EPTOn February 04 2014 04:16 Chairman Ray wrote:
Does a real man crumple or fold?
Does a real man crumple or fold?
Either or, but they always get the fuck back up, even if takes a while.
Ask me anything about being a Man, Korean Style:II - Page 2
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
Either or, but they always get the fuck back up, even if takes a while. | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 04 2014 05:28 NeuroGnar wrote: while you've said what you think makes a man, what do you think makes a woman? I'm not sure, the only thing I'm sure about that is that a woman isn't a man and a woman is a woman. I can't say what makes a woman a woman because I'm a woman and in general, Korean women are usually much better than Korean men in terms of work ethic and responsibility, but what I love about Korean women is that they also know that men are men and women are women. So they do their thing and we do our thing. But if was to say less directly about it: I think women can be good if they have a good father figure. I think if you're blessed with a daughter, you must put the time in to give your daughter attention, more so than the boys. A bad woman will destroy a good man. A good woman will redeem a bad man. And visa versa; a good man cannot make a bad woman good and will go nuts trying; and a bad man may hurt a good woman, but ultimately makes himself just even worse. Other than those the above, I married a woman who puts family first, even before me, and who loves our children beyond anything and never compromises on her standards of how we should live, no matter how difficult it is for me at times to provide, but she is always willing to sacrifice but still not compromise her priorities. I would say I'm extremely lucky for her support and in that regard, I'd add in one more thing is that a woman should never put you down in public, but rather tell you the truth in private and knows she has the most powerful hold over her man and that is that she holds a bit of his confidence always, to make or break him on any given day. | ||
pPingu
Switzerland2892 Posts
On February 04 2014 08:09 MightyAtom wrote: I absolutely love Switzerland! I've only been to Zurich and Zug (both for business) and I love the clean air here, the families all walking in the streets and the endless amount of water fountains that have water from the lake. I hope to travel around Switzerland the next time I'm here in about a month, but I've been here only 3 times in the last 2 months, so I'm still very much a noobie when it comes to swiss things. My favorite is, other than Korea, is Switzerland, but other than Switzerland, Japan, but since there is the massive radiation there, I'd have to say New Zealand, but it is so freaking far away but it's just a cool country with lots of lamb and rugby on nearly every day. But really, my heart is always with Korea, everything for me is just perfect there, the saunas/bath houses, the food, the hiking trails, the lovely women to look at and of course the drinking with my friends, relatives and even wife! I think, you're always going to love the place where you are the most comfortable at. No matter how long I've been away from Korea, I always miss it as soon as I board the plane. But it is crappy place to raise kids and that is why I'm planning to move to Switzerland as soon as I can, but learning the Swiss German is freaking tough for an English/French/Korean speaker like me. But I learned 3 phrases already: ver piss die vik die dux sage sexi oosh meaning (sorry I dont' know the actual spellings) go piss off fuck off you look sexy ^^ Pretty cool, if you want any advice on what to visit you can always ask me, going around Switzerland and visiting a town is a hobby of mine I do once a week. And don't worry, you don't really spell Swiss German, seems like it was just created to confuse us from Romandie that learned Hochdeutsch in school. | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 04 2014 06:15 MtlGuitarist97 wrote: How do you go through something for a long period of time, even if you hate it? I hate high school. I go to a private Catholic high school, even though I'm not Catholic, and I hate it a lot. I don't want to say I hate it every single day I go, but increasingly I just lack the motivation to do well and put up with it. The classes are challenging, boring, and some of them are just complete nonsense. It was my decision to go there, so I guess I should own up to that, but I still have a lot of difficulty not being resentful of going to school each day. I think what is critical here is that you need to be responsible to yourself first; that if you've made a mistake then try to correct it, if you can't fix it now and have to suffer through it, then you need to make the best out of it. But don't be mindlessly suffering, look for options or way things can be different/better, take the time to find a solution instead of going into slow dive. But sometimes it hard, when you're younger to realize if you're just being a whinny pussy and you need to just man up and tough it out, or really legitimately, this is not the right choice for you and need to have the courage to make a choice to start over again at new school, incur the wrath of your parents for your initial decision and to just say with brutal honesty, this isn't for me and I chose to confront this because I know I'm just short changing myself. I would