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On February 02 2012 18:14 Hyst3ria wrote:So there's this guy I met at school, he's really cute (in my opinion). Right now I am currently at college and this guy is a different major than me. He is a business major while I am a computer science major (completely opposite ends of the school). We talk on a daily basis and I have just been trying to find a way to tell him how I feel about him. He's really into the starcraft scene and he is korean which is an A+ in my book. After long deliberating I just don't know how to tell him how I feel about him. This is essentially where I'm at in my dating state. Did I mention he has a fucking massive jaw? ![[image loading]](http://a4.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/198135_2015722234956_1300834197_32512973_5679521_n.jpg) He's the one next to machine obviously. They are so cute together. Right now I feel like he doesn't know how I feel so it's kind of at that friend zone stage. I don't like this stage because I've been there so many times and I have difficulty moving past it. Any advice people? I believe his TL account is HelloKittySS. Thanks and have a nice day everyone!
Mods I would like for this post to be deleted and the user banned. That photo is of me and EG machine, the user knows who I am and he (yes the user is a male) is trolling via using my picture without my permission. My evidence is my user name (Kang of Hee) and my facebook account http://www.facebook.com/HEIDTB which you can see is where he took that picture from. Please ban that user and remove all photos of me.
-Hee Kang
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Dont care, be picky, dump the second you dont like it, say no when you feel fake boobs and ass and do other activaties life has.
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One thing you haven't addressed is acne. How does one get rid of it? Let me guess you are going to say: Drink lots of water, change pillowcase every night (Skin Sensitive stuff), wash face twice a day (EL OH EL), drink pure organic home made vegetable juice? Don't smoke, don't drink, no sugar, almost no salt, fish oil, acv, no oily moisturiser, exercise, no oil in foods...etc etc. I bet you don't do all of that and yet have better skin than I, (Well I do drink socially).
Benzoyl peroxide has worked wonders for my acne. I don't know if it is something you've tried, but it's something to look into. The unfortunate downside of benzoyl peroxide is that it tends to bleach things. Many of my t-shirts have pink bleach stains around the shoulders due to the benzoyl peroxide runoff in sweat. My wife also blames the stuff for slightly bleaching our wedding towels, which is most likely true. If you choose to go this route, benzoyl peroxide usually comes in a small tube of cream for about $5 US...apply twice a day and hopefully it works!
On the topic of dating...I've had one girlfriend who is now my wife. We met in college and tied the knot 5 months ago. The most important things are to be yourself (totally cliche, right?) and have confidence in yourself (ie don't be afraid to talk. Maybe not even to girls...at least be animated and exciting when talking to your friends). You can be the nice guy...but not too nice. One of the my friends is literally the best/nicest person I know, but he is always relegated to the friend zone due to his nice nature and his hesitance with the ladies. Get out of your comfort zone and do your best not to be awkward about it, even though it is awkward. When we were dating, my wife was constantly pushing me out of my comfort zone, and I have ended up better because of it, but it is still awkward even now to be out of my comfort zone.
To be clear, my wife doesn't understand Starcraft, but she does know who Day9 is. That's a start right?
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Being attractive is RARELY what pulls women. It helps, but honestly, in your twenties, girls don't care all that much. If you're overweight, that might be a problem eventually, but only the obese should consider a lifestyle change in order to pick up women.
Being friendly, APPROACHABLE, and personable, are how you pull ladies. Chicks dig confidence above all else. Once you're no longer afraid to be shot down, then you'll pull tail.
I'm a good looking guy, nothing particularly special, pretty skinny, with dorky hobbies. I just have a lot of confidence and am very, very nice and am willing to talk to people. Never had a problem picking up girls. Some work, some don't. Was with one crazy one for four years, currently with my latest one for almost one.
Be yourself, and be confident. Just get the fear out of your system by bludgeoning yourself with all the stuff you're afraid of when you talk to a girl. Walk up to them and say "Hi, my name's X. would you like to go get a coffee or some other non-committal beverage sometime?" I've literally just written that on the back of a receipt once with my number for my waittress, and it worked. Granted, she knew a little bit about me, as I'd been to that restaurant before, but hell, baby steps.
