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konadora
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Just felt like sharing some stories, so today I'll talk about how I broke up with my ex-girlfriend and how my life (for a moment) went downhill from there. Might be rather long and depressing to read, but anyway...
So I was in secondary 3 (Grade uh.. 9? We use British system here so idk what grade Secondary 3 is), new class, new beginning. I only had two other friends who got into the same class as me from my previous class, and rest were unfamiliar to me. The majority of the class comprised of this one class from the previous year, but that isn't really important I guess.
There was this one girl (I shall not say her name or put pics to respect her privacy) however, who really shined out from the rest. She was always energetic, cute and friendly and kind to everyone. And she happened to have to same interests as me (basically Japan and related stuff like J-drama and Jpop). We got to exchange a few words, and as time passed, that grew into long conversations where we eventually started to talk about each other more.
Then, somewhere in early February, I received a shock of my life when she told me via text saying, "I think I like you."
Now, at that period of time, I had no prior experience in love, and was barely interested in girls. I also did not really see her as a girl, but more as a friend. So it came to me as an unexpected but pleasant surprise. I told her that I needed time to think through, because I had never thought about it, and had no idea how to react to a confession.
A few days passed, and I had not yet given her a reply. And unfortunately (or fortunately), I had fallen ill, and she and her friends came over to visit. Everything just went normally, exchanged greetings and asked each other how we were, and they proceeded to go home. I took that opportunity to give her my reply - "Yes, I like you too."
It was Valentine's Day.
After that, we were a couple, yet somehow we weren't. She was a shy one, and back then, I guess so was I. We would talk oh-so-casually to each other, but when it came to moments when we were alone, we would get rather awkward with each other. Thinking back now, it was kind of silly, but I really regret not having taken enough initiative. Also, she happened to live in Malaysia (but she's a Chinese), in another country (across the sea) so we weren't able to go out for dates in the weekends and stuff, and the only time we were able to be with each other was in school and after it, which didn't help in improving our relationship.
So, instead of trying to think on my own how to further improve our relation, I went to seek the advice of a close friend, a girl who was in relationship with another guy. I thought that she would give me help, because of her experience. She told me to just take the initiative and just do whatever I could.
I listened to her and that day, it was the first and last time I held my ex-girlfriend's small, gentle hands.
A few days later, it was the exam period. Everyone was studying, so she was spending little time with me. Feeling rather sad, I just went to talk with my other friend I mentioned earlier. Up til now, I do not know the reason but we slowly drifted apart from there, not talking to each that much often. I thought it was just the exam stress.
Then one day, I realised that she was talking a lot to her friend, who was from the same class as her in the previous year. I got rather angry (Oh, what an immature ass I was) and told her that he was "just trying to make me jealous". She was like, "huh? Oh.. okay..."
But I guess I was the one on the wrong side. I had been neglecting her, and was talking more often to the other girls in my class. I think this was what led to her to be rather unhappy with me, and she went to talk to the above-mentioned guy more instead. I saw this, got pissed and told her, "Fine, if you like that guy so much, then why not just break up and you go talk to that guy more!?"
She didn't say anything, and I just went home.
The next day, pretty much the entire class knew what happened. I didn't care. Or I thought I didn't. After a few days, it just came into my mind. "What the FUCK was I doing?"
I went immediately to apologise to her, but she wouldn't hear any of it. She had all the right to do so anyway, me being such a dick.
I suddenly felt a part of my heart missing. I felt empty. I felt alone and lonely. I didn't feel.. whole.
Desperately, I started to search for pieces to complete the whole. Of course, I knew that I couldn't ask the girl I mentioned early on (she had coincidentally broken up with her boyfriend a few weeks before I broke up with my girlfriend) because that would be 1) suicide and 2) just worsening her situation. It was then where I met this girl from another class.
I knew that that girl had like a billion boyfriends before me, and was a real whore. But I didn't care. I thought she could fill my emptiness. So after getting to know each other, I didn't hold back in asking her to be my girlfriend.
Months passed, we went out after schools, met each other in school, all in front of my ex (which was rather unintentional, honest). I was happy. Or... I THOUGHT I was. I soon realised her true nature and that I was never truly in her heart. I realised that I was just looking for a substitude, and that my ex-girlfriend can never be replaced. And my 2nd girlfriend got tired of me too, so she dumped me and went to hook onto another guy. Poor guy.
