EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 476
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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OminouS
Sweden1343 Posts
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Kleinmuuhg
Vanuatu4091 Posts
On May 29 2014 05:33 OminouS wrote: I'm getting married in three days! grats!! | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland27346 Posts
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DemigodcelpH
1138 Posts
On May 28 2014 17:06 lannisport wrote: This again proves (At least to myself) that scarcity = neediness and abundance = choice. I got myself out there, met new people, girls, and the jealousy/possessiveness instantly vanished. Not necessarily true. You can be with a single person (not abundance) and still not be needy. The reason you had jealously and possessiveness is because you had feelings for her. There is nothing negative about this really. It's a natural reaction. You will never "defeat" your feelings in your life unless you install cybernetics into your head. If you have feelings for a girl you're going to feel it irrespective of coping mechanisms. "My abundance" and eating icecream are just coping mechanisms. You'll experience it again and again, and you should embrace it. That's life. On May 28 2014 17:06 lannisport wrote:Patched things up with my friend and had a serious long talk with her where we aired everything out. We ended up agreeing to keep things simple and to just be friends. I talk to her more than I do any girls I date and even my ex, and her friendship is something I do value so I've just let it go now and things are gravy. This is very good to hear though. I have to say I'm envious of such a ridiculously strong friendship. You guys are like brother and sister and she still wingmans for you. | ||
dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
I'm starting to think my reclusiveness and slight anxiety about mingling with people is getting in the way if me being able to date. And I can't seem to find anything in locals that I like, it is always foreigners that take my interest. It's a bit limiting. | ||
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
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Orcasgt24
Canada3238 Posts
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LeeDawg
United States1306 Posts
On May 29 2014 15:42 Orcasgt24 wrote: I need a new job. Literally I am the only person on earth with Monday & Tuesday for days off so I could not possibly ever go out with anyone. No one likes doing things when they work the next day so I don't really see how I am suppose to mingle and date when I work nights and get those two useless days off... I have mondays OR tuesdays off. one or the other, depends on the week. Either way I'm working 60+ hours so matter what so I'm pretty much screwed as far as a 'social life' your pain. I feel it. | ||
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urboss
Austria1223 Posts
Since the discussion is quite off-topic in the other thread, it might be better to bring it here. The question was, what does science have to say about mating success? Here is some random stuff I have found on human mating research: Human Mating Strategies Testosterone and Mating Success Male Financial Consumption and Mating Success Attractiveness and Mating Success Aggression and Mating The Dark Triad and Short Term Mating Short Term Mating Strategies Attractiveness in Short Term Mating | ||
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RuskiPanda
United States2906 Posts
On May 29 2014 16:39 urboss wrote: There was a discussion started in the other thread on the science of dating. Since the discussion is quite off-topic in the other thread, it might be better to bring it here. The question was, what does science have to say about mating success? Here is some random stuff I have found on human mating research: Human Mating Strategies Testosterone and Mating Success Male Financial Consumption and Mating Success Attractiveness and Mating Success Aggression and Mating The Dark Triad and Short Term Mating Short Term Mating Strategies Attractiveness in Short Term Mating Probably not a good idea since it will likely delve into the realm of: "Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post." | ||
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urboss
Austria1223 Posts
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farvacola
United States18869 Posts
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Snotling
Germany885 Posts
On May 29 2014 22:05 farvacola wrote: I would wager that it is precisely the nerd crowd's obsession with sciencing things that leads them nowhere in the dating world, so nah, the mod note is doing everyone a favor by excluding such material. Folks having trouble with women almost always need to be less in their own head, not more. Exactly, the dumber you are, the easier it gets with women. Thats kinda the reason why alcohol helps so much :D | ||
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biology]major
United States2253 Posts
On May 29 2014 22:05 farvacola wrote: I would wager that it is precisely the nerd crowd's obsession with sciencing things that leads them nowhere in the dating world, so nah, the mod note is doing everyone a favor by excluding such material. Folks having trouble with women almost always need to be less in their own head, not more. you hit the nail on the head. Once I realized this, I stopped watching seduction stuff, or reading pua stuff a long time ago. There is the conscious part of you, and the subconscious part of you; the subconscious part of you does 99% of the things, and reading these books or watching these videos goes to that 1% which makes you feel good for "knowing things" but yet you can't actually apply anything. | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
On May 29 2014 23:04 biology]major wrote: you hit the nail on the head. Once I realized this, I stopped watching seduction stuff, or reading pua stuff a long time ago. There is the conscious part of you, and the subconscious part of you; the subconscious part of you does 99% of the things, and reading these books or watching these videos goes to that 1% which makes you feel good for "knowing things" but yet you can't actually apply anything. I think the best lesson the PUA stuff teaches is not any of the actual content but just the fact that it is something that you can actually go out and improve on, and it's something you just have to do to get better at whether it's talking to girls or just socializing in general. | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
On May 29 2014 22:36 Snotling wrote: Exactly, the dumber you are, the easier it gets with women. Thats kinda the reason why alcohol helps so much :D I can't emphasize enough how wrong you are. | ||
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solidbebe
Netherlands4921 Posts
On May 30 2014 09:08 chadissilent wrote: I can't emphasize enough how wrong you are. Its problaby a bell curve me thinks | ||
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NewSunshine
United States5938 Posts
There's a joke involving bellends here somewhere, but I don't trust myself to pull it off. | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
Intelligence will only ever be a turnoff for the women you don't want to be with anyway. Though there is something to be said to being more in the moment and less in your head about it, which a "smarter" person may be more prone to. | ||
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Belisarius
Australia6233 Posts
People are turned off by its common attendant traits, like arrogance, shyness, awkwardness or a simple lack of shared interests. Getting drunk deals with at least a few of those. | ||
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