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On January 31 2016 06:55 y0su wrote:
Sounds like there's little reason to hope for you to retire and write more :D
I fully have to agree with Glowsphere though.
You know I think only TL appreciates my writing style because it's a bit too conversational/stream of consciousness - a product of typing really quickly in games and dealing with complex game situations mixed in with retarded daily happenings keke.
I think if I can take some time off, I'll get a full health check, and try to live a more routine healthy boring lifestyle watching my boys grow up ^^ but I get scared to think that in 8 years I'll be 50 lol. But Iike I said, writing, makes me feel timeliness.
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On January 31 2016 07:02 Etherone wrote:
I'm actually sad that are choosing to stop posting regarding your business journey.
To me it has always felt, even when you were being cryptic, that it was very true to you.
If this is or isn't the last business journey post you make I would like to thank you very much for sharing them over the years, this is one of the few things that has kept me connected to TL.
I have enjoyed reading your mindset change over the years, your escapades, and your ventures especially those that seemed to be interestingly timed.
Thank you, you have added a lot of value to my life.
Thank you sincerely, I mean I write this, but you know I mean it. ^^
Just having you comment like that, well you know, it has added a lot of value to my life as well,
to be recognized in a community I take pride in,
but to know that yes my writing had some significance.
thank you as well my friend. ^^
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On February 01 2016 08:38 Saechiis wrote:
I enjoy your writing, I'm curious what you'd blog about if not about your curent conquests.
I have no idea ^^ I was thinking of just making an ask me anything thread moving forward,
and make this epic thread of a repository of one man's answer to every gamer life question.
I have no idea if I have the time to actually respond properly, as even responding to this thread, was something I needed to deliberately take time on my schedule to do, but maybe I'll slip in some general updates in life, or, really get into some crazy tirades on my thoughts on certain life subjects that will be sure to filled with stories of nuttiness ^^
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On February 01 2016 14:18 Liquid`Zephyr wrote:
always fun to hear how its going for you.
nice blog and good luck with everything
Thanks, it's always fun to update when I have something actually interesting to write keke ^^
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On February 01 2016 16:51 c3rberUs wrote:
Can you go over to Manila again to figure out this retard?
In all seriousness, I'm glad you still blog here. I haven't read every blogpost but the ones that I have, (still halfway through this one) I enjoyed reading.
Hehe, thanks, I hope you enjoy them, even the ones rated 2 stars lol. I don't about the ratings, but I have found them to be accurate in the quality of the posts. Not that I'm always writing for quality, but it is blog so I should try right? ^^
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On February 01 2016 23:31 Pandemona wrote:Wow i nearly missed this post due to the new sidebar i can't see blogs all to well fml. Glad i caught this, glad you posted. I for one will miss hearing your business adventures. I still have aims and hopes you will release some memoirs or just fuck it and write a full biography  But i would just take a few short stories if you ever had time when you are greyer and older! Would you wish you did it the other way round right now? Started being the entrepreneur you are now 20 years ago? Then moving off into a high paid executive job after being headhunted to wind down too? I don't know why but stopping the business blogs seems to be you saying you are done chasing big dreams? I don't know just what i get from it i might be very wrong. You have been in the business sector for 30 years now right? 6 years of that on your own. Those 6 years were harder than the previous 20 i would imagine? Oh well im rambling as it's hard to put into words in so few characters as i don't like wasting your time haha! Just keep being Mighty Atom thats all we care about 
You know I watched the last 'steve jobs' movie, the one written by sorkin, and I thought, man, if I had to write a biography or go through the stories, 1. my wife would divorce me, 2. my kids would disown me, 3. my enemies would realize how much I fucked them, 4. my other enemies would realize that there is still I high percentage I will extract some level of ice cold revenge and 5 I'd probably never be able to work in 3 industries I'm a part of.
