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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Kenpachi
United States9908 Posts
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Roblin
Sweden948 Posts
On May 09 2013 05:50 Kenpachi wrote: oh i think i messed up my first kiss. we were at a disconnect and it was kinda awkward t_t A lot of people mess up their first X for any given X. you will have more kisses, don't worry. On May 09 2013 01:54 Ghostcom wrote: I think you might want to read what I actually wrote again, because I said no such thing. That idiocy will have to be on your account. @Robin: Thank you! My life is actually pretty good and without flexing the old e-peen too much I think it is safe to say that I am successful when you apply any of the most common criteria, and also when applying one of the more important ones in so far that I can recognise myself in the mirror. My understanding of the article is just fine - one would have had to still be in second grade to not understand it. McBengt hit some of the key points concerning it's weakness and quite honestly I do not see any reason to waste more time on it. nice! I'm happy for you, though I would note that the first paragraph of the article says: "Feel free to stop reading this if your career is going great, you're thrilled with your life and you're happy with your relationships. Enjoy the rest of your day, friend, this article is not for you. You're doing a great job, we're all proud of you." so I will have to apologize, my response to your comment was intended as sarcastic, but now I realize that the article simply did not apply to you. In my opinion, the wording of the article is strong and perhaps unnecessarily aggressive, but that does not make the underlying principles any less correct, and odds are you are already applying them successfully. if I were to sum the article in one sentence it would be: If you are unhappy about your life then sulking doesn't help, go do something about it. and quite frankly I don't think any sane person would disagree with that statement. the difference is some people apply it, and others don't. the article is directed towards those that don't. now I'm gonna sleep  good night! | ||
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Mikau
Netherlands1446 Posts
On May 09 2013 01:54 Ghostcom wrote: I think you might want to read what I actually wrote again, because I said no such thing. That idiocy will have to be on your account. Did you not actually read the article or are you being dense on purpose? | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
Measured, useful advice < aggressive, in-your-face advice when it comes to visibility and subsequent eyeballs. The sooner proper writers start coming back into vogue instead of people who court controversy and what have you, the better. The article from cracked is nowhere near a bad offender, but holy shit it's depressing how much awful shit is on the internet these days, and how many people actually read them. | ||
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Hug-A-Hydralisk
United States174 Posts
On May 08 2013 14:52 farvacola wrote: Serious questions as to picking up women that include the word "dominate" either come from PUA fools or children. Step your game up, and maybe treat them like human beings and not things to be "dominated". Treating women nicely and like human beings is a major turn off. Girls by nature dig the dominant alpha male. Don't play the alpha male, don't get the girl. It's all about playing the gentleman/dominator that's the true lady killer. | ||
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SnipedSoul
Canada2158 Posts
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Kojak21
Canada1104 Posts
On May 09 2013 10:25 Hug-A-Hydralisk wrote: Treating women nicely and like human beings is a major turn off. Girls by nature dig the dominant alpha male. Don't play the alpha male, don't get the girl. It's all about playing the gentleman/dominator that's the true lady killer. thats not true, u just cant get a girl that likes a nice guy probably cause they dont like your personality, so you have to play the alpha male cause u can only get dumb girls | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
On May 09 2013 10:25 Hug-A-Hydralisk wrote: Treating women nicely and like human beings is a major turn off. Girls by nature dig the dominant alpha male. Don't play the alpha male, don't get the girl. It's all about playing the gentleman/dominator that's the true lady killer. See, my objection to this is the creation of a false dichotomy you're either being 'alpha' or a 'nice guy'. Girls in my experience don't like brash, obnoxious fucktards, neither do they like meek, clingy and desperate guys. | ||
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farvacola
United States18846 Posts
On May 09 2013 10:35 Wombat_NI wrote: See, my objection to this is the creation of a false dichotomy you're either being 'alpha' or a 'nice guy'. Girls in my experience don't like brash, obnoxious fucktards, neither do they like meek, clingy and desperate guys. Yes, this is exactly what I was saying. | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
On May 09 2013 10:35 Wombat_NI wrote: See, my objection to this is the creation of a false dichotomy you're either being 'alpha' or a 'nice guy'. Girls in my experience don't like brash, obnoxious fucktards, neither do they like meek, clingy and desperate guys. This is my opinion. | ||
