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I’ve been very troubled lately – Hope the anonymity and wisdom of TL can shed some light for me.
I’ve been dating my current GF for the past 5 months now, and she’s absolutely fantastic – pretty, smart, makes me laugh, caring and does unspeakable things to me in bed. We love each other so much; it’s pretty much what I would call a perfect relationship. I see myself as a pretty conservative guy; I do party quite a bit, but I’m not the kind of person to date/kisss/fuck any pretty girl I meet – personality, closeness, etc. are things that I value more than sex. Consequently, I’ve only ever had 2 intimate relationships in the past; one of them we didn’t even go all the way. Recently through the afterglow of bedside conversations with my GF and what mutual friends have told me, I’ve been very troubled by what I have learned.
My GF parties quite a bit as well, and from what I’ve heard (some confirmed cases) she has made out with quite a few guys I know at various parties/clubs/etc. Those are only the guys I know, I’m sure there are many more. Once when we were both drinking at a party, some guy glanced at her with a smirk on his face the whole time and when I talked to him he just had this smuggest expression on his face that I couldn’t stand; I asked my GF about it afterwards and she said it was nothing, but she’s always been a bad liar however I just let it go. Also, a mutual friend told me that the night where we met at a karaoke place, she was at a club before and made out with a random guy because “he was tall, Korean, really good looking and had abs of steel”. The norm in today’s society? Yes. Shallow? Absolutely.
Even more troubling to me, she’s only ever had 1 boyfriend before me – who dated her just for sex. Short, average-looking, academic failure of a guy who never introduced her to any of his friends, never did anything special for her, made her miserable, fucked her once/took her virginity and dumped her right afterwards all in 5 months’ time. Ever since I found out, I’ve had some very mixed feelings. On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Now, I TRY SO HARD, I honest do, to just let it go. I try so hard to forget, or least not think about it, but I just can’t do it. I get irritated and depressed whenever her past crosses my mind, which unfortunately has become quite often. I really want to be a big person here, but I guess I’m just not one. All the mystery and making out with dozens of guys aside, I just can’t comprehend what she was thinking with her ex – why did she let a guy, who obviously didn’t love her and treated her like shit, fuck her especially for the first time (that ended in her ex dumping her a week later)? Now that I think about it, we had oral sex 2 weeks into our relationship, then sex 2 weeks after that. That was really fast for me, but she seemed completely okay and open with it. Why am I complaining about my hot GF that puts out? Well, combined with her past history this really makes me wonder about her integrity and fidelity as a person.
Despite all the media desensitization towards sex I have to say, at least in my social/cultural group, SEX IS A BIG DEAL, especially for the first time.
This girl loves me a lot, and I love her back. I’ve been otherwise extremely happy with her and I ‘m sure the same is true for her as well. I know that what matters is her present with me not the past, which is nothing short of the utmost loyalty, care, dependency and love towards me; I should just fucking be happy. But her past is like a fucking insect in the back of my skull, it’s a mental thing that gnaws at my brain whenever I think about it and I just wish I CAN STOP FEELING THIS WAY.
Am I being unreasonable? I really don’t want to feel this way at all but I just can’t help it. Fuck my Asian upbringing, I wish I could be some white guy who didn’t give a flying fuck. Fuck Fuck Fuck.
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you love each other, let it go dude
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Well, from what I can tell, she either has issues or is slowly stopping being attracted to you, ''showering her with attention and care'' too much means she will get used to it and simply won't be interested in you anymore. I would have to see the situation in person to judge, though.
Anyway, you are being very unreasonable. This way you're gonna kill the relationship, if she really doesn't want to speak about it then there is nothing you can do, and acting like this will make you feel even worse, it's a problem in your head probably, if you wanted to let go, you would. You are just deepening it. About talking to her about it, just wait until she wants to talk about it, or shows some hints. If she doesn't want to tell you then all you will accomplish is her liking you less, perhaps even killing the relation ship. Your last paragraph is really what's the problem here, I would also like to ask your age?
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ALLEYCAT BLUES50123 Posts
You are overthinking.
SEX is a big deal but its not everything.You are being unreasonable.
You love her and you say she loves you.Let bygones be bygones,even sex.....
EDIT: I have misread it a little but my point still stands.
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I hope you realize that the absolute worst characteristic you can have in a relationship is jealousy. It is the biggest relationship-killer that exists.
Even if you haven't voiced your jealousy aloud, your behavior changes and everything you do will convey jealousy and trust me, women are much better at reading subtle social cues than guys are. Especially if she's hot.
I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
That's because you think you're not communicating your contempt and anger through your behavior. She already knows what you feel like, and that's why she becomes guarded and irritated. She doesn't like being judged by someone who supposedly loves her.
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Yeah you're being unreasonable.
1) Women like sex just as much as men. All that making out was practice for you.
2) Having sex is natural and beautiful. If she's mature enough and trusts you enough to start being sexually active with you that quickly more power to her. Do you believe you can't hook up with a girl on the first night you meet her and then have a successful long-term relationship after that? If you don't you're wrong. Time till hook up has NO CORRELATION with integrity or fidelity.
2.5) Generally if something is nagging you, disinfect with sunlight. If it affects you, it affects her.
[edit] She doesn't like being judged by someone who supposedly loves her.
yeah listen to this guy
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United States42718 Posts
I've had similar issues. A lot of girls have done stupid things in a moment of insecurity tbh and although it's obvious to you (and everyone else) that the guy was a prick they won't see it at the time. But all that jealousy and resentment won't do you any good and if that's how you feel then she's right to get all guarded whenever you bring it up. Your current relationship sounds pretty perfect and this is your issue that you're bringing up, it's on you to get over it. She can't change her past and it has no impact on how she is with you. Either you get over it somehow, put up with it or end it. Also making her feel like shit about it with comments and jokes probably won't get you far, if it was that much of a mistake she probably knows it herself.
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On October 29 2010 22:52 SolHeiM wrote:
I hope you realize that the absolute worst characteristic you can have any time for anything is jealousy. It is the lamest and worst emotion ever emittied by humans.
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fact of the matter is, Freud was right. When people have too much of something, they take it for granted and don't really care as much about it. When something is limited or being taken away everyone wants it more. This is exactly why assholes always get the girls.
Don't be so clingy or needy, it's a sign of weakness. Girls whether they will admit it or not, will rather go for the guy who gives them a little attention and then blows them off just as easily. By showing that you don't need her, she understands that you are capable of anything so it doesn't matter if you have her or not, because it seems like you can have any girl you want to pursue, so she will try harder to keep you (if she really likes you).
Not saying you should all the sudden call her a bitch and give her dirty looks all the time, but when you are with her just relax and have a good time, don't be on her every move or whatever. Especially in public setting, be fine to just stroll around and chat it up with people. If she happens to see you having good coversations with other females or just people in general she will realize that you are just as well without her.
Also, you are taking the sex way too seriously. I'm assuming you are young because sex does not mean love. and love doesn't even mean anything anyways. Take all the shit you've seen in movies and on TV and just throw it out the window, there are no rules or guidelines to sex or love or dating or whatever you want to call it. You just do what you want and she may or may not fit into that and vise versa to her.
Me personally, I don't care if my gf has had sex with other guys or girls in her past and I don't care how many it was. All I care is that they were clean/wore condom or whatever.
In fact, I let my gf hook up with other girls while were going out until she got over it and just wants me. I probably wouldn't care all that much at first if she was with other dudes as well, as long as it didn't cause a problem with the relationship we have. This kind of shit is totally situational though, and now I probably would care if I found out she's been with another guy for a prolonged period of time because we've been together for 4 years.
But if it was like a one night thing, I could forgive her but I would pretend like It ruined me and dump her for a while because I don't wanna show weakness or let her think that kind of shit is ok.
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On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate.
I feel ya on this soo fucking bad on this point. You just start becoming easily irritable towards them and often end up inadverdently saying or doing things that might burn the bridge.
I'll refrain from giving bs advice. I just wanted to say I've been in a similiar situation and it's so friggen shit.
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On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
My GF parties quite a bit as well, and from what I’ve heard (some confirmed cases) she has made out with quite a few guys I know at various parties/clubs/etc. Those are only the guys I know, I’m sure there are many more. Once when we were both drinking at a party, some guy glanced at her with a smirk on his face the whole time and when I talked to him he just had this smuggest expression on his face that I couldn’t stand; I asked my GF about it afterwards and she said it was nothing, but she’s always been a bad liar however I just let it go. Also, a mutual friend told me that the night where we met at a karaoke place, she was at a club before and made out with a random guy because “he was tall, Korean, really good looking and had abs of steel”. The norm in today’s society? Yes. Shallow? Absolutely.
Even more troubling to me, she’s only ever had 1 boyfriend before me – who dated her just for sex. Short, average-looking, academic failure of a guy who never introduced her to any of his friends, never did anything special for her, made her miserable, fucked her once/took her virginity and dumped her right afterwards all in 5 months’ time. Ever since I found out, I’ve had some very mixed feelings. On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
i see only 1 solution for u. u must find this korean guy and this other boyfriend. and u must make out with them. then have ur friends tell her ur history with these dudes and u and ur gf will be even.
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I think everyone has those moments where u see your girls ex or a girl talks about her ex (Doesn't matter if she's comparing him to you in a positive light or just talking about how much of a faggot he was in my experience) and you want to immediately hunt him down and rip his testicles off and shove them down his throat...
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yep, thats my contribution.
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I'ts like being mad at Lenin about the revolution - what's done is done. It's the present that matters.
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On October 29 2010 23:12 Schplyok wrote:
I'ts like being mad at Lenin about the revolution - what's done is done. It's the present that matters.
Not really. His post is a bit unclear, but if she made out with guys when she was in a relationship with him "what's done is done, it's the present that matters," doesn't really count anymore. But if she had been with those guys prior to becoming his girlfriend, then her past is irrelevant.
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yah man u have a beautiful gf, the next time u kiss her just don't think about all the other dudes dongs shes put in her mouth. just don't think about all the dongs. ignore the other dudes dongs, don't think about the dongs of the other guys.
edit but srsly dont think about the dongs, its not worth it
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On October 29 2010 23:07 baller wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
My GF parties quite a bit as well, and from what I’ve heard (some confirmed cases) she has made out with quite a few guys I know at various parties/clubs/etc. Those are only the guys I know, I’m sure there are many more. Once when we were both drinking at a party, some guy glanced at her with a smirk on his face the whole time and when I talked to him he just had this smuggest expression on his face that I couldn’t stand; I asked my GF about it afterwards and she said it was nothing, but she’s always been a bad liar however I just let it go. Also, a mutual friend told me that the night where we met at a karaoke place, she was at a club before and made out with a random guy because “he was tall, Korean, really good looking and had abs of steel”. The norm in today’s society? Yes. Shallow? Absolutely.
Even more troubling to me, she’s only ever had 1 boyfriend before me – who dated her just for sex. Short, average-looking, academic failure of a guy who never introduced her to any of his friends, never did anything special for her, made her miserable, fucked her once/took her virginity and dumped her right afterwards all in 5 months’ time. Ever since I found out, I’ve had some very mixed feelings. On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated. i see only 1 solution for u. u must find this korean guy and this other boyfriend. and u must make out with them. then have ur friends tell her ur history with these dudes and u and ur gf will be even.
Ahahahaha can someone add this to the baller quotes thread.
Gold. Thanks baller.
On October 29 2010 23:09 Ftrunkz wrote:
I think everyone has those moments where u see your girls ex or a girl talks about her ex (Doesn't matter if she's comparing him to you in a positive light or just talking about how much of a faggot he was in my experience) and you want to immediately hunt him down and rip his testicles off and shove them down his throat...
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yep, thats my contribution.