But, no, I'm happy with the path I took, mainly because I think for most entrepreneurs, they don't have a choice but to be an entrepreneur, that maybe they didn't go to the best school or had some learning disability or had a talent for trading and business and quick numbers at a young age. Me, if I didn't have what I had as an executive, I would have had nothing because I really do not have any entrepreneurial talent - its not to say I can't be an entrepreneur, but these are things I've figured out, not really born with and this is why I think a lot of successful and famous entrepreneurs say that this can't be taught, and while I've 'figured' out a lot of it, most of what I know is just basic instinct and knowledge to a 'real entrepreneur'.
I think why this is the last business post is that, I think I have the big dreams now finally in front of me, but that also, I see the end of my journey now. I never thought I would have limitations, but know I do, and it was depressing for some time - a couple of months-, but in another way, the limitation I saw made me realize that where I am strong, I am extremely strong, so it was also a re-awakening for me to refocus on my real strengths instead of chasing for what I felt was the path for the most potential and upside.
Can I share this;
I always was never afraid of competition.
Because in competition - I wanted to find who was better than me,
so I could learn from them,
and then take from them,
and be better than them.
And for the most part, you get to a point where you've out run all your peers, and then its a competition on how far can you go, to learn new areas, new industries, new roles and the to dominate in those fields too.
There is the limitation of time, but really, its not a limitation, because I was driven by want my passions and interests are, I don't care about lions and tigers, and really in the field of business, I don't care about equity trading either, -I've only bought stocks twice in my life- but I know about fund raising, valuations, corporate finance- but the thing I really wanted to learn was to have my own company that I started.
In the course of this I have learned a lot, and of course, if this was small business, I think I would have been extremely successful thus far, but I have always set my sights on making a billion dollar business, and because of that, I realized, no way, I'm not that guy, I won't ever be that guy. Not as the guy who does it from scratch. And it was my objective, my ambition, my ultimate goal, and I realized a few months ago, it will never be.
But that doesn't mean that I can't be part of making a billion dollar company, or make it from 200m to 1b, and so I've had to accept that - as ridiculous as it sounds to many of you- but at a certain point in business, it's just numbers.
If I told you that it's far easier to raise 10M usd then 1m usd, you'd be why?
Because the paper work and research will be about the same time frame and if you raise 10M, it will be from a fund that has 200M or even 1B, but if you raise 1M, it will likely be from high net wealth individuals who will buy in for 50k to 250k and to find someone to put up the total 1M would be stretch -because indivdiual investors, don't think that way as professional investors.
But taking a company from zero to one, is simply a talent or skill I do not have, but taking it 1 to a billion. I may not be as special as I want to be, but if I am still the best at what I do, then I can live with that. ^^
I've been in the business sector for only 17 years, and now coming on to my 6th year on my own come Feb. Before then I was a theologian, if you can believe that. ^^
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On February 02 2016 00:22 QuanticHawk wrote:
I think it's misleading to label your writing as being just about business. it's much more about self awareness, analysis, and improvement, and those are things that can be applied to anything in life. The topics you'd often right about just tended to focus on business. The world would be a much better place if everyone was willing to be honest with themselves and work towards change as you do. Your blogs are great, apologize for nothing.
Thank you. Appreciate your comments greatly. Thank you. ^^
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On February 02 2016 01:35 DarkNetHunter wrote:
As someone who has followed your blogs for years (albeit dif acc back then) I really appreciate the time and thought you put into them.
Obviously it became a necessity to take out some of the details as you stated, but I don't think that makes many of your blogs too vague to be of any use.
The other question is of course if you can talk about past business interactions that no longer impacts any current stuff and talk about your thought process on different items there or if you're worried it'll come back to bite you again.
Remember DotA2 and CoH have nothing on playing some BGH in SCBW :d
Hope to see more blogs, purely for the thought perspective they offer. Also just remember some of your hilarious and awesome ones on more general subjects like how to clean a shirt in a hotel emergency or the business travel one inspired by up in the air.
Keep up the writing, TL still has enough old peeps left who appreciate you and new people who can pick up your great blog!