After that, I tried to get back on normal terms with my ex-girlfriend, just chatting up once in a while before the year ended. It was only successful a few times.
The year came and went, and it was a new year. The final year in my secondary school. Same class, but everyone seemed to have been reborn as fresh, new people. So did I. I was determined to live my life to the best I could that year.
Whether it was fate poking at me to adhere to it, or just a test of my will, I was seated in the same group with her. (We were split into groups of 4). It was awkward for the first few hours, but naturally, we started chatting up again, pretending that nothing had happened in the previous year. I felt alive again.
Months passed, we changed seats once again but this time I was behind her. Our relation improved, there were jokes once in a while about us getting back together but we just dismissed them (she would get annoyed at anyone who said that, although in a rather cute way haha. She was also one of the more influential people in the class, because she was a really nice person and all.) There were a few chances for me to get our relation one step further and possibly return things to normal. One was one during this celebration called 'Racial Harmony Day', where we would dress up in ethnic costumes from other races. We both dressed up in yukatas, and of course, there were all those rumors (which we denied in unison).
Then came the moment where everyone started going home, and we were one of the only few people left in the class. I had whole 10 minutes to ask her to take a photo together. 10 FUCKING MINUTES.
I just sat there, and after 10 minutes (where she was doing absolutely nothing), she went home.
I never felt so angry at myself before.
After that, our relation just stayed at the 'we are friends' level. It never progressed and it only slowly declined.
O levels came and went, we all graduated.
She's now in a different school from me. But I still can't forget about her. Two months ago, I received a package from somebody. It was rectangular and light. I opened it up and I saw a Haruhi drawing. Surprised, I checked the contents and I saw a letter.
It read:
"Dear Ho Sung,
This is actually the present I wanted to give you on the year when we were together. Till now, I still don't have the courage to pass it to you personally. So, since I don't think we will still have a lot of chance to meet in the future, I might as well mail it to you now. Thanks for treating me so good. I'm sorry. But I think we still can be friends. Just to give you some advice. Don't be too complacent. And don't get too addicted to anime. Hope you can do as well, or even better in your JC! Find a better girl, k?! Good luck!
- (name)"
I have never cried so much as that day.
  
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I liked this read. I guess we all make mistakes, but let this be a lesson to you 
Best of luck in future relationships!
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Don't get too addicted to anime!
Kona, that really sucks man  she seems like a really nice girl
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pm me her picture plzzz = =
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On July 26 2009 00:59 emucxg wrote:
pm me her picture plzzz = =
lol dude what the fuck? come on...
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Cheer up man. I know its easy to say but cheer up. I know what you feel, it's hard.
I just wish you best wishes for the future. Good luck.
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On July 26 2009 01:00 clazziquai wrote:lol dude what the fuck? come on...
im very curious =.=
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Kona, do you have balls enough to hear what I'm going to say, and follow it through? (PM me)
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lmao don't get too addicted to anime?
a bit late for that kind of warning, no? ^^
whores suck (haha) though, don't get with them cause it's dangerous for your health.
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On July 26 2009 01:00 clazziquai wrote:lol dude what the fuck? come on...
he probably meant her drawing.. i hope.
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konadora
Singapore66155 Posts
On July 26 2009 01:03 sArite_nite wrote:
Kona, do you have balls enough to hear what I'm going to say, and follow it through? (PM me)
You're probably going to ask me to just go for it lol
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konadora
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On July 26 2009 01:03 ghostWriter wrote:
lmao don't get too addicted to anime?
a bit late for that kind of warning, no? ^^
whores suck (haha) though, don't get with them cause it's dangerous for your health.
After I broke up with that whore (I still feel disgusted with myself that I actually went out with someone like her), I just stopped going after other girls. I'm very safe now.
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Hey, you know what?
This story sounds like a perfect script for an anime.
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It really seems like my story too, just that mine was really really even worse, i cant muster up the courage to do anything lol..
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Oh, by the way?
On July 26 2009 01:07 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:03 ghostWriter wrote:
lmao don't get too addicted to anime?
a bit late for that kind of warning, no? ^^
whores suck (haha) though, don't get with them cause it's dangerous for your health. After I broke up with that whore ( I still feel disgusted that I actually went out with someone like her), I just stopped going after other girls. I'm very safe now.
