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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on.

Posts of the following nature are banned:
1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post.
2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no.
3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture.
4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments.

Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating.
McBengt
Profile Joined May 2011
Sweden1684 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-05-05 08:04:43
May 05 2013 07:28 GMT
#2801
On May 05 2013 09:20 Wombat_NI wrote:
The ice maiden's shroud of ice has been softened by your radiant warmth


Boundless joy overflows. We can now resume our righteous endeavour to steer the young gentlemen of this thread in their journey upon the churning seas of love.

Man this thread was boring when you were gone. So much complaining, not enough lulz.

"We were in this together, and then...you were gone. And now, there's whining rising from where we tried to bury it. The Wombat must come back...he must."
"My twelve year old will out-reason Bill Maher when it comes to understanding, you know, what, uh, how to logic work" - Rick Santorum
Orcasgt24
Profile Joined August 2011
Canada3238 Posts
May 05 2013 07:37 GMT
#2802
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...
In Hearthstone we pray to RNGesus. When Yogg-Saron hits the field, RNGod gets to work
SnipedSoul
Profile Joined November 2010
Canada2158 Posts
May 05 2013 07:56 GMT
#2803
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


May as well ask her out and get a clear answer. There's nothing worse than sitting in that ambiguous area for extended periods of time.
Ghostcom
Profile Joined March 2010
Denmark4782 Posts
May 05 2013 07:57 GMT
#2804
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


Just a thought, but if the first date went that "bad" (relatively speaking), do YOU want another date with her? It takes two to shape the outcome of a date.
WombaT
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
Northern Ireland25771 Posts
May 05 2013 08:06 GMT
#2805
Such a budding (b)romance, really adding even more spice to this already flavoursome thread
'You'll always be the cuddly marsupial of my heart, despite the inherent flaws of your ancestry' - Squat
Orcasgt24
Profile Joined August 2011
Canada3238 Posts
May 05 2013 08:11 GMT
#2806
On May 05 2013 16:57 Ghostcom wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


Just a thought, but if the first date went that "bad" (relatively speaking), do YOU want another date with her? It takes two to shape the outcome of a date.

True. And I didn't get much help in the last one. I'm not the best at conversing so I need alot more input then I got. And of course she spent a bunch if it on the phone...

I do like her so a second shot is something I'd like.
In Hearthstone we pray to RNGesus. When Yogg-Saron hits the field, RNGod gets to work
Ghostcom
Profile Joined March 2010
Denmark4782 Posts
May 05 2013 08:14 GMT
#2807
On May 05 2013 17:11 Orcasgt24 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 05 2013 16:57 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


Just a thought, but if the first date went that "bad" (relatively speaking), do YOU want another date with her? It takes two to shape the outcome of a date.

True. And I didn't get much help in the last one. I'm not the best at conversing so I need alot more input then I got. And of course she spent a bunch if it on the phone...

I do like her so a second shot is something I'd like.


By all means, go for it - as someone else said, better to know for sure than thinking of what could have been. Just be cautious that she is not using you - what changed since the last date and why should she be more invested in date 2?
Orcasgt24
Profile Joined August 2011
Canada3238 Posts
May 05 2013 08:32 GMT
#2808
On May 05 2013 17:14 Ghostcom wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 05 2013 17:11 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:57 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


Just a thought, but if the first date went that "bad" (relatively speaking), do YOU want another date with her? It takes two to shape the outcome of a date.

True. And I didn't get much help in the last one. I'm not the best at conversing so I need alot more input then I got. And of course she spent a bunch if it on the phone...

I do like her so a second shot is something I'd like.


By all means, go for it - as someone else said, better to know for sure than thinking of what could have been. Just be cautious that she is not using you - what changed since the last date and why should she be more invested in date 2?

The thing that's changed is she talks about guys shes hung out with since moving and calling them all douche bags..
In Hearthstone we pray to RNGesus. When Yogg-Saron hits the field, RNGod gets to work
Ghostcom
Profile Joined March 2010
Denmark4782 Posts
May 05 2013 08:42 GMT
#2809
On May 05 2013 17:32 Orcasgt24 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 05 2013 17:14 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 17:11 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:57 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


Just a thought, but if the first date went that "bad" (relatively speaking), do YOU want another date with her? It takes two to shape the outcome of a date.

True. And I didn't get much help in the last one. I'm not the best at conversing so I need alot more input then I got. And of course she spent a bunch if it on the phone...

I do like her so a second shot is something I'd like.


By all means, go for it - as someone else said, better to know for sure than thinking of what could have been. Just be cautious that she is not using you - what changed since the last date and why should she be more invested in date 2?

The thing that's changed is she talks about guys shes hung out with since moving and calling them all douche bags..