Also, being somewhat aloof and not playing all your cards are how you get women to jump you. I don't think I've ever "made the first move" because somehow my attitude makes them do it. Lucky me, but I get the feeling that it's more about how I'm 1.) nonthreatening, and 2.) not SHOWING that I'm waiting with baited breath at her every word. Even if I actually am, she'd never know. Don't show -too- much interest, but don't be a jerk.
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Well I guess I have some stories that should at least make you feel better if not anything else.
So this happened 2 years ago (I was kinda young then). Basically I talked to this one girl, and I suddenly realized I liked her a lot. It was my first time feeling like that, so I felt very confused and I couldn't control myself at all. When she was around I felt nervous and couldn't act normal at all. Anyway I wanted to talk to her again, and saw my opportunity as she was sitting alone waiting for the class to start. I walked around the room and went within talking range with her. I opened my mouth.. but no words would come out. I then started frantically searching my bag as if that was what I wanted to do. I am not sure if she noticed the act, but I have never felt so embarassed and inept in my life. I later on managed to talk with her on Facebook (shameful, I know) but it ended up horribly because I was way too nervous all the time.
1 year ago, I met this other girl at the dance lesson when my partner was absent. Later on we talked a couple of times and I really wanted to ask her out, as we came along so well. I managed to ask her out and she said yes! I felt so proud of myself as I had learn't from my mistakes last time and even succeeded. I felt like a GOD.
She couldn't say the time at the moment, so she told me that she will message me when she knows what is ok. In a few days I received a message. I was so sure that she would come out with me that I didn't even think anything could go wrong at that point. The message was long, at "I don't know if your request had any implications, but if it did, I have a boyfriend", the message said.
I was in shock and my world literally collapsed for a moment. For about a week, nothing really felt like anything, I just felt numb and lonely. After that I felt ok but I still feel like getting a girlfriend is a massive hurdle. Oh well, I still have a lot of time left ^^
So there you have it.
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On February 03 2012 06:52 Vapaach wrote:
Well I guess I have some stories that should at least make you feel better if not anything else.
So this happened 2 years ago (I was kinda young then). Basically I talked to this one girl, and I suddenly realized I liked her a lot. It was my first time feeling like that, so I felt very confused and I couldn't control myself at all. When she was around I felt nervous and couldn't act normal at all. Anyway I wanted to talk to her again, and saw my opportunity as she was sitting alone waiting for the class to start. I walked around the room and went within talking range with her. I opened my mouth.. but no words would come out. I then started frantically searching my bag as if that was what I wanted to do. I am not sure if she noticed the act, but I have never felt so embarassed and inept in my life. I later on managed to talk with her on Facebook (shameful, I know) but it ended up horribly because I was way too nervous all the time.
1 year ago, I met this other girl at the dance lesson when my partner was absent. Later on we talked a couple of times and I really wanted to ask her out, as we came along so well. I managed to ask her out and she said yes! I felt so proud of myself as I had learn't from my mistakes last time and even succeeded. I felt like a GOD.
She couldn't say the time at the moment, so she told me that she will message me when she knows what is ok. In a few days I received a message. I was so sure that she would come out with me that I didn't even think anything could go wrong at that point. The message was long, at "I don't know if your request had any implications, but if it did, I have a boyfriend", the message said.
I was in shock and my world literally collapsed for a moment. For about a week, nothing really felt like anything, I just felt numb and lonely. After that I felt ok but I still feel like getting a girlfriend is a massive hurdle. Oh well, I still have a lot of time left ^^
So there you have it.
TL;DR = First time was too nervous, second time did everything right but she already had a boyfriend.
Ahh I accidentally double posted. My bad.
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I envy people that have girlfriends. I used to be overweight but not anymore but even now that i am "normal looking" i don't seem to get much success.I live in a village and the next cities are 10km in each direction and not many girls at my village either. Ineternet dating seems to be pretty unsuccessful as well.
Never been on a date in my life and the only thing i managed to really do was kiss a girl on a cheek and even that was this summer when i was not overweight anymore and plus we were all drunk.