You probably don't have room to say that after what you've done.
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On July 26 2009 01:07 konadora wrote:
After I broke up with that whore (I still feel disgusted that I actually went out with someone like her), I just stopped going after other girls. I'm very safe now.
yes, i know exactly what you mean.
you don't even need a girlfriend though. it's a serious waste of time and money, that can be better spent posting on teamliquid and buying yourself some nice clothes or something ^^
but when you get to college or whatever, maybe you find a nice girl and marry her?
dating is overrated
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Love can be a bitch
Smack dat bitch
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MrHoon
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aww D:
Sad story indeed, it wouldn't be a really sad story but that mail from her just seals the deal
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konadora
Singapore66155 Posts
On July 26 2009 01:11 ilovezil wrote:Oh, by the way? Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:07 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:03 ghostWriter wrote:
lmao don't get too addicted to anime?
a bit late for that kind of warning, no? ^^
whores suck (haha) though, don't get with them cause it's dangerous for your health. After I broke up with that whore ( I still feel disgusted that I actually went out with someone like her), I just stopped going after other girls. I'm very safe now. You probably don't have room to say that after what you've done.
I meant I was disgusted with myself.
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On July 26 2009 01:09 ilovezil wrote:
Hey, you know what?
This story sounds like a perfect script for an anime.
it's still missing a happy ending. kona, go for it. you're gonna regret forever if you don't
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Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon.
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Bearded Elder29903 Posts
I've broke up with g/f with who I was for almost 3 years (it was 5 months ago) and it was a really, really fucking sad day so I know how You can feel.
Time heals wounds or w/e it is called and it's truth. Find another one and try to forget.
Good luck kona !
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On July 26 2009 01:02 emucxg wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:00 clazziquai wrote:On July 26 2009 00:59 emucxg wrote:
pm me her picture plzzz = = lol dude what the fuck? come on... im very curious =.=
lol omfg, forgive me. I'm an idiot =.=
It's 12:30 PM and I still haven't gone to bed ;p
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On July 26 2009 01:22 clazziquai wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:02 emucxg wrote:On July 26 2009 01:00 clazziquai wrote:On July 26 2009 00:59 emucxg wrote:
pm me her picture plzzz = = lol dude what the fuck? come on... im very curious =.= lol omfg, forgive me. I'm an idiot =.= It's 12:30 PM and I still haven't gone to bed ;p
You sleep in the afternoon? Hmm?
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konadora
Singapore66155 Posts
On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon.
Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back.
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On July 26 2009 01:25 kaleidoscope wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:22 clazziquai wrote:On July 26 2009 01:02 emucxg wrote:On July 26 2009 01:00 clazziquai wrote:On July 26 2009 00:59 emucxg wrote:
pm me her picture plzzz = = lol dude what the fuck? come on... im very curious =.= lol omfg, forgive me. I'm an idiot =.= It's 12:30 PM and I still haven't gone to bed ;p You sleep in the afternoon? Hmm?
I don't sleep aka I have a very messed up sleep schedule which make me end up sleeping at random times of the day :/
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Bearded Elder29903 Posts
On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back.
Damn, that's so cruel but yet so true. Girls almost always do that shit behind Your back... Happened to me as well, not once...
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lol. being called complacent.
Dude, that's the ultimate sucker punch.
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konadora
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On July 26 2009 01:33 haduken wrote:
lol. being called complacent.
Dude, that's the ultimate sucker punch.
Yeah I know... reading that made me realise how horrible I was back then.
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Dude you want to feel better? Have sex  You will release a lot of stress and anger and everything you ever held back, just go for it 
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On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back.
not only is that fucked up, that's just unhygienic...
i hope she washed up well...
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aw that last comment got me. sorry to hear about this and thanks for sharing.
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On July 26 2009 01:04 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:03 sArite_nite wrote:
Kona, do you have balls enough to hear what I'm going to say, and follow it through? (PM me) You're probably going to ask me to just go for it lol
1a2a3a. Only way.
But do it with style aye?
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konadora
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On July 26 2009 01:41 ghostWriter wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back. not only is that fucked up, that's just unhygienic... i hope she washed up well...
