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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
On December 18 2013 03:54 Grobyc wrote: So there's this really cute girl I was wanting to ask out. Pretty sure she's into me based on a bunch of things, that's not the problem. She's older though... I'm 22 and she's 27. Problem? No. Be aware that if it gets serious though she might want a kid a lot sooner than you. 25 to 35 is that crucial age when women want their firsts kids (or they probably don't want one at all). But you're not there yet I don't want to frighten you, just don't be surprised if she raises the question in a year or 2. On December 18 2013 04:04 ComaDose wrote: also i bet she would be great in the sack and maybe teach you a few things too if you're lucky I feel older women aren't really about what they can teach but more about what they're willing to do. | ||
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farvacola
United States18843 Posts
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
Funny thing is my brother's fiance is 5 years older than him and I've always wondered how that would play out (my brother is almost 3 years older than me). Seems irrelevant to him in most regards. | ||
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Danglars
United States12133 Posts
On December 18 2013 04:56 Grobyc wrote: Heh I'm not exactly in a rush to have someone pop out my babies, but I'm aware that that will be crossing her mind before mine it something ends up working. Funny thing is my brother's fiance is 5 years older than him and I've always wondered how that would play out (my brother is almost 3 years older than me). Seems irrelevant to him in most regards. It is irrelevant. Everything else trumps the age difference, such as enjoying each other's company and that spark of attraction. Goals can be incompatible at any age, though more frequent at the upper end of age differences. | ||
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McDutch
Netherlands184 Posts
We kept in touch during the week, and decided to meet up again. We went to have a drink at a bar, then went to my place to watch a movie. Everything went awsome. We were both quite shy at first, but at the end we made out. When he left, she texted me that she felt so happy! And we text a lot every day now.. But still, I'm making myself insane. I want to text her to much i think. Want to tell her how much i like her, but i think it will be to much at once. She sends me sweet texts, kisses etc, but for some reason i feel uncertain.. I don't know why.. I'm just making myself go insane this way. She told me she likes me alot, she told me she was so happy after we made out. Right now i'm working on a very important project for college, and she wished me luck this morning. And still I keep thinking to myself, does she really like me? i feel so insecure for some reason.. and i know there is no good reason to feel that way. I should be so happy that we've come this far, and all the things she has said.. I took quite some effort to write this down aswell.. i feel so retarded, so stupid. Do more people experience this? Or got any advice.. i just don't want to screw this up by talking to much, or look like a total idiot.. | ||
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Bongy
Denmark151 Posts
On December 18 2013 05:09 McDutch wrote: So i met this girl at a Party 3 weeks ago. We had a chat there, and we had some kind of "spark" right away. We exchanged numbers and even had two dates with her. The first date i took her to ice-skating, and then went for a movie. It was awsome, we both enjoyed it a lot. We said goodbye with a very good hug! We kept in touch during the week, and decided to meet up again. We went to have a drink at a bar, then went to my place to watch a movie. Everything went awsome. We were both quite shy at first, but at the end we made out. When he left, she texted me that she felt so happy! And we text a lot every day now.. But still, I'm making myself insane. I want to text her to much i think. Want to tell her how much i like her, but i think it will be to much at once. She sends me sweet texts, kisses etc, but for some reason i feel uncertain.. I don't know why.. I'm just making myself go insane this way. She told me she likes me alot, she told me she was so happy after we made out. Right now i'm working on a very important project for college, and she wished me luck this morning. And still I keep thinking to myself, does she really like me? i feel so insecure for some reason.. and i know there is no good reason to feel that way. I should be so happy that we've come this far, and all the things she has said.. I took quite some effort to write this down aswell.. i feel so retarded, so stupid. Do more people experience this? Or got any advice.. i just don't want to screw this up by talking to much, or look like a total idiot.. I'm sorry for being so brash, but stop being a pussy and reciprocate. It is obviously mutual. | ||
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Acrofales
Spain18173 Posts
On December 18 2013 05:09 McDutch wrote: So i met this girl at a Party 3 weeks ago. We had a chat there, and we had some kind of "spark" right away. We exchanged numbers and even had two dates with her. The first date i took her to ice-skating, and then went for a movie. It was awsome, we both enjoyed it a lot. We said goodbye with a very good hug! We kept in touch during the week, and decided to meet up again. We went to have a drink at a bar, then went to my place to watch a movie. Everything went awsome. We were both quite shy at first, but at the end we made out. When he left, she texted me that she felt so happy! And we text a lot every day now.. But still, I'm making myself insane. I want to text her to much i think. Want to tell her how much i like her, but i think it will be to much at once. She sends me sweet texts, kisses etc, but for some reason i feel uncertain.. I don't know why.. I'm just making myself go insane this way. She told me she likes me alot, she told me she was so happy after we made out. Right now i'm working on a very important project for college, and she wished me luck this morning. And still I keep thinking to myself, does she really like me? i feel so insecure for some reason.. and i know there is no good reason to feel that way. I should be so happy that we've come this far, and all the things she has said.. I took quite some effort to write this down aswell.. i feel so retarded, so stupid. Do more people experience this? Or got any advice.. i just don't want to screw this up by talking to much, or look like a total idiot.. Stop being so insecure. She clearly likes you. Also, you like her, so don't feel shy about letting her know that; obviously don't blurt out that you love her at some unfortunate moment (see How I Met Your Mother for a few of those), but making it clear to her that you are into her is not a problem: she's letting you know and wants to feel that back! Also, schedule your next date! You want to see her, she wants to see you; go for it! | ||
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Zooper31
