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On January 25 2014 08:51 maybenexttime wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2014 08:10 Djzapz wrote:On January 25 2014 08:04 maybenexttime wrote:On January 25 2014 02:34 Djzapz wrote: My gf sometimes will randomly dress up like a hipster even though she really isn't. I think she might be crazy. She is a hipster. It's just that being a hipster is too mainstream these days, so she does that only occasionally. That is some next level shit. It's not that uncommon. You've just never heard of it. Even next level hipsters are not that uncommon. They're gaining ground . Soon we all might be.... different...
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We're all different but only because we all appertain to a different set of groups/common-points.
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On January 25 2014 04:34 Advocado wrote: There is no asking in romance. Just shove it in dry.
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If we're all different then doesn't make us all the same?
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No, because it's only a single characteristic considered, on which yes we are all the same.
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On January 25 2014 09:16 chadissilent wrote:Just shove it in dry.
Then that's rape...
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On January 25 2014 09:35 maybenexttime wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2014 09:16 chadissilent wrote:On January 25 2014 04:34 Advocado wrote: There is no asking in romance. Just shove it in dry. Then that's rape... Depends on whether you had an agreement about it or not.
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On January 25 2014 09:58 r.Evo wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2014 09:35 maybenexttime wrote:On January 25 2014 09:16 chadissilent wrote:On January 25 2014 04:34 Advocado wrote: There is no asking in romance. Just shove it in dry. Then that's rape... Depends on whether you had an agreement about it or not.
I was implying that if it's wet, it's not rape. Bad joke anyway.
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On January 25 2014 10:21 maybenexttime wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2014 09:58 r.Evo wrote:On January 25 2014 09:35 maybenexttime wrote:On January 25 2014 09:16 chadissilent wrote:On January 25 2014 04:34 Advocado wrote: There is no asking in romance. Just shove it in dry. Then that's rape... Depends on whether you had an agreement about it or not. I was implying that if it's wet, it's not rape. Bad joke anyway.  Your bad joke misunderstood my good joke
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On January 25 2014 12:28 chadissilent wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2014 10:21 maybenexttime wrote:On January 25 2014 09:58 r.Evo wrote:On January 25 2014 09:35 maybenexttime wrote:On January 25 2014 09:16 chadissilent wrote:On January 25 2014 04:34 Advocado wrote: There is no asking in romance. Just shove it in dry. Then that's rape... Depends on whether you had an agreement about it or not. I was implying that if it's wet, it's not rape. Bad joke anyway.  Your bad joke misunderstood my good joke 
Do guys actually find dry sex anywhere near as stimulating and pleasing as getting her wet first? It fucking hurts if I try to go in dry.
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On January 25 2014 13:14 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2014 12:28 chadissilent wrote:On January 25 2014 10:21 maybenexttime wrote:On January 25 2014 09:58 r.Evo wrote:On January 25 2014 09:35 maybenexttime wrote:On January 25 2014 09:16 chadissilent wrote:On January 25 2014 04:34 Advocado wrote: There is no asking in romance. Just shove it in dry. Then that's rape... Depends on whether you had an agreement about it or not. I was implying that if it's wet, it's not rape. Bad joke anyway.  Your bad joke misunderstood my good joke  Do guys actually find dry sex anywhere near as stimulating and pleasing as getting her wet first? It fucking hurts if I try to go in dry. Pain is a turn on for alot of people.
And in my experience, It's always been wet for me, even without oral.
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If pain turns her on it'll make her wet and then it won't be painful anymore :o
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On January 24 2014 15:00 FreedomMurder wrote:Show nested quote +On January 24 2014 10:30 WarSame wrote: On a related note: There's a girl I've met a few times because she knows one of my friends and was waiting for a bus near the one we were and came over and talked to us. She hasn't been at the bus at the same time as us in a while. I thought she was cute as hell(physically and personality wise), but didn't say too much to her because I mainly just enjoyed listening to their conversation. So she knows who I am, but we've not talked much. I have her on Facebook, but no communication on there either. It seems to me to be odd just to message her out of the blue, and it's definitely not in my character. However, I would like to start talking to her. If anyone has been in this situation could I get some advice on this? I feel awkward as hell whenever I think of how to start something, but I also want to take a shot at it in some way.
Side note: I'm 20, and this would be pretty much the first time I've actively tried to start something with a lady, so no matter what it'll be awkward. If anyone has advice for handling that, too, that'd be nice haha. Just ask your friend if he would be okay with setting you up with her. He's less likely to be opposed to things if you don't go behind his back and try to flirt with her, plus girls aren't very recipient to the random facebook message unless you have a hunch that she likes you. If you hang out with her in a group obviously go out of your way to talk to her but don't forget about the rest of the group as this could be a turn off for her and piss off your friend. If you had a few decent conversations its now socially acceptable for you to message her on face book and attempt to arrange a date. My suggestion of a first date is drinks a bar/lounge, a little alcohol to make talking easier. Just don't go for lunch, friends go for lunch. If you get to the point when you hang out with her 1 on 1 just be yourself and ask her questions about herself if conversation starts to run dry. You say you are inexperienced so my advice is try to establish that you are interested in her to avoid the friend zone but dont come on to strong that it seems like you just want action. Maybe some body contact or a kiss on the cheek or forehead after the goodbye hug if things went well. I mean if you have the balls you could go for the kiss gauging her interest in you first. Thanks for the advice FreedomMurder. You make good points. The thing that worries me is the dating. In the past when I've done things with a girl it's been really laid back, in a group or something like going on a walk or to the park.
I will definitely be following your advice as best I can.
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So I've been texting this girl on and off, and basically long story short I've confessed to her how I feel about her + Show Spoiler +might've been a mistake, but romance is more impulsive than logical , and her response was that she wasn't ready for a relationship and wanted to focus on other things like school and work for a while.
we have a lot in common, including personality and interests, so i guess my question would be: should i keep pursuing? cuz she's been on my mind for over 6 month now; almost nonstop day-to-day kinda "on my mind" (and she's the only girl ive ever had these feels for, and i've dated other girls before her and never had these feels). my friend told me, that im just settling bcuz ive never felt this way b4 but i want more than just his opinion (and he's dated more girls than anyone i know, so by no means is this coming from someone who doesnt have experience).
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She denied you, move on sadly. She doesn't feel the same way about you.
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On January 25 2014 15:09 Zooper31 wrote: She denied you, move on sadly. She doesn't feel the same way about you.
Oooooo right in the feels :\
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I asked a girl out today and she said yes. Do I win?
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On January 25 2014 17:00 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I asked a girl out today and she said yes. Do I win?
You win when she says yes for a second time, after your first date Congrats on the first step though!
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On January 25 2014 15:12 Advantageous wrote:Show nested quote +On January 25 2014 15:09 Zooper31 wrote: She denied you, move on sadly. She doesn't feel the same way about you. Oooooo right in the feels :\ Sucks, but he's right.
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On January 25 2014 17:00 Dogfoodboy16 wrote: I asked a girl out today and she said yes. Do I win? Speaking out of experience, you haven't won till you're actually on the date.
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