Uh seeing as in, just dating and stuff (not sex, dude I was 16)
And no @ that 'have sex' comment
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On July 26 2009 01:45 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:41 ghostWriter wrote:On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back. not only is that fucked up, that's just unhygienic... i hope she washed up well... Uh seeing as in, just dating and stuff (not sex, dude I was 16) And no @ that 'have sex' comment
1a2a3a isn't sex =[
Go for it man. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Your case really needs closure, for better or for worse.
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konadora
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On July 26 2009 01:51 sArite_nite wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:45 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:41 ghostWriter wrote:On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back. not only is that fucked up, that's just unhygienic... i hope she washed up well... Uh seeing as in, just dating and stuff (not sex, dude I was 16) And no @ that 'have sex' comment 1a2a3a isn't sex =[ Go for it man. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Your case really needs closure, for better or for worse.
Was talking about this
On July 26 2009 01:37 ShoCkeyy wrote:Dude you want to feel better? Have sex You will release a lot of stress and anger and everything you ever held back, just go for it
-________-
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I read the first line and saw, "long and depressing" so I instantly went "abortabortabortabortabort"
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On July 26 2009 01:53 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:51 sArite_nite wrote:On July 26 2009 01:45 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:41 ghostWriter wrote:On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back. not only is that fucked up, that's just unhygienic... i hope she washed up well... Uh seeing as in, just dating and stuff (not sex, dude I was 16) And no @ that 'have sex' comment 1a2a3a isn't sex =[ Go for it man. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Your case really needs closure, for better or for worse. Was talking about this Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:37 ShoCkeyy wrote:Dude you want to feel better? Have sex You will release a lot of stress and anger and everything you ever held back, just go for it -________-
Sex is overrated. Starcraft > Sex. The sun rises from the East, and all is at peace.
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Now I don't know whether to be happy or sad that I have never been in a relationship before.
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hey kona, translations>girl. jk jk
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On July 26 2009 02:14 MyHeroNoob wrote:
Now I don't know whether to be happy or sad that I have never been in a relationship before.
No definitely not.. You missed out on the fun of social interactions, and also normally the first relationship will be a learning experience since it will fail most of the time..
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On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back.
That's why next time, be more honest and don't sell yourself out to someone you KNOW won't be the right one for you. Come on, if you knew she was a whore you definitely took a wrong turn a step too soon.
I mean don't you watch those slice-of-life animes? You should know what I'm talking about here :o
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konadora
Singapore66155 Posts
On July 26 2009 02:27 ilovezil wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back. That's why next time, be more honest and don't sell yourself out to someone you KNOW won't be the right one for you. Come on, if you knew she was a whore you definitely took a wrong turn a step too soon. I mean don't you watch those slice-of-life animes? You should know what I'm talking about here :o
As I said, I was too blinded and thought anyone would be okay. Didn't really know of her background until I got into a relationship with her and news started flowing in about her history.
Yeah I get what you mean. But too bad I watched all those AFTER what happened. T___T
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On July 26 2009 02:29 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 02:27 ilovezil wrote:On July 26 2009 01:26 konadora wrote:On July 26 2009 01:21 ilovezil wrote:
Kona, you're a really swell guy. You and I are very similar and I like you, I really do, not being sarcastic here.
The but here is that you're putting yourself above the whore, when from where I see it, at least the whore was honest with herself and expressed herself properly. You made a mistake, fine. That's acceptable. I just got irritated when you said you were disgusted, and you meant that in a way that put yourself over her.
Whatever though man, you'll look back on this one day and have sad/happy memories, but it'll be better soon. Not really. I found out later on that she was seeing two other guys behind my back. That's why next time, be more honest and don't sell yourself out to someone you KNOW won't be the right one for you. Come on, if you knew she was a whore you definitely took a wrong turn a step too soon. I mean don't you watch those slice-of-life animes? You should know what I'm talking about here :o As I said, I was too blinded and thought anyone would be okay. Didn't really know of her background until I got into a relationship with her and news started flowing in about her history. Yeah I get what you mean. But too bad I watched all those AFTER what happened. T___T
You're so kawaii~
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Aw, wow, this is like my first time I've read a blog so closely and so deeply that it was a good yet sad story I've read. But yea, cheer up kona-kun, it's not over yet, why it's only the beginning. Here's my "QuickStriker's relationship quickie advice Part 1" to ya:
1. There are plently of fishes out there in the sea if you know what I mean. So don't give up hope, I'm sure (especially in college and onwards), you'll find a girl more to your liking and interest out of nowhere one day like most of us than back in highschool/middle school. So don't give up!!