Exactly how I feel sometimes.
On October 29 2010 22:58 KwarK wrote:
I've had similar issues. A lot of girls have done stupid things in a moment of insecurity tbh and although it's obvious to you (and everyone else) that the guy was a prick they won't see it at the time. But all that jealousy and resentment won't do you any good and if that's how you feel then she's right to get all guarded whenever you bring it up. Your current relationship sounds pretty perfect and this is your issue that you're bringing up, it's on you to get over it. She can't change her past and it has no impact on how she is with you. Either you get over it somehow, put up with it or end it. Also making her feel like shit about it with comments and jokes probably won't get you far, if it was that much of a mistake she probably knows it herself.
Thanks I know, it's just a matter of doing it and right now, it's pretty shitty.
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On October 29 2010 23:14 baller wrote:
yah man u have a beautiful gf, the next time u kiss her just don't think about all the other dudes dongs shes put in her mouth. just don't think about all the dongs. ignore the other dudes dongs, don't think about the dongs of the other guys.
edit but srsly dont think about the dongs, its not worth it
You can also be such a dong sometimes baller :S
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On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
Am I being unreasonable? I really don’t want to feel this way at all but I just can’t help it. Fuck my Asian upbringing, I wish I could be some white guy who didn’t give a flying fuck. Fuck Fuck Fuck.
Hahahahaha, what the fuck is this about?
As to your situation, I would say that you need to really think about and figure out whether or not you can deal with it. If you're just in your relationship for some fun, and you're not concerned about the short term, I guess it wouldn't matter, but if you're interested in a relationship that may have some staying power, you would need to get over this. I think you have a legitimate reason to be bothered, I would be too if I met my girlfriends ex, or just some guys I knew she had made out with and they were acting smug as shit.
On the other hand, it's entirely possible this girl of yours was easy before, or kind of slutty, but has changed her ways or considers you a special guy and she has every intention of being monogamous. Ask yourself this, if you knew for a fact that your girlfriend was done being shallow and easy, and that she would most definitely be faithful to you, would this still bother you? What I mean is: Is the problem that you think she might cheat on you, or that you just hate her past so much?
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If she is faithful towards you and isn't making out with other guys you have absolutely no right to judge her on her behaviour before she met you.
There are a couple reasons why she could have behaved the way she did.
1) She likes to make out / have sex for plesure. Pure and simple.
2) She could have been looking for intimecy / warmth / love and kissing / having sex was the only way she knew how to get this.
But no matter what the reason was if she changed her behaviour after meeting you, you'll have to accept it or separate if it's bothering you to much to handle. If it's the first reason I mentioned then there is nothing to talk about imo. If it's the second reason then she will talk about it with you when she's ready.
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VERY few guys turn down sex if it's offered to them. If they look good, are single and the woman is into it, it's a done deal. Check some of the replies in this topic: http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=108168 Sex is offered to women by a lot of pretty boys/rakes/thugs and all she has to do is say yes and it's a one night stand right there. If that's what she wants.
That aside, you seem to be beating yourself up over the situation a lot. Don't do that. You're angry for just reasons. Your girlfriend is not serious about your relationship because she's making out with other guys while you two have a relationship. She's an adult and it's her right to live freely as she wants as long as she doesn't hurt anyone, but you shouldn't put up with it. Unless you have girls on the side as well.
You can choose whether you want to be with her anymore or not. It sounds like you're suffering a lot from this relationship. Try to get involved in some other activities to get your mind off it. Go to the movies, spend time with your friends (and don't talk too much about your g/f, try to have some fun), take an evening course outside of college, stay at the library really late, take a walk to some interesting spot in your town, meet some new people/new girls at the bar. There's a life outside this relationship, you just don't see it right now. Also, your girl has a rough history. Most people know a person like that. You need to help her, but at the same time keep it in check so you don't fuck up the rest of your life. That part you can control. She has parents/friends/social workers who can help as well.
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I've been in the same situation as you.
Basically I think there is no way out of this one except for you to accept it, if you can't, maybe its not the girl you need.
If you talk to her about it (too much), she will feel uncomfortable and ask herself why do you bother so much.
Best thing is to keep going the way you are and you will know if you love her. If you keep feeling this way, I don't see a solution but breakup 
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ALLEYCAT BLUES50123 Posts
On October 29 2010 23:17 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:14 baller wrote:
yah man u have a beautiful gf, the next time u kiss her just don't think about all the other dudes dongs shes put in her mouth. just don't think about all the dongs. ignore the other dudes dongs, don't think about the dongs of the other guys.
edit but srsly dont think about the dongs, its not worth it You can also be such a dong sometimes baller :S
Yeah but baller ur a baller.
if u doubt urself then u need to be the alpha-male in ur relationship.be like my bro incontrol.shes gunna forget about macking on those nubs cause ur the alpha-male.
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?topic_id=154887
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On October 29 2010 23:21 Emon_ wrote:VERY few guys turn down sex if it's offered to them. If they look good, are single and the woman is into it, it's a done deal. Check some of the replies in this topic: http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=108168Now, a woman functions the same. Sex is offered by a lot of pretty boys/rakes/thugs and all she has to do is say yes and it's a one night stand right there.
No. Women don't work like that at all. Men work just like a light switch. On/Off. Women are more akin to a volume knob, where you gradually "increase the volume" until she's ready to go. Very few women are promiscuous enough to sleep with the first person to offer them dick.
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ALLEYCAT BLUES50123 Posts
On October 29 2010 23:25 SolHeiM wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:21 Emon_ wrote:VERY few guys turn down sex if it's offered to them. If they look good, are single and the woman is into it, it's a done deal. Check some of the replies in this topic: http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=108168Now, a woman functions the same. Sex is offered by a lot of pretty boys/rakes/thugs and all she has to do is say yes and it's a one night stand right there. No. Women don't work like that at all. Men work just like a light switch. On/Off. Women are more akin to a volume knob, where you gradually "increase the volume" until she's ready to go. Very few women are promiscuous enough to sleep with the first person to offer them dick.
and these women are commonly known as whores and sluts.
which I believe is not the kind of girl ArbAttack is dating right now.
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On October 29 2010 23:27 BLinD-RawR wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:25 SolHeiM wrote:On October 29 2010 23:21 Emon_ wrote:VERY few guys turn down sex if it's offered to them. If they look good, are single and the woman is into it, it's a done deal. Check some of the replies in this topic: http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=108168Now, a woman functions the same. Sex is offered by a lot of pretty boys/rakes/thugs and all she has to do is say yes and it's a one night stand right there. No. Women don't work like that at all. Men work just like a light switch. On/Off. Women are more akin to a volume knob, where you gradually "increase the volume" until she's ready to go. Very few women are promiscuous enough to sleep with the first person to offer them dick. and these women are commonly known as whores and sluts.
Not that there's anything wrong with that. *wink wink* :D Just wear a rubber. Too bad those women are rare. :/
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its pointless to ask yourself why she was with her ex and had sex with him if he was a douche who used her. She obviously liked him back then, things changed and they are no longer together. She doesn't like him now so now so shes only going to mention the bad things about him.
You never mentioned if she had sex with any of these random guys just that she made out with them. I understand how it can bother you, but I think the real reason it bothers you is because you don't do the same thing. You don't make out with random hot girls you meet.
I went through something similar with my girlfriend and everytime i thought about her past I would just think about something different, and reassure myself that im just jealous because if i was in her shoes I would have done the same thing, and it was all before she even knew me.
Eventually it won't bother you as much anymore when you realize she loves you, as long as your sure she wouldn't be doing this stuff behind your back of course
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On October 29 2010 23:25 SolHeiM wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:21 Emon_ wrote:VERY few guys turn down sex if it's offered to them. If they look good, are single and the woman is into it, it's a done deal. Check some of the replies in this topic: http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/viewmessage.php?topic_id=108168Now, a woman functions the same. Sex is offered by a lot of pretty boys/rakes/thugs and all she has to do is say yes and it's a one night stand right there. No. Women don't work like that at all. Men work just like a light switch. On/Off. Women are more akin to a volume knob, where you gradually "increase the volume" until she's ready to go. Very few women are promiscuous enough to sleep with the first person to offer them dick.
Didn't say first. Just said a lot. If at a night out ten guys approach, she can have her pick. But it's going to happen if she wants it to.
ArbAttacks g/f is no saint if she's out partying and making out with random guys. Who's to say she isn't having sex with other guys? For example, the walk to a car and some lovin' in the moonlight is a very real possibility.
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1) Can u see yourself being with her for the rest of your life? If yes, be honest with her about how you feel and see if she is honest back and try to get over it. If no, go to 2.
2) Think you can get over it? If yes, don't think long-term and enjoy the relationship for now. If no, go to 3.
3) End the relationship. It's for the better
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I don't know why more people are bothered with how she's making out with random dudes. If some random nigga were staring at my girl with the smuggiest look on his face and my girlfriend wouldn't tell me why - I could so easily say fuck that shit.
Of course, I'm not advising you do that but seriously... if you're really showering her with all that attention and care, why is it okay for her to second rate you? If it's really okay for her to do all that shit then maybe you really do love her or maybe you're absolutely retarded or maybe loving someone that much makes you that way. Stupidity and love blend really well together. CHICKEN & RICE~
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Calgary25980 Posts
You have massive confidence issues. You should probably fix them.
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On October 29 2010 23:29 Emon_ wrote:ArbAttacks g/f is no saint if she's out partying and making out with random guys. Who's to say she isn't having sex with other guys? For example, the walk to a car and some lovin' in the moonlight is a very real possibility.
If she's still doing that, then it's a bit dodgy. If it's a thing of the past, no worries.
But if you think that any girl will cheat if given the opportunity you are sadly mistaken.
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Sex is fantastic, and as long as she's been safe... let it go. It doesn't affect you.
What *is* affecting your relationship though is your attitude towards it. She can feel your disapproval, trust me. She knows exactly how you feel about her past, and it's making her feel ashamed, which is probably not how she usually views herself. She obviously cares a lot for you, and to feel judged by someone she loves hurts a lot.
If you want to keep her, let it go.
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You're judging her way too harshly. She had sex with one bf and made out with hot guys at clubs. Are you telling me you wouldn't have made out with hot chicks at bars if you had the balls to? It's innocent, fun and utterly meaningless. Shallow is what jealous, repressed types call it who want to feel superior despite their hang-ups. Your girlfriend sounds awesome and her past is really pretty tame. You're the one with the issues.
Every girl has a past, as will you once you grow up. If she slept with a bad guy it was probably because she had self-esteem issues (or he's not as bad as you think). You're telling me this guy dated her for 5 months "just for sex"...sounds like one patient dude. I slept with my current girlfriend on the second date and we've now been together a year and going strong (she also has a shocking history of sex with boyfriends!). Just stop over-thinking it, you love the girl and she has a cleaner than average past.
oh and sex for the first time is not a big deal. It's like logging on for your first game of BW and completely sucking balls. Needs practice just like anything else and waiting until marriage to break out of D- is just wasteful.
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On October 29 2010 23:18 Salv wrote:
What I mean is: Is the problem that you think she might cheat on you, or that you just hate her past so much?
Not worried about cheating, we both made it clear that the relationship ends as soon as one of us cheats and she loves me enough not to do so.
On October 29 2010 23:29 Pengu1n wrote:
You never mentioned if she had sex with any of these random guys just that she made out with them. I understand how it can bother you, but I think the real reason it bothers you is because you don't do the same thing. You don't make out with random hot girls you meet.
Nope I'm sure she was just making out with them, I know her (and her friends) well enough to know that. If she did, I wouldn't be dating her at all.
On October 29 2010 23:35 Chill wrote:
You have massive confidence issues. You should probably fix them.
