EPTjust don't give up!
How I destroyed my own life by tryin to b progamer - Page 3
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CaucasianAsian
Korea (South)11576 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States44185 Posts
On September 08 2014 03:35 Poo wrote: Tittle seems a little over-dramatic. You're just 26 years old; you have a long road ahead of you. Calling everything you've done to be a waste is overdoing it. Graduating and having a college degree is great - it's a step in the right direction. Think positively. I've had friends who were in the same boat as him, and some of them had complete meltdowns. It appears that Jumperer is lacking direction, doesn't know how or where to focus his attention, and just feels like he's been wasting his family's time and money and potential by just going through the motions of getting an easy (for him) degree and playing games instead of doing something more constructive (long-term). Fortunately, he recognized that he's in an unfortunate situation. Now he just needs the motivation to make an effort to get out of it. He's definitely young enough that his life isn't over, or that all hope is lost. He just needs to wake up and get his shit together. That's easier said than done, so I think finding mature friends that already have their shit together would be a great way to get personal feedback and assistance. Even better would be if those friends had jobs that interested him, so he could learn a bit about them and maybe get a position working. Jumperer, get out there and network, and also find something you're passionate about (regardless of whether or not it's related to psychology). Even if you don't land a psych-specific job, a psych degree should still help you with your social skills and understanding the minds of people/ groups of people. Psych was one of my minors, and it's helped me communicate and collaborate with different groups of people. On September 08 2014 00:13 Jealous wrote: Listen to this man. I met DPB in real life and he is someone to be respected and looked up to. He is around your (and my) age and is probably one of the busiest and most driven people I ever met. Haha thanks ^^ | ||
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Integra
Sweden5626 Posts
Regarding work, you should be able to get some well payed jobs considering your education, maybe open up your own practice at some point? Problem is the economy but its getting better and the unemployment rate of academics is predicted to drastically go down within the next couple of years. Personally my top 3 university educations that are worth investing in are IT/systems development, Engineering and Psychology, and I can't really see how your investment has been a waste, unless you don't try to profit from it by looking for jobs and so forth, once the economy has gotten more stable. | ||
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Enki
United States2548 Posts
Like others have said you are still young, and as bad as you feel about your situation there are tons people who are far worse off. It's hard to stay positive but I think it's a must right now. The worst thing to do is constantly think about how bad things are and let it consume you. On September 08 2014 04:15 Integra wrote: It sounds more like the recent downfall of the economy "destroyed" your life and not Esports. It fucked over a lot of young people. My town lost many businesses during the recession and never really recovered from it. Much of the country is the same way, it's just harder these days. Keep your chin up man. | ||
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PassionFruit
294 Posts
I work pretty heavily in the criminal justice system, so my view of "destroyed my life" tends to skew very heavily to those who have jumped into an endless chasm of despair. Drug abuse, criminal convictions, etc... You're young, healthy, and have a college education. You've also identified your problem and want to change. You're well above ground zero. I've seen people below ground zero turn their lives around for the better. It's not easy, and it takes a lot of hard work and grit. But it can be done. And it's all up to you. I'm not going to give you specific advice on what you should do because...well because it's fucking dumb to do so. Plus you're not even asking for advice in your blog, so I won't be an asshat and give you unsolicited advice. I don't know anything about you, where you're from, what you want to do, what you can do, etc... Just be methodical, driven, and smart in your approach and you'll be above 90% of your competition that just goes with the flow or does what is traditionally accepted. But like I said before, it's all up to you. Sink or swim, the only thing you can rely upon is yourself. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32049 Posts
On September 08 2014 01:46 Ctone23 wrote: That's not true. Some professions call for specific degrees, and of course major corporations require impeccable credentials, but a huge chunk of people out there have jobs that have literally no correlation to the degree they have. It really comes down to effort, networking, even getting lucky. I've seen it time and time again. that's what i mean by getting lucky. by his own admission he has done zero networking | ||
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REDBLUEGREEN
Germany1903 Posts
It makes no sense. To fail at something you first need to have a set goal. It makes no sense to set the goal only afterwards and judge your performance then. When you were younger you didn't care about a good job or 100k income. You can't call yourself a failure and pathetic when you had no motivation and in fact not even this goal in the past. Now you have this goal. Good. You can start now to achieve it but it is counterproductive and even illogical to blame your past self for this situation(which btw is still very good compared to the majority of humanity). | ||
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hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
