EPTOn February 07 2014 20:29 Garbels wrote:
It's a typo.
It's a typo.
i sure hope so :D
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Snotling
Germany885 Posts
i sure hope so :D | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
On February 07 2014 18:15 arb wrote: Actually I sent a buncha stuff read the guide and dont really understand what i'm doing -_- You'll learn pretty quick which type of messages get a response. Just think about how you'd react or what you would say back if you were to receive the message. If you send something like "Hey" or "Hey whats up" it's just boring and doesn't open any conversation. If you send something funny or some joke, they've probably heard it already or even if it's funny their reaction might be "haha" but still doesn't open a conversation. So you want to send something that is interesting, personal, and can easily start a conversation. Girls get a ton of messages so the less you require them to invest early on by making the conversation easy for them, the better it will be for you. | ||
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ticklishmusic
United States15977 Posts
That's the thing yo, I'm not that interested in that. She's nice, pretty, blah blah blah we get along and that's all I'm really interested at this point. On February 07 2014 20:04 Snotling wrote: You became vegan for a girl you have just been talking too? that is wrong on so many levels... Little more than talking in the literal sense Began, was actually too lazy to correct the typo last night, because when I read it just now I chuckled a bit. Being vegan on this college campus would be impossible anyways, and the one time I was veggie years ago ended with pork chops. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32157 Posts
On February 07 2014 07:18 Najda wrote: The discussion was about asking a girl out and receiving mixed signals, it was quite a leap to go from that to rape. In the context what he said was correct, that a perceived no doesn't always mean no and it's better to try your luck and ask her out anyway. I KNOW IT WAS A BAD JOKE JEEZ | ||
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
I figured, but it was more just a response to the discussion that was happening and less directly to you. | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
On February 08 2014 02:09 Najda wrote: I figured, but it was more just a response to the discussion that was happening and less directly to you. So many people here don't pick up on trolling when it comes to relationship advice  On February 07 2014 16:10 DoctorHelvetica wrote: Why is it wrong like how is it impossible to have a friendly correspondence in a comfortable space and then also express your intention to meet in private later or that you have a sexual attraction to somebody what does that have to do with confidence at all? do you think it's some kind of like automatic lock into the imaginary "Friend zone" Not sure if new to this or just bad at it... When you bring someone out with your friends, you create a comfort zone for you and put even more pressure on her (larger group of complete strangers). Plus, what if it's only one date and she wants nothin to do with you afterwards? Then you get to explain this to your friends every single time you take a girl out and she doesn't call you back. | ||
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ZapRoffo
United States5544 Posts
On February 07 2014 16:10 DoctorHelvetica wrote: Why is it wrong like how is it impossible to have a friendly correspondence in a comfortable space and then also express your intention to meet in private later or that you have a sexual attraction to somebody what does that have to do with confidence at all? do you think it's some kind of like automatic lock into the imaginary "Friend zone" Most of the arguments in this thread are based on people having different valuations of different things. If you have a binary situation: there's one girl you really like and success is becoming involved/having sex/whatever and failure is anything other than that, different things are good ideas than if you also give value to having a girl end up as part of a group of friends, or if you give low value to succeeding with one kind of girl and high with another, or if amount of fun you had during whatever you do together factors in. So like, taking a girl out with friends around--it's expressing romantic/sexual intentions less clearly and naturally, and it might make a good portion of potential girls uncomfortable. But some of them will think it's great (mostly the extroverts who love meeting new people) so if you want to select those people, then it's a good idea, although you have to expect it to be successful at getting further dates less often overall. And some will end up making friends (probably a higher chance than if you only go on 1-on-1 dates with someone) and you might or might not value that, and maybe a rare case you have a relationship and someone who really loves and is absorbed into your friends, which might be very high value to you but is also a lot less likely to happen. A lot of the advice here assumes the objective is maximizing probability of romantic/sexual relationship with any given girl without knowing too much about her, so that's how it should be read unless otherwise noted. | ||
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SafeWord
United States522 Posts
On February 08 2014 04:28 chadissilent wrote: So many people here don't pick up on trolling when it comes to relationship advice Not sure if new to this or just bad at it... When you bring someone out with your friends, you create a comfort zone for you and put even more pressure on her (larger group of complete strangers). Plus, what if it's only one date and she wants nothin to do with you afterwards? Then you get to explain this to your friends every single time you take a girl out and she doesn't call you back. This not true at all. I have done it quite a bit, all of them have enjoyed it. Usually we setup a date after that. Of course it depends on the type of activity, type of woman and your friends. But to say it is a bad idea is not true at all. For example me and my friends go to a local bar which always has different craft beers from local breweries on Thursdays. This woman I have been talking to online loved beer so I invited her and she came. My friends are always accepting and hilarious, and she is the kind of woman who can hold her own in social situations (which is a big plus for me). Afterwards walked her to her car chatted, kissed and made plans for our one on one time this weekend. If your friends know you are single, why does it matter how many girls you bring by them? That is nothing to worry about at all. | ||
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MightyBill
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phyren
United States1067 Posts
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WombaT
Northern Ireland27228 Posts
On February 08 2014 06:32 MightyBill wrote: You let her drive after drinking? Not okay. Really? She could have had 1 or 2 beers over a few hours. I love the way people jump in with 'worst case scenario' judgments all the time. The exception being with SixStrings of course :p | ||
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Dogfoodboy16
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Rollin
Australia1552 Posts
On February 08 2014 16:41 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I went ahead and bought me and my gf a one hour couples massage package thing for valentines day instead of us going out for dinner since everything is pretty much reserved. Is that going to be enough of a valentines day present? I don't really know XD Which gf is this? You seem to go through them like toilet paper. | ||
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Dogfoodboy16
364 Posts
On February 08 2014 16:52 Rollin wrote: Which gf is this? You seem to go through them like toilet paper. Ummm no i dont. This is the same girl I have talked about in my last couple posts...I actually care about her | ||
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Acrofales
Spain18387 Posts
On February 08 2014 16:41 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I went ahead and bought me and my gf a one hour couples massage package thing for valentines day instead of us going out for dinner since everything is pretty much reserved. Is that going to be enough of a valentines day present? I don't really know XD My official opinion is: fuck the commercialized shit that is valentine's day. Anyway, the point is to show her you care about her, not about showering her with meaningless gifts. A couples massage thingy sounds like plenty of opportunity to do that, but it's up to you. | ||
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Snotling
Germany885 Posts
I asked a intersting and good looking girl if she would buy me a lama and an interesting conversation unfolded. After a few messages back and forth i asked her if we could continue the conversation over a cup of coffee. She said yes, but she will be in Leipzig until next sunday. So ill have to wait till then to meet her in person. I'm continuing the conversation on a slower pace. I dont want so seem uninterrested after i got the date, but i also dont want her to get the impression that i have nothing else to do. The good thing about Online-Dating is that i can do it from home while studying. Because i don't meet a lot of new girls atm. I do a lot of stuff with other people. Naginata, Kyudo, Fitnessstudio, Hiking, Sklacklining. But the groups im doing it in don't have a huge influx of new people, and of those a lot are men, too old, too young, too not single  | ||
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Kojak21
Canada1104 Posts
On February 08 2014 16:41 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I went ahead and bought me and my gf a one hour couples massage package thing for valentines day instead of us going out for dinner since everything is pretty much reserved. Is that going to be enough of a valentines day present? I don't really know XD That's a good idea ill have to use that sometime | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
On February 09 2014 01:57 Kojak21 wrote: That's a good idea ill have to use that sometime Yeah that's what I did lastyear. Bought only one ticket though. | ||
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United States3765 Posts
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