Well yes, but why does that all of a sudden make you a better long term prospect? So the guys she prioritized over you didn't pan out for her and now all of a sudden you are in? I guess I might be overly cautious, but I would personally wonder why she didn't prioritize me in the first place and how much I could trust her to not cheat on me.
ne0lith
Profile Joined August 2011
537 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-05-05 08:44:37
May 05 2013 08:44 GMT
#2810
So, generally speaking, if a girl starts angrily calling you things like psycho/creeper and threatens to get a restraining order, is she just playing hard to get? I've got a feeling she wants me badly.
biology]major
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
United States2253 Posts
May 05 2013 08:49 GMT
#2811
On May 05 2013 17:44 ne0lith wrote:
So, generally speaking, if a girl starts angrily calling you things like psycho/creeper and threatens to get a restraining order, is she just playing hard to get? I've got a feeling she wants me badly.


normally that means shes REALLY into you, just keep it goin playa
Question.?
McBengt
Profile Joined May 2011
Sweden1684 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-05-05 08:59:24
May 05 2013 08:56 GMT
#2812
On May 05 2013 17:49 biology]major wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 05 2013 17:44 ne0lith wrote:
So, generally speaking, if a girl starts angrily calling you things like psycho/creeper and threatens to get a restraining order, is she just playing hard to get? I've got a feeling she wants me badly.


normally that means shes REALLY into you, just keep it goin playa


Indeed, that is a sure fire sign of affection.

It was like when this girl tazered me a few years go, I knew it was love.

Such a budding (b)romance, really adding even more spice to this already flavoursome thread


Imagine how lost and joyless the fine people of this thread would be without our benevolent guidance.
"My twelve year old will out-reason Bill Maher when it comes to understanding, you know, what, uh, how to logic work" - Rick Santorum
Orcasgt24
Profile Joined August 2011
Canada3238 Posts
May 05 2013 09:30 GMT
#2813
On May 05 2013 17:42 Ghostcom wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 05 2013 17:32 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 05 2013 17:14 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 17:11 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:57 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
[quote]
Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


Just a thought, but if the first date went that "bad" (relatively speaking), do YOU want another date with her? It takes two to shape the outcome of a date.

True. And I didn't get much help in the last one. I'm not the best at conversing so I need alot more input then I got. And of course she spent a bunch if it on the phone...

I do like her so a second shot is something I'd like.


By all means, go for it - as someone else said, better to know for sure than thinking of what could have been. Just be cautious that she is not using you - what changed since the last date and why should she be more invested in date 2?

The thing that's changed is she talks about guys shes hung out with since moving and calling them all douche bags..


Well yes, but why does that all of a sudden make you a better long term prospect? So the guys she prioritized over you didn't pan out for her and now all of a sudden you are in? I guess I might be overly cautious, but I would personally wonder why she didn't prioritize me in the first place and how much I could trust her to not cheat on me.

Your thought process is exactly why I posted here. I'm asking similar questions. To the last part I'm not entirly sure I even could trust that. Wouldn't be able to know for sure until she thinks she's in a relationship with me though. Alot of socialable women completly change demeanor around other guys once they are not single.

Likly over thinking this lol. I'll just ask her out. Easier on the mind. If she says yes then yay, hope it goes better, If she says no then thats the end of it, won't try again
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Aelonius
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
Netherlands432 Posts
May 05 2013 09:34 GMT
#2814
On May 04 2013 06:03 kafkaesque wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 04 2013 05:07 sunprince wrote:


For some reason, people are fundamentally opposed to self-improvement when it comes to guys becoming more attractive. The only remotely comparable phenomenon is when fatties hate on someone who is successfully losing weight.



Except when you're fat you can lose weight. If you're ugly, that's it. There's no "self improvement", there is no training programme, no diet, no amount of dedication that can make your face less wonky, your cheek-bones less weak, your hairline less receding or your height less hobbit-esque.

Sure we can get into shape, many of us do, sure we can work on being better people, but when it comes to dating, ugly guys have significant disadvantages we simply have to learn to deal with.


Frankly speaking, I feel that the only thing someone should control is their health, as the way they look are subjective to others if they find it attractive or not. I prefer to focus on my ability, my knowledge and my personality. In the end, the girls come for the looks but they stay for that 'connection', and if you focus purely on the looks you'll have a shallow relationship.

(note that this is written black and white just as it is intended. Find your own balance in them, as long as you feel confident)
''The nine most terrifying words in the English language are: 'I'm from the government and I'm here to help.''—Ronald Reagan
Mentalizor
Profile Joined January 2011
Denmark1596 Posts
May 05 2013 12:03 GMT
#2815
On May 05 2013 17:44 ne0lith wrote:
So, generally speaking, if a girl starts angrily calling you things like psycho/creeper and threatens to get a restraining order, is she just playing hard to get? I've got a feeling she wants me badly.