say, for 1 month, just give it your best go, if your resentful, it can make things that are ok, just fucking bad, So give it 1 month, join the clubs, do your best; if after a month nothing has changed, now start looking for solutions and options because we've crossed out the whinny pussy part, so lets be resourceful and figure: 1. why did you chose this school in the first place 2. let make sure you don't make the same mistake twice 3. and the grass is always greener on the other side, so really check and double check before you make a move. I guess at a greater stage, fundamental is; are we being responsible to ourselves as well, to be better and to grow etc. Sometimes we have massive family commitments and we are good sons and we do the best we can for our parents, like work lane nights at their grocery store or take care of a parent with an addiction or we chose to stay nearby for college just because it would make our parents feel better, but at the end of the day, you will have to be in the best position one day to take on whatever comes your way and simply put, we have one life to live and so we should be the best position we can be to take on those challenges. At the heart of it, if we recognize that we're not just pussying out, but rather it's legitimate and we're being held back, then we need to do what we need to do to make things better by finding out solutions/options and acting on them and the consequences of it. But being bludgeoned to boredom in your classrom isn't really accepting the consequences of your actions, but maybe its just accepting the fall out from a mistake you made and aren't admitting to your parents to make the change. | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 04 2014 08:09 Roe wrote: all men are men, huh... Are you taking this out of context and making it about sexual orientation huh? | ||
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MtlGuitarist97
United States1539 Posts
So thanks for the tip hyung. I know nothing about Korean culture, but it definitely sounds awesome to have someone guiding you. My dad doesn't live with me and I'm older than my brother, so I generally don't get good life advice from another guy. | ||
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Chairman Ray
United States11903 Posts
On February 04 2014 08:09 MightyAtom wrote: Either or, but they always get the fuck back up, even if takes a while. But don't you get hemorrhoids if you sit on it for too long? | ||
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Tufas
Austria2259 Posts
On February 04 2014 08:09 MightyAtom wrote: ver piss die vik die dux sage sexi oosh meaning (sorry I dont' know the actual spellings) go piss off fuck off you look sexy ^^ I died a little in the best way <333 | ||
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Ack1027
United States7873 Posts
Long time admirer, and kinda bummed I didn't ever get to meet you irl but maybe one day. I'd love to talk to you about a lot of stuff, but not really the best time for it, nor would I wanna do it over TL. Just wanted to support and say your advice and life perspective is always awesome to read. 새해 복 많이 받으세요 ^^ 건강하시고 힘내세요! | ||
CaucasianAsian
Korea (South)11583 Posts
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Thaniri
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Both schools are equally unimpressive. I don't really have a hard hitting question, I read the first part of this and really enjoyed your answers. You are giving a lot to this community, thank-you. | ||
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Trainninja
Australia105 Posts
1. What should the balance be between duty to provide for your family and taking a risk to further your own ambitions? 2. What keeps you going when you are on your third day without sleep, your head is killing you and your whole body is screaming in protest? Outside of your routine of not sleeping, what else helped manage this? 3. What is your biggest achievement both personally and in business in the last 10 years? The following questions aren't really related to being a man and might sound really random lol but I'm going to ask them anyway: 4. You have previously mentioned in your older posts that when you were working as a consultant, you would see many CEOs and senior management which can't strategise themselves out of a broom closet. How do you think they got there in the first place? 5. What are your thoughts of Alan Joyce, the CEO of Qantas and his decision to ground the airline for a few days two years ago? 6. Have you read the book 'Problem Solving 101' written by Ken Watanabe. The author is apparently an ex-McKinsey consultant and seeks to teach high level problem solving methodologies in the book. I've only started flicking through it but I can't tell if it's bullshit or not. 7. How do you find time to read Game of Thrones, play Dota and sleep in light of your hectic work schedule? (I'm imagining you do these activities like once a week lol) I'm going to post more but that's all I can think of at the moment. You're the best. | ||
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Yorbon
Netherlands4272 Posts