You know, reading back on these blog posts does actually make me remember when and where I wrote them, the mind set etc. I think for the few guys that do know me in person and what I do, they know it hasn't been easy for me these last 6 years, but you know it's my hope that if I do make it, that I would do something solely in gaming again, and then I'd do it publicly.
And yes, nothing, nothing compares to BGH in SCBW, unless its Ice Hunters by Girl Guild keke.
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On February 03 2016 00:16 MightyAtom wrote:Show nested quote +On February 01 2016 23:31 Pandemona wrote:Wow i nearly missed this post due to the new sidebar i can't see blogs all to well fml. Glad i caught this, glad you posted. I for one will miss hearing your business adventures. I still have aims and hopes you will release some memoirs or just fuck it and write a full biography But i would just take a few short stories if you ever had time when you are greyer and older! Would you wish you did it the other way round right now? Started being the entrepreneur you are now 20 years ago? Then moving off into a high paid executive job after being headhunted to wind down too? I don't know why but stopping the business blogs seems to be you saying you are done chasing big dreams? I don't know just what i get from it i might be very wrong. You have been in the business sector for 30 years now right? 6 years of that on your own. Those 6 years were harder than the previous 20 i would imagine? Oh well im rambling as it's hard to put into words in so few characters as i don't like wasting your time haha! Just keep being Mighty Atom thats all we care about You know I watched the last 'steve jobs' movie, the one written by sorkin, and I thought, man, if I had to write a biography or go through the stories, 1. my wife would divorce me, 2. my kids would disown me, 3. my enemies would realize how much I fucked them, 4. my other enemies would realize that there is still I high percentage I will extract some level of ice cold revenge and 5 I'd probably never be able to work in 3 industries I'm a part of. But, no, I'm happy with the path I took, mainly because I think for most entrepreneurs, they don't have a choice but to be an entrepreneur, that maybe they didn't go to the best school or had some learning disability or had a talent for trading and business and quick numbers at a young age. Me, if I didn't have what I had as an executive, I would have had nothing because I really do not have any entrepreneurial talent - its not to say I can't be an entrepreneur, but these are things I've figured out, not really born with and this is why I think a lot of successful and famous entrepreneurs say that this can't be taught, and while I've 'figured' out a lot of it, most of what I know is just basic instinct and knowledge to a 'real entrepreneur'. I think why this is the last business post is that, I think I have the big dreams now finally in front of me, but that also, I see the end of my journey now. I never thought I would have limitations, but know I do, and it was depressing for some time - a couple of months-, but in another way, the limitation I saw made me realize that where I am strong, I am extremely strong, so it was also a re-awakening for me to refocus on my real strengths instead of chasing for what I felt was the path for the most potential and upside. Can I share this; I always was never afraid of competition. Because in competition - I wanted to find who was better than me, so I could learn from them, and then take from them, and be better than them. And for the most part, you get to a point where you've out run all your peers, and then its a competition on how far can you go, to learn new areas, new industries, new roles and the to dominate in those fields too. There is the limitation of time, but really, its not a limitation, because I was driven by want my passions and interests are, I don't care about lions and tigers, and really in the field of business, I don't care about equity trading either, -I've only bought stocks twice in my life- but I know about fund raising, valuations, corporate finance- but the thing I really wanted to learn was to have my own company that I started. In the course of this I have learned a lot, and of course, if this was small business, I think I would have been extremely successful thus far, but I have always set my sights on making a billion dollar business, and because of that, I realized, no way, I'm not that guy, I won't ever be that guy. Not as the guy who does it from scratch. And it was my objective, my ambition, my ultimate goal, and I realized a few months ago, it will never be. But that doesn't mean that I can't be part of making a billion dollar company, or make it from 200m to 1b, and so I've had to accept that - as ridiculous as it sounds to many of you- but at a certain point in business, it's just numbers. If I told you that it's far easier to raise 10M usd then 1m usd, you'd be why? Because the paper work and research will be about the same time frame and if you raise 10M, it will be from a fund that has 200M or even 1B, but if you raise 1M, it will likely be from high net wealth individuals who will buy in for 50k to 250k and to find someone to put up the total 1M would be stretch -because indivdiual investors, don't think that way as professional investors. But taking a company from zero to one, is simply a talent or skill I do not have, but taking it 1 to a billion. I may not be as special as I want to be, but if I am still the best at what I do, then I can live with that. ^^ I've been in the business sector for only 17 years, and now coming on to my 6th year on my own come Feb. Before then I was a theologian, if you can believe that. ^^
THAT BOMB SHELL :o
Wow haha.