Mind telling me why? I know you're always super harsh on these blogs Chill because you want to feel as if you're a world-class psychologist diagnosing the problems of TLers in sharp one liners, but you're not always right. You always think you're right so if you can determine the confidence level of someone over 1 blog (or a few, I know you have nothing better to do but check the posting history of anonymous internet posters) then by all means, go and become a real fucking psychologist.
FYI, I'm a pretty good looking guy with an enjoyable social circle, and female acquaintances that I can call up to date anytime I want. In fact, I still have 2 so-called "backups", not bad looking ones either. Not that any of this carries any weight on a forum; I'm not trying to defend myself against your statement (I couldn't care less about what you say when you just make a completely negative and noncontributing statement like that), I came here for advice on a real problem so all I'm saying to you is that, you're wrong, either contribute or refrain (I'd use more appropriate/harsher expressions but you are a mod) from posting in these blogs.
Thanks.
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You prove him right just by responding as lengthily as you did...
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You're insecure. If you can't move past your insecurities then move past the girl. As long as she is faithful to you then I don't see how it matters what she did in the past.
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I understand your feelings and I would hate it if my gf hade a lot of boys. I read in your post that she is a liar. If she really lies a lot then just break up and find yourself a honest and nice girl. A girl that makes out with random guys is not the girl I want as a girlfriend. For me it is a slut, sorry.
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On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Now, I TRY SO HARD, I honest do, to just let it go. I try so hard to forget, or least not think about it, but I just can’t do it. I get irritated and depressed whenever her past crosses my mind, which unfortunately has become quite often. I really want to be a big person here, but I guess I’m just not one. All the mystery and making out with dozens of guys aside, I just can’t comprehend what she was thinking with her ex – why did she let a guy, who obviously didn’t love her and treated her like shit, fuck her especially for the first time (that ended in her ex dumping her a week later)? Now that I think about it, we had oral sex 2 weeks into our relationship, then sex 2 weeks after that. That was really fast for me, but she seemed completely okay and open with it. Why am I complaining about my hot GF that puts out? Well, combined with her past history this really makes me wonder about her integrity and fidelity as a person.
Despite all the media desensitization towards sex I have to say, at least in my social/cultural group, SEX IS A BIG DEAL, especially for the first time.
This girl loves me a lot, and I love her back. I’ve been otherwise extremely happy with her and I ‘m sure the same is true for her as well. I know that what matters is her present with me not the past, which is nothing short of the utmost loyalty, care, dependency and love towards me; I should just fucking be happy. But her past is like a fucking insect in the back of my skull, it’s a mental thing that gnaws at my brain whenever I think about it and I just wish I CAN STOP FEELING THIS WAY.
Holy crap I can't believe how harsh almost everyone in this thread has been on the OP. He said he knows he has to let it go, he wants to let it go, but he's having a tough time getting over it.
Here's the thing -- sex does matter in a relationship. People totally care about who slept with who, and how many times. These things do matter, someone's sex history is a very sensitive and personal topic -- why? Because it's baggage you're bringing to the relationship.
Everyone has baggage -- emotional, sexual, self-esteem, childhood abuse, religious experience, etc. You can't simply dismiss these things, and any meaningfully intimate relationship has to deal with the real baggage, the real issues in life. And like I said, everyone has baggage -- everyone is insecure about something, if they're real enough to admit it.
OP, I just wanna say that what you're feeling is totally normal. In fact, it's my opinion that what you're feeling is a result of your relationship progressing somewhat too quickly. Talking about such intimate topics, and any real deep issues really, require a lot of trust and commitment in the relationship -- which can only be cultivated by time. Otherwise, it's not safe for her to share such things, and you may not be in a position where you truly love her enough to stay with her and fully and unconditionally support her through it.
OP, let me just repeat what I've said -- what you're feeling is normal. Everyone has baggage, and it's difficult for us to deal with it, especially if it's brought up too early in a relationship.
My advice is right now, I think you should continue talking it out with your close guy friends, and just get it off your chest ... wait a couple of days to clear your head, you don't want to say anything stupid on the spur of the moment. Then decide for yourself how you want the relationship to proceed. (Personsally, I'm rooting for you to slow down, take the time to know her, and try to push off having a serious conversation about the sex thing as long as possible until the relationship has deepened enough where both of you feel safe enough to talk about it)
Hope this helps.
Edit: took out the aggressive/attacking sentences out of my post...
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On October 29 2010 23:53 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +
You never mentioned if she had sex with any of these random guys just that she made out with them. I understand how it can bother you, but I think the real reason it bothers you is because you don't do the same thing. You don't make out with random hot girls you meet.
Nope I'm sure she was just making out with them, I know her (and her friends) well enough to know that. If she did, I wouldn't be dating her at all.
Ohhh... ok sorry but I do have to agree that you're a bit too sensitive/insecure about the issue.
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On October 29 2010 23:53 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:18 Salv wrote:
What I mean is: Is the problem that you think she might cheat on you, or that you just hate her past so much?
Not worried about cheating, we both made it clear that the relationship ends as soon as one of us cheats and she loves me enough not to do so. Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:29 Pengu1n wrote:
You never mentioned if she had sex with any of these random guys just that she made out with them. I understand how it can bother you, but I think the real reason it bothers you is because you don't do the same thing. You don't make out with random hot girls you meet.
Nope I'm sure she was just making out with them, I know her (and her friends) well enough to know that. If she did, I wouldn't be dating her at all. Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:35 Chill wrote:
You have massive confidence issues. You should probably fix them. Mind telling me why? I know you're always super harsh on these blogs Chill because you want to feel as if you're a world-class psychologist diagnosing the problems of TLers in sharp one liners, but you're not always right. You always think you're right so if you can determine the confidence level of someone over 1 blog (or a few, I know you have nothing better to do but check the posting history of anonymous internet posters) then by all means, go and become a real fucking psychologist. FYI, I'm a pretty good looking guy with an enjoyable social circle, and female acquaintances that I can call up to date anytime I want. In fact, I still have 2 so-called "backups", not bad looking ones either. Not that any of this carries any weight on a forum; I'm not trying to defend myself against your statement (I couldn't care less about what you say when you just make a completely negative and noncontributing statement like that), I came here for advice on a real problem so all I'm saying to you is that, you're wrong, either contribute or refrain (I'd use more appropriate/harsher expressions but you are a mod) from posting in these blogs. Thanks.
whoa man, chill out. hes just telling you that you seem really unconfident (which is true). like, he says 1 line about your confidence and you freak out, its not a big deal. i mean, its excellent that you think you're good looking, and neat that you have "backups" (altho im not sure why a secure person would need backups) but thats no reason to get so aggressive vs someone who came in here to help you. look, none of us here really know why your gf needs to hook up with so many guys, it could be an issue from her past or it could just be part of her personality. it's up to you to see if you're man enough to deal with it, and from the looks of your posting, im not sure.
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On October 30 2010 00:05 Happy.fairytail wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Now, I TRY SO HARD, I honest do, to just let it go. I try so hard to forget, or least not think about it, but I just can’t do it. I get irritated and depressed whenever her past crosses my mind, which unfortunately has become quite often. I really want to be a big person here, but I guess I’m just not one. All the mystery and making out with dozens of guys aside, I just can’t comprehend what she was thinking with her ex – why did she let a guy, who obviously didn’t love her and treated her like shit, fuck her especially for the first time (that ended in her ex dumping her a week later)? Now that I think about it, we had oral sex 2 weeks into our relationship, then sex 2 weeks after that. That was really fast for me, but she seemed completely okay and open with it. Why am I complaining about my hot GF that puts out? Well, combined with her past history this really makes me wonder about her integrity and fidelity as a person.
Despite all the media desensitization towards sex I have to say, at least in my social/cultural group, SEX IS A BIG DEAL, especially for the first time.
This girl loves me a lot, and I love her back. I’ve been otherwise extremely happy with her and I ‘m sure the same is true for her as well. I know that what matters is her present with me not the past, which is nothing short of the utmost loyalty, care, dependency and love towards me; I should just fucking be happy. But her past is like a fucking insect in the back of my skull, it’s a mental thing that gnaws at my brain whenever I think about it and I just wish I CAN STOP FEELING THIS WAY.
Holy crap I can't believe how harsh almost everyone in this thread has been on the OP. Ya'll are pretending like sex doesn't matter? Get real, people totally care about who slept with who, and how many times. I don't know one person who has the same cavalier attitude that 90% of posters in this thread claim. These things do matter, someone's sex history is a very sensitive and personal topic -- why? Because it's baggage you're bringing to the relationship. Everyone has baggage -- emotional, sexual, self-esteem, childhood abuse, religious experience, etc. You can't simply dismiss these things, and I really question whether 90% of the posters in this thread have ever had a meaningfully intimate relationship that has had to deal with the real baggage, the real issues in life. And like I said, everyone has baggage -- everyone is insecure about something, if they're real enough to admit it. OP, I just wanna say that what you're feeling is totally normal. In fact, it's my opinion that what you're feeling is a result of your relationship progressing somewhat too quickly. Talking about such intimate topics, and any real deep issues really, require a lot of trust and commitment in the relationship -- which can only be cultivated by time. Otherwise, it's not safe for her to share such things, and you may not be in a position where you truly love her enough to stay with her and fully and unconditionally support her through it. OP, let me just repeat what I've said -- what you're feeling is normal. Everyone has baggage, and it's difficult for us to deal with it, especially if it's brought up too early in a relationship. My advice is right now, I think you should continue talking it out with your close guy friends, and just get it off your chest ... wait a couple of days to clear your head, you don't want to say anything stupid on the spur of the moment. Then decide for yourself how you want the relationship to proceed. (Personsally, I'm rooting for you to slow down, take the time to know her, and try to push off having a serious conversation about the sex thing as long as possible until the relationship has deepened enough where both of you feel safe enough to talk about it) Hope this helps.
good post. it takes a lot of confidence to understand and proclaim that everyone else in here is wrong. everyone does have baggage, and if 90% of the posters here never had a relationship with baggage, then we can conclude that 90% of the people here never had a relationship at all, which I guess is pretty standard for gamers lol. they're all just theorycrafting about girls, which is why their don't understand your and the OPs viewpoint (the one and only correct view point)
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On October 30 2010 00:15 JackMcCoy wrote:+ Show Spoiler +On October 30 2010 00:05 Happy.fairytail wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Now, I TRY SO HARD, I honest do, to just let it go. I try so hard to forget, or least not think about it, but I just can’t do it. I get irritated and depressed whenever her past crosses my mind, which unfortunately has become quite often. I really want to be a big person here, but I guess I’m just not one. All the mystery and making out with dozens of guys aside, I just can’t comprehend what she was thinking with her ex – why did she let a guy, who obviously didn’t love her and treated her like shit, fuck her especially for the first time (that ended in her ex dumping her a week later)? Now that I think about it, we had oral sex 2 weeks into our relationship, then sex 2 weeks after that. That was really fast for me, but she seemed completely okay and open with it. Why am I complaining about my hot GF that puts out? Well, combined with her past history this really makes me wonder about her integrity and fidelity as a person.
Despite all the media desensitization towards sex I have to say, at least in my social/cultural group, SEX IS A BIG DEAL, especially for the first time.
This girl loves me a lot, and I love her back. I’ve been otherwise extremely happy with her and I ‘m sure the same is true for her as well. I know that what matters is her present with me not the past, which is nothing short of the utmost loyalty, care, dependency and love towards me; I should just fucking be happy. But her past is like a fucking insect in the back of my skull, it’s a mental thing that gnaws at my brain whenever I think about it and I just wish I CAN STOP FEELING THIS WAY.
