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On December 27 2013 15:46 Fumanchu wrote:Show nested quote +On December 27 2013 14:11 Azera wrote:On December 27 2013 14:03 Djzapz wrote:On December 27 2013 13:56 Fumanchu wrote:
Suck it up and work harder. You're getting an amazing leg up and most students would gladly switch places with you. Half your tuition covered? Also, are you paying rent, or chipping in for groceries, or any other bills your parents pay for? 'Cause if not, then you're in a dream situation.
Find a job, work your ass off, and get the grades. You can do it if you truly want. You clearly don't have any mental problems so this bullshit excuse of forgetting things in the exam room just comes off as lazy.
You just have to want it bad enough. When I graduated from high school, I got kicked out of the house, moved in with some friends, worked night shifts at Wal-Mart, and was only able to initially take two courses a semester. But I wanted it bad enough and I stuck with it.
Honestly, you just sound spoiled. You don't know the guy. Yeah. Stop being mean. I don't have to know the guy, it's the same situation for everyone. If you want something bad enough, you get it. 99% of the population is perfectly capable of achieving their goals, if they're willing to work hard, sacrifice, and keep at it regardless of how long it takes. You can sugar coat things, and give him encouraging words, and be a, "nice guy", all you want. The only thing that's going to make a difference if he makes a choice within himself that this something that he really wants, and he's going to stop at nothing to get it. Your situation in life might differ from the next person. Your home life might be more difficult. Your ability to grasp concepts and new ideas might be found lacking in comparison to your peers. You might struggle financially. Everyone has their own demons. Once you decide, and truly decide that it's something that you want, you will get it. It WILL become yours. You will find the way to make things work. There is, almost literally, nothing out of your reach. It's certainly not easy, but it's definitely that simple. Show nested quote +On December 27 2013 14:12 hp.Shell wrote:Edit: On December 27 2013 13:56 Fumanchu wrote:
You just have to want it bad enough. When I graduated from high school, I got kicked out of the house, moved in with some friends, worked night shifts at Wal-Mart, and was only able to initially take two courses a semester. But I wanted it bad enough and I stuck with it. Just curious, how long did it take you to graduate? It took me 4 1/2 years to achieve a criminology diploma, which at the time was the basic requirement for enrolling to be a commissioned police office in the lower fraser valley. It's normally a 2 year program.
Oh, you're a police officer. It all makes sense now.
On December 27 2013 15:48 CecilSunkure wrote:
Fumanchu is right about the spoiled part, but because he didn't put any effort into communicating in a way that is actually helpful his post was reduced mostly to "being an asshole".
Case closed, moving on...
What does that make you? More spoiled?
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kind of unnecessary, igne. you just came in here to diss two people with one-liners
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Ill come in here from a different angle with something that will actually help you
Most people think they are going nowhere. In fact, no matter how much things may be going for them, or how somewhere they ARE going, they STILL feel like they are going nowhere. This is normal, natural and OK
You know, your life doesn't have to go ANYWHERE. It's your life, you can do whatever you want with it! You know, there are plenty of people satisfied with doing what some other people would consider boring and mundane, and at the same time there are people who have insane crazy lives who feel bored and listless all the time.
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So what does this mean?
a> your life probably IS going somewhere, it's just relative
b> it's ok to not go somewhere, it's ok to stop, take breaks, and even go backwards a few steps. Life (especially good ones) are full of failures. It's TOTALLY ok to fuck up, fail, regroup, do something else, etc. If you want to go somewhere, it's totally up to you whether you take that path or not
c> threads like these are full of dicks sometimes. In situations like this, its obvious most of the advice of "do this" or "you must this" is fairly useless, and only serves to make you feel worse about yourself. Most people don't realize you have to accept and be OK with your current situation before you can really do something about it. Many of the people who say things like this have rarely endured real (relative) hardship in their lives (honestly, look at all of us, we are all 1st world internet users, who has!) and that's normal and totally OK.
Many people are in your situation, and i hope this is exactly what you need to hear.
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On December 27 2013 14:34 NeuroticPsychosis wrote:Show nested quote +On December 27 2013 14:29 remedium wrote:
Switch to an easy major like elementary education... I'm in Accounting so this really should not be that hard. My dad seems to think that since I was good at math (I did well in calculus) this should be easy because accounting is only "adding and subtracting numbers". But it can be pretty confusing and complicated at times. I see plenty of girls here who don't seem the brightest and I bet even they're doing better than me
Hello NeuroticPsychosis, I am sorry to hear your situation right now, especially at this time of the year. I enjoy your hilarious literotica blogs, they make me chuckle as they are funny.
I work in student support in higher education, do you have a Specific Learning Difficulty such as dyslexia? Your experiences sound very similar to those experienced by people with dylexia and other SpLDs as you say you study a lots but run into problems as soon as you enter the exam hall. Are there opportunities for you speak to a disabled students adviser?
It's not simply a case of 'sucking it up' and studying harder, and don't buy anyone's bullshit trying to make you feel guilty for the opportunities you have been given, I've heard it time and time again and it usually is just an empty ploy for them to reinforce the justifications they have for the frustrations of their own short-comings. If you do have an SpLD then you can work with an adviser to find a learning strategy to help you retain and recall your knowledge, if accounting is so simple, perhaps it isn't challenging you enough to help you learn?
EDIT: maybe you should quit accounting and study creative writing?