On February 04 2014 07:54 MightyAtom wrote: + Show Spoiler + I did read through the previous blog before I started this, and surprisingly no, I wouldn't answer it differently probably because I am in my late 30's now, so I've pretty much the guy I've been for the last 5 years or so, maybe I would have answered it differently had I wrote it even 7 years ago. There is a point where you become the father, the bread winner and it's not about your parent's traditions, but now they are your traditions, I don't justify myself or have insecurities about how I live or what I believe or who I think is wrong or right. I don't need to win any arguments so I can confirm I'm smarter than someone or know more. Now that cuts both ways, maybe I'm stuck in some wrong thinking now that can't be changed or maybe I don't care about those who are not close to me and have lost some level of compassion or I can think I've lived my life and I only open my mouth when its for people I care about and when I know, insofar as I can know, what I'm talking about. And that comes down to my own views on how hard I have pushed myself to live up to and to fail and to continue to grow in the expectations I've set for myself that were challenging and that made me year on year the better man. I mean there is a point though, where I should really be clear on my own identity and where I stand on a lot of issues because I have wrestled and have the experience to really now be able to articulate both my feelings and thoughts. You a lot of guys say, 'i dont give a shit what anyone thinks' but really it's just bravo. And I'll say the same thing, 'I don't give a shit what anyone thinks', but the difference is that is not bravo, rather while I don't give a shit, I am listening, and I am honestly making a judgement does this really matter to me, is it something I can learn from; and reason I can do that is because I am extremely self-assured in my identity of what I know and don't' know and what I do consider right and wrong. And nothing is black and white, but also nothing is just an open rainbow, but rather the decisions I do make come from years of reflection and experience. but I did read it them through to see if I would change any answers, just in case, instead of assuming that I wouldn't; after all if there were some responses I'd change, I think it would have been a great moment to reflect on why it was like that, but nah, I am what I am. ^^ In a way it's a pity you didn't change, for i find peoples' changes (especially why the change occurred, or the context around a change) particularly interesting. In addition to 'learn from your own mistakes' I generally try to learn from others' as well. The resulting constant movement of my views feels like an endless river at the moment, but maybe that's just me being young. Your train of thought really sounds familiar; that puts me at ease. Thanks for sharing.  | ||
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Shield
Bulgaria4824 Posts
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KurtistheTurtle
United States1966 Posts
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 04 2014 08:56 MtlGuitarist97 wrote: Thanks for the advice Atom. I guess I should have put it that leaving the school's not really an option at this point (I'm halfway through my junior year and leaving would be a nightmare in regards to guidance and college), but I still respect the advice about taking responsibility for the choices. I guess at the very least I found out something that I absolutely don't want for college: I definitely don't want to go to a very religious school, or a school with a small amount of girls (I go to an all guys school now). So thanks for the tip hyung. I know nothing about Korean culture, but it definitely sounds awesome to have someone guiding you. My dad doesn't live with me and I'm older than my brother, so I generally don't get good life advice from another guy. Anytime, you can always PM if this thread gets closed, I may not be able to answer right away or it may take 2 months because I went offline for that long, but I'm always willing to support with what I can someone who is sincere here on TL. ^^ | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 04 2014 10:12 Chairman Ray wrote: But don't you get hemorrhoids if you sit on it for too long? Probably, but doesn't excuse you from moving on, better late then never, or pussy forever. | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
keke, I'll learn something new today and post it ^^ | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 04 2014 11:02 Ack1027 wrote: Hi atom hyung, Long time admirer, and kinda bummed I didn't ever get to meet you irl but maybe one day. I'd love to talk to you about a lot of stuff, but not really the best time for it, nor would I wanna do it over TL. Just wanted to support and say your advice and life perspective is always awesome to read. 새해 복 많이 받으세요 ^^ 건강하시고 힘내세요! Thank you and happy new years too, you can PM any time ^^ but maybe we will see each other at a TL meet-up sooner than later. | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 04 2014 11:14 CaucasianAsian wrote: white or purple rice? Honestly, it should be purple all the time, regardless of the age or circumstances, but just know when it's time to change from white to purple I think is good enough. I pretty much only eat purple at home now. One thing is, we get stubborn, especially when the wife is nagging to eat properly and the thing is, health is probably the one thing that men neglect the most. Well, I'd say, whenever you get over 95kg, time to switch to purple rice. ^^ | ||
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