Holy crap I can't believe how harsh almost everyone in this thread has been on the OP. Ya'll are pretending like sex doesn't matter? Get real, people totally care about who slept with who, and how many times. I don't know one person who has the same cavalier attitude that 90% of posters in this thread claim. These things do matter, someone's sex history is a very sensitive and personal topic -- why? Because it's baggage you're bringing to the relationship. Everyone has baggage -- emotional, sexual, self-esteem, childhood abuse, religious experience, etc. You can't simply dismiss these things, and I really question whether 90% of the posters in this thread have ever had a meaningfully intimate relationship that has had to deal with the real baggage, the real issues in life. And like I said, everyone has baggage -- everyone is insecure about something, if they're real enough to admit it. OP, I just wanna say that what you're feeling is totally normal. In fact, it's my opinion that what you're feeling is a result of your relationship progressing somewhat too quickly. Talking about such intimate topics, and any real deep issues really, require a lot of trust and commitment in the relationship -- which can only be cultivated by time. Otherwise, it's not safe for her to share such things, and you may not be in a position where you truly love her enough to stay with her and fully and unconditionally support her through it. OP, let me just repeat what I've said -- what you're feeling is normal. Everyone has baggage, and it's difficult for us to deal with it, especially if it's brought up too early in a relationship. My advice is right now, I think you should continue talking it out with your close guy friends, and just get it off your chest ... wait a couple of days to clear your head, you don't want to say anything stupid on the spur of the moment. Then decide for yourself how you want the relationship to proceed. (Personsally, I'm rooting for you to slow down, take the time to know her, and try to push off having a serious conversation about the sex thing as long as possible until the relationship has deepened enough where both of you feel safe enough to talk about it) Hope this helps. good post. it takes a lot of confidence to understand and proclaim that everyone else in here is wrong. everyone does have baggage, and if 90% of the posters here never had a relationship with baggage, then we can conclude that 90% of the people here never had a relationship at all, which I guess is pretty standard for gamers lol. they're all just theorycrafting about girls, which is why their don't understand your and the OPs viewpoint (the one and only correct view point)
You're a troll, but I still see the merit of what you're saying. You're right, I was too harsh as well ... I was just flabbergasted at how many people are attacking the OP in this thread. Apologies for being presumptuous like that.
Edit: I've edited and toned down my previous post
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On October 30 2010 00:05 Happy.fairytail wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Now, I TRY SO HARD, I honest do, to just let it go. I try so hard to forget, or least not think about it, but I just can’t do it. I get irritated and depressed whenever her past crosses my mind, which unfortunately has become quite often. I really want to be a big person here, but I guess I’m just not one. All the mystery and making out with dozens of guys aside, I just can’t comprehend what she was thinking with her ex – why did she let a guy, who obviously didn’t love her and treated her like shit, fuck her especially for the first time (that ended in her ex dumping her a week later)? Now that I think about it, we had oral sex 2 weeks into our relationship, then sex 2 weeks after that. That was really fast for me, but she seemed completely okay and open with it. Why am I complaining about my hot GF that puts out? Well, combined with her past history this really makes me wonder about her integrity and fidelity as a person.
Despite all the media desensitization towards sex I have to say, at least in my social/cultural group, SEX IS A BIG DEAL, especially for the first time.
This girl loves me a lot, and I love her back. I’ve been otherwise extremely happy with her and I ‘m sure the same is true for her as well. I know that what matters is her present with me not the past, which is nothing short of the utmost loyalty, care, dependency and love towards me; I should just fucking be happy. But her past is like a fucking insect in the back of my skull, it’s a mental thing that gnaws at my brain whenever I think about it and I just wish I CAN STOP FEELING THIS WAY.
Holy crap I can't believe how harsh almost everyone in this thread has been on the OP. He said he knows he has to let it go, he wants to let it go, but he's having a tough time getting over it. Also, most of ya'll are pretending like sex doesn't matter? Get real, people totally care about who slept with who, and how many times. I don't know one person who has the same cavalier attitude that 90% of posters in this thread claim. These things do matter, someone's sex history is a very sensitive and personal topic -- why? Because it's baggage you're bringing to the relationship. Everyone has baggage -- emotional, sexual, self-esteem, childhood abuse, religious experience, etc. You can't simply dismiss these things, and I really question whether 90% of the posters in this thread have ever had a meaningfully intimate relationship that has had to deal with the real baggage, the real issues in life. And like I said, everyone has baggage -- everyone is insecure about something, if they're real enough to admit it. OP, I just wanna say that what you're feeling is totally normal. In fact, it's my opinion that what you're feeling is a result of your relationship progressing somewhat too quickly. Talking about such intimate topics, and any real deep issues really, require a lot of trust and commitment in the relationship -- which can only be cultivated by time. Otherwise, it's not safe for her to share such things, and you may not be in a position where you truly love her enough to stay with her and fully and unconditionally support her through it. OP, let me just repeat what I've said -- what you're feeling is normal. Everyone has baggage, and it's difficult for us to deal with it, especially if it's brought up too early in a relationship. My advice is right now, I think you should continue talking it out with your close guy friends, and just get it off your chest ... wait a couple of days to clear your head, you don't want to say anything stupid on the spur of the moment. Then decide for yourself how you want the relationship to proceed. (Personsally, I'm rooting for you to slow down, take the time to know her, and try to push off having a serious conversation about the sex thing as long as possible until the relationship has deepened enough where both of you feel safe enough to talk about it) Hope this helps.
Thanks for the input, nice to hear the other side of the spectrum.
On October 30 2010 00:10 JackMcCoy wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:53 ArbAttack wrote:On October 29 2010 23:18 Salv wrote:
What I mean is: Is the problem that you think she might cheat on you, or that you just hate her past so much?
Not worried about cheating, we both made it clear that the relationship ends as soon as one of us cheats and she loves me enough not to do so. On October 29 2010 23:29 Pengu1n wrote:
You never mentioned if she had sex with any of these random guys just that she made out with them. I understand how it can bother you, but I think the real reason it bothers you is because you don't do the same thing. You don't make out with random hot girls you meet.
Nope I'm sure she was just making out with them, I know her (and her friends) well enough to know that. If she did, I wouldn't be dating her at all. On October 29 2010 23:35 Chill wrote:
You have massive confidence issues. You should probably fix them. Mind telling me why? I know you're always super harsh on these blogs Chill because you want to feel as if you're a world-class psychologist diagnosing the problems of TLers in sharp one liners, but you're not always right. You always think you're right so if you can determine the confidence level of someone over 1 blog (or a few, I know you have nothing better to do but check the posting history of anonymous internet posters) then by all means, go and become a real fucking psychologist. FYI, I'm a pretty good looking guy with an enjoyable social circle, and female acquaintances that I can call up to date anytime I want. In fact, I still have 2 so-called "backups", not bad looking ones either. Not that any of this carries any weight on a forum; I'm not trying to defend myself against your statement (I couldn't care less about what you say when you just make a completely negative and noncontributing statement like that), I came here for advice on a real problem so all I'm saying to you is that, you're wrong, either contribute or refrain (I'd use more appropriate/harsher expressions but you are a mod) from posting in these blogs. Thanks. whoa man, chill out. hes just telling you that you seem really unconfident (which is true). like, he says 1 line about your confidence and you freak out, its not a big deal. i mean, its excellent that you think you're good looking, and neat that you have "backups" (altho im not sure why a secure person would need backups) but thats no reason to get so aggressive vs someone who came in here to help you. look, none of us here really know why your gf needs to hook up with so many guys, it could be an issue from her past or it could just be part of her personality. it's up to you to see if you're man enough to deal with it, and from the looks of your posting, im not sure.
Nope, if you made a thread about failing an exam, and someone came in just to say wow you're retarded, that's not helping at all.
I reacted the way I did because I just hate trolls.
And yes, I already said maybe I'm just not a big person, that was the whole point of my OP. Thanks for posting regardless.
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making out? really? =/
On the sex issue: How many times did it happen? What were her reasons?
If you say it was just once, then she probably learned from her mistakes.
Now I do understand the coming from a conservative society thing, but here are your choices.
1) Get Over it
2) Let it trouble you for the rest of your relationship (however long it lasts)
3) Don't have any of that shit because well fuck in your view the bitch is despicable and shallow; why would you want to be with anyone like that in the first place?
Which one do you prefer?
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Let it go. My GF has a waaaaay more fucked up past that bothered me way more I'd say more but I need my account name to change first ><. You learn to look past it and just say she's worth it (unless she isn't worth it and you never look past it). I'm pretty damn conservative myself like you ( bothered by her past "experiences") and you'll get over it.
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Edit: sorry if i'm not making much sense. Haven't slept for a day
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On October 29 2010 23:53 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:35 Chill wrote:
You have massive confidence issues. You should probably fix them. Mind telling me why? I know you're always super harsh on these blogs Chill because you want to feel as if you're a world-class psychologist diagnosing the problems of TLers in sharp one liners, but you're not always right. You always think you're right so if you can determine the confidence level of someone over 1 blog (or a few, I know you have nothing better to do but check the posting history of anonymous internet posters) then by all means, go and become a real fucking psychologist.
it is prty obvious, Chill is the korean guy she made out with
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Wow, how did you do it? Invent that time machine i mean! Somehow you teleported everyone in this thread back fifty years in time, cool!
Edit: wow, the way you responded to Chill! You sure told us all, you have no reason to be nothing but very confident of the confidence with which you live your life! I'm convinced!
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You're in a relationship with the girl, not her past. Who cares what she may have done, if she isn't doing it anymore and you are happy with her that is all that matters.
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The relationship wont last if you can't trust her. either let it go or break it off. If you love her you'll do the first, if it gets to you that much, then you'll do the second.
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On October 29 2010 23:53 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:35 Chill wrote:
You have massive confidence issues. You should probably fix them. Mind telling me why? I know you're always super harsh on these blogs Chill because you want to feel as if you're a world-class psychologist diagnosing the problems of TLers in sharp one liners, but you're not always right. You always think you're right so if you can determine the confidence level of someone over 1 blog (or a few, I know you have nothing better to do but check the posting history of anonymous internet posters) then by all means, go and become a real fucking psychologist. FYI, I'm a pretty good looking guy with an enjoyable social circle, and female acquaintances that I can call up to date anytime I want. In fact, I still have 2 so-called "backups", not bad looking ones either. Not that any of this carries any weight on a forum; I'm not trying to defend myself against your statement (I couldn't care less about what you say when you just make a completely negative and noncontributing statement like that), I came here for advice on a real problem so all I'm saying to you is that, you're wrong, either contribute or refrain (I'd use more appropriate/harsher expressions but you are a mod) from posting in these blogs. Thanks.
loooooooool
bout time for some pics, don't ya think?? the public court demands evidence to back your claims
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On October 30 2010 00:42 baller wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 23:53 ArbAttack wrote:On October 29 2010 23:35 Chill wrote:
You have massive confidence issues. You should probably fix them. Mind telling me why? I know you're always super harsh on these blogs Chill because you want to feel as if you're a world-class psychologist diagnosing the problems of TLers in sharp one liners, but you're not always right. You always think you're right so if you can determine the confidence level of someone over 1 blog (or a few, I know you have nothing better to do but check the posting history of anonymous internet posters) then by all means, go and become a real fucking psychologist. it is prty obvious, Chill is the korean guy she made out with
No, I'm the short ugly guy that fucked her and left his head spinning.