Thanks for the reply, i appreciate your time and your wise words Atom Hyung! Keep on fighting!!!
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On February 02 2016 23:43 MightyAtom wrote:Show nested quote +On January 31 2016 06:55 y0su wrote:
Sounds like there's little reason to hope for you to retire and write more :D
I fully have to agree with Glowsphere though.
You know I think only TL appreciates my writing style because it's a bit too conversational/stream of consciousness - a product of typing really quickly in games and dealing with complex game situations mixed in with retarded daily happenings keke. I think if I can take some time off, I'll get a full health check, and try to live a more routine healthy boring lifestyle watching my boys grow up ^^ but I get scared to think that in 8 years I'll be 50 lol. But Iike I said, writing, makes me feel timeliness.
I find the effect to have a very honest, straight forward tone. Never felt like you were trying to impress, brag or belittle anyone else. Doesn't hurt that the stories are interesting :D
Any advice for someone that became a father 10 days ago? (boy)
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Thank you for all the amazing pieces you've written.
I just started to work in my own field, and your pieces make me motivated to try to become the best in my field, however it also makes me a little bit intimidated thinking of how many incredable people that are out there, whom I probably never will be able to stand in shadows of.
Atom FIGHTING!
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On February 03 2016 05:46 y0su wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2016 23:43 MightyAtom wrote:On January 31 2016 06:55 y0su wrote:
Sounds like there's little reason to hope for you to retire and write more :D
I fully have to agree with Glowsphere though.
You know I think only TL appreciates my writing style because it's a bit too conversational/stream of consciousness - a product of typing really quickly in games and dealing with complex game situations mixed in with retarded daily happenings keke. I think if I can take some time off, I'll get a full health check, and try to live a more routine healthy boring lifestyle watching my boys grow up ^^ but I get scared to think that in 8 years I'll be 50 lol. But Iike I said, writing, makes me feel timeliness. I find the effect to have a very honest, straight forward tone. Never felt like you were trying to impress, brag or belittle anyone else. Doesn't hurt that the stories are interesting :D
I agree with this. I find the very frank tone actually appealing and easy to read.
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On February 03 2016 05:46 y0su wrote:Show nested quote +On February 02 2016 23:43 MightyAtom wrote:On January 31 2016 06:55 y0su wrote:
Sounds like there's little reason to hope for you to retire and write more :D
I fully have to agree with Glowsphere though.
You know I think only TL appreciates my writing style because it's a bit too conversational/stream of consciousness - a product of typing really quickly in games and dealing with complex game situations mixed in with retarded daily happenings keke. I think if I can take some time off, I'll get a full health check, and try to live a more routine healthy boring lifestyle watching my boys grow up ^^ but I get scared to think that in 8 years I'll be 50 lol. But Iike I said, writing, makes me feel timeliness. I find the effect to have a very honest, straight forward tone. Never felt like you were trying to impress, brag or belittle anyone else. Doesn't hurt that the stories are interesting :D Any advice for someone that became a father 10 days ago? (boy)
First off congrats!!! I have 2 boys myself keke.
Just remember that when we're born, we aren't born with love, but we know when love comes, but it is something we learn from receiving. So whatever happens, just let him know that you love him first, and that doesn't mean a love without conditions, but a love that has a mission to see him grow up to be a good man - and if you can just love him like that, you'll have done the most anyone can ask a father to do. ^^ It's working for me so far.
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On February 03 2016 06:36 sabas123 wrote:
Thank you for all the amazing pieces you've written.