At the moment i am just texting with a girl who lives 20km away from me , tried to set up a date with her 3 times and failed , i gave up with her. Though i am still texting with her because she said she is enjoying talking to me.I am waiting and hoping summer will bring me some more luck.
Working really hard on improving my body shape for summer as well so i have better results with women.
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relationships? People still have those?
Poor bastards.
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I'm a shy bastard...
I have a moderate amount of acne.
Seems the only thing I can talk about is games
I'm not in shape, but I still work out..
I think I can socialize well...
I'm not good at this stuff. I'm too damn shy 
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On February 03 2012 13:28 freeshooter wrote:I'm a shy bastard... I have a moderate amount of acne. Seems the only thing I can talk about is games I'm not in shape, but I still work out.. I think I can socialize well... I'm not good at this stuff. I'm too damn shy
It sounds harder to beat than it really is. Just go to a bar and ask women out. Get shot down, but know that it doesn't matter.
"Hi, I'm X. You're very pretty and seem nice. Can I buy you a drink?"
Or frequent a business that has a hot girl at the register/waitress and ask her out on the back of the receipt.
I need to be brief, girlfriend is sleeping and my blackwidow ultimate is louder than a tapdancing recital.
Send me a PM if you want real, honest, easy advice. I used to be super shy, got no women, but all I changed was my attitude and it worked. no gimmicks, I can talk you through some scenarios.
I'll write a tutorial tomorrow
On February 03 2012 08:40 Knap4life wrote:
I envy people that have girlfriends. I used to be overweight but not anymore but even now that i am "normal looking" i don't seem to get much success.I live in a village and the next cities are 10km in each direction and not many girls at my village either. Ineternet dating seems to be pretty unsuccessful as well.
Never been on a date in my life and the only thing i managed to really do was kiss a girl on a cheek and even that was this summer when i was not overweight anymore and plus we were all drunk.
At the moment i am just texting with a girl who lives 20km away from me , tried to set up a date with her 3 times and failed , i gave up with her. Though i am still texting with her because she said she is enjoying talking to me.I am waiting and hoping summer will bring me some more luck.
Working really hard on improving my body shape for summer as well so i have better results with women.
PM me, I'll get you neck-deep in small town ladies.
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The only way I'm going to get a girlfriend, is if she approaches me because I don;t have the balls to initiate a conversation with a girl. I'm an average looker, and I get along well with girls, and most people I meet, but I just don't want to meet a lot of people. I'm kind of shy that way, and I have massive dark circles under my eyes which makes me look like a vampire.
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+ Show Spoiler +On February 03 2012 18:16 Honeybadger wrote:Show nested quote +On February 03 2012 13:28 freeshooter wrote:I'm a shy bastard... I have a moderate amount of acne. Seems the only thing I can talk about is games I'm not in shape, but I still work out.. I think I can socialize well... I'm not good at this stuff. I'm too damn shy It sounds harder to beat than it really is. Just go to a bar and ask women out. Get shot down, but know that it doesn't matter. "Hi, I'm X. You're very pretty and seem nice. Can I buy you a drink?" Or frequent a business that has a hot girl at the register/waitress and ask her out on the back of the receipt. I need to be brief, girlfriend is sleeping and my blackwidow ultimate is louder than a tapdancing recital. Send me a PM if you want real, honest, easy advice. I used to be super shy, got no women, but all I changed was my attitude and it worked. no gimmicks, I can talk you through some scenarios. I'll write a tutorial tomorrow Show nested quote +On February 03 2012 08:40 Knap4life wrote:
I envy people that have girlfriends. I used to be overweight but not anymore but even now that i am "normal looking" i don't seem to get much success.I live in a village and the next cities are 10km in each direction and not many girls at my village either. Ineternet dating seems to be pretty unsuccessful as well.
Never been on a date in my life and the only thing i managed to really do was kiss a girl on a cheek and even that was this summer when i was not overweight anymore and plus we were all drunk.
At the moment i am just texting with a girl who lives 20km away from me , tried to set up a date with her 3 times and failed , i gave up with her. Though i am still texting with her because she said she is enjoying talking to me.I am waiting and hoping summer will bring me some more luck.