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It's all been said before, but the more confirmation you get from multiple sources the better. You need to let it go, and you need to realize where her permiscuity originates from. It's probably that boyfriend who used her for sex, and after that she's probably felt extremely insecure especially if that was her first boyfriend. So you're thinking about this completely wrong. Instead of seeing what you can do to make yourself feel better, think of what you can do to make her more secure, so that you know she'll change for the better. Be nice to her, show her the beauty of love, and maintain a healthy communicative relationship with her and eventually, these feelings you have will go away. It's normal for someone who hasn't been in many relationships to feel resentment about dating someone who has trust me, most guys who've been in that situation feel the same. Ultimately you have two choices. Dump her, or work your ass off on the relationship. However, from personal experience, when you dump a girl who's past you hate, you immediately feel resentment for yourself and no longer care about her past or other girls pasts. But I wouldn't suggest it D:
Edit: It'd be cool if someother mod would warn/temp-ban chill for being such a douche :3
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On October 30 2010 00:54 ThE.SparkZ wrote:
Edit: It'd be cool if someother mod would warn/temp-ban chill for being such a douche :3
Comment 1 was genuine and justified.
Comment 2 in response to his ridiculous response.
No problems here. If you problems with moderation, PM a moderator directly.
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On October 30 2010 00:58 Chill wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 00:54 ThE.SparkZ wrote:
Edit: It'd be cool if someother mod would warn/temp-ban chill for being such a douche :3 Comment 1 was genuine and justified. Comment 2 in response to his ridiculous response. No problems here. If you problems with moderation, PM a moderator directly.
Lol @ how fast he f5's to check if anyone was offended by his posts
User was temp banned for this post.
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After me an my ex broke up she fucked 10 guys in 7 months and lapped # of people we each fucked, She was my 5th, I was her first and now she at 10. It was pretty painful finding that out but shit happens. I fucked her the most and the longest and I guess thats what it really comes down to. If I do the math, in my 2 years of fucking her I was the equiviliant of 20 guys on the street, thats pretty baller right? Basically hot girls get lots of sex and its the price you pay for fucking one. Once its over she gonna be loose and everyone will try to hit it.
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dont try to figure out women, you will spend the rest of your life trying to do that.
Bitches be crazy
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On October 30 2010 00:58 Chill wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 00:54 ThE.SparkZ wrote:
Edit: It'd be cool if someother mod would warn/temp-ban chill for being such a douche :3 Comment 1 was genuine and justified. Comment 2 in response to his ridiculous response. No problems here. If you problems with moderation, PM a moderator directly.
Nice to see you abuse your moderator position as always.
I'm going to ban you from my blogs, because you (often) contribute nothing but elitist smart-ass remarks, then degenerate into flat-out douchebaggery when someone disagrees with your snobby bullshit. If you have a problem with someone's response, fucking retort and respond like a human being instead of posting this shit:
On October 30 2010 00:50 Chill wrote:
No, I'm the short ugly guy that fucked her and left his head spinning.
If you weren't a mod you would have been banned right away. I hope sincerely you aren't as big of an asshole in real life as you are on TL. You sir, have problems of your own when someone puts you in your place and you react like an angry nerd (What I said about having nothing better to do than checking the posting history of bloggers, then personally attacking them. Whether you get a kick out of it is relevant; it's a sad hobby nonetheless).
I apologize for snapping a huge nerve of yours, have a nice day and goodbye.
Cheers.
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wait, you snapped his nerve???
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Swype owns my spelling. I also don't mean to be harsh but this is a simple fact of life. Get used to it.On October 30 2010 00:05 Happy.fairytail wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
On one hand, I feel so sorry for my GF because I love her and I’ve been showering her with attention and care, but on the other hand, I’ve also developed feelings of contempt and anger towards her which I cannot communicate. Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Now, I TRY SO HARD, I honest do, to just let it go. I try so hard to forget, or least not think about it, but I just can’t do it. I get irritated and depressed whenever her past crosses my mind, which unfortunately has become quite often. I really want to be a big person here, but I guess I’m just not one. All the mystery and making out with dozens of guys aside, I just can’t comprehend what she was thinking with her ex – why did she let a guy, who obviously didn’t love her and treated her like shit, fuck her especially for the first time (that ended in her ex dumping her a week later)? Now that I think about it, we had oral sex 2 weeks into our relationship, then sex 2 weeks after that. That was really fast for me, but she seemed completely okay and open with it. Why am I complaining about my hot GF that puts out? Well, combined with her past history this really makes me wonder about her integrity and fidelity as a person.
Despite all the media desensitization towards sex I have to say, at least in my social/cultural group, SEX IS A BIG DEAL, especially for the first time.
This girl loves me a lot, and I love her back. I’ve been otherwise extremely happy with her and I ‘m sure the same is true for her as well. I know that what matters is her present with me not the past, which is nothing short of the utmost loyalty, care, dependency and love towards me; I should just fucking be happy. But her past is like a fucking insect in the back of my skull, it’s a mental thing that gnaws at my brain whenever I think about it and I just wish I CAN STOP FEELING THIS WAY.
Holy crap I can't believe how harsh almost everyone in this thread has been on the OP. He said he knows he has to let it go, he wants to let it go, but he's having a tough time getting over it. Here's the thing -- sex does matter in a relationship. People totally care about who slept with who, and how many times. These things do matter, someone's sex history is a very sensitive and personal topic -- why? Because it's baggage you're bringing to the relationship. Everyone has baggage -- emotional, sexual, self-esteem, childhood abuse, religious experience, etc. You can't simply dismiss these things, and any meaningfully intimate relationship has to deal with the real baggage, the real issues in life. And like I said, everyone has baggage -- everyone is insecure about something, if they're real enough to admit it. OP, I just wanna say that what you're feeling is totally normal. In fact, it's my opinion that what you're feeling is a result of your relationship progressing somewhat too quickly. Talking about such intimate topics, and any real deep issues really, require a lot of trust and commitment in the relationship -- which can only be cultivated by time. Otherwise, it's not safe for her to share such things, and you may not be in a position where you truly love her enough to stay with her and fully and unconditionally support her through it. OP, let me just repeat what I've said -- what you're feeling is normal. Everyone has baggage, and it's difficult for us to deal with it, especially if it's brought up too early in a relationship. My advice is right now, I think you should continue talking it out with your close guy friends, and just get it off your chest ... wait a couple of days to clear your head, you don't want to say anything stupid on the spur of the moment. Then decide for yourself how you want the relationship to proceed. (Personsally, I'm rooting for you to slow down, take the time to know her, and try to push off having a serious conversation about the sex thing as long as possible until the relationship has deepened enough where both of you feel safe enough to talk about it) Hope this helps. Edit: took out the aggressive/attacking sentences out of my post...
Want to know why people ate harsh? Belly aching over something you can't control is the most pointless thing you can do.
There is really nothing else to do besides to get the fuck over it. My girlfriend was a hell of a lot motte promiscuous than I was and yea it bugged me for awhile...until I realized it had no bearing on our relationship now.
So either resolve this issue quick and get over it or put your relationship in jeopardy. You don't haber many options other than that. Nothing changes the past
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So, ArbAttack, have you checked if she has any STDs? I just wanted to make sure since they are dangerous! And I understand that you dislike how your current GF handled sex carelessly, but if she learnt that such behavior is wrong and not doing it anymore and have been looking for someone like you who respects her and who knows how to treat her in bed, why should you hate her for it? I mean, you should look at yourself as her savior for being a respectful man to her. That's how I would solve your relationship. Thanks for reading my opinion.
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got a question for you (bear in mind I haven't read the comments in this thread so this is 100% from your OP)
Are you korean? In fact, replace the "are" with YOU ARE!
How do I know? You said you wanted to "be a big person" when the saying is actually "be the bigger person."
Please let me know if I was correct.
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Here's what I do when some petty or useless emotion overcomes me:
I think back to the good old days when men had to avoid not only hunger, disease, wild animals, a myriad of other ridiculous and dangerous problems but they had to worry about the humans who lived next door deciding to come on over for a quick rape and pillage.
Then I wonder what they would think about my relationship issues.
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On October 30 2010 01:05 ThE.SparkZ wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 00:58 Chill wrote:On October 30 2010 00:54 ThE.SparkZ wrote:
Edit: It'd be cool if someother mod would warn/temp-ban chill for being such a douche :3 Comment 1 was genuine and justified. Comment 2 in response to his ridiculous response. No problems here. If you problems with moderation, PM a moderator directly. Lol @ how fast he f5's to check if anyone was offended by his posts
he says as he responds immediately after chill.
Chill Edit: The great thing is that, despite being banned, I can still edit anyone's comment. Mod abuse in its finest.
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On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
Fuck my Asian upbringing, I wish I could be some white guy who didn’t give a flying fuck. Fuck Fuck Fuck.
I'm white and I would never be comfortable dating a girl with a slutty past, no matter how cute she is (not to say I wouldn't hook up with one). If I were in your shoes, I would dump her for sure (after hitting it ofc). You don't want to be worrying about what she is doing whenever a problem in the relationship arises. Girls who have debased themselves at drinking parties and the like aren't the kind that you want to actually be loving, since it's probably going to cause you a bunch of stress and anxiety. Plus girls like that are much more likely to, if not cheat, at least have thoughts about it.
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What does being asian have to do with it, awesome job generalizing right?
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On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote: Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Then she is trash. and you are as well for staying with her. It doesnt really matter what she did in the past as long as she lets you know. If shes not even being honest or open with you, she is trash of the street variety, and must be treated as such. Find the nearest garbage receptacle and throw the slut in
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On October 30 2010 02:23 TheAntZ wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote: Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Then she is trash. and you are as well for staying with her. It doesnt really matter what she did in the past as long as she lets you know. If shes not even being honest or open with you, she is trash of the street variety, and must be treated as such. Find the nearest garbage receptacle and throw the slut in
Wow, that's a bit harsh, no?
Slut street trash? Eesh. Maybe she can sense your disapproval, and doesn't want to talk about the subject because she feels judged by someone she feels very strongly for. She senses how you feel, and doesn't want to have a conversation where she feels shamed.
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On October 30 2010 02:27 Haemonculus wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 02:23 TheAntZ wrote:On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote: Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Then she is trash. and you are as well for staying with her. It doesnt really matter what she did in the past as long as she lets you know. If shes not even being honest or open with you, she is trash of the street variety, and must be treated as such. Find the nearest garbage receptacle and throw the slut in Wow, that's a bit harsh, no? Slut street trash? Eesh. Maybe she can sense your disapproval, and doesn't want to talk about the subject because she feels judged by someone she feels very strongly for. She senses how you feel, and doesn't want to have a conversation where she feels shamed.
Ok I'll admit i was being too harsh but it seriously pisses me the hell off each time girls im in a relationship with start acting irritated/angry just because i ask them about certain things. Not even saying "I dont want to share that" or w/e, just acting all pissy and bitchy. Both girls who behaved like this with me turned out to be have been cheating on me (yes, pathetic me, i know) so I cant tolerate girls who act like that.
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On October 30 2010 02:17 NeVeR wrote:Show nested quote +On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
Fuck my Asian upbringing, I wish I could be some white guy who didn’t give a flying fuck. Fuck Fuck Fuck.
I'm white and I would never be comfortable dating a girl with a slutty past, no matter how cute she is (not to say I wouldn't hook up with one). If I were in your shoes, I would dump her for sure (after hitting it ofc). You don't want to be worrying about what she is doing whenever a problem in the relationship arises. Girls who have debased themselves at drinking parties and the like aren't the kind that you want to actually be loving, since it's probably going to cause you a bunch of stress and anxiety. Plus girls like that are much more likely to, if not cheat, at least have thoughts about it.
If you don't trust the girl you are with you shouldn't be with her anyway.
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How do you know she didn't use him for sex? Why is it that only men can use women for sex and not the other way around? She probably wasn't duped into it and she obviously didn't do it for his money/popularity/etc.
You're being an overprotective jackass on this one. I know that's the natural reaction for pretty much everyone and it's easy to admit that but hard to change, but it's still the truth.