2. Now, after the whole drama and confession that girl decided to step up first, I think you do have the right of option to go chase after that girl and try to restart/fix the broken relationship you once had. Just like a romance story movie you see except it's always possible to happen. Remember, never say never!! (sighs... American Tales quote just came up in my mind... T_T)
Well, let's end there... normally I had 5 things to say but idk.... my foot needs some icing which is why it's only part 1....
ANYWAYZ, that story of yours on the blog further increases my desire and wanting to start up a blog of my own on TL (and also my very first blog, never done one) but.... let's see how far my laziness takes after my foot massage.... X_X
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Those Malaysian girls will steal your heart
+ Show Spoiler [Dull unnecessary advice] +Still, what a dog that you have girls making the first move  Shy ones at that. She's right, that takes a lot of courage and if you don't respond at least eventually in some equally courageous way, it will make her feel very self-conscious (regarding the letter about complacency from your first). You probably know it, but the lessons here are to value the people you do have, and to show a little more bravado.
Good luck, and thanks for sharing your story Sorry for the dull unnecessary advice, I couldn't help myself.
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konadora
Singapore66155 Posts
On July 26 2009 02:39 Chef wrote:Those Malaysian girls will steal your heart + Show Spoiler [Dull unnecessary advice] +Still, what a dog that you have girls making the first move Shy ones at that. She's right, that takes a lot of courage and if you don't respond at least eventually in some equally courageous way, it will make her feel very self-conscious (regarding the letter about complacency from your first). You probably know it, but the lessons here are to value the people you do have, and to show a little more bravado. Good luck, and thanks for sharing your story Sorry for the dull unnecessary advice, I couldn't help myself.
Thanks for the advice, it wasn't dull or unnecessary at all
And thanks QuickStriker too, hope your feet recovers soon!
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konadora
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Oh and just for clarification, she lives in Malaysia but she's Chinese
And my parents won't let me marry anyone else other than Korean.
You know what?
SCREW THEM LOL
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Oh, I felt a special bond regarding Malaysian blood girls, but you've ruined it!
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On July 26 2009 02:43 konadora wrote:
Oh and just for clarification, she lives in Malaysia but she's Chinese
And my parents won't let me marry anyone else other than Korean.
You know what?
SCREW YOU LOL
ROFLLLLLLLLLL, that's how my parents are too as well..... however on a lighter brighter note, really now, you're not marrying anyone rite now, you're like what, 18? You still have like 10 more years ahead of ya buddy and within the mist of those years, I'm sure you can date 100 other girls just fine and then just pick one to marry! :D
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Kona man, that's a sad story man.. But hey, everyone does stupid shit like that.. I've done it and fucked up any possible chance EVER of getting back with the girl i love, plus she's been going out with some guy for 2 years. Rage.
But seriously man, stop watching those types of animes.. They'll make you feel like shit because you've shared a similar experience.
Are you feeling better? The other day you were pretty emo when we all were watching that REC anime or something.
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I didn't think you liked girls
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On July 26 2009 03:06 KrAzYfoOL wrote:
I didn't think you liked girls
Watching animes that only have girls, no boys theme whatsoever, girls-only band anime, etc = me no like girls??
I beg to differ.
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Sad story indeed but good experience, thanks for sharing!
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SHE DREW YOU A HARUHI PICTURE?!?!?
DAMN shame she slipped through your net. Oh well, fishies in the ocean.
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Don't worry, everyone was a noob at some point. You will become a pro soon, I'm sure.
I had the same experience as you when I was back in middle school. Me and the girl mutually like each other but I was so shy and could never do anything. I kinda still regret that to this day like 7 years later or smth.
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we all make mistakes.
Life...goes on.
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On July 26 2009 03:09 QuickStriker wrote:Watching animes that only have girls, no boys theme whatsoever, girls-only band anime, etc = me no like girls?? I beg to differ.
It proves that kona isn't gay, but that doesn't really help him overall :p
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Please don't simply generalize to broadly to just Malaysian girls. There's different races and also different cultures according different states in Malaysia. We gotta differentiate these things if we are to increase our chances in correctly picking out the generally best out of all breeds.