United States5711 Posts
On December 18 2013 05:09 McDutch wrote: So i met this girl at a Party 3 weeks ago. We had a chat there, and we had some kind of "spark" right away. We exchanged numbers and even had two dates with her. The first date i took her to ice-skating, and then went for a movie. It was awsome, we both enjoyed it a lot. We said goodbye with a very good hug! We kept in touch during the week, and decided to meet up again. We went to have a drink at a bar, then went to my place to watch a movie. Everything went awsome. We were both quite shy at first, but at the end we made out. When he left, she texted me that she felt so happy! And we text a lot every day now.. But still, I'm making myself insane. I want to text her to much i think. Want to tell her how much i like her, but i think it will be to much at once. She sends me sweet texts, kisses etc, but for some reason i feel uncertain.. I don't know why.. I'm just making myself go insane this way. She told me she likes me alot, she told me she was so happy after we made out. Right now i'm working on a very important project for college, and she wished me luck this morning. And still I keep thinking to myself, does she really like me? i feel so insecure for some reason.. and i know there is no good reason to feel that way. I should be so happy that we've come this far, and all the things she has said.. I took quite some effort to write this down aswell.. i feel so retarded, so stupid. Do more people experience this? Or got any advice.. i just don't want to screw this up by talking to much, or look like a total idiot.. You said it all yourself. You're making yourself go insane for no reason. She likes you and you like her. Think you found a girlfriend. | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
Like others have said just go for it. Schedule a date allowing for proximity, give a massage, kiss her neck and finally kiss her on the mouth. You just have to stop thinking and just do that. Just convince yourself that this is all she wants and that your only job is to deliver it. And this is the important part: you have to deliver it, don't wait for it to magically come. At your point you have a lot more chance to blow it by doing nothing than by trying to kiss her. And overthinking it is called Analysis Paralysis and you just gotta stop doing that because it... paralyses you and hinder your chances. Just hear our word as truth and command. Go kiss the girl. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
Also, if a girl (different one) goes ATM, can she get something that she could pass onto me? I don't trust those ass germs. | ||
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Zooper31
United States5711 Posts
On December 18 2013 08:29 SixStrings wrote: When you get a BJ from someone with herpes but you don't kiss her, can you get the disease? Is this a serious question... People get herpes by having sex with someone who has the disease. “Having sex” means anal, vaginal, or oral sex Direct quote from the CDC lol. And yes again to ATM... | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
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farvacola
United States18843 Posts
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rkshox
Taiwan536 Posts
On December 18 2013 05:09 McDutch wrote: So i met this girl at a Party 3 weeks ago. We had a chat there, and we had some kind of "spark" right away. We exchanged numbers and even had two dates with her. The first date i took her to ice-skating, and then went for a movie. It was awsome, we both enjoyed it a lot. We said goodbye with a very good hug! We kept in touch during the week, and decided to meet up again. We went to have a drink at a bar, then went to my place to watch a movie. Everything went awsome. We were both quite shy at first, but at the end we made out. When he left, she texted me that she felt so happy! And we text a lot every day now.. But still, I'm making myself insane. I want to text her to much i think. Want to tell her how much i like her, but i think it will be to much at once. She sends me sweet texts, kisses etc, but for some reason i feel uncertain.. I don't know why.. I'm just making myself go insane this way. She told me she likes me alot, she told me she was so happy after we made out. Right now i'm working on a very important project for college, and she wished me luck this morning. And still I keep thinking to myself, does she really like me? i feel so insecure for some reason.. and i know there is no good reason to feel that way. I should be so happy that we've come this far, and all the things she has said.. I took quite some effort to write this down aswell.. i feel so retarded, so stupid. Do more people experience this? Or got any advice.. i just don't want to screw this up by talking to much, or look like a total idiot.. We are men and afraid of commitment. No worries, I'm sure most of the guys here have had second thoughts about being with a girl. However, it does feel pretty awesome that someone does care about you! Don't over think, just do, but don't do what Ted Mosby did in How I Met Your Mother season 1 episode 1. Good luck! | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
On December 18 2013 08:45 SixStrings wrote: Ah shit... Female-to-male transmission rates are quite low, especially when she doesn't have a flare-up. Keep an eye out for any signs of herpes for the next few weeks. If you don't have any sores, you should be ok but keep checking for 8-10 weeks. You can't get tested unless you have a sore, the other tests are unreliable. | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On December 18 2013 12:19 chadissilent wrote: Female-to-male transmission rates are quite low, especially when she doesn't have a flare-up. Keep an eye out for any signs of herpes for the next few weeks. If you don't have any sores, you should be ok but keep checking for 8-10 weeks. You can't get tested unless you have a sore, the other tests are unreliable. I would suggest going to see a doctor though, or a free clinic. This is also why you don't copulate with people with herp unless you are madly in love with them. | ||
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IgnE
United States7681 Posts
On December 18 2013 12:36 docvoc wrote: I would suggest going to see a doctor though, or a free clinic. This is also why you don't copulate with people with herp unless you are madly in love with them. Doc isn't gonna tell you anything. You probably don't have it. If you do, it's just a skin rash. | ||
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chadissilent
Canada1187 Posts
On December 18 2013 12:36 docvoc wrote: I would suggest going to see a doctor though, or a free clinic. This is also why you don't copulate with people with herp unless you are madly in love with them. It won't change a thing. The doc will give the same advice I did. Source: I went through a similar scare, but my best friend and his gf are both doctors and advised me through it. | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
It's the ATM thing that worried me. | ||
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