Reading your responses to Chill, it seems totally obvious that you do have insecurity issues. Pull your head out of your ass and admit it. Then, maybe, you'll start going somewhere.
"I have this girl that I love, she's perfect... but I'm so awesome I have backups if this doesn't work out."
There's people who can say a lot more about themselves than you can and are still insecure. It's not generated by what you have.
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On October 30 2010 02:40 TheAntZ wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 02:27 Haemonculus wrote:On October 30 2010 02:23 TheAntZ wrote:On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote: Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Then she is trash. and you are as well for staying with her. It doesnt really matter what she did in the past as long as she lets you know. If shes not even being honest or open with you, she is trash of the street variety, and must be treated as such. Find the nearest garbage receptacle and throw the slut in Wow, that's a bit harsh, no? Slut street trash? Eesh. Maybe she can sense your disapproval, and doesn't want to talk about the subject because she feels judged by someone she feels very strongly for. She senses how you feel, and doesn't want to have a conversation where she feels shamed. Ok I'll admit i was being too harsh but it seriously pisses me the hell off each time girls im in a relationship with start acting irritated/angry just because i ask them about certain things. Not even saying "I dont want to share that" or w/e, just acting all pissy and bitchy. Both girls who behaved like this with me turned out to be have been cheating on me (yes, pathetic me, i know) so I cant tolerate girls who act like that.
how do u kno they dun cheat on u because u act like a spy and shit about their pasts? its a vicious cyclist.
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ok I should have also stated I stopped reading at that part roflflfl
he later says "fuck my asian upbringing"
god damn I got robbed of a sick read FUCK
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On October 30 2010 02:58 baller wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 02:40 TheAntZ wrote:On October 30 2010 02:27 Haemonculus wrote:On October 30 2010 02:23 TheAntZ wrote:On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote: Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Then she is trash. and you are as well for staying with her. It doesnt really matter what she did in the past as long as she lets you know. If shes not even being honest or open with you, she is trash of the street variety, and must be treated as such. Find the nearest garbage receptacle and throw the slut in Wow, that's a bit harsh, no? Slut street trash? Eesh. Maybe she can sense your disapproval, and doesn't want to talk about the subject because she feels judged by someone she feels very strongly for. She senses how you feel, and doesn't want to have a conversation where she feels shamed. Ok I'll admit i was being too harsh but it seriously pisses me the hell off each time girls im in a relationship with start acting irritated/angry just because i ask them about certain things. Not even saying "I dont want to share that" or w/e, just acting all pissy and bitchy. Both girls who behaved like this with me turned out to be have been cheating on me (yes, pathetic me, i know) so I cant tolerate girls who act like that. how do u kno they dun cheat on u because u act like a spy and shit about their pasts? its a vicious cyclist.
Its funny that you should mention that, heres a pic of my most recent ex
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On October 30 2010 03:00 TheAntZ wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 02:58 baller wrote:On October 30 2010 02:40 TheAntZ wrote:On October 30 2010 02:27 Haemonculus wrote:On October 30 2010 02:23 TheAntZ wrote:On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote: Every time that I’ve tried to bring up subjects of her past (casually, jokingly, seriously, understandingly, etc. you name it) she becomes very guarded and irritated.
Then she is trash. and you are as well for staying with her. It doesnt really matter what she did in the past as long as she lets you know. If shes not even being honest or open with you, she is trash of the street variety, and must be treated as such. Find the nearest garbage receptacle and throw the slut in Wow, that's a bit harsh, no? Slut street trash? Eesh. Maybe she can sense your disapproval, and doesn't want to talk about the subject because she feels judged by someone she feels very strongly for. She senses how you feel, and doesn't want to have a conversation where she feels shamed. Ok I'll admit i was being too harsh but it seriously pisses me the hell off each time girls im in a relationship with start acting irritated/angry just because i ask them about certain things. Not even saying "I dont want to share that" or w/e, just acting all pissy and bitchy. Both girls who behaved like this with me turned out to be have been cheating on me (yes, pathetic me, i know) so I cant tolerate girls who act like that. how do u kno they dun cheat on u because u act like a spy and shit about their pasts? its a vicious cyclist. Its funny that you should mention that, heres a pic of my most recent ex + Show Spoiler +
well there is ur problem, if ur ex looks like that, he is probably a guy. were u asking about that kind of stuff? like "r u really a dude?" bc thats probably why ur exes were mad, most girls (or guys) dont like being asked about their genders... asking them about that jus makes it sound like u have an ax 2 find.
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So let me get this straight.
You had two girlfriends before, one of whom you had sex with, one of which you got head from or something along those lines..
She had one boyfriend before, and had sex with him.
Now your upset at her cause she had sex with one guy and kissed a couple when in the same token you have slept with one person and done other unholy acts with the other?
Kissing is nothing in most cultures today, don't know about Korean but if Rekrul is to be believed it's cool in Korean culture.
Your throwing stones in a glass house here. Your both just as guilty (which isn't all that guilty, having sex with one person is nothing really), you do have massive insecurity issues, and you are making something out of nothing. Unless I'm misunderstanding this....
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On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:Fuck my Asian upbringing, I wish I could be some white guy who didn’t give a flying fuck.
RACIST!
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On October 30 2010 02:49 FuriousJodo wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 02:17 NeVeR wrote:On October 29 2010 22:42 ArbAttack wrote:
Fuck my Asian upbringing, I wish I could be some white guy who didn’t give a flying fuck. Fuck Fuck Fuck.
I'm white and I would never be comfortable dating a girl with a slutty past, no matter how cute she is (not to say I wouldn't hook up with one). If I were in your shoes, I would dump her for sure (after hitting it ofc). You don't want to be worrying about what she is doing whenever a problem in the relationship arises. Girls who have debased themselves at drinking parties and the like aren't the kind that you want to actually be loving, since it's probably going to cause you a bunch of stress and anxiety. Plus girls like that are much more likely to, if not cheat, at least have thoughts about it. If you don't trust the girl you are with you shouldn't be with her anyway.
Well, that's pretty much my point. Girls of this nature aren't very trustworthy.
btw, idk why people are saying he lacks confidence. I haven't seen any evidence of that.
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You're an asshole.. for someone who's so into the emotional parts of relationships you are extremely judgemental..
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On October 30 2010 03:28 Ian Ian Ian wrote:
You're an asshole.. for someone who's so into the emotional parts of relationships you are extremely judgemental..
whoa whoa whoa, bursting his bubble is a quick way to get banned from the blog!
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On October 30 2010 03:28 Ian Ian Ian wrote:
You're an asshole.. for someone who's so into the emotional parts of relationships you are extremely judgemental..
I don't like to degenerate into calling people fucked retarded, but in your case it's completely warranted.
First of all, questioning a girl's integrity because of her past history is extremely judgmental? And even if someone is judgmental, that automatically makes him an asshole? Please, put 2 seconds of thought into your posts, get a grip on reality and post again once you've turned 15 and have had a real relationship.
User was temp banned for this post.
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Haha, nevermind I think OP wouldn't listen anymore and will start raging 
+ Show Spoiler +Now that I think of it I'm not sharing anything to this thread but derail it! LOLOLOL!
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Did you really have to mention anything about race? Way to contribute to making asians look more pathetic!
Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did you prove what he said was right, but it also showed the full irony of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend.
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i must say,, op hasn't reach a high level yet. still need more leveling.
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Why are people so afraid of female sexuality?
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Thanks for all the anecdotal and genuinely helpful posts.
On October 30 2010 03:57 ilovezil wrote:
Did you really have to mention anything about race? Way to contribute to making asians look more pathetic!
Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did you prove what he said was right, but it also showed the full irony of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend.
Asians on average care more about these things, it's just a fact I don't see the problem here at all.
And I'm going to humor you; explain your vastly insightful observations, I'm so very eager to hear your response.
"The fully iron of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend". Seriously, how did you come up with that. Please do tell.
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On October 30 2010 04:12 ArbAttack wrote:Thanks for all the anecdotal and genuinely helpful posts. Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 03:57 ilovezil wrote:
Did you really have to mention anything about race? Way to contribute to making asians look more pathetic!
Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did you prove what he said was right, but it also showed the full irony of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend. Asians on average care more about these things, it's just a fact I don't see the problem here at all. And I'm going to humor you; explain your vastly insightful observations, I'm so very eager to hear your response. "The fully iron of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend". Seriously, how did you come up with that. Please do tell.
I dunno, but the way you conceive sentences make you sound like you're an asian that not only needs help with women, but also with English.
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ArbAttack vs Quickstriker shownmatch.
Winner gets the title of most insecure asian on TL.
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On October 30 2010 04:23 Jibba wrote:
ArbAttack vs Quickstriker shownmatch.
Winner gets the title of most insecure asian on TL.
Put on Location InsecureAsia
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On October 30 2010 04:23 Jibba wrote:
ArbAttack vs Quickstriker shownmatch.
Winner gets the title of most insecure asian on TL.
roflololol
quickstriker would win easily but at least quickstriker is nice, this guy is just raging like an asshole
oh i guess except for that time he threatened to beat pokebunny to death or whatever
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Haha, god damn man I can't believe how many people are saying you're insecure. It's funny too, 'cuz it's kind of a catch 22 situation. You either say "No I'm not insecure" and ppl are like, "see that proves it" or you say "Yes I am" and ppl are like, "yep."
Tbh your blog has gotten pretty inflammatory and even trollish, it sounds like you just need to vent man, but for some reason TL blogs doesn't seem the right place to do it. (TL ppl seem to have really messed up ideas about relationships and sex, imho...probably not a good place to go haha )
From the wise words from a PM from Happy.fairytail.
Thanks again to people who genuinely helped; I've received all the advice/perspectives I wanted so I'm going to stop humoring all these trolls / flamebaits in the last few pages.
On October 30 2010 04:20 ilovezil wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 04:12 ArbAttack wrote:Thanks for all the anecdotal and genuinely helpful posts. On October 30 2010 03:57 ilovezil wrote:
Did you really have to mention anything about race? Way to contribute to making asians look more pathetic!
Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did you prove what he said was right, but it also showed the full irony of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend. Asians on average care more about these things, it's just a fact I don't see the problem here at all. And I'm going to humor you; explain your vastly insightful observations, I'm so very eager to hear your response. "The fully iron of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend". Seriously, how did you come up with that. Please do tell. dunno, but the way you conceive sentences make you sound like you're an asian that not only needs help with women, but also with English.
Clearly you've never made a single spelling error in your life. Grow the fuck up.
I finished with a Level 7 in IB HL English. You're going to tell me you're an English major now right.
"Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did..."
Grammatically incorrect. You're missing a preposition.
Dumb trolls.
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jeez what is it with people getting so mad in their blogs? its like we can't go 1 week without some OP getting some replies he doesn't like and starts raging at people.
@arbattack: you need to stop attacking people, man. it makes you look bad
also LOL@ that guy happy.fairytale again with the "TL people don't understand relationships like we do" LOL
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On October 30 2010 04:41 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 04:20 ilovezil wrote:On October 30 2010 04:12 ArbAttack wrote:Thanks for all the anecdotal and genuinely helpful posts. On October 30 2010 03:57 ilovezil wrote:
Did you really have to mention anything about race? Way to contribute to making asians look more pathetic!
Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did you prove what he said was right, but it also showed the full irony of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend. Asians on average care more about these things, it's just a fact I don't see the problem here at all. And I'm going to humor you; explain your vastly insightful observations, I'm so very eager to hear your response. "The fully iron of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend". Seriously, how did you come up with that. Please do tell. dunno, but the way you conceive sentences make you sound like you're an asian that not only needs help with women, but also with English. Clearly you've never made a single spelling error in your life. Grow the fuck up. I finished with a Level 7 in IB HL English. You're going to tell me you're an English major now right. Grammatically incorrect. You're missing a preposition. Dumb trolls.