I just started to work in my own field, and your pieces make me motivated to try to become the best in my field, however it also makes me a little bit intimidated thinking of how many incredable people that are out there, whom I probably never will be able to stand in shadows of.
Atom FIGHTING!
That's awesome, and it's a wonderful thing to be surrounded by those better than you, just take it step by step and never be intimidated, look at it as an opportunity to learn from the best to over take them and be the best. The greatest ninjas always come out of the shadows ^^
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On February 03 2016 20:45 AbouSV wrote:Show nested quote +On February 03 2016 05:46 y0su wrote:On February 02 2016 23:43 MightyAtom wrote:On January 31 2016 06:55 y0su wrote:
Sounds like there's little reason to hope for you to retire and write more :D
I fully have to agree with Glowsphere though.
You know I think only TL appreciates my writing style because it's a bit too conversational/stream of consciousness - a product of typing really quickly in games and dealing with complex game situations mixed in with retarded daily happenings keke. I think if I can take some time off, I'll get a full health check, and try to live a more routine healthy boring lifestyle watching my boys grow up ^^ but I get scared to think that in 8 years I'll be 50 lol. But Iike I said, writing, makes me feel timeliness. I find the effect to have a very honest, straight forward tone. Never felt like you were trying to impress, brag or belittle anyone else. Doesn't hurt that the stories are interesting :D I agree with this. I find the very frank tone actually appealing and easy to read.
Thanks keke, we all bullshit ourselves, but insofar as I'm human and want to make things entertaining and lessen the embarrassment and oversell my achievements, I think authenticity is what ultimately gives the most peace for oneself. That's why even when I'm plus 40, I still write keke. ^^
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Question for you, how would you approach a big change in life ? Say I have a good situation, financially. But I don't feel intellectually challenged, and I would sacrifice this good situation for something more challenging. And I have a project in mind ; would you have any tips for preparing the transition ? (if it's too vague for you, forget it ^^)
RANT ---
I tend to think that spoiled children are doomed. It's not about the holidays or the christmas/birthday gifts or granma's check or anything. I believe it's a pure consequence of, "you ask you get". When I was a child, I knew I couldn't ask about even a 10c candy, because I may face a "no" (and I usually would). This makes simply for a different personnality growing up, and although I became spoiled myself for years later on, this "I can't have that for free" feeling still pops up every once in a while, and is actually a blessing ; I wish I had it more.
I can tell the difference between myself and my 11 year younger step brother ; he grew up with a dad and way more money than I did until I was 8 with only my mom, and that was enough to make him a dumbass. He is like your James, well groomed, fit, healthy, and overall a nice kid, but he's a dumbass with the only ambition to become a social assistant for a minimum wage and a half. That is perfectly fine, considering that all I need to know is, if I ever need someone to take over on some of my business (which shouldn't happen since I'm not an entrepreneur), I can't count on him. Your Joe needs to realize that and find someone else, like some sort of protegee or something. Unless you are confident you can turn things around, which you may be, I don't have the knowledge that it's impossible, mostly it's a gut feeling...
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On February 03 2016 00:16 MightyAtom wrote:Show nested quote +On February 01 2016 23:31 Pandemona wrote:Wow i nearly missed this post due to the new sidebar i can't see blogs all to well fml. Glad i caught this, glad you posted. I for one will miss hearing your business adventures. I still have aims and hopes you will release some memoirs or just fuck it and write a full biography But i would just take a few short stories if you ever had time when you are greyer and older! Would you wish you did it the other way round right now? Started being the entrepreneur you are now 20 years ago? Then moving off into a high paid executive job after being headhunted to wind down too? I don't know why but stopping the business blogs seems to be you saying you are done chasing big dreams? I don't know just what i get from it i might be very wrong. You have been in the business sector for 30 years now right? 6 years of that on your own. Those 6 years were harder than the previous 20 i would imagine? Oh well im rambling as it's hard to put into words in so few characters as i don't like wasting your time haha! Just keep being Mighty Atom thats all we care about If I told you that it's far easier to raise 10M usd then 1m usd, you'd be why? Because the paper work and research will be about the same time frame and if you raise 10M, it will be from a fund that has 200M or even 1B, but if you raise 1M, it will likely be from high net wealth individuals who will buy in for 50k to 250k and to find someone to put up the total 1M would be stretch -because indivdiual investors, don't think that way as professional investors.