Also, hmm... konadora, how long ago did your first meeting happened? I thought that it is only lately when there seems to be a trend of Malaysian female otakus being energetic, polite and nice but according to your story, it seems these creatures exist since a long time. If that is so, I can just pick any otaku female? Is there a chance of a batshit insane one? Or is would they only be pretending? Hmm.......
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aww
cute story
we all learn from our mistakes!
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ahhh such is love :/
not much you can do but keep plying the game and hope it turns out for the better
On July 26 2009 03:06 KrAzYfoOL wrote:
I didn't think you liked girls
perhaps this is why? o_O
On July 26 2009 03:37 ilovezil wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 03:09 QuickStriker wrote:On July 26 2009 03:06 KrAzYfoOL wrote:
I didn't think you liked girls Watching animes that only have girls, no boys theme whatsoever, girls-only band anime, etc = me no like girls?? I beg to differ. It proves that kona isn't gay, but that doesn't really help him overall :p
naw I wouldn't go that far
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Kinda reminds me of 5cm per second for some reason.
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Read more hot stories Moms Are Talking About.
HAHAHAHAHAHA!
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On July 26 2009 05:23 JIJIyO wrote:Sorta tl;wr(will read) though. From reading comments seems like you were with a whore. Tell that chee bye to gtfo yo lol. And don't get too hooked onto anime or you'll become this http://www.momlogic.com/2009/07/men_who_fall_in_love_with_body.php. And if worst comes to worst, you can date me Kona :3 kekekeke kaaaaaaabababababa.
I lol'd at that news. Oh god, kona-kun, DON'T EVER EVER BECOME LIKE THIS MAN! I'm serious, you'll find love soon, just believe!!~~ :D
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On July 26 2009 02:43 konadora wrote:
Oh and just for clarification, she lives in Malaysia but she's Chinese
And my parents won't let me marry anyone else other than Korean.
You know what?
SCREW THEM LOL
:D that's very good... if I were you I'd think about sending her something too... but eh yea it wouldn't be as awesome as making a drawing years back and sending it now...
tbh I don't get all those comments about anime (CJ face) guys I'd like to read examples of "real life activities" except exercising.
I mean wtf... everyone is doing something during free time yes? For me watching anime is as good as anything else... and Japan-related stuff is what get them together.
There is a chance it may be what gets them together in the future...
Kona in my opinion... you had balls to talk to a girl, get closer together and never think about school gossip. Going out with a girl from the same school can be really worrisome,
+ Show Spoiler +just too bad you was getting jealous over nothing and realizing this "nothing" had deeper meaning to it later
like it was for me, fucking emo nerdgin but this is when other people sometimes have stupid idea of coming in and "helping".
I confessed to 1 girl and had no balls to talk to her the next day.
Add that she had some physical situations with some other guy from my class and dumbfucks who tried to "help me" even tho they knew that and had no balls to talk with me when I tried to talk with them.
the best part is I have no idea what was going on in my last class of hs till this day.
and I have no contact with people from my class since then... I don't even fucking want to it would too awkward... making people who I'm going to meet while studying and summer trips organized by Student Council(?) of my university the only ones I'm going to talk with beside my family
+ Show Spoiler +and friends I met when playing SC on Europe but they live about 300km from me and each other... 1 of them is coming to my house in 2 days tho...
I guess my addiction to GF blogs is proof this shit is still deep inside me... and I think you should do something more (as in REACT TO THIS DRAWING) "real-life" so not to feel any regrets or anger towards yourself in the future.
Very nice of you sharing this with us
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My condolences to you. Still, do not be sad. Cherish the few happy moments you did share, learn from your mistakes and become a better man. Your future will be all the better for it.
To be honest, even if you were not (as you so elegantly described it) a "dick", I do not think your relationship had much of a future anyway. Long-distance relationships are very difficult to pull off, even with modern day gadgets. If you live in such disconnected environments, then people will become distant in an emotional sense as well. This can happen with relationships between people from different cities, let alone different countries.
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On July 26 2009 09:35 Tom Phoenix wrote:
My condolences to you. Still, do not be sad. Cherish the few happy moments you did share, learn from your mistakes and become a better man. Your future will be all the better for it.