Tell us more about your life and achievements!
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Sounds like you're not mature enough for a relationship.
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On October 30 2010 04:41 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +Haha, god damn man I can't believe how many people are saying you're insecure. It's funny too, 'cuz it's kind of a catch 22 situation. You either say "No I'm not insecure" and ppl are like, "see that proves it" or you say "Yes I am" and ppl are like, "yep."
Tbh your blog has gotten pretty inflammatory and even trollish, it sounds like you just need to vent man, but for some reason TL blogs doesn't seem the right place to do it. (TL ppl seem to have really messed up ideas about relationships and sex, imho...probably not a good place to go haha ) From the wise words from a PM from Happy.fairytail. Thanks again to people who genuinely helped; I've received all the advice/perspectives I wanted so I'm going to stop humoring all these trolls / flamebaits in the last few pages. Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 04:20 ilovezil wrote:On October 30 2010 04:12 ArbAttack wrote:Thanks for all the anecdotal and genuinely helpful posts. On October 30 2010 03:57 ilovezil wrote:
Did you really have to mention anything about race? Way to contribute to making asians look more pathetic!
Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did you prove what he said was right, but it also showed the full irony of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend. Asians on average care more about these things, it's just a fact I don't see the problem here at all. And I'm going to humor you; explain your vastly insightful observations, I'm so very eager to hear your response. "The fully iron of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend". Seriously, how did you come up with that. Please do tell. dunno, but the way you conceive sentences make you sound like you're an asian that not only needs help with women, but also with English. Clearly you've never made a single spelling error in your life. Grow the fuck up. I finished with a Level 7 in IB HL English. You're going to tell me you're an English major now right. Grammatically incorrect. You're missing a preposition. Dumb trolls.
I'm glad those ESL classes helped you.
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On October 30 2010 04:41 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +Haha, god damn man I can't believe how many people are saying you're insecure. It's funny too, 'cuz it's kind of a catch 22 situation. You either say "No I'm not insecure" and ppl are like, "see that proves it" or you say "Yes I am" and ppl are like, "yep."
Tbh your blog has gotten pretty inflammatory and even trollish, it sounds like you just need to vent man, but for some reason TL blogs doesn't seem the right place to do it. (TL ppl seem to have really messed up ideas about relationships and sex, imho...probably not a good place to go haha ) From the wise words from a PM from Happy.fairytail. Thanks again to people who genuinely helped; I've received all the advice/perspectives I wanted so I'm going to stop humoring all these trolls / flamebaits in the last few pages. Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 04:20 ilovezil wrote:On October 30 2010 04:12 ArbAttack wrote:Thanks for all the anecdotal and genuinely helpful posts. On October 30 2010 03:57 ilovezil wrote:
Did you really have to mention anything about race? Way to contribute to making asians look more pathetic!
Oh, and your response to Chill's single statement - not only did you prove what he said was right, but it also showed the full irony of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend. Asians on average care more about these things, it's just a fact I don't see the problem here at all. And I'm going to humor you; explain your vastly insightful observations, I'm so very eager to hear your response. "The fully iron of your entire OP in relation to your girlfriend". Seriously, how did you come up with that. Please do tell. dunno, but the way you conceive sentences make you sound like you're an asian that not only needs help with women, but also with English. Clearly you've never made a single spelling error in your life. Grow the fuck up. I finished with a Level 7 in IB HL English. You're going to tell me you're an English major now right. Grammatically incorrect. You're missing a preposition. Dumb trolls.
insulting someone on their grammar instead of responding to arguments 1st sign of a sore and immature loser
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You need to let her history go and never EVER bring it up again to her. Every time you bring up her past will push her further and further away from being attracted to you. Associating negative emotions with yourself is not the way to keep her attraction level high.
As for you, man up. I'm assuming you are Asian and grew up very conservatively (as did I). The standard today for girls isn't the same anymore. To expect girls to fit into your conservative standard is to deprive yourself of 95% of even the Asian girls.
I'm Chinese, and I fuck the Korean/Chinese girls I ask out on the 1st-3rd date about 90% of the time. It's completely standard these days. Get used to it shit moving fast, or get left behind in the dust.
Instead of being the small man worrying about petty shit, go out and start fucking girls left and right. Stop thinking they are princesses. Girls want to get fucked, true story.
Oh, stop being a little petty bitch. Man up.
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Wow, I miss these threads.. this is the TL of Diamond man, today's TL is somewhat Gold..
go go more please!
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United States42718 Posts
"I wish I could take relationships less superseriously but I can't because I was so well brought up and moralistic. But this means I can't handle the fact that the girl I'm not the only person she's ever wanted to have sex with ever. She's not allowed to ever want to have sex with anyone else ever because she's mine and you can't take her!. ps I have two backups girls who I plan to fuck if I end it with her. pps please don't take her "
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Sounds like there's going to be a breakup. Best of luck man.
On October 30 2010 04:23 Jibba wrote:
ArbAttack vs Quickstriker shownmatch.
Winner gets the title of most insecure asian on TL.
On October 30 2010 01:05 ThE.SparkZ wrote:
Lol @ how fast he f5's to check if anyone was offended by his posts
Lollolol. Well I suppose people are putting him in touch with reality. A Tad harsh but I suppose someone had to say something.
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Well first you gotta ask how much this girl is like you:
1) Does she make brag blog posts on a starcraft community site of how hot you are?
2) Does she frequently say 'fuck' after minor problems?
3) Does she refute your arguments if you don't have perfect grammar, while her grammar is not perfect either?
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Austin10831 Posts
Are you sure that this girl is really into you? How do you know?
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
You can never really know Brood. It's a doggy dug world.
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Also I must quote the most awesome quote with regards to teh sexuality and morality of men and women alike:
In order to answer these questions you might have to elaborate a bit more on the girls personalities
-Their religion, and respective piety
-Their family and family history
-Their socio-economic class
-Their artistic and literary talents
-Their sensitivity, romanticism and sentimentalism
-Their patriotism, provincialism, and rootedness in their native culture
-Their cooking, cleaning and other domestic abilities
-Their mental and emotional stability
-Their historical attitude and preferences regarding bourgeois family life
-Their racial origins (if not already clear)
-Their feminine virtues (virginity, modesty, etc)
Depending on what she answers for these I might say yes.
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9933 Posts
what does it really mean to love somebody anyway? what is knowledge??
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Ahahaha keep them coming.
I came here for ideas/insight/advice and I received them. I made the mistake of attacking a few trolls a few pages earlier, and I know not to now as it breeds general hostility. Thanks, my noob interwebs posting knowledge has leveled up today.
Now I'm just entertained by the last few pages. Really, please don't stop I'm quite amused. All these Ad Hominem, false association and hasty generalization fallacy personal attacks are what defines TL Blogs anyway.
Feel free, I've got 1.5 hours left in my workday so entertain me. More please!
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United States42718 Posts
On October 30 2010 05:02 intrigue wrote:
what does it really mean to love somebody anyway? what is knowledge??
True love is hot backups. How else can a girl get an idea of comparative worth? This guys girlfriend can rest assured that'd it'd take two pretty hot backups to negate his feelings for her.
The real question is how much does the girl value him? How much would it take for her to forget about him completely? So when it comes down to it its all about how big the last guy was. You should ask her if you measure up.
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On October 30 2010 05:04 ArbAttack wrote:
Ahahaha keep them coming.
I came here for ideas/insight/advice and I received them. I made the mistake of attacking a few trolls a few pages earlier, and I know not to now as it breeds general hostility. Thanks, my noob interwebs posting knowledge has leveled up today.
Now I'm just entertained by the last few pages. Really, please don't stop I'm quite amused. All these Ad Hominem, false association and hasty generalization fallacy personal attacks are what defines TL Blogs anyway.
Feel free, I've got 1.5 hours left in my workday so entertain me. More please!
i can help u level up again. when you're mad at ppl on the internet, saying stuff like "lol im not mad" rarely fools anyone. and i think "insecure ppl crying about girls" defines tl blogs far more than the things you listed.
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On October 30 2010 05:04 ArbAttack wrote:
Ahahaha keep them coming.
I came here for ideas/insight/advice and I received them. I made the mistake of attacking a few trolls a few pages earlier, and I know not to now as it breeds general hostility. Thanks, my noob interwebs posting knowledge has leveled up today.
Now I'm just entertained by the last few pages. Really, please don't stop I'm quite amused. All these Ad Hominem, false association and hasty generalization fallacy personal attacks are what defines TL Blogs anyway.
Feel free, I've got 1.5 hours left in my workday so entertain me. More please!
lol @ you accusing others of ad hominem
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On October 30 2010 04:41 ArbAttack wrote:
I'm going to stop humoring all these trolls / flamebaits in the last few pages.
On October 30 2010 05:04 ArbAttack wrote:
Ahahaha keep them coming.
I came here for ideas/insight/advice and I received them. I made the mistake of attacking a few trolls a few pages earlier, and I know not to now as it breeds general hostility. Thanks, my noob interwebs posting knowledge has leveled up today.
Now I'm just entertained by the last few pages. Really, please don't stop I'm quite amused. All these Ad Hominem, false association and hasty generalization fallacy personal attacks are what defines TL Blogs anyway.
Feel free, I've got 1.5 hours left in my workday so entertain me. More please!
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Canada9720 Posts
straight from 1->5 on the kubler-ross grief model. wow leveling up like mad.
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[QUOTE]On October 30 2010 05:07 KwarK wrote:
[QUOTE]On October 30 2010 05:02 intrigue wrote:
what does it really mean to love somebody anyway? what is knowledge??[/QUOTE]
True love is hot backups. How else can a girl get an idea of comparative worth? This guys girlfriend can rest assured that'd it'd take two pretty hot backups to negate his feelings for her.
The real question is how much does the girl value him? How much would it take for her to forget about him completely? So when it comes down to it its all about how big the last guy was. You should ask her if you measure up.[/QUOTE]
I really wish my cubicle wasn't facing the entrance to the floor; so that I can browse some flash/video/image based sites. If someone could recommend some text-based sites other than TL that'd be great. Still 1:18 to go till the weekend. So I'll continue to humor the trolls.
Well, she didn't like sex with me at first TBH. She said I was way too big. Maybe it's the small dick of the short Asian dude before me, or maybe it's just my 7-incher. I'm not too sure.
Now my roommates complain to me about her making too much noises in bed.
So I guess I do measure up.
Thanks KwarK. You still BW or SC2? 100APM B player is pretty impressive I have to say.
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does your penis touch the water when you sit down to pee
do you ever drive your mercedes benz with it?
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On October 30 2010 04:47 JackMcCoy wrote:
jeez what is it with people getting so mad in their blogs? its like we can't go 1 week without some OP getting some replies he doesn't like and starts raging at people.
@arbattack: you need to stop attacking people, man. it makes you look bad
also LOL@ that guy happy.fairytale again with the "TL people don't understand relationships like we do" LOL
For what it's worth, I sent that PM pretty soon after my first post ... like I said before, I regret being so presumptuous and arrogant, which I realized I really need to work on (I wish I wasn't so blind to it, but thanks for pointing it out Jack)
And uh, I've read through some of arbattack's previous blog posts, and er, yeah...