Isn't it the same difficulty then, because if you raise 10M you have raised 1M as well :o.
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On February 07 2016 21:05 wl4d wrote:
Question for you, how would you approach a big change in life ? Say I have a good situation, financially. But I don't feel intellectually challenged, and I would sacrifice this good situation for something more challenging. And I have a project in mind ; would you have any tips for preparing the transition ? (if it's too vague for you, forget it ^^)
RANT ---
I tend to think that spoiled children are doomed. It's not about the holidays or the christmas/birthday gifts or granma's check or anything. I believe it's a pure consequence of, "you ask you get". When I was a child, I knew I couldn't ask about even a 10c candy, because I may face a "no" (and I usually would). This makes simply for a different personnality growing up, and although I became spoiled myself for years later on, this "I can't have that for free" feeling still pops up every once in a while, and is actually a blessing ; I wish I had it more.
I can tell the difference between myself and my 11 year younger step brother ; he grew up with a dad and way more money than I did until I was 8 with only my mom, and that was enough to make him a dumbass. He is like your James, well groomed, fit, healthy, and overall a nice kid, but he's a dumbass with the only ambition to become a social assistant for a minimum wage and a half. That is perfectly fine, considering that all I need to know is, if I ever need someone to take over on some of my business (which shouldn't happen since I'm not an entrepreneur), I can't count on him. Your Joe needs to realize that and find someone else, like some sort of protegee or something. Unless you are confident you can turn things around, which you may be, I don't have the knowledge that it's impossible, mostly it's a gut feeling...
If you're young, hungry and ambitious, don't think further about it, do it.
Live without regrets, you only have one life.
We get caught up in what we think how live should be lived 'appropriately.'
But who gives a shit about appropriately, I'd rather have lived fully.
If you have a number of responsibilities and you dont' feel the burning drive to make a change and really put you're all into it. It may not be a great decision for you because the stress of the responsibilities and the lack of commitment on your part will make the new experience a regretful one as you constantly compare.
But if you have the right mind set, then every set back and new challenge, will be a learning experience and while it may be shitty for a lot of it, you will feel that you are progressing.
Even at my age, I still look for validation whether or not I'm on the right track or good enough, but I seek that validation not from everyone, but just those that I think really get it, and when others don't get it, that is also validation. There is a reason why it is the path less traveled.
As far as James goes, being spoiled as a lot to do with with it, but there are different levels of being spoiled: materially spoiled is the obvious one, but if those kids are also left to the same standards and being materially spoiled, then I don't think it ever ends well, but if they are also challenged to be the best of the best, then being materially spoiled does become somewhat superficial as the child understands that there is more to life than just toys and is able to prioritize.
But to your first point,
if you're gonna go for it,
just get it done.
and do it,
machine mode.
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On February 07 2016 21:44 Poopi wrote:Show nested quote +On February 03 2016 00:16 MightyAtom wrote:On February 01 2016 23:31 Pandemona wrote:Wow i nearly missed this post due to the new sidebar i can't see blogs all to well fml. Glad i caught this, glad you posted. I for one will miss hearing your business adventures. I still have aims and hopes you will release some memoirs or just fuck it and write a full biography But i would just take a few short stories if you ever had time when you are greyer and older! Would you wish you did it the other way round right now? Started being the entrepreneur you are now 20 years ago? Then moving off into a high paid executive job after being headhunted to wind down too? I don't know why but stopping the business blogs seems to be you saying you are done chasing big dreams? I don't know just what i get from it i might be very wrong. You have been in the business sector for 30 years now right? 6 years of that on your own. Those 6 years were harder than the previous 20 i would imagine? Oh well im rambling as it's hard to put into words in so few characters as i don't like wasting your time haha! Just keep being Mighty Atom thats all we care about If I told you that it's far easier to raise 10M usd then 1m usd, you'd be why? Because the paper work and research will be about the same time frame and if you raise 10M, it will be from a fund that has 200M or even 1B, but if you raise 1M, it will likely be from high net wealth individuals who will buy in for 50k to 250k and to find someone to put up the total 1M would be stretch -because indivdiual investors, don't think that way as professional investors. Isn't it the same difficulty then, because if you raise 10M you have raised 1M as well :o.
