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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Erik.TheRed
United States1655 Posts
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Calanthe
United States147 Posts
e: Seriously tho. Go outside and charm the pants off some girls. Also the last pic in the imgur album where you're sitting in a booth is the best one out of all of those imo. | ||
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marvellosity
United Kingdom36161 Posts
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
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Erik.TheRed
United States1655 Posts
On May 27 2014 21:55 Najda wrote: Are you using your actual facebook? They have anti spam protection in place where you need to have a certain.number of friends etc. for you to find a match, though mayne the constant dwleting reactivating does it too. Yeah, I can see mutual interests and friends showing up so it seems to be connected to my facebook account. Either way, I probably should be going out more anyway! Just thought this might be another cool way to meet more people (I'm still kind of new to the city). | ||
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LeLfe
France3160 Posts
On May 27 2014 04:42 Otolia wrote: I am probably splitting up with my current girlfriend after 3 and a half years together. She wants to go back home (I'm French, she is Finnish) to be with her family and friends. She finished her studies in France this year and didn't want to settle here. She also have an incurable form of cancer. I still have until October 2015 before I'm done with studies though I also have a full-time job here in Paris. I feel so sad and powerless (don't worry, I'm not going to kill anyone over my sorrow) while also feeling like I'm abandoning her because I didn't took enough of her during the diagnostic and surgery phase. Also I don't know how to handle break-ups and I fear I'll go back to being depressed if I'm not with her. Yup Yup ... that's one sad story  not sure there is any good piece of advice on how to handle a break up since every one has his own way to deal with it, but I think you should not feel guilty, you're a student with everything yet to live, can't blame you for having to stay, can't blame her for wanting to be with her family. Good luck | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
On Tinder it strikes me that the experience is very much dependent on the uptake in a particular area and the type of people that gravitate to it. The same with PoF, it seems to have a different dynamic over in NI, whereas the testament of Stateside users paints it them as a place for casual hookups, NI has a lot more 'genuine' people on the service if my friends' experiences are anything to go by. Good luck man, there's no substitute for getting yourself out there face to face like Calanthe said but I can see the value in getting out of your set social circles. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
On May 27 2014 20:59 Erik.TheRed wrote: So I went ahead and made a tinder account recently, not because I expected anything from it but mainly because I was curious what all the hype was about. Running it on PC with an android emulator was pretty buggy (kept thinking I was halfway across the world) so after resetting my account a couple times I've just resigned to using it on my smartphone. I can't seem to get any matches now-- maybe it's not as popular here in Stockholm as it is in the US? Or perhaps my profile just isn't doing it, idk. I just hope my account isn't somehow fucked up from being deleted/reactivated a few times. Here's what my profile looks like, if anyone wants to drop some feedback! http://imgur.com/a/IU3bo You are not going to be like that other guy who used to post here who was so satisfied with himself that he took every single fucking opportunity to upload topless pics of himself right? | ||
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Erik.TheRed
United States1655 Posts
On May 28 2014 00:24 B.I.G. wrote: You are not going to be like that other guy who used to post here who was so satisfied with himself that he took every single fucking opportunity to upload topless pics of himself right? lol don't worry, i'll spare everyone of topless pics.. you don't have to believe me, but I only posted because I haven't been getting matches and wanted some feedback. | ||
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urboss
Austria1223 Posts
http://www.adweek.com/news/technology/how-one-guy-wooed-2000-women-tinder-156989 | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
On May 28 2014 00:44 urboss wrote: Learn from the pros: http://www.adweek.com/news/technology/how-one-guy-wooed-2000-women-tinder-156989 But now it doesn't work if everyone's seen it. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
Just like real life dating it's effectively a numbers game. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
http://www.wired.com/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/all/ I don't think I'd be comfortable with such a tactic. | ||
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phyren
United States1067 Posts
Additionally, I wonder what Tinder is like from a girls perspective. I imagine they must have a much higher match rate, and they likely get men making the first contact, most with similar words. | ||
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Otolia
France5805 Posts
On May 28 2014 05:09 obesechicken13 wrote: Someone did a numbers game on OKC as well. I think I heard about it on reddit or this thread. http://www.wired.com/2014/01/how-to-hack-okcupid/all/ I don't think I'd be comfortable with such a tactic. Why ? It's just a method to meet people. He got 88 dates before finding one ? I didn't met that many women whom I could be interested with in my life ... On May 27 2014 23:21 LeLfe wrote: that's one sad story not sure there is any good piece of advice on how to handle a break up since every one has his own way to deal with it, but I think you should not feel guilty, you're a student with everything yet to live, can't blame you for having to stay, can't blame her for wanting to be with her family. Good luckThanks, I appreciate it. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
On May 28 2014 07:15 phyren wrote: Tinder is strange in that it actively encourages you to be more superficial. Use it for a little while and you'll start to get matches, but that doesn't mean the people you are matched with will say anything to you or respond if you do. Effectively, this encourages you to invest as little as possible into getting matched, i.e. heart every single person in order to sort things after matches are made. Of course, this reinforces the system because you will get matched with people whom you don't actually find attractive and whom you are unlikely to message. Additionally, I wonder what Tinder is like from a girls perspective. I imagine they must have a much higher match rate, and they likely get men making the first contact, most with similar words. Dunno about Tinder I'd imagine it's even worse but I've had friends who rock like 100-150 messages on the likes of PoF before ever sending one out themselves. | ||
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{CC}StealthBlue
United States41117 Posts
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Mina
109 Posts
On May 27 2014 20:59 Erik.TheRed wrote: Here's what my profile looks like, if anyone wants to drop some feedback! http://imgur.com/a/IU3bo I have no online dating experience whatsoever but if I was looking for a date and saw your profile pics I would think that you look very handsome but the pics are so artsy fartsy which means I would dismiss you for probably being a pretentious prick. Sorry, just telling it like it is and I guess that works on some girls. Like Calanthe said, the last pic where you are smiling is good. It makes you seem more open and accessible, not as modelesque but still handsome and now you look kind. Swedish girls ( the good ones anyway) love kind. | ||
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Erik.TheRed
United States1655 Posts
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lannisport
878 Posts
This again proves (At least to myself) that scarcity = neediness and abundance = choice. I got myself out there, met new people, girls, and the jealousy/possessiveness instantly vanished. And I really think the best way to meet cool/cute girls is to have that consistent social circle. The majority of my friends atm are girls and they have BBQs, parties, or events they consistently invite me to (And I try to do the same). A few of them, like my wing girl, also actively try to hook me up with other girls. Also just to add, you can't have an outer smile without an inner smile. And you can't attract girls without that. I've had a rough couple months jobs wise and even though I've been social I haven't been happy. And it's shown in my demeanour, action and energy. Only recently have things begun to turn around. Back to my hobbies, work is good, working out again, trying to live with some purpose, and being happy and finding fun on my own once again. If you have an attractive / fun lifestyle, know how to lead a girl, and know WHERE to find your "types" it becomes less of a headache all around. | ||
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