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On October 30 2010 05:17 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 05:07 KwarK wrote:On October 30 2010 05:02 intrigue wrote:
what does it really mean to love somebody anyway? what is knowledge?? True love is hot backups. How else can a girl get an idea of comparative worth? This guys girlfriend can rest assured that'd it'd take two pretty hot backups to negate his feelings for her. The real question is how much does the girl value him? How much would it take for her to forget about him completely? So when it comes down to it its all about how big the last guy was. You should ask her if you measure up. I really wish my cubicle wasn't facing the entrance to the floor; so that I can browse some flash/video/image based sites. If someone could recommend some text-based sites other than TL that'd be great. Still 1:18 to go till the weekend. So I'll continue to humor the trolls. Well, she didn't like sex with me at first TBH. She said I was way too big. Maybe it's the small dick of the short Asian dude before me, or maybe it's just my 7-incher. I'm not too sure. Now my roommates complain to me about her making too much noises in bed. So I guess I do measure up. Thanks KwarK. You still BW or SC2? 100APM B player is pretty impressive I have to say.
rofl bro every1 is telling you you're so insecure and you just keep proving them right it's incredible
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France2061 Posts
What about these "backups"? What kind of girl would ever accept to be someone's backup if she weren't a total slut? So you'll break up with this girl, go out with the backup, then realize she's been making out with bouncers/white guys who don't give a fuck/guys who don't make grammatical mistakes and you'll be in the same situation. It's over man there's no way out they've all been used and you're only getting seconds
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guys why would he be insecure if he has a huge 7 incher i mean come on use your brains
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[Quote][QUOTE]On October 30 2010 05:17 ArbAttack wrote:
[QUOTE]On October 30 2010 05:07 KwarK wrote:
[QUOTE]On October 30 2010 05:02 intrigue wrote:
what does it really mean to love somebody anyway? what is knowledge??[/QUOTE]
True love is hot backups. How else can a girl get an idea of comparative worth? This guys girlfriend can rest assured that'd it'd take two pretty hot backups to negate his feelings for her.
The real question is how much does the girl value him? How much would it take for her to forget about him completely? So when it comes down to it its all about how big the last guy was. You should ask her if you measure up.[/QUOTE]
I really wish my cubicle wasn't facing the entrance to the floor; so that I can browse some flash/video/image based sites. If someone could recommend some text-based sites other than TL that'd be great. Still 1:18 to go till the weekend. So I'll continue to humor the trolls.
Well, she didn't like sex with me at first TBH. She said I was way too big. Maybe it's the small dick of the short Asian dude before me, or maybe it's just my 7-incher. I'm not too sure.
Now my roommates complain to me about her making too much noises in bed.
So I guess I do measure up.
Thanks KwarK. You still BW or SC2? 100APM B player is pretty impressive I have to say.
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Gross as you might say, but PICS OR DIDN'T HAPPENED!
FUCKING DAMMIT! I tried fixing the quotes for 7 times and it didn't work WTF! I'm an idiot please tell me
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I'm not sure if you're trying to insult kwark or praise him, but good job making up facts about yourself to make yourself feel better. Hey, maybe you can make up facts about pretending your super hot girlfriend doing all sorts of "unbelieveable things in bed" to make yourself feel more secure as well!
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On October 30 2010 05:22 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
guys why would he be insecure if he has a huge 7 incher i mean come on use your brains
guys why would he be asian if he has a huge 7 incher i mean come on use your brains
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Remember that people can change. If she had not met the person she wants to be with, she could act one way. Now that she found someone she loves, she acts a different way. Take a look into your own past. I am sure there are a bunch of things that you absolutely regret doing. Granted judging someone on their past has its merits, but at some point you need to make the decision of which is more improtant to you NOW: Her past or your future together.
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This blog is so fucking good and entertaining to read through.
5/5
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On October 30 2010 05:26 Crais wrote:
Remember that people can change. If she had not met the person she wants to be with, she could act one way. Now that she found someone she loves, she acts a different way. Take a look into your own past. I am sure there are a bunch of things that you absolutely regret doing. Granted judging someone on their past has its merits, but at some point you need to make the decision of which is more improtant to you NOW: Her past or your future together.
Didn't you read the memo of the last pages? it's all about his 7-inch schlong now and not about his GF or sexual under achievements..
If you want to ask about his past then it's about a few ugly and small guys like chill fucking her girl.. lol and also some hot korean abs of steel.. LMAO!
this thread has small diamonds with small shits in them
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On October 30 2010 05:09 DoctorHelvetica wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 05:04 ArbAttack wrote:
Ahahaha keep them coming.
I came here for ideas/insight/advice and I received them. I made the mistake of attacking a few trolls a few pages earlier, and I know not to now as it breeds general hostility. Thanks, my noob interwebs posting knowledge has leveled up today.
Now I'm just entertained by the last few pages. Really, please don't stop I'm quite amused. All these Ad Hominem, false association and hasty generalization fallacy personal attacks are what defines TL Blogs anyway.
Feel free, I've got 1.5 hours left in my workday so entertain me. More please! lol @ you accusing others of ad hominem
Wasn't accusing anybody, just stating a fact and never said I was saint not susceptible to it. Hypocritical? Lol so what?
On October 30 2010 05:08 JackMcCoy wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 05:04 ArbAttack wrote:
Ahahaha keep them coming.
I came here for ideas/insight/advice and I received them. I made the mistake of attacking a few trolls a few pages earlier, and I know not to now as it breeds general hostility. Thanks, my noob interwebs posting knowledge has leveled up today.
Now I'm just entertained by the last few pages. Really, please don't stop I'm quite amused. All these Ad Hominem, false association and hasty generalization fallacy personal attacks are what defines TL Blogs anyway.
Feel free, I've got 1.5 hours left in my workday so entertain me. More please! i can help u level up again. when you're mad at ppl on the internet, saying stuff like "lol im not mad" rarely fools anyone. and i think "insecure ppl crying about girls" defines tl blogs far more than the things you listed.
Catch 22 situation here. But yah, you say I'm mad then I say I'm not mad then you think I'm mad when I'm not actually mad at all because you want to think that your post somehow had a tangible influence on someone. Well, you're wrong really. Maybe you're right sometimes, but honestly even the argument of "you say you don't care; but you made an account and took the effort to post therefore you care" doesn't stand. I made an account and made the OP to ask for some anonymous insight to my problem, then people like you just entertain me in my otherwise very boring workday. Thanks again!
On October 30 2010 05:11 ilovezil wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 04:41 ArbAttack wrote:
I'm going to stop humoring all these trolls / flamebaits in the last few pages.
Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 05:04 ArbAttack wrote:
Ahahaha keep them coming.
I came here for ideas/insight/advice and I received them. I made the mistake of attacking a few trolls a few pages earlier, and I know not to now as it breeds general hostility. Thanks, my noob interwebs posting knowledge has leveled up today.
Now I'm just entertained by the last few pages. Really, please don't stop I'm quite amused. All these Ad Hominem, false association and hasty generalization fallacy personal attacks are what defines TL Blogs anyway.
Feel free, I've got 1.5 hours left in my workday so entertain me. More please! ??
Boss went out for meetings, I finished my work early. Problem?
Okay I lied. I was going to just stop checking back because I still had work to do, but toying with trolls is just such an enjoyable hobby of mine so I couldn't resist.
My point regarding you being a retarded15 year old still stands though. See, I make a claim and I'm going to give reasons for it, unlike you. You're a retarded 15 year old because you made a stupid statement that you couldn't explain, then you resort to being a grammar nazi and attack my spelling. Then I own you again as you formed a such a retarded grammatically incorrect sentence without a preposition.
Ignoring that I was merely retaliating to your spelling error attack, Helvatica (? think it was him, too lazy to check) calls me a loser because I attacked your grammar in response. All this due to the fact that I pissed off the latter posters and a "let's gang on the unreasonable, insecure, raging OP" had formed.
Wooo I love TL and the entertainment it provides me!
User was temp banned for this post.
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On October 30 2010 01:43 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
got a question for you (bear in mind I haven't read the comments in this thread so this is 100% from your OP)
Are you korean? In fact, replace the "are" with YOU ARE!
How do I know? You said you wanted to "be a big person" when the saying is actually "be the bigger person."
Please let me know if I was correct.
Was this answered? I'm willing to be he's Chinese because of the distinction in "tall Korean guy" as opposed to just saying "tall guy" if he was Korean himself.
Oh yeah and the animosity towards the Korean guy makes me think there is some underlying cultural thing going on too, so he can't be Korean!
answer us arbattack! I want to take incontrol's throne!!
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based on the way OP describes himself i think i've found a picture
![[image loading]](http://ll-media.tmz.com/2010/07/26/0726-situasian-launch-credit.jpg)
the one to the right imo. It doesnt show it in the picture but OPs schlong is hanging out of his pants and being sucked by >7 supermodels, every one of whom is a high ranked starcraft 2 player. The picture also fails to show the huge mounts of gold that make up his personal fortune off to the side, but I think you can see the shadow of his BMW. You can see it because he parked it on top of his garage mat that he made out of several ferraris.
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![[image loading]](http://imgur.com/hRcQj.jpg)
arbattack and his friends at the private beach they rented out to party with celebrties
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France2061 Posts
You're not raging. You're obviously as cool as cucumber.
You say you finished with a Level 7 in IB HL English. Well let me ask you about math. As you know what Asians care more about on average, how are you doing in the math department?
edit: stop trolling with pictures people this is serious
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On October 30 2010 05:32 Masamune wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 01:43 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
got a question for you (bear in mind I haven't read the comments in this thread so this is 100% from your OP)
Are you korean? In fact, replace the "are" with YOU ARE!
How do I know? You said you wanted to "be a big person" when the saying is actually "be the bigger person."
Please let me know if I was correct. Was this answered? I'm willing to be he's Chinese because of the distinction in "tall Korean guy" as opposed to just saying "tall guy" if he was Korean himself. Oh yeah and the animosity towards the Korean guy makes me think there is some underlying cultural thing going on too, so he can't be Korean! answer us arbattack! I want to take incontrol's throne!!
Yah mang, gotta say the craze with Korean dudes is pretty bad lately.
Damn Koreans taking all our Chinese ladies.
Maybe I'll blog about it later.
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On October 30 2010 05:35 DoctorHelvetica wrote:arbattack and his friends at the private beach they rented out to party with celebrties
I'd say his the dude turd starting from the left...
notice how I use third in a different sense?
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On October 30 2010 05:36 ArbAttack wrote:Show nested quote +On October 30 2010 05:32 Masamune wrote:On October 30 2010 01:43 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
got a question for you (bear in mind I haven't read the comments in this thread so this is 100% from your OP)
Are you korean? In fact, replace the "are" with YOU ARE!
How do I know? You said you wanted to "be a big person" when the saying is actually "be the bigger person."
Please let me know if I was correct. Was this answered? I'm willing to be he's Chinese because of the distinction in "tall Korean guy" as opposed to just saying "tall guy" if he was Korean himself. Oh yeah and the animosity towards the Korean guy makes me think there is some underlying cultural thing going on too, so he can't be Korean! answer us arbattack! I want to take incontrol's throne!! Yah mang, gotta say the craze with Korean dudes is pretty bad lately. Damn Koreans taking all our Chinese ladies. Maybe I'll blog about it later.
sorry I meant to say "willing to bet".
so you are Chinese and incontrol is wrong right!?!
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On October 30 2010 05:36 snowdrift wrote:
You're not raging. You're obviously as cool as cucumber.
You say you finished with a Level 7 in IB HL English. Well let me ask you about math. As you know what Asians care more about on average, how are you doing in the math department?
Awww what. That's pretty weak, because I personally think cucumbers are pretty cool, they're my favorite vegetables in fact.
My math is pretty bad though, that's why I have to pride myself in my linguistics skills because apparently i'm sooooooooo insecure. I always ace the "softer" courses (Managerial accounting but not financial accounting, macro econ but not micro econ, did well in psych but not so hot in stats and calc).
Man, now I'm motivated to bust out my calc. II books before next term starts, cuz calc. III is just going to rape me.
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