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Kenpachi
United States9908 Posts
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
more or less i got there and it was like.. idk totally comfortable feeling, and we cuddled and did shit for a few days(non sexual since she said she wasnt going to cheat on her boyfriend or something) then i went home, but it was super weird being totally comfortable with someone after that long and we were really a whole lot alike ._. but shes supposed to be coming to see me soon/ im going back there not sure which atm but wtf do i do in this situation ??? + Show Spoiler + granted i think i know what people will say but i figured id ask | ||
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rezoacken
Canada2719 Posts
I really advise against making her cheat. This would make her feel really bad and can go as far as giving her buyer remorse. You'd be better knowing your woman breaks up before cheating. You'd like it this way as the other guy. You don't look like every horny guy and you'd look one that would put integrity first rather than willing to have sex no matter what. That's my perspective on this. If you're REALLY not interested, cut the cuddling and just do friendly stuff. In this situation I would even suggest meeting her boyfriend. But that requires a strong integrity to do all that and you being really not interested. | ||
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Zooper31
United States5711 Posts
On May 09 2013 11:53 arb wrote: So i guess I can give some story, I was checking my fb other messages(the box that doesnt show if you have a message or not) and had one from a girl i hadnt talked to in like.. idk 4 years or something(ive known her for about 8 i guess) but more ro less we chatted it up for a bit, then didnt talk for about a month and a couple weeks ago started again(all the while shes dating someone mind you) but hell i live in another state so i dont give a fuck, other night in a big spout of boredom(literally) i jokingly asked her what she'd do if i came to see her right now, we talked a bit of shit and finally i said fuck it and just decided to go. more or less i got there and it was like.. idk totally comfortable feeling, and we cuddled and did shit for a few days(non sexual since she said she wasnt going to cheat on her boyfriend or something) then i went home, but it was super weird being totally comfortable with someone after that long and we were really a whole lot alike ._. but shes supposed to be coming to see me soon/ im going back there not sure which atm but wtf do i do in this situation ??? + Show Spoiler + granted i think i know what people will say but i figured id ask Exactly. Don't fucking make her cheat with you. Are you coming here to brag or what? If she likes you, make her break up with her bf. If she isn't going to then don't see her anymore because it's obvious there a thing between you and you're going behind the guy's back which is a real a-hole move. | ||
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
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Zooper31
United States5711 Posts
On May 09 2013 12:04 B.I.G. wrote: You stayed at her place a few days? Man i wouldn't be a happy boyfriend if I would find out about that... That'd be enough for me to break up if I had a gf. Her cuddling with another guy period, let alone, alone at her place without my knowledge. | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On May 09 2013 12:34 Zooper31 wrote: That'd be enough for me to break up if I had a gf. Her cuddling with another guy period, let alone, alone at her place without my knowledge. I do feel kinda douchey about it, but idk. she said she didnt consider it cheating, and i told myself i wouldnt do anything else since she was dating someone. Like I know it was a REALLLLLLLL asshole thing to do, but it takes two to tango, and its not like i forced the point or tried anything else. dunno, shes all about trying to keep it secretive and shit so idk wtf. | ||
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Orcasgt24
Canada3238 Posts
On May 09 2013 13:41 arb wrote: I do feel kinda douchey about it, but idk. she said she didnt consider it cheating, and i told myself i wouldnt do anything else since she was dating someone. Like I know it was a REALLLLLLLL asshole thing to do, but it takes two to tango, and its not like i forced the point or tried anything else. dunno, shes all about trying to keep it secretive and shit so idk wtf. Gonna go that far then may as well steal home. Shes basiclly asked you too | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland26225 Posts
Not calling you an asshole in this instance, you didn't really do anything sexual iirc (although some find emotional cheating worse). | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On May 09 2013 13:51 Wombat_NI wrote: 'She didn't consider it cheating' - How exactly did she come to that conclusion? Not calling you an asshole in this instance, you didn't really do anything sexual iirc (although some find emotional cheating worse). When a girl shows those signs, it's time to get out lol. Cheaters always cheat, just a word to the wise in my experience. IMO it would depend how deep in the relationship we are, early maybe I'd let it slide with her never doing it again, later on I'd be like, NO, you're dumped. | ||
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