Working really hard on improving my body shape for summer as well so i have better results with women. PM me, I'll get you neck-deep in small town ladies.
You'll write a tutorial rofl? I can't wait to see what a tutorial on dating women can look like. Is it gonna be step by step or what?
P.s. not trolling I really wanna see what you can come up with.
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The only advice i can give is to not "search" for a girlfriend, but wait until you find someone that really suits you and it will be pretty easy actually.
thats how it worked for me at least. you just need patience 
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My family thinks I'm gay because I don't have a girlfriend and haven't dated since HS. ;(
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I've been single for a bit over a year now, after coming out of a 4 year relationship.
So far I've had one affair, with a girl who already had a boyfriend. She was awesome, but ended up staying with her boyfriend. The whole thing lasted about 2 months.
I've been thinking about the whole 'picking up women in a bar' thing, but it just doesn't suit me I think. I am not the kind of guy that goes to bar to connect to a lot of women superficially, and then hope one of them is horny enough to go home with me. I prefer to pick out a girl that is attractive and looks interesting, and then bet all my chips on her. But yeah, no success yet, as expected.
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Bump for great justice,this is the most epic TL.thread
Well what can i say.
RelationSHITS as i like to say it.It is all about the mutual interest between two people,nothing else.
I invested far too much in my past relationship and i learned a lot of things,how u should never trust a women,not a single bit,how u shouldn't tell her your personal information and situations,and how u should never tolerate bad attitude.
So yeah,be fucking single,and live your life good.
Every girl is disposable,by every i mean EVERY,eventually there's gonna be that one that its gonna worth your time,but at my age (18) this wouldn't happen,i hardly believe it anymore.Just be fucking happy,smile more,and be more outgoing and you would eventually find a person that has what it takes,and its gonna give you run for your money.
User was temp banned for this post.
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On January 03 2013 23:18 Crying wrote:
Bump for great justice,this is the most epic TL.thread
Well what can i say.
RelationSHITS as i like to say it.It is all about the mutual interest between two people,nothing else.
I invested far too much in my past relationship and i learned a lot of things,how u should never trust a women,not a single bit,how u shouldn't tell her your personal information and situations,and how u should never tolerate bad attitude.
So yeah,be fucking single,and live your life good.
Every girl is disposable,by every i mean EVERY,eventually there's gonna be that one that its gonna worth your time,but at my age (18) this wouldn't happen,i hardly believe it anymore.Just be fucking happy,smile more,and be more outgoing and you would eventually find a person that has what it takes,and its gonna give you run for your money.
I disagree with this. I'm your age, and I have to say that my girl isn't disposable, I don't even know what I would do without her, she has been by my side for pretty much a year now and I can't imagine life without her. Relationships are amazing, when you find someone who makes them amazing .
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On January 03 2013 23:18 Crying wrote:
Bump for great justice,this is the most epic TL.thread
Well what can i say.
RelationSHITS as i like to say it.It is all about the mutual interest between two people,nothing else.
I invested far too much in my past relationship and i learned a lot of things,how u should never trust a women,not a single bit,how u shouldn't tell her your personal information and situations,and how u should never tolerate bad attitude.
So yeah,be fucking single,and live your life good.
Every girl is disposable,by every i mean EVERY,eventually there's gonna be that one that its gonna worth your time,but at my age (18) this wouldn't happen,i hardly believe it anymore.Just be fucking happy,smile more,and be more outgoing and you would eventually find a person that has what it takes,and its gonna give you run for your money.
I'm probably one of the last people on here to call something or someone sexist but... Jesus. Go fix your own issues before you think about dating again.
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The last girl I dated really soured me towards relationships. To have invested so much into someone and have them at a drop of the hat try their hardest to psychologically destroy you is something that is very hard to understand and get over.
It makes it hard to trust others when someone you cared about so deeply was able to hurt you so bad. = /
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i am 30 years old, i ve never dated a girl and i will die lonely, i am probably the ugliest person ever to post on teamliquid and i would only date hyosung or equivalent bias of mine.
yea i am serious
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