Every time they mention that they would like to do something, they are met with hostility from parents / family / friends, people who want to keep them in the place of failure so that they don't feel bad about their OWN failure to reach whatever goal they wanted to achieve. For example, say you wanted to be a writer, and you told your mom one day that you wanted to write science fiction books for a living. If she said something like "that's not you," or "that's a bullshit career" etc, anything negative without really giving reasons for it and just abusing you and bullying you, then this could be a source of the problem with motivation. Only if this happens continually and almost every time, does this apply. In this situation, the person with dreams eventually has enough of it and just closes up, their mind shuts off, no internal monologue, etc because "to think is to be abused; to express a preference is to be savagely attacked." So, it becomes easier for the person to defeat himself before opening his mouth, and he forgets that he even HAS thoughts, and it becomes debilitating in this way. Then, when the person wants to achieve a goal, he will start toward that direction, and then feel a great lack of motivation towards achievement - this lack of motivation has been found to be linked to past abuse and attacking of preferences when that person mentioned his goals to others. It's like the saying when you blow out birthday candles. Don't tell anybody your wish, because then it won't come true! | ||
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hellokitty[hk]
United States1309 Posts
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L1ghtning
Sweden353 Posts
The future is only terrifying for those who are not living in the present. What I mean with that is that if you have a clear purpose and direction in life, and you're happy with where that will lead you, that you will feel content, even if your current life situation is miserable. I'm saying this, because I don't want you to focus on the rough path ahead of you and give up, either by stop trying or taking your own life. You may be a long way from accomplishing something that you would be proud of, but accomplishments doesn't make you happy, it's the journey there that does. It's only through the pursuit of happiness that we can be happy. Happiness is not something that you achieve as the fruit of your labour. Sure, you can get temporary relief when accomplishing something, but it's only temporary. Does it make an actor happy to win an Oscar? Only temporarily, and if he was depressed to begin with, it will only make him more depressed. Happiness can't be achieved, it's something you feel when you're working towards your goals. So, don't get too caught up in your thoughts about how hard it would be to turn your life around. Think really hard and figure out something worthwhile to focus on, and then do it. And if you can't figure it out now, settle for a while on something that is atleast somewhat productive, but bearable, and engage with other ppl to try and spark an interest. What you need is motivation. It is probably a good idea to tell your family about the things that you just shared here. If they know about your gaming dreams, it can help them understand you more, and they can help you in the right direction. At the very least I hope you have a real life friend to turn to. | ||
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2primenumbers
United States144 Posts
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Redrot
United States446 Posts
edit: oh shit its my birthday | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
About your hands, your muscles are prolly just chronically tight from lack of stretching trough the years. A good chiro should be able to loosen the muscles trough massage and re allign the joints completely if they got misplaced. Do NOT go to a doctor, find a chiro. Hands have small muscles and tendons so they can be completely fixed trough external manipulation by someone competent. Also, wathever you do, lift weights and read books. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States44185 Posts
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Liquid`Jinro
Sweden33719 Posts
There's people who get out of a warzone at that age and still manage to lead a productive life after it. (Yeah I've heard this is the kind of shit you shouldn't tell someone who's depressed but, I personally the times I've felt really down and shitty about where I was at in life, thinking about how people have overcome worse situations than mine tended to help me realize I can do something) And you have a degree, there's no possible way you are as big of a fuck up as you think if you managed to get that. Just swallow your pride and knuckle down and get to work. Your life is nowhere near as fucked as you think it is... Someone close to me missed out on way more of their life b/c of various circumstances (illness, some school problems etc) and is only a couple of years younger than you and starting university now basically. I recognize some of what you've said here, and I'm not trying to trivialize your feelings but man you've done better for yourself than you think and so what if you made mistakes, all you can do is try to do right by yourself and your family from this day on. | ||
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Stratos
Czech Republic6104 Posts
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iPlaY.NettleS
Australia4329 Posts
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SagaZ
France3460 Posts
You know that right now you look back 3 years in the past and think "wow, if only I woke up back then, it would be so much better right now" well if you don't change anything, in 3 years you will be thinking the same. The past always looks a lot easier than the present, but it's the same. Your life is obviously not in a good spot, but it can change, you can make it change. | ||
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Djzapz
Canada10681 Posts
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ninazerg
United States7291 Posts
On September 08 2014 12:45 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbKkkZNwmN4 2 more: + Show Spoiler + What I saw at first: ![[image loading]](http://i.imgur.com/0tHPf4s.png) What I thought at first: "Stop Making Excuses Ni..." -> "Stop Making Excuses Nigga" ... How did I become such a racismist?  | ||
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