Yeah, I think she's into you... You should start hiding in her trees/bushes while taking pictures. Chicks love that
(yಠ,ಠ)y - Y U NO ALL IN? - rtsAlaran: " I somehow sit inside the bus.Hot_Bit giving me a massage"
Shady Sands
Profile Blog Joined June 2012
United States4021 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-05-05 16:12:18
May 05 2013 13:19 GMT
#2816
Had a fairly meh date last night

Got a text this morning

“你走后我梦到你了 被吓醒了"

"After you left, I dreamt of you // got scared awake"

Not sure how to read into that

EDIT: We made an appointment next weekend to buy groceries, cook, and go watch the Great Gatsby. I think this might work out

EDIT #2: She just asked me for my favorite beer

EDIT #3: We spent a half hour joking about which one of us is secretly married to someone in China, and is here to avoid their spouse.

Lesson: a boring date doesn't imply anything, just play along
Что?
ziggurat
Profile Joined October 2010
Canada847 Posts
May 05 2013 14:35 GMT
#2817
On May 05 2013 17:32 Orcasgt24 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 05 2013 17:14 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 17:11 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:57 Ghostcom wrote:
On May 05 2013 16:37 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:41 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:26 white_horse wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:18 sunprince wrote:
On May 03 2013 06:02 Orcasgt24 wrote:
On April 24 2013 08:09 Orcasgt24 wrote:
I have a date tonight with a new girl from work. She moved to this city like 2 weeks ago. Very excited.

Figured I'd post how it went for the hell of it.

She spent most of the time either texting or talking to her friend from the city she moved from. Then quickly asked for the bill when the server came by. Total waste of both of our time. Obviously no second date coming lol.


Sounds like you bored her.

Consider telling a girl to put her phone away the next time this happens to you on a date, and walking out otherwise.


Completely agree. It's not ok to even look at your phone once or twice during a date just because it's "only once or twice". Your attention should be 100% towards the other person, not 99% or 98%. If you're guilty of looking at your phone during a date a few times, good to cut the habit now, else you want to lose points from the other.

I know I bored her. I tried to carry a conversation (my single worst trait by the way) but responces were like dead ends. She left it practiclly impossble to continue on any one subject and eventually I basiclly gave up. I'm also 95% sure she agreed to go out with me because shes too nice to say no.
Food was good at least!


So this same girl has been chatting with me during her breaks and the odd text conversation. Like half of what she talks about is how she's hung out with a bunch of guys who shes ended up thinking are douche-bags.

To me this comes across as an extremely polar sign. I just cannot figure out if its the I'm a douche-bag side or the not so subtle hint to ask her out again. Given how poorly the first date went I cannot see it being the wanting a second one(maybe she feels bad?)

I don't know what to think or do here. I'm leaning on the side of fuck it and just ask her out again. Worst she can say is no right...


Just a thought, but if the first date went that "bad" (relatively speaking), do YOU want another date with her? It takes two to shape the outcome of a date.

True. And I didn't get much help in the last one. I'm not the best at conversing so I need alot more input then I got. And of course she spent a bunch if it on the phone...

I do like her so a second shot is something I'd like.


By all means, go for it - as someone else said, better to know for sure than thinking of what could have been. Just be cautious that she is not using you - what changed since the last date and why should she be more invested in date 2?

The thing that's changed is she talks about guys shes hung out with since moving and calling them all douche bags..

In other words, she has the same kind of conversation with you that she'd have with a female friend. She's not interested. sorry dude.
JoeCool
Profile Joined January 2012
Germany2520 Posts
May 05 2013 19:05 GMT
#2818
So far my love life was (still is) awful, I was never in a serious relationship with a girl. There were like six or seven girls Ive been dating for a longer time in my life but the affairs I had with some of them never developed into sth serious. Most of them went back to their ex-bfs after a while... Which was really depressing.
Last one was until 2 months ago. I dated a great girl I met at university for 6 months, weve had a great time together. At first it seemed to me like it was her fault we "broke up"... Now that Im looking back, I realize that I messed up. I miss her but sh** happens :-/

Theres another pretty girl visiting some of my lectures, shes always been sitting offside and alone. Im sure there are lots of guys that are trying to date her - maybe she even has a BF, who knows - but in the lectures it seems to me like she does not want anyone to sit next to her or to talk to her. Which I dont really get.
Thing is... Im interested in her but not sure what to do. Whenever I see her I think to myself "Go, ask for a seat right next to her..." but then again theres her "aura" that keeps saying "Fu** Off" :-/



HardlyNever
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States1258 Posts
May 05 2013 19:26 GMT
#2819
Going to ask this girl I work with on a lunch "date" (although I don't really consider it a date) this week. Ostensibly we have a lot in common and she seems to be giving me signals (but she could just be being nice).

Will update later this week.
Out there, the Kid learned to fend for himself. Learned to build. Learned to break.
MagmaPunch
Profile Joined November 2011
Bulgaria536 Posts
May 05 2013 19:28 GMT
#2820
Imo. Just talk to her. There's absolutely no point in speculating about her charachter. If she's not nice you will find out and then go on with your life, otherwise you will find yourself a possible date.At this point, you've got absolutely nothing to lose
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