am in love with her. But her telling me that she cheated, kinda broke my hearth a bit from the inside. Since i will always have doubts about it if she will not do that to me, if anything will happen between us.
And also, i seriously don't want to lose her as a friend,

So like i said we work together. Though she is starting school again in like 2 weeks, and she will work alot less then, and i will probably see her alot less aswell, i kinda think i need to be open about it. but i seriously have no idea how.

I'm like so bad at doing the "talk" i'm just a bit scared that maybe she won't be in to me, and our friendship will die out because of that.

So please give me your best advice guys

Also sorry for any weird English, i tried my best, but it's not my native language.

On August 13 2014 00:28 Riquora wrote:
Guys,

I kinda need your help with some stuff, and i hope you guys can give me some advice

Oke, so I'm in this group of colleagues and some roommates of me, and we hang out all the time.
There is this 1 girl though, and i kinda feel I'm falling in love with her.

I'll give you guys some back-story first.

I've started working there last November, and we quickly became sorta good friends or not sure how to call it, we timed lunchbreaks together. And just talk and talk alot.
Lately another colleague of us left us, and quickly after that me and her and 2 other colleagues became alot closer, and started to hangout after work aswell. like go to parties, or hangout at my house or another of their house, last saturday, things happend, The girl i am talking about has a Boyfriend as of right now, though, i know things are not going well between them(i don't know the dude really good, only seen him like two times or something).

So last saterday, she confessed to me she cheated on him, and had sex with somebody else. She also told me she wants to break up with him. And don't want to continue with the other dude.

I told her, i won't tell her BF about the cheating, she has to do that herself (i don't know if she will though) but after she confessed it to me. things kinda changed between us somehow, we cuddled alot that day, and somehow i felt there was a spark between her and me. like having my arm around her, she keeps getting close to me. And i have seriously no idea what to do.

She is one of the few female friends i have, and i kind of want to confess to her, that i am in love with her. But her telling me that she cheated, kinda broke my hearth a bit from the inside. Since i will always have doubts about it if she will not do that to me, if anything will happen between us.
And also, i seriously don't want to lose her as a friend,

So like i said we work together. Though she is starting school again in like 2 weeks, and she will work alot less then, and i will probably see her alot less aswell, i kinda think i need to be open about it. but i seriously have no idea how.

I'm like so bad at doing the "talk" i'm just a bit scared that maybe she won't be in to me, and our friendship will die out because of that.

So please give me your best advice guys

Also sorry for any weird English, i tried my best, but it's not my native language.

On August 13 2014 00:53 TheFish7 wrote:
The cheating thing would really be setting off red flags for me...

On August 13 2014 01:31 c0ldfusion wrote:
Eh, just go for it. Tell her to break up with her bf and date her. Life is too short to second guess yourself like that.
A lot of times cheating is a symptom, not the cause of a relationship souring.
Edit: wait, she'll still be a colleague after school starts for her? Hmm.. I would reconsider depending on how closely you'll work together. As they say here, don't dip your pen in company ink.

On August 13 2014 02:08 Riquora wrote:



She will be a colleague yes, but we will probably not work much together, if we even will work together even.

On August 13 2014 00:28 Riquora wrote:
She is one of the few female friends i have, and i kind of want to confess to her, that i am in love with her. But her telling me that she cheated, kinda broke my hearth a bit from the inside. Since i will always have doubts about it if she will not do that to me, if anything will happen between us.

And also, i seriously don't want to lose her as a friend.

I'm like so bad at doing the "talk" i'm just a bit scared that maybe she won't be in to me, and our friendship will die out because of that.

On August 11 2014 08:32 LemOn wrote:
Now I get an email that a friend pulled out of holidays in Bulgaria in a week and have the offer to go with her, her pal and an Austrian guy I also met at the wedding + his gf (he's funny, we get a long very well). Question I have for you studs - is that weird or not?
I mean I like this chick we talk like friends but I avoided friendzone trap=perfect crime but it might be too soon to spend a week together?
Right now Im inclined to snapcall personally cause it'll be fun what'd you do.

On August 13 2014 00:28 Riquora wrote:
Guys,

I kinda need your help with some stuff, and i hope you guys can give me some advice

Oke, so I'm in this group of colleagues and some roommates of me, and we hang out all the time.
There is this 1 girl though, and i kinda feel I'm falling in love with her.

I'll give you guys some back-story first.

I've started working there last November, and we quickly became sorta good friends or not sure how to call it, we timed lunchbreaks together. And just talk and talk alot.
Lately another colleague of us left us, and quickly after that me and her and 2 other colleagues became alot closer, and started to hangout after work aswell. like go to parties, or hangout at my house or another of their house, last saturday, things happend, The girl i am talking about has a Boyfriend as of right now, though, i know things are not going well between them(i don't know the dude really good, only seen him like two times or something).

So last saterday, she confessed to me she cheated on him, and had sex with somebody else. She also told me she wants to break up with him. And don't want to continue with the other dude.

I told her, i won't tell her BF about the cheating, she has to do that herself (i don't know if she will though) but after she confessed it to me. things kinda changed between us somehow, we cuddled alot that day, and somehow i felt there was a spark between her and me. like having my arm around her, she keeps getting close to me. And i have seriously no idea what to do.

She is one of the few female friends i have, and i kind of want to confess to her, that i am in love with her. But her telling me that she cheated, kinda broke my hearth a bit from the inside. Since i will always have doubts about it if she will not do that to me, if anything will happen between us.
And also, i seriously don't want to lose her as a friend,

So like i said we work together. Though she is starting school again in like 2 weeks, and she will work alot less then, and i will probably see her alot less aswell, i kinda think i need to be open about it. but i seriously have no idea how.

I'm like so bad at doing the "talk" i'm just a bit scared that maybe she won't be in to me, and our friendship will die out because of that.

So please give me your best advice guys

Also sorry for any weird English, i tried my best, but it's not my native language.

So she went crazy after allowing you to do her, but not after she returned the favor. She's a crazy mofo and I guess it's good you found out sooner rather than later. Though it sucks if she blue balled you during that encounter basically.