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On October 18 2013 23:48 ComaDose wrote: the moral i got from that story was believe people when they tell you they arn't looking for a relationship
touche!
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Your dick fell in love, and apparently it has more willpower than your brain. When a girl says she doesn't want a relationship, it means she wants to fuck other people. It also gives you free reign to do the same. If she gets mad/jealous, she'll try to give you the relationship talk. If not, enjoy the casual sex while it lasts.
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keep it up until she walks in on you plowing her roommate dummy
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The common mistake of this thread is actually a philosophical one, everyone seems to think karma is a genuine thing and that the universe rewards holding a door open with getting an emotionally mature and decent partner. It doesn't work this way, and if you are truly decent you will continue to treat people the way you wish to be treated regardless of how many problems you run into, and the more often you complain that you're the nice guy in the bad world, the funnier it will be to some people to see you get run over. Quit talking about how nice you are and just focus on living to the best of your ability. None of this alpha and beta internet chatter is really effective, I'm a young man and I've already met several women who are into the very opposite of the stereotypical supreme male. There's no one road to success, nor any guarantee that you'll find it even if you look and talk like whoever you think the toughest man alive is.
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I met this girl 2 months ago and we really like each other^.^ According to wikipedia I'm in love. It's great, because it seems that she feels the same. The sad thing is that we live 2 hours apart, which wouldn't be a problem if I didn't study Math and if she wasn't in her final year of high school and has a lot of exams Anyway, we try to find time for each other whenever we can .
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how do you go about casual sex? Well, I'm also still in high school lol.
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On October 18 2013 15:58 IgnE wrote: Ryder says he has already made up his mind. I can't tell if he harbors delusional hopes about it (the evidence that he would consider getting back together with her sometime in the future seems to suggest such) or if he's just locked in financially to this failboat voyage and doesn't want to forfeit the money he already spent on the trip. Tbh probably a bit of both. I'm open minded about getting back together in the future (as in years down the road, I definitely don't want to on this trip) but I realise that being with her 24/7 might drag me back into being upset about her and wanting to get back together despite the fact that I'm actually really happy being single.
But yeah I've already committed a load of money to this trip and I start full time work next year so won't be having all that much time off, so I figure its better to go and take my chances rather than cancel and be miserable because I just wasted a shit ton of $$.
I realise its a bad idea but there isn't much I can do to change it. Best advice I've been given is to just make sure to have my own space whilst I'm over there and do some sight seeing etc by myself.
Also Broetchenholer, not sure how any of this has anything to do with being 'alpha'. Diving head first into a relationship shortly after a break up probably isn't the best idea but there's nothing wrong with getting to know new people. I'd recommend it to anyone in a similar situation. since if nothing else it shows you that there are other great women out there and the sun doesn't rise and set over the one woman you broke up with.
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If you like someone and you want to be in a relationship don't avoid it just because of some arbitrary rule saying you can't start a relationship for x months after a breakup. If you feel ready just go for it. If you're still thinking of your ex all the time an are just seeking a replacement then don't.
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On October 19 2013 09:10 Kenpachi wrote: how do you go about casual sex? Well, I'm also still in high school lol.
It's pretty much the same as regular sex only better.
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On October 20 2013 04:56 Aeroplaneoverthesea wrote:Show nested quote +On October 19 2013 09:10 Kenpachi wrote: how do you go about casual sex? Well, I'm also still in high school lol. It's pretty much the same as regular sex only better.
It's much, much worse.
Sex with a partner is more enjoyable because:
1. she knows the weird shit you're into and vice versa 2. you're much more relaxed 3. you can go in bare-skinned 4. you can go in bare-skinned 5. you can go in bare-skinned! How the fuck do you come wearing a rubber? 6. afterwards, you can cuddle without being a creep 7. you know exactly how far you can go and when you go a bit further, you're not likely to freak her out 8. if she likes it rough, you don't need to be afraid she claims you've raped her afterwards
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Sex with someone you don't have an emotional bond with is completely fucking pointless. At least for me.
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On October 20 2013 05:13 Recognizable wrote: Sex with someone you don't have an emotional bond with is completely fucking pointless. At least for me. I almost agree, but earlier this year I had a short-lived thing with a girl and it was good fun. It's better with someone you like though, but that doesn't mean good ole' fucking isn't a worthwhile time investment. I certainly don't go out of my way for it.
Also I'm not sure what you mean by "emotional bond" but screwing a friend can be a good time too. You don't necessarily "love" her but it's cool. She finds you enjoyable and you find her enjoyable and it's facking dandy.
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On October 20 2013 05:21 Djzapz wrote:Show nested quote +On October 20 2013 05:13 Recognizable wrote: Sex with someone you don't have an emotional bond with is completely fucking pointless. At least for me. I almost agree, but earlier this year I had a short-lived thing with a girl and it was good fun. It's better with someone you like though, but that doesn't mean good ole' fucking isn't a worthwhile time investment. I certainly don't go out of my way for it. Also I'm not sure what you mean by "emotional bond" but screwing a friend can be a good time too. You don't necessarily "love" her but it's cool. She finds you enjoyable and you find her enjoyable and it's facking dandy.
Yeah those are cool. But investing a lot of time and effort just to get laid is pretty pointless for me at least.
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On October 19 2013 09:10 Kenpachi wrote: how do you go about casual sex? Well, I'm also still in high school lol. Also, for the love of God, if you do have casual sex, do not go around treating it like a conquest or competition to your other friends just to make yourself feel better. Such people are the worst.
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I always have fun reading this thread. There is some highlight-worthy stuff on every page.
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On October 19 2013 00:18 chadissilent wrote: Your dick fell in love, and apparently it has more willpower than your brain.
I vote this as the best quote in this thread so far after that classy-bitches thing.
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I volunteer regularly at a soup kitchen. Today a homeless woman came up to me and pressed her tits against my arm. This is the most action I've gotten in several years.
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On October 20 2013 10:58 UniversalSnip wrote: I volunteer regularly at a soup kitchen. Today a homeless woman came up to me and pressed her tits against my arm. This is the most action I've gotten in several years.
She wants the d... Or possibly more soup. Could go either way!
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I hope to god she wants more soup.
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