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Naracs_Duc
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Sent.
Poland9336 Posts
On May 05 2016 05:21 Acrofales wrote: Flip flops make sense (can get stuck in the pedals). In fact, that's when I mostly drive barefoot, when I am wearing flipflops. High heels sound dangerous too: firstly your foot is at a weird angle, and secondly, the pivot point is your high heel, which doesn't seem ideal for reacting quickly. Being a man, I have no idea whether that is actually true, it just makes sense from a mechanical point of view. But barefoot? What is the reasoning behind it? Maybe the legislator assumed citizens are retarded and they put their shoes underneath the pedals whenever they decide to drive barefoot? | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46692 Posts
On May 05 2016 05:16 opisska wrote: From what I vaguely know about the US, it may be surprising for you that cops in Europe are generally allowed to pull you over just because they feel like it in order to check that everything is OK with you and the car. Ah it definitely does surprise me! Wasn't aware of that. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
She's usually fine about these things and she normally understand that they're jokes but today my father opened with a plunger as a joke present, mostly because they needed a plunger. He had other thoughtful stuff for her and whatnot. She unwrapped the plunger and got really angry, to the point where staying for dinner was useless and I just left after trying to defuse the situation without any success. These kinds of outbursts happen a lot with her lately, I've written about some of her issues in my blogs and I won't go into it. Anyway, she took the plunger to signify that "she's shit" as if it was some sort of freudian thing. I don't know her to be the kind of person to reach for those hidden meanings in what I KNOW to be a well-intentioned meaningless stupid joke that was meant to be absurd. Given that we do make those well-intentioned meaningless stupid jokes in this family, would you guys agree with her when she says it's a bad thing to do? We never had any indication that it was not ok. I wouldn't do that with a stranger, but this is almost a family tradition type thing. Anyway, at first when these outbursts started to happen, I was entirely on her side, thinking she's stressed out, we have to be lenient, those outbursts will happen and it's ok. But it seems very unfitting of mother's day for me to start thinking like now this is getting fucked up and she's getting out of control. I'm pissed off. But yeah my stupid question is, is this completely out of line given that we do this stuff? Or are we retarded? | ||
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ZerOCoolSC2
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On May 09 2016 09:23 ZerOCoolSC2 wrote: I like that your family has these kinds of jokes and it used to be pretty fun for everyone. I would take it as a sign that she's just stressed and tired and the jokes probably don't hold the same meaning that they used to. I rag on my sister all the time and my family is pretty lighthearted about poking fun at each other. I think a lot of families are that way. Maybe a nice stroll out in nature with her might get her to open up and share? Thanks. It seems to come and go though... and I'm not too good at those discussions. I've tried to reason these things out with her, but she has so much on her shoulders and continues to refuse help... At this point it feels like I can't help. All of the things that lead to her being stressed out are things she refuses to stop doing or straight up can't stop doing. So at this point I feel like all I can do is do damage control and hope it doesn't get worse. This all feels pretty horrible -_- | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46692 Posts
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JimmiC
Canada22817 Posts
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
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JimmiC
Canada22817 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States46692 Posts
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killa_robot
Canada1884 Posts
While stress might make people feel moody, it seems like a leap for her to reach that conclusion because of it. Especially if its sort of an ongoing thing in the family. She could have also just been pissed at your father in general and just used this as an excuse to yell at him. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On May 09 2016 10:43 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: To be clear though, do not accuse your mom of being menopausal. I am not suicidal. On May 09 2016 11:25 killa_robot wrote: People who have outbursts like that tend to be projecting how they feel onto others. In other words, your mother might have done something she regrets recently (likely however long ago this started), or has just realized a past regret, which has put her on edge. While stress might make people feel moody, it seems like a leap for her to reach that conclusion because of it. Especially if its sort of an ongoing thing in the family. She could have also just been pissed at your father in general and just used this as an excuse to yell at him. Yeah that probably plays a part. | ||
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Cascade
Australia5405 Posts
If you think there is something else going on, then try to support her with that, independently of the pranks. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs any help or talk or whatever. If she gets out of her issues you can ask her at that point if it's OK that you pick up the prank tradition again. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
On May 09 2016 12:21 Cascade wrote: If she doesn't appreciate the pranks, don't do them on her. The pranks aren't very important to you it seems, so why insist? If you think there is something else going on, then try to support her with that, independently of the pranks. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs any help or talk or whatever. If she gets out of her issues you can ask her at that point if it's OK that you pick up the prank tradition again. She has never previously reacted this way so we had no way of knowing it would turn out like this. It's safe to say we're not going to do it again, but it seems stupid because it feels like we're changing our stuff just to put up with her passing negative feelings. So for her birthday we'll not do the prank and the silly jokes just because she was having a rough time months before? It's not a big loss really, we never truly cared and we never gave it any thought, but it just adds to this negativity thing. I used to love coming back home for dinner but now I hate it. There's this latent, looming threat of shit going badly. Sometimes the topics of conversation are all the negative things - shitty clients, shitty people, tough situations, etc. It's exhausting. As for the other issues, we're all trying to help to the best of our ability but it's not always possible. It's a rather complicated situation and she's done a really good job binding her in a tough professional situation that drains all of her energy to the point where we're all concerned about her health... and her mental health perhaps more than anything else. She should retire but she won't. I can't make her. Anyway just needed to vent, cheers guys  | ||
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OtherWorld
France17333 Posts
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zatic
Zurich15366 Posts
On May 05 2016 04:33 ThomasjServo wrote: I think that is an urban myth tbh. Googling why is it illegal to drive barefoot, googling confirms that all 50 states you can drive barefoot. Can't speak to Germany, but everything about it from Europe that showed up had a lot of back and forth and no substantiation. It's a myth. You can drive barefoot or in flip flops in Germany as well. Of course, in case of an accident your insurance might give you a hard time because of that, but it's still legal. | ||
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Thouhastmail
Korea (North)876 Posts
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Cascade
Australia5405 Posts
On May 09 2016 15:44 Thouhastmail wrote: I lost my job. what should I do? Have a breather, relax a bit. Then find a new one. | ||
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oGoZenob
France1503 Posts
On May 09 2016 15:44 Thouhastmail wrote: I lost my job. what should I do? how's north korean job market ? | ||
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