EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 294
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Mentalizor
Denmark1596 Posts
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Retgery
Canada1229 Posts
Every girl I talked to so far tells me I'm quite charming and they enjoy my company, they just don't enjoy it enough for more. This has happened with 5 girls on different occasions. Edit: Funnily enough, my close friend(a girl) predicted this would happen. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On October 20 2013 11:37 Retgery wrote: Edit: Funnily enough, my close friend(a girl) predicted this would happen. Burn the witch tbh. | ||
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Feartheguru
Canada1334 Posts
On October 20 2013 11:37 Retgery wrote: 2 months since I've started university, and my new friends have dubbed me: "King of the Freindzone." Every girl I talked to so far tells me I'm quite charming and they enjoy my company, they just don't enjoy it enough for more. This has happened with 5 girls on different occasions. Edit: Funnily enough, my close friend(a girl) predicted this would happen. Well if she predicted it, there's obviously a reason. | ||
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Retgery
Canada1229 Posts
On October 20 2013 11:44 Feartheguru wrote: Well if she predicted it, there's obviously a reason. I can't hit on girls, I talk to them like I'm talking to a friend. So there like "Oh he's nice, let's keep him around." | ||
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WarSame
Canada1950 Posts
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quebecman77
Canada133 Posts
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tuho12345
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On October 20 2013 13:12 tuho12345 wrote: What do you guys think is the safest way to ask a girl out? I tried a few times and no luck. "Safe"? Did you get shanked? | ||
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Advocado
Denmark994 Posts
Hahaha! I always send an e-mail with different boxes to check. | ||
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Zerste
United States112 Posts
On October 20 2013 13:12 tuho12345 wrote: What do you guys think is the safest way to ask a girl out? I tried a few times and no luck. You ask them if they'd like to go out some time. Don't beat around the bush, most females absolutely hate it. If you get turned down, you try again with somebody else. Nobody has every interest respond positively. | ||
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scott31337
United States2979 Posts
On October 20 2013 05:08 SixStrings wrote: It's much, much worse. Sex with a partner is more enjoyable because: 1. she knows the weird shit you're into and vice versa 2. you're much more relaxed 3. you can go in bare-skinned 4. you can go in bare-skinned 5. you can go in bare-skinned! How the fuck do you come wearing a rubber? 6. afterwards, you can cuddle without being a creep 7. you know exactly how far you can go and when you go a bit further, you're not likely to freak her out 8. if she likes it rough, you don't need to be afraid she claims you've raped her afterwards Sums it up well here - GG | ||
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gedatsu
1286 Posts
On October 20 2013 13:12 tuho12345 wrote: What do you guys think is the safest way to ask a girl out? I tried a few times and no luck. The safest way is, ironically, to not be safe about it. Girls have a thing for confidence. You cannot demonstrate confidence and choose the safe path at the same time. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32157 Posts
On October 20 2013 10:58 UniversalSnip wrote: I volunteer regularly at a soup kitchen. Today a homeless woman came up to me and pressed her tits against my arm. This is the most action I've gotten in several years. How would you feel if she started getting picky about the chow you were serving up?? Beggars can't be choosers, dawg. | ||
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Shiori
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Godwrath
Spain10160 Posts
On October 20 2013 05:08 SixStrings wrote: It's much, much worse. Sex with a partner is more enjoyable because: 1. she knows the weird shit you're into and vice versa 2. you're much more relaxed 3. you can go in bare-skinned 4. you can go in bare-skinned 5. you can go in bare-skinned! How the fuck do you come wearing a rubber? 6. afterwards, you can cuddle without being a creep 7. you know exactly how far you can go and when you go a bit further, you're not likely to freak her out 8. if she likes it rough, you don't need to be afraid she claims you've raped her afterwards I don't like one night stands to be honest, but i do really like friends with benefits. All of those points, but also your responsability doesn't go further than a genuine friendship. But gotta admit that it's kinda hard sometimes to find someone open minded enough. | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14081 Posts
On October 20 2013 12:05 Retgery wrote: I can't hit on girls, I talk to them like I'm talking to a friend. So there like "Oh he's nice, let's keep him around." You don't want to hit on girls. Big difference. The tl;dr for someone like you, assuming you want to change things, is probably the easiest of them all: You're great when it comes to comfort and building trust, but you have no clue what being sexual even is about. A girl (in most cases) won't show any sexual interest in you when you don't show any sexual interest in her. Past that it's really hard to get more specific without more information. Most likely it's a combination of not being touchy enough, being too compliant, being too available etc. etc. - the good news is that from experience it is a LOT easier to change things in a case like yours because you already got most if not all the social basics covered. | ||
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KillerSOS
United States4207 Posts
On October 20 2013 11:37 Retgery wrote: 2 months since I've started university, and my new friends have dubbed me: "King of the Freindzone." Every girl I talked to so far tells me I'm quite charming and they enjoy my company, they just don't enjoy it enough for more. This has happened with 5 girls on different occasions. Edit: Funnily enough, my close friend(a girl) predicted this would happen. Honestly this probably isn't a terrible situation unless you're really in a rush to date someone. | ||
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corumjhaelen
France6884 Posts
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babylon
8765 Posts
On October 20 2013 13:12 tuho12345 wrote: What do you guys think is the safest way to ask a girl out? I tried a few times and no luck. "Yo, I like you, wanna go out?" Well, aside from being direct, I just heavily advise talking to people face-to-face. None of that asking them out over texting/messaging. It works for some people, but I think you will also get a higher chance of sheer avoidance (a.k.a. dragging you along) if you don't ask face-to-face. | ||
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