To be honest, even if you were not (as you so elegantly described it) a "dick", I do not think your relationship had much of a future anyway. Long-distance relationships are very difficult to pull off, even with modern day gadgets. If you live in such disconnected environments, then people will become distant in an emotional sense as well. This can happen with relationships between people from different cities, let alone different countries.
hmm I guess doing something "real life" would be doing something for her in return without any relationship in mind...
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On July 26 2009 09:25 NukemDuke wrote:
Is this the reason why you ban everyone in your livestream account?
what?
this has nothing to do with that
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Do I seem to get the impression that everyone thinks I do nothing but watch anime in my free time? lol
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On July 26 2009 11:23 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On July 26 2009 09:25 NukemDuke wrote:
Is this the reason why you ban everyone in your livestream account? what? this has nothing to do with that
You do what?
In any case, I have little or no experience with this in general, so haven't got any advice for you. However it was a good read (although sad), and I felt like I could sort of relate with you reading the letter at the end. Touching.
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On July 26 2009 11:35 konadora wrote:
Do I seem to get the impression that everyone thinks I do nothing but watch anime in my free time? lol
That and Honey by Kara
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I only put kara because of HSY
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Awww thanks for sharing
Out of curiosity, what was the gift?
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On July 26 2009 11:55 Sigh wrote:
Awww thanks for sharing
Out of curiosity, what was the gift?
I opened it up and I saw a Haruhi drawing.
Haruhi is an anime character btw.
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Haruhi Suzumiya, in case you still don't know. Watch it, it isn't long at all, and god know how annoying endless animes are.
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I actually broke up with my gf today, but it was a much better split.
We basically decided that we didn't want to go through a long distance relationship although we still liked each other (we're going to colleges 1500 miles apart in about 2 weeks), and because of an insane schedule, today was the last day I could see her.
We went out to dinner, talked for a while in a park, kissed and "officially" broke up.
While it was sucky, at least we were both happy with how it happened. I really think that was the least painful way to do it
Anyway, good luck in the future.
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Post pics of yourself making frownie faces?
You seem a lot happier now, though I don't think your stance on Anime has changed so much.
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On July 26 2009 12:55 triangle wrote:I actually broke up with my gf today, but it was a much better split. We basically decided that we didn't want to go through a long distance relationship although we still liked each other (we're going to colleges 1500 miles apart in about 2 weeks), and because of an insane schedule, today was the last day I could see her. We went out to dinner, talked for a while in a park, kissed and "officially" broke up. While it was sucky, at least we were both happy with how it happened. I really think that was the least painful way to do it Anyway, good luck in the future.
That is definitely much better than me T___T
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Thanks for sharing such a personal and sad story Kona. I wish you good luck in your romantic endeavors!
On July 26 2009 12:52 RaiZ wrote:
Haruhi Suzumiya, in case you still don't know. Watch it, it isn't long at all, and god know how annoying endless animes are.
Was that an unintended shot at Endless Eight? lol
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I wanted to point and laugh for kiddie 9th grade drama, but then I remembered my own unsuccessful teenage love story (pretty embarrassing to think about it now tbh) and it made me shut up
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Trust me, love only gets better as you grow older, and I say this from personal experience. For one thing, you have the money to get your own place and go on proper dates, and that makes a ton of difference.
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On July 26 2009 17:20 The Storyteller wrote:
Trust me, love only gets better as you grow older, and I say this from personal experience. For one thing, you have the money to get your own place and go on proper dates, and that makes a ton of difference.
Haha yeah I guess that's a really big difference.
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We spend over 70% of our time regretting about the things in the past.
My greatest regret for you is that you weren't ripe for the time when both your paths crossed. She seemed like a really nice girl.
When love is true, it will find a way.
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Good blog, I will remember to keep my girlfriend close to me because of it. Thanks
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I had a somewhat similar experience with a girl in 9th grade that liked me but I was too immature and didn't get much of a relationship out of it, but stayed on decent friendly terms afterwards. Halfway through my first year of college (I hadn't talked to her in years) I'd gotten tired of having literally nothing in common with the girls I'd met and decided to log on aim and see where life had taken her. To make a long story short, we've been living together for a year now.
You know your situation and yourself better than we do, but I don't think I'm alone in wondering "Why not try it?"
Great blog, hard to transmit something deeply personal like that.