1. a 10M project has a different rate of return than a 1M project
2. if you raised 10M for a 1M project, you would be on the hook for those returns
3. at 10M you could raise from 1-3 sources, at 1M you could end up raising for 10-15 sources
4. usually a 10m project has a business entity which is more established, while a 1M doesn't -totally depends on the industry, but assuming same industry, so it is usually a much easier sell.
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On February 07 2016 23:49 MightyAtom wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2016 21:05 wl4d wrote:
Question for you, how would you approach a big change in life ? Say I have a good situation, financially. But I don't feel intellectually challenged, and I would sacrifice this good situation for something more challenging. And I have a project in mind ; would you have any tips for preparing the transition ? (if it's too vague for you, forget it ^^)
RANT ---
I tend to think that spoiled children are doomed. It's not about the holidays or the christmas/birthday gifts or granma's check or anything. I believe it's a pure consequence of, "you ask you get". When I was a child, I knew I couldn't ask about even a 10c candy, because I may face a "no" (and I usually would). This makes simply for a different personnality growing up, and although I became spoiled myself for years later on, this "I can't have that for free" feeling still pops up every once in a while, and is actually a blessing ; I wish I had it more.
I can tell the difference between myself and my 11 year younger step brother ; he grew up with a dad and way more money than I did until I was 8 with only my mom, and that was enough to make him a dumbass. He is like your James, well groomed, fit, healthy, and overall a nice kid, but he's a dumbass with the only ambition to become a social assistant for a minimum wage and a half. That is perfectly fine, considering that all I need to know is, if I ever need someone to take over on some of my business (which shouldn't happen since I'm not an entrepreneur), I can't count on him. Your Joe needs to realize that and find someone else, like some sort of protegee or something. Unless you are confident you can turn things around, which you may be, I don't have the knowledge that it's impossible, mostly it's a gut feeling...
If you're young, hungry and ambitious, don't think further about it, do it. Live without regrets, you only have one life. We get caught up in what we think how live should be lived 'appropriately.' But who gives a shit about appropriately, I'd rather have lived fully. If you have a number of responsibilities and you dont' feel the burning drive to make a change and really put you're all into it. It may not be a great decision for you because the stress of the responsibilities and the lack of commitment on your part will make the new experience a regretful one as you constantly compare. But if you have the right mind set, then every set back and new challenge, will be a learning experience and while it may be shitty for a lot of it, you will feel that you are progressing. Even at my age, I still look for validation whether or not I'm on the right track or good enough, but I seek that validation not from everyone, but just those that I think really get it, and when others don't get it, that is also validation. There is a reason why it is the path less traveled. As far as James goes, being spoiled as a lot to do with with it, but there are different levels of being spoiled: materially spoiled is the obvious one, but if those kids are also left to the same standards and being materially spoiled, then I don't think it ever ends well, but if they are also challenged to be the best of the best, then being materially spoiled does become somewhat superficial as the child understands that there is more to life than just toys and is able to prioritize. But to your first point, if you're gonna go for it, just get it done. and do it, machine mode. ^^
Great, thanks. I totally agree on the part of who is going to be the "judge". From my readings and understandings, it is clear that only a few, meaning, the best of a field, (and providing their intent is good, so mainly one's peers), can give one the appropriate judgement.
Ok, so I need to just get things done, I guess... ^^
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