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On December 27 2013 13:35 NeuroticPsychosis wrote:
he said that since he is paying for half my education through his pocket, unless I get a 3.7 GPA next semester, he will make me drop out of college and find a job
We live in the generation of the part-timer, so if that's the case, I wish you luck. You'll more than likely need two jobs, and it won't be fun. Without a degree, you'll most likely be the warehousing type. Fortunately with college, you don't have to be a particular age to attend. If you happened to not get the 3.7 GPA, and you drop out, and you're told to get a job, then so be it. Make some money, get a couple jobs, then go back to school in a couple years or so on your own terms. You can't let your parents dictate how your life will pan out. If what you truly want to do in life requires an education, then you are in charge of it. For me, I took one semester of college and dropped out because I was so sick of school that I just wanted to work hard instead. Here I am nearly 6 years later and I've realized that mabye I need to go to school again.
My point is, don't let this one semester judge where you'll go in life.
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Your dad is a piece of shit (grandpa too). Go to counseling and or therapy and explain all this shit you did here. Don't perpetuate the abusive father cycle.
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I was in your shoes once aka the abusive father cycle/etc if you want some advice talk to me via pm and i'll give them. When i read your story it made me realize you're a younger version of me. I was lost the same as you are right now but this process made me stronger and more determined in life.
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its too bad your family is trash.
Does your country have no safety net for young people where the families are not willing to provide means for your education?
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On December 28 2013 03:35 MarlieChurphy wrote:
Your dad is a piece of shit (grandpa too). Go to counseling and or therapy and explain all this shit you did here. Don't perpetuate the abusive father cycle.
and pay with what money>
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On December 27 2013 16:00 zelevin wrote:Show nested quote +On December 27 2013 13:56 Fumanchu wrote:
Suck it up and work harder. You're getting an amazing leg up and most students would gladly switch places with you. Half your tuition covered? Also, are you paying rent, or chipping in for groceries, or any other bills your parents pay for? 'Cause if not, then you're in a dream situation.
Find a job, work your ass off, and get the grades. You can do it if you truly want. You clearly don't have any mental problems so this bullshit excuse of forgetting things in the exam room just comes off as lazy.
You just have to want it bad enough. When I graduated from high school, I got kicked out of the house, moved in with some friends, worked night shifts at Wal-Mart, and was only able to initially take two courses a semester. But I wanted it bad enough and I stuck with it.
Honestly, you just sound spoiled. To be honest, I think this is the best advise possible. Everything else on this thread isn't actually advise at all, it's just common words of encouragement which get everybody nowhere. College experience isn't meant to be what many people make it. You are supposed to work; you are supposed to struggle. The only thing I would add to Fumanchu's comment is, when you know who your professors are, immediately find someone who had them and find out what their exams are like. Study your professor before you step one foot into their class, and you'll know what information is most important to know for the test.
Or you could be really brave and ask this question - is accounting your passion? Because if you are good at math, and you don't like accounting, chances are you will be better off in engineering/pure math courses. Don't be afraid to switch courses, if your target course is one that you are passionate in. Once you are passionate in a course, then you will find that you are able to suck it up and blast through it (maybe graduate with flying colors too).
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You don't have to succeed in college to succeed in life. You do need to understand that if you don't want to graduate, things will be harder on you. If you're okay with that, drop out and start doing something you like. If you're not, you need to find something you want to study in college.
A lot of life is about willpower, as other posters have commented. Either you do or you don't. If you do want something bad enough, you have to learn and train your brain to be less receptive to excuses and negatives. Everything you do is a lesson in priorities.
Would you rather sleep than work? Well, you should know the consequences of that. Rather post on TL? Understand that, too. See your friends? Great, you're building relationships but you're probably not learning many job related skills.
Your whole life's history is meant to be preparation for future opportunities. If you've put in the time and prepared, when the opportunity is there you can seize it. If not, someone else will get that chance and you'll have to try again.
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there is, as in all things in life, a middle ground
it doesn't have to be all or nothing ( the "oh you poor dear, it is alright if you fail" or the "suck it up you spoiled kid")
ironman, setev and fzero (among others) are right on the money
your dad is not perfect, but parenting is tough, that doesn't absolve him at all, but he still tries to give you what he can
you have a kid brother, then think of yourself as his failed attempt at doing his duty and make sure your brother gets a better deal, achieving that would be something to be proud of
and being proud of one's self is of great help to pull ourselves by our bootstraps to get stuff we want, even stuff we did not know we wanted in the first place
no i don't think you are spoiled, you are lucky to get a chance at uni
i'm sorry to say that from 16 to 25 30 will most likely define your whole life, professionally speaking
it is unfair and sad, but nothing of worth is ever achieved without efforts/sacrifices
these student years are harsh and no one will come to magically make it better,
however, if you do manage to do it (invest in your future by working and connecting with people), i promise that
a/it will get easier and easier along the way, efforts and sacrifices don't always pan out, but they always build character
b/you will find other people to endure the hardships
c/you will, among other things, find something you like and be grateful for said efforts
like setev surmised, accounting might not be your calling
i would however, given your situation and the state of the job market, say this:
get through it, accountants get a better deal than a lot of other jobs
and like it was said earlier, that does not mean you have to do that forever
get interested in life for what it is: an adventure, something will come out of it
being a part time accountant would then pay for the studies you require to do said covetted job
and with a lot of (again) efforts you might get said job
good luck and don't falter thinking that no one cares anyhow.. that is just not true
for one, your brother cares
edit: f____ck pressed the send button shortcut too soon again :D
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On December 28 2013 05:37 Smurfett3 wrote:Show nested quote +On December 28 2013 03:35 MarlieChurphy wrote:
Your dad is a piece of shit (grandpa too). Go to counseling and or therapy and explain all this shit you did here. Don't perpetuate the abusive father cycle. and pay with what money>
should have free services at school.
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