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On July 26 2009 18:04 Zidane wrote:
Good blog, I will remember to keep my girlfriend close to me because of it. Thanks
Glad it helped you. Please don't repeat the same mistake I made ^^;
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That was a touching read kona. Even though it had a sad ending, it's all a part off growing up I guess, and I wish I had experiences like these in high school. There's always college, though.
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iono but i think its better to focus on studies in JC than find a gf. jc life is just so damn busy. BUSY BUSY BUSY!!!
I remember having a crush every year in secondary school but only had one in JC.
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@JMave:
Haha indeed it is, JC life sucks man.
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Snet
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Sounds like the typical first school girlfriend. Being OK around each other when other people are around, but awkward as hell when you're alone. Kind of cute ending. You will move on for sure, but I can still understand your regret. It sucks when you look back and it was simple, correctable, things that could of changed everything.
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@Snet:
Exactly. A small gesture or action and a bit more mature mindset could have prevented all that, but I was just too young back then. Looking back, I regret it so much now.
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On July 26 2009 17:59 JMave wrote:
When love is true, it will find a way.
Wonderful quote sir.
A very heart-felt (and somewhat upsetting) story Konadora. I know what its like to be so down about things (love is a bitch when you are on the wrong end of things). Hell, i was single with no signs of changing until I was about 19, and then my girlfriend broke up with me 3 months into that relationship (while I was falling in love with her). So yes, we do make mistakes in relationships Konadora, but relationships are a very difficult thing. It's something that takes a lot of practice, and requires a lot of lessons. No matter what, there will be hardships in every stage of the relationship (from that really wanting to start talking to this girl phase, to the asking out, to the working out problems in the relationship [hopefully in a respectful, calm manner], and beyond). But don't give up on love Konadora. Though it easy to dwell on mistakes of the past (trust me, I do it far too much, though I'm trying to work on it), its best to take them as lessons, and to move on as a stronger person. You'll be fine (plus you are so adorable ^^)
(the anime thing made me giggle)
(oh, for the record, me and my girlfriend did get back together, and we've been together for over a year now with many more [barring extreme stupidity of me] to come [even though she will study abroad next summer T.T, but i'll get through it ]
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Haha thanks, all the best for your relationship!
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On July 26 2009 00:57 Ilikestarcraft wrote:
호성아
Like a brother from another mother...
...my sentiments exactly.
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On July 29 2009 16:46 PH wrote:Like a brother from another mother... ...my sentiments exactly.
lol
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That melted my heart a bit...Owch...
How unfortunate She seemed like a nice girl too. Ah well, you're a better man for it.
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My condolences I'd write back to her if I were you, but I haven't the slightest clue what I'd say. This calls up all my own failed relationships. At least I'll have some time to think about what's really important to me and how best to live for someone else in the near future. Good luck in the future, from what little I know you seem like a great guy.
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Wow i usually hate these stories . . but yours was an exception!
good luck!
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On July 29 2009 23:38 Nylan wrote:My condolences I'd write back to her if I were you, but I haven't the slightest clue what I'd say. This calls up all my own failed relationships. At least I'll have some time to think about what's really important to me and how best to live for someone else in the near future. Good luck in the future, from what little I know you seem like a great guy.
still no idea what to say ;;
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Would be a generic short anime script.
Hmmm I could easily picture such a story, great read.
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I can't believe no one rated this, 5/5. Really nice story, guess thats life
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love be a bitch sometimes T.T
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Reading your story and listening to Feng by Jay Chou at the same time is NOT fun at all.
Oh well, it happened. Immaturity costs us a lot of things, even our first love. I guess we only learn to stand up once we fall. Don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, that's why there is an eraser on every pencil.
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sad story dude. if you really feel empty about her and still got feelings for her too then chase her back. just say your apologies for being such an idiot as you said and tell her what you really feel. it`s a very simple way but it makes wonders. theres nothing like sincere thoughts man
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and if you really want her back then there`s no reason to hold back. and i think she still cares about you a lot. idk, i just have this feeling that she still does
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So I'd never take chances like that.
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On July 29 2009 23:38 Nylan wrote:My condolences I'd write back to her if I were you, but I haven't the slightest clue what I'd say. .
i used to think that way when I call my friends in China that I havn't seen for long time.
Turns out as soon as they pick up the phone, there is just so much so much TO say
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this is actually some of the hard parts of life we all have to get